marbel Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 Oh I am so sorry for this huge loss. Praying for your family, particularly your nephew right now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 Oh Jan. :grouphug: :crying: I'm keeping your family in my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tenaj Posted December 13, 2017 Author Share Posted December 13, 2017 (edited) Oh No! I am so sorry to read the update. Prayers for your whole family especially your nephew during this time. Please know that your brother touched all who read it. I am sure all of us will think twice before we send our husbands out to hang lights. It is a shame that it takes something like this to get us to think like this, but your brother just may save many lives in his death. I know my DH has said that he has no desire to hang lights (which we had not done yet) this year after hearing your brother's story. I am sure we are not alone. Many hugs today! One of the many blessings the family received was that someone hired a service to come in yesterday and remove all the Christmas lights on the house so that the family didn't have to see them any more. My dad is a farmer with a silo (or two) which have ladders that go up the outside. Last night I heard my mom and dad having a conversation about converting the ladder to steps before the next harvest season. My dh has the habit of forgetting the gutter cleaning until it starts raining and then goes up on the ladder during the rainstorm to take care of it. He won't be doing that any more. He also going to replace our old rickety ladder as soon as possible. Edited December 13, 2017 by JanOH 27 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ILiveInFlipFlops Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 Oh no, I really didn't expect this to be the update. Jan, I'm so sorry for your family's loss and pain. It's just so very unfair. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 you have my deepest sympathy. prayers for you and your family, especially your 19 yo nephew. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scrapbookbuzz Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 The decision was made last night to disconnect the ventilator. He's gone. Please pray especially for their 19 yo son. He is having a rough time. I think my parents have aged 10 years in the past four days. Yesterday was my father's 82nd birthday. I think they'll be ok but it was a long day yesterday. Good things happened though. My sister-in-law was very calm and we were able to help her plan most of the funeral stuff in the afternoon. The original plan was that the vent would be disconnected this morning but his condition deteriorated quickly and it became very obvious that last night was the right time. Thank you all. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: My daughter is 19 yo and I know how she would be if I were to pass away suddenly. It would be rough going for her. I will definitely be in prayer for their son, and for all of you! There really are no 'right' words to say at this time. Just know so many of us will be and are praying for you and the Lord truly does understand that pain of loss. He is with you. Lean on Him. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 ((((hugs)))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 my mother died suddenly 9 days before christmas. we turned off her ventilator and she was gone within five minutes. it will be harder on kids - if there are children's grief support groups, for their sake, please help find them. One other thing regarding your SIL, I was the calm one (I'm the baby in the family) and everyone else was a mess. I was in SHOCK!!! I planned the funeral and took care of my dad, older sister, and niece. I made it through what I needed to keep things going. It really HIT ME down the road when I had dealt with everything that had to be done ASAP and my REAL grief started maybe a month after her death. Keep close to her -- even when she looks like she is calm and strong. this. there was so much to do (which included dealing with my brother's "charming" self. not.) - it kept everything focused. the funeral was delayed until after christmas, so students could come. I was in charge of everything - and when it was all over, I demanded dh take me away and get me out of here. mentally I was done. a dear friend, whose husband died suddenly at 38, kept everything together until after the funeral. people who spoke to her on the phone, had no clue because she just wanted things to be normal. so - do watch for how she is doing after the funeral, and things go towards the "new normal". grief is likely to really hit them then. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I'm so sorry! Prayers for your family. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 Oh I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for your entire family especially your nephew and SIL. May the Lord wrap his arms around you all. And yes, grief can really hit hard later and in unexpected ways. Not saying it will be like this in your family but I know in mine, when my mom died, it sent my bipolar sister into a horrible manic phase where she went through her inheritance in a year and with me, my RA first started about a month after my mom's death. Stress is such a devastating health issue. Also wanted to say that not only do hospice places offer grief therapy but churches also have grief groups. I know that my church has a long standing grief support group that is open to all and totally non-judgemental and not aiming to convert anyone but just offer help. But grief support groups and grief counseling is for a later time. Now just :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
displace Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I’m so sorry and will be praying for your and your brother’s family. This may not be appropriate, but I was thinking you may want to ask your brother’s family about if they want help regarding the Christmas lights. I can’t imagine seeing them on or taking them down without overwhelming panic, but, of course, it may just be me. I’m so sorry for your loss :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I am so incredibly sorry for your loss and the heartbreak you all are living through. My hope is for you all to come out the other side whole, especially your nephew. 19 is still such a tender age. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I’m so sorry and will be praying for your and your brother’s family. This may not be appropriate, but I was thinking you may want to ask your brother’s family about if they want help regarding the Christmas lights. I can’t imagine seeing them on or taking them down without overwhelming panic, but, of course, it may just be me. I’m so sorry for your loss :( she updated. someone hired someone to take them down. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clear Creek Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I am so very sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsMommy Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I am so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amira Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 Jan, I'm so sorry for your loss and for the pain of missing your dear brother. Hugs and prayers for you and your family. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kareni Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 My sympathies, Jan, to you and your family. Regards, Kareni Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EMS83 Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 May his memory be eternal, and may the Lord have mercy on all of the bereaved. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonhawk Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I'm so sorry for your loss, your entire family is in our prayers :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I'm so very, very sorry, Jan. :( :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mumto2 Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 Jan, I am so sorry for your loss. My sympathies to you and your family. I have to add that I am another person who no longer wants Christmas lights along my roof. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TechWife Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I am so sorry for your loss, Jan. I am praying for you and the rest of your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I am so sorry to hear your news. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in IN Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 Jan, I'm so sorry. Praying for your family through this. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 Oh Jan, I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JennyD Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I am so sorry, Jan. What utterly horrible news. My deepest sympathies to all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tess in the Burbs Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I'm sorry for your family's loss. Will be keeping you all in prayer this holiday season. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lispy Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I am sorry for your heartbreaking loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 :grouphug: I am so, so sorry. There are many times I wish we could just go back in time and tweak a small thing or two. This is one of them. My heart and prayers go out to all of you. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
linders Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 The decision was made last night to disconnect the ventilator. He's gone. Please pray especially for their 19 yo son. He is having a rough time. I think my parents have aged 10 years in the past four days. Yesterday was my father's 82nd birthday. I think they'll be ok but it was a long day yesterday. Good things happened though. My sister-in-law was very calm and we were able to help her plan most of the funeral stuff in the afternoon. The original plan was that the vent would be disconnected this morning but his condition deteriorated quickly and it became very obvious that last night was the right time. Thank you all. I'm so very sorry for your loss. Prayers for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooCow Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 Very, very sorry. You are all in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 So very sorry. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G900A using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
displace Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 she updated. someone hired someone to take them down.Ok. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimberly in IN Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I am so sorry for your loss. Our prayers are with you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UmMusa Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I’m so sorry for your loss. Even I feel it happened so fast. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mominco Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 So sorry for your loss Jan.Praying for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathy in Richmond Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 Praying for you & your family :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2scouts Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 :crying: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm so sorry, Jan. I was praying for a miracle, but will turn those prayers to comfort for your family. :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freeindeed Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I am so very, deeply sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jann in TX Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I'm so sorry. I'll be praying for your family through this difficult time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
underthebridge Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I am so sorry for your loss and I’m thankful that your sister in law, nephew and niece have loved ones to lean on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 I am sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pippen Posted December 13, 2017 Share Posted December 13, 2017 Adding my prayers of comfort for your indescribable loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie Posted December 14, 2017 Share Posted December 14, 2017 I'm so sorry about your brother. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted December 14, 2017 Share Posted December 14, 2017 :crying: I'm so very sorry for your heartbreaking loss, Jan. You all continue to be in my prayers. :grouphug: I'm so sorry for your pain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebecca Posted December 14, 2017 Share Posted December 14, 2017 I am so so so very sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hmvaughan4 Posted December 14, 2017 Share Posted December 14, 2017 I'm so sorry. Prayers for your family Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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