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Unless we can diminish the impact of people who hold these views, misogyny will remain a problem for women and for our wider culture. This is why it’s so important to speak up, to leverage our competencies for the benefit of all people and to become masters of unselfish networking.

I think that’s separate from misogyny. I also think it’s a question for the chicken & egg. Our Ed system needs to be reformed, but we’ve been taking about that for decades now, so I think it’s obvious than men don’t actually want to do that, because they hold the power that can make that happen. Now they’re the ones having problems with the system they created & sustained. It’s unfortunate that they have squandered the opportunity, but here we are.

The problem is defining “upright, valuable male behavior.” Patriarchy & misogyny are features, not bugs, in conservative Christianity. Dangerous messages about what it means to be a man are rampant among conservative Christians. I don’t want them to be the arbiters of what “upright, valuable behavior is” because it diminishes the value of women. This will continue until we break the stained glass ceiling and can influence organizations. That will be hard to do as the men in power put rules in place and have wide influence on the culture & they won’t make any rules that will diminish their power in favor of women. They truly believe they are better suited to make decisions than we are.

I agree. It’s smart to be aware of this.

Andrew Tate, along with his brother, has also been indicted for international sex trafficking in Romania & Great Britain.

Managers of their Homes, Vision Forum, Douglas Wilson, Bill Gothard, Doug Philips, the Maxwells, the Duggers, IBLP, Patrick Henry College, The Gospel Coalition are all misogynistic programs & people that that have influenced many, many homeschoolers & evangelical Christians. There are so many more. Patriarchy and misogyny are very close relatives, IME. There is also a close relationship between neo-Calvinists and misogyny. Misogyny is a strong feature of the “manosphere.”

All behavioral Health and chronic pain patients have these same barriers. In a lot of respects providers are required to do what they do as a result of legislation and rules written by bureaucrats. Those were written for the “war on drugs,” which was a proxy for a “war on people who take drugs, both legally and not.” Many mental health patients are treated with a great deal of suspicion and fear. I think most practitioners do the best job they can possibly do, but I concede that there are some jerks out there too. I’ve said it before - but the best specialist to see re: medication for ADHD and other mental illnesses is a psychiatrist. After initial screenings, there isn’t much in the way of actual tests. I’ve never heard of anyone who wasn’t being treated for drug addiction to be required to take a drug test by a psychiatrist. Maybe some do, so no promises.

Ditto.

1 - I never addressed approach, nor did I intend to. For further clarification, then, it’s not typical, but it’s also not uncommon to disagree with a diagnosis. 2 - I do understand what you’re saying. You don’t seem to accept the starting point. Without the fact that a practitioner doesn’t have to accept another practitioner’s diagnosis, there would be no nuanced situations in which that becomes a possibility. I never said that every practitioner starts from scratch. That is a conclusion that you jumped to all by yourself. 3 - Psychiatry is the specialty of choice for our family when it comes to ADHD. There has been no on going testing and prescriptions are adjusted as needed. Thyroid function tests are ordered very occasionally, maybe every five years or so, based on symptoms. 4 - Insurance companies put quite a few barriers in place that make it difficult & sometimes impossible, to get a variety of medications consistently. Ongoing shortages of various ingredients have caused shortages in medications, notably some ADHD meds and some chemo meds, that make it a multi day endeavor to fill a prescription. Then there are the economic barriers with which we’re all aware of. The difference is that barriers for psychopharmaceuticals imply a moral deficit on the part of the patient. Many people don’t even realize that the drug manufacturers and a relatively few renegade physicians along with the international drug trafficking that was initially enabled by our own governmental system, have been shown to be extensive root system of the problem. As long as people in power can put & keep regulations on place that detract attention from the root system and onto the intended beneficiaries of the needed medications, the system won’t change. The rot runs deep & it’s not the vast majority of patients or the vast majority of providers who are rotten.

So - He’s not obligated to accept the diagnosis of another provider, then? My point exactly. Thank you. Also, IME means in my experience.

Also, make sure you have a family photo without him in it. Both all family present and immediate family present. My nephew’s now ex girlfriend is in the last family picture we have. It’s really distracting. All these years later I still haven’t forgotten, so it obviously bothers me.

Every nuance starts with a blanket, black and white statement. Starts. Physicians can question every diagnosis. As I said before, this is when best practices come into play. A physician looks at a record, examines the evidence, talks to the patient and makes a judgement. That’s their job - to be curious and thorough. If anything doesn’t add up - that’s when there’s a possibility for changes. Without doing this, countless people would be treated incorrectly and systemic problems would never be identified. Both you and I know, as does your family member, that this doesn’t mean they disregard the patient’s history. It does mean that they don’t have to accept the current diagnosis. IME, APPs function very differently than physicians and are less likely to take the curious route. I’ve always attributed it to training and the function of their role. I don’t know if that’s where your family member is coming from or not & it doesn’t really matter to me. Perhaps you’ll never understand what I am saying, but my black & white statement is true and I stand by it.

This is where her not being an owner in the community will be a benefit. The owners can act immediately for trespassing to prevent squatting.