Jump to content

What's with the ads?


  • Content Count

  • Joined

  • Last visited

  • Days Won


kbutton last won the day on April 19

kbutton had the most liked content!

Community Reputation

9,635 Excellent

About kbutton

  • Rank

Profile Information

  • Gender

Recent Profile Visitors

2,102 profile views
  1. This does look good! I am chiming in to note that a true landline, not one that requires cable, is good in a disaster if you can also find a receiver that doesn't require electricity. We have one in the basement with our tornado supplies, lol! The basement has a jack, and we have service. If you get a landline, test it in all kinds of weather. If a squirrel has damaged lines, you can have poor sound quality on a rainy day.
  2. You could paint the concrete. My MIL did this in one room, and it looks really nice. It's not slippery. I don't know what kind of paint she used.
  3. So, most of what you describe to me sounds like ASD, not anxiety since you didn't mention big red flags for anxiety other than being not contacting teachers/offering up her thoughts in class, both of which I can think of explanations for that don't involve anxiety. The contacting teachers--could be a lack of confidence or could be "didn't occur to me" or "I didn't know that was okay" (that is more ADHD or ASD). There are NT people out there with individual ASD type traits, and I am going to answer from the perspective of being someone who has some our your daughter's traits and having a friend or two from college with them as well. We're both NT. I have one of the more rare MBTI types which explains a lot of my preferences. Her success later on will be how limiting these traits are all mixed together, not so much about one trait or another. To herself time is a big introvert trait, and some of us take it to different levels, lol! Some of us cope by losing sleep or saying no to things others enjoy. Some of us use multiple strategies. 🙂 That alone wouldn't worry me, but yes, dorm life can be difficult. To me, if she's able to be flexible with her alone time (even if it's not a big preference), it's not that big of a deal. If she tends to rotate through a variety of interests over time, no big deal. If she is irritable about one specific pass time a great deal of the time, that will be more problematic, and she will need skills to work through that or need to be able to accommodate this need. Also, some people obsession where some people see efficiency or a routine. I remember being labelled something like obsessive by roommates during a summer internship where I stuck to a pretty careful routine. In actuality, I devised the routine to be less disruptive to the other people I was living with--doing what I needed to in the kitchen when they were less likely to need it, etc. It was a long, annoying summer with double standards and lots of discourtesies from roommates that, ironically, were often more rigid than I was. 🙂 Personal papers are intrusive. They just are. It's okay to not like them. I consider personal papers, journaling, etc. to be emotional rape. No one is entitled to originality or insight from me as an assignment. Analysis? Sure. But at some point, it's not like I'm the first person to have had to think about this--insisting on originality or insightfulness is a bit irritating. Other than on the boards, I don't tend to share my thoughts with strangers, lol! I wouldn't have been able to write a personal paper from that perspective either, and I was not homeschooled. Some people are not really swayed or influenced by peer pressure. Some of us wish we could be more go with the flow, lol! That's also okay unless she feels bad about it. One of my college friends was this way, but by the time we graduated, she had a couple of close friends. Even then, doing things together all the time wasn't necessary. Something with either flexible scheduling or predictable scheduling, especially if the schedule is published in short increments. The job won't matter as much as the schedule, IMO. I had a job in high school where if you played sports, they would work around your sports schedule without question, but if you didn't, asking for a specific evening off meant you got crappy shifts for basically weeks at a time. The schedule came out weekly and went from Sunday through Saturday, so I could never make weekend plans with my family without being a nag. Family events were important to me, so this was a major source of stress. I also missed a fair amount of church even though other people were allowed to ask for Sundays off. Once she's at a point she could do this, I strongly suggest having her apply to be a grader or a TA. My introverted friend that didn't need a lot of people did this very successfully. She might make friends in classes with people who have a common interest. She could join an organization that does volunteer work. She could get an on campus job. I can't help much on this one as I went to a small school and lived in a dorm. Try to help her be flexible within whatever limitations she has. None of her issues sound like something that she can't overcome from the way she described them. Make it okay for her to be herself, but help her gain new skills where needed. I would focus on broad skills, not specific ones, unless she has some really specific struggles I'm just not seeing from your description (meltdowns, obsessive behavior, rigidity, inability to problem solve, etc.).
  4. Hobbles for the two ADHD stallions I'm raising 😉. Just kidding. They're good kids and dealing with the isolation well--fixing things up around the house, learning to play badminton, pulling out yard-friendly toys and repurposing them.
  5. Hobbies! I caught up on or started new cross-stitch projects. I want to start and embroidery project that's been on the back burner--embroidery is new for me. We are doing more yardwork and home improvement projects (those stores have been open all along in my state, and whenever possible, we order things ahead for no-contact pickup). The hobby thing is going to be here to stay--it really helps me relax.
  6. Our local schools take homeschoolers. I think they might have to test in, but they don't seem to make people start all over again. Quite a few people here have made the transition to online public school or public school midway through high school to gain access to more college classes (it's harder for homeschoolers to get as many college classes, and they pay for some things that public school kids don't have to pay for). Before they started including homeschoolers in the DE state program, lots of kids transitioned for 11th and 12th grades. My son is planning to go to the vocational school PT while taking regular classes at home (traditional homeschool). He has tutors (it's an option in our state with IEPs). I am also hoping for some kind of school and home hybrid for the carpentry classes, such as having longer days in those classes and then having days at home. We can't completely replicate the training he'd get there, though he does actually have a lot of experience for his age with applicable skills, and we're planning a building project this summer if all goes well.
  7. Well, this is bacteria, not viruses, but beards might be healthier: My DH has a winter beard. He has a nice beard, but after a few months, I want to see his face.
  8. I have been watching the nursing home numbers in the next county over because we're on the county line--we shop in that county, my DH works in that county, and people from that county go to school in our area (big private Catholic school is on our side of the line). Nursing home cases are not explaining the vast majority of cases, and the jail is actually in my county and supposedly only guards have tested positive there. So, I am not convinced that it's just a nursing home/jail problem everywhere in the state.
  9. I have nothing productive to say about this. What a problem waiting to explode.
  10. I haven't heard details from our local hospital, but this is consistent with the experience of the healthcare worker in my family who works there.
  11. Thanks for clarifying. The rural areas I hear about on FB (hometown acquaintances) are dying to open up because of fewer cases--they aren't getting flack from more urban areas at this point, so I wouldn't have really thought about the situation you're talking about. For sure, the waxing and waning of cases regionally is one of the chief difficulties in opening and closing! I am glad we have a statewide approach even though I know that there are probably some areas that are a bit frustrated. Generally, our state has a lot of middle-sized cities all spread out, not just big ones. A lot of the rural areas are not touristy. My home state is very different. The difference between rural and urban is much different, and the rural areas are very touristy.
  12. Yes, we had guesses that turned out to not be what we thought, but not solid information. I thinking we all thought some of the early areas where they were seeing spread would be the worst (WA and CA).
  13. I don't understand your meaning. Maybe I need caffeine. I'll try to explain why I am confused. I am not sure what it means to be on the governor's poopy list. We don't have one of those--rules apply across the state, so there is no poopy list. Depending who I talk to in other states, poopy list means bad numbers, or it means being "pooped on"--shut down when there aren't local cases. By cities being beholden, do you mean that cities that are recovering are not tied to the spread in rural counties? Most of the states where I am hearing pleas to open up by county are wanting the rural areas opened up because there is no spread, and the best I can understand your statement, you think the rural areas are holding back the urban areas (and I'm not sure why), so I am trying to figure out if our experience is different, or if I am just really completely lost about what you mean. I think fleeing if you have family at the destination makes some sense. I think wanting to be where there are fewer people makes sense, but for me, that is an every day goal, not just a pandemic goal, lol! One of my lines of thinking when I consider where I want to live is whether I'd want to be there if a natural disaster struck or if there was a major catastrophic event. When applied to cities, my answer is generally a big no, and a big part of that is dealing with the behavior of others. I am on the margin of comfortable where I currently live--I think we'd have major traffic backups if we had to evacuate for something, but I don't think most catastrophic events that could happen here would be eased with evacuation (no hurricanes or wildfires, and flooding seems to be in fairly predictable areas vs. widespread).
  14. It was hard to make decisions in late February when so many places were not testing enough, not testing widely (only certain countries even after it was obvious that wasn't enough), and not cancelling enough venues. There was not a lot of reinforcement that precaution was needed or good outside of this board unless you were in a geographical hotspot. Ohio has kept a lot more open than some other states while also shutting down early, and people are still crying foul about the economy. The county approach probably works okay for big cities, but it really exposes more rural areas that are touristy, have cabin rentals, etc. especially when they are within a day's drive or less of a major metro area. People on the boards have been complaining about that all along, and I know it's been a big problem in my parents' state. My parents have extra residents in their county, and a super rural area near them (more hunting cabins than permanent homes, the local library is in a private residence, the one tiny church there didn't have indoor plumbing until around 2000, nor did it hold year-round services) was inundated with seasonal people quarantining away from home. I think the people who came must've isolated pretty well because cases were still low, but if they had brought the virus with them, it could've been terrible.
  • Create New...