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  1. Our Kohl's honors their Kohl's cash for a week past its due date... I end up with Kohl's cash BECAUSE I don't like to shop, lol! I shop in one fell swoop a couple of times per year (when someone is out of underwear or clothes that fit, I am decorating, or I am Christmas shopping), and that means a wash of it all at once. I do the towels, dish cloths, socks, and underwear thing too, but that last time, I bought "teacher" gifts for tutors. Oh, and pillowcases if I can find them on sale. Lots of droolers here means ours look terrible fast, so I need to keep some that are company-ready. I really wish they were start stocking reusable storage (Stasher, Re-zip, etc.). I need some of those. I am pretty set for Pyrex food storage (also thanks to Kohl's cash), but I need some durable replacements for plastic bags when we don't want to lug our Pyrex around.
  2. A friend had her son's meds stolen (not a dorm situation), and she had to file a police report in order to get the meds replaced. Wow. That's frustrating. I am concerned about this when it's time for my kids to be off. It's hard enough to get them when all goes well due to not being able to refill them ahead, etc. Just going on vacation about the time meds run out is an ordeal. I would've never thought about this! This has been a great thread!
  3. Yay for drawers or inserts that have drawers! Our shelves are different wood, and they are 3/4" or so. We moved into a house that needed some love, and the new shelves totally don't match, lol! But they are inside my cupboards, so I don't care. I am pretty positive you can get matching extra shelves--I think my parents might have done that in a couple of their cupboards. I have a stacker like the one above. I am not positive if it's the same size as I bought mine at Aldi, IIRC. That is the one that I keep all my Corelle on. I have this style (various sizes) around my house for lots of different things: I have this style in a black hole (corner base cabinet that goes WAY back and is not a standard size for a pull out organizer), and I keep sweet potatoes and regular potatoes in them: My favorite gem is an organizer my dad made me to hold the green trofast drawers. It fits under my sink, and instead of the long side of the drawers facing out, the short side does (IKEA doesn't make a set of shelves that hold those size of bins that direction). I keep dishwasher detergent, bona mop heads, scrubbies, and all kinds of things in those. For one of my really skinny cupboards, we bought a double-decker organizer that has wire drawers. My mom used plastic canvas (like for crafts) to make me a tall, divided bin that fit the lower shelf perfectly. I store my dish towels and dish cloths in that, and I can pull it out easily to fill it when I fold laundry. Actually, a custom-made plastic canvas box with dividers might work for your paper supplies...
  4. Congratulations on nearing the end! These suggestions are probably more generic than you want when you supplied pictures, but they made a very big difference in my kitchen (not remodeled--facelift when we moved, additional cabinets added in a bare spot). Depending on the type of dishes you have, it might be a good idea to get stackers for inside your cabinets. I have Pyrex, and I can fit nearly all of my plates (large, small, dessert), bowls, and serving bowls in one spot by using a stacker. Aldi sometimes has them for less than you'd find elsewhere. We added extra shelving inside our cabinets so that we didn't have to stack bowls, pots, etc. in as many layers. It helped a great deal. There is less space between shelves, but everything is more stable, and that means less shuffling things when we put stuff away. We also put medium and small pots in drawers (best move ever!). I prefer my spices in a drawer standing up with labelled lids. I would probably put them near the stove in one of the drawers or else put them in the upper cabinet on one of those pull-down things you can install in a cabinet. I would probably keep my small pots in one of the drawers next to the stove, as well as putting potholders in there. Trivets I would keep in a drawer or basket near where you eat, unless you plate things before sitting down. If you plate things first, I would keep them in a drawer that's the closest to where you set hot containers. I tend to use larger potholders as trivets in the kitchen and put my "real" trivets with my cloth napkins near the table (not in the kitchen). I keep my crock pot on top of the fridge. I would probably find a heavy-duty slide out for your appliances if your cabinets are the right sizes. I would keep paper products and table cloths on a top shelf somewhere, and I would try to keep them in a basket or other container that lets you pull them out all together. If you don't have a good cupboard for that in the main kitchen area, I would probably suggest putting them on the higher shelves above your desk and leave the lower shelves for something more related to what you'll do at the desk.
  5. Double the pork and beans, and don't use the limas, and I think this is what my family makes. It's good hot or cold, but if you serve it cold, cook it first to carmelize everything. I think we usually do a bit less sugar and no one notices. I can no longer do most nightshades, and I CRAVE this dish when I think about picnics. It's always a hit. I've seen people make sandwiches out of the beans, dip tortilla chips in it, etc. besides just eating it as a side. I have no idea what I'm making or if we're doing something special.
  6. They are super popular here, but I've never heard them called funeral potatoes!
  7. I was having this problem yesterday. Today, the notifications don't repeat, but they are grayed out instead of bold, as if I've already clicked each individual notification to take me to the post.
  8. Do you have a working carbon monoxide detector? It's not the time of year for trouble from a furnace, but blue lips can be a symptom of carbon monoxide poisoning. My aunt had a furnace that would give off low levels intermittently and not really cause acute symptoms--it's not always a one-time crisis. Pulmonary Embolism? Those can be asymptomatic, nearly so, or present as unusual symptoms for the cause.
  9. Besides what Peter Pan offered, I have a small suggestion...Elliott's issue seems to be more straightforward EF stuff--not thinking about all the possibilities, not really paying attention to surroundings or functionality in a way that helps him know what can be done another time (out of sight, out of mind). My straight-up ADHD people do this a lot. It's not relevant until they think it's relevant, so the information does not go into their brains. With Peter, I think it sounds like he's thinking, but not in way that leads to action. It sounds as much like he is stuck on a different track as not thinking. Obviously, that's still a problem and still frustrating. So, for instance, in the bolded part, it sounds to me like he feels like he can't put it away because he's defining put away as going back to the person it belongs to (and if he struggles with knowing how much a penny is worth, that could make this harder--he might feel like it's a big deal, maybe). It sounds like maybe he has the data to make a decision but doesn't realize that you want him to act. I think that maybe your leading questions might have to be different for each of your kids. I think Peter might need something super direct like you stated above and not go through the why it got there (unless you have time and feel that conversation is fruitful in a different way such as broadening his understanding of how mistakes happen). I wonder if using Social Story type of language with him as you talk would help--something like, "When we find a penny, and we don't know whose it is, we put it in the lost penny bin." Ditto for misplaced socks. Or say, "When I find a lost penny...could you do the same thing, Peter?" I think Elliott is only going to get something when it's relevant in an in-your-face way based on experience in my home! My ADHD family members will move important things if they are in the way without looking at what they are moving, judging why it's there, or being able to tell you later that they'd touched those items. The important thing is that they needed it out of the way, so they moved it. I have WATCHED my two ADHD people move something while denying they were doing it. I pointed to the item in their hands, and they were completely baffled. I have zero strategies for this, but as Peter Pan says, it's too pervasive of a problem to recommend a drink. 🙂 Do you have many rules that have exceptions? You strike me as being very technical and analytical, and while there is nothing wrong with that, I wonder if you sometimes give too much context, and they feel unsure? That's not your fault, BTW; it's just a difference in style. I can sometimes do that to people when they really just want to know what to do "this time." My ASD plus ADHD kiddo actually likes context, but there are times it really throws him. My ADHD people...context and tips are just pearls before swine, lol! 🤣 I am sorry it's so frustrating!
  10. For ATB, my son did the questions (but not the puzzle book), the map, the timeline, and the primary source book. He read some of the literature, but not all of it. I don't think we did any projects if that book had them. He did this independently, but he is my box-checker kid. From Adam to Us is the most intensive book, and Uncle Sam, probably the least.
  11. If people don't know you're in pain, they might think that you just can't let go of things and sit down to relax. I know a couple of people like this--I strongly suspect they have ADHD and they can either be on top of it all or be a mess--no in between (and it gives them an outlet for their hyperactivity). It sounds like you are just focused on things you feel are your duty and on not being in pain. I do have a friend that doesn't stop due to pain, but she's not fast, just busy. If she stops, getting started again is super hard. She tends to hurt herself or burn out and is trying to work on that. I am sorry you are in pain a great deal of the time. That really stinks. It sounds like it's just been a rough few years all around. I am intense in a different way, and it's very easy to be misunderstood. I am sorry you're feeling like this quality is creating a barrier or at least creating unnecessary commentary from others.
  12. This is kind of my thought as well. But the bolded part, I would differ on because I think that some grandparents DO compete with parents on purpose, and even when they don't, some use that "Grandma Magic" to be manipulative or to get their way rather than as harmless fun. Sometimes grandparents are passive aggressive and use these situations to show the parents in a negative light compared to themselves. My MIL is pretty toxic. She doesn't try to compete, but she is passive aggressive and manipulative. She's more likely to make something not fun than fun, honestly, but if she has a good thing going, she's sure to ruin it with manipulative statements. My parents have sometimes not understood rules, but they TRY. They ASK ahead of time, as much as possible about things that could be a problem. If they slip up, they take responsibility--one time they were not on the same page as each other about TV time and accidentally let my kids watch a bunch of TV (both promised certain things not knowing the other had done the same). I got a call later where they fessed up to completely understanding why we had a firm rule on how much TV was watched in a day, lol! My MIL, OTOH, waits until I'm out of the room to be manipulative. When the kids were little, she was outright dangerous--she nearly killed my younger son while I took a shower. I am sure it was appropriate to be bothered at the time given what you've described in other posts. You were probably picking up on things that were undermining and inappropriate. I am not sure how to make you have peace with yourself about how it all went down. I have a lot of struggles with this too, though in my case, I am trying to make peace with being outnumbered and overruled by other family members (including spouse) who didn't believe me when I said it wasn't good. It's really undermined those relationships for me, and I struggle with bad feelings for long periods of time every time the littlest thing comes up with my MIL, even when it's cut and dry and not negative.
  13. His is getting better with more reading and more maturity, but spelling work has helped a LOT. Sequential Spelling makes him pay attention to the parts of words.
  14. So, it's my kid without ASD that I'm talking about. He did run through the EET, but he didn't have trouble with it. He also can use language in the other ways you mention. He has more trouble with changing words forms, such making a noun out of an adjective. But it's mild, not bad. He also has more trouble picking up the meaning of new words in context than I would expect (unlike his brother with ASD who does so very, very naturally but has completely different language issues). He doesn't just memorize language--he uses it well. He just has a few quirks that are typical of someone with dyslexia. His vocabulary on testing is exceptionally high (while being the lowest of his verbal scores on the WISC), but he perceives it as a weaker area due to needing more direct instruction in the meanings of words.
  15. We've been working on articulation. His other language therapy is related to auditory processing difficulties--getting him to a point he can take notes with a smartpen by "listening selectively" and reviewing notes later. His articulation is okay. He turns it on and off due to fatigue from a connective tissue disorder. He had a bunch of teeth removed because they were all jammed up (small jaws), and they are not all the way in. It's messing his speech up a little, but not tons. His narrative language is fine. His phonological processing is mediocre (dyslexia and auditory processing issues), his vocabulary and morphology is a relative weakness. But, that can all be chalked up to his dyslexia, honestly. His apraxia is probably more of a global deficit in motor planning plus jaw stability issues in the context of connective tissue disorder (if it has motor in the name, he probably has a problem with it!). Apraxia is a term that really needs to be multiple terms! I think my main point though is that he did talk--sentences, the whole deal. He just wasn't particularly intelligible and had motor planning issues.
  16. I feel like the last two summers were just as rainy, but maybe we're getting more inches each time? It's not just the midwest either--family in PA is very wet as well.
  17. Heads-up...LOTS of spices are made from peppers. They'll be in all kinds of spice packets and in salad dressings. Not many foods with spices specify which spices they have in their product.
  18. In addition to something neurological, you might look up information on connective tissue disorders. My son's mild apraxia seems to be caused by his connective tissue problems. He has learned to kind of turn his good speech off and on as he fatigues or needs to speak to someone that's less likely to understand him easily. If your child has a particularly high palate or small jaw, that kind of thing can cause speech issues too, from what I understand.
  19. Regarding retained reflexes and auditory son's main issue with auditory processing is that he can't take in speech at a typical rate (temporal processing). His defining feature that we noticed in real life used to be speech in noise--he was basically DEAF in any loud environment, or even just in the car from road noise! When some of his reflex issues were addressed in VT, we noticed that the most life-changing part of VT, for him, was that he could hear in noisy places. It might still be compromised a bit, but suddenly, he was "present" and could actually hear a lot of stuff. Alternatively, it could be that his brain matured a ton all of the sudden--he was at an age where some of the auditory processing stuff starts to click, but I find it hard to believe that could explain such a HUGE change in just a few short weeks. Perhaps it was the combo of development plus VT. I don't know. It was definitely unexpected!
  20. We use Sequential Spelling, but it's teacher intensive (but not hard and doesn't take us long). There are videos, so maybe if you use the videos, it's independent. As soon as typing skills are reasonable, we switch to typing lists. It's pattern-based, so the curriculum reinforces the visual, the components (prefixes, suffixes), and the motor memory for spelling patterns.
  21. A competent chiropractor will be able to tell the difference. There are neurological screenings they do to be sure there isn't something bulging or ruptured. It's the same thing I non-specialty MD would if you came in for back pain. From there, they would refer or do testing and refer. I think you're reading too many things--I think you need to find a person you trust and then try their treatment plan for a bit. Then, as things work out or come up, ask them. This is like trying "all the things" at one time and then not knowing which ones help and which ones don't. If you have inflammation, then being on steroids for something else might help things die back enough to adjust better. Totally possible. Ice really helps with soreness. A lot. It's also possible to take an anti-inflammatory like ibuprofen before activity or just in general for a few days to get inflammation down. Have you tried massage? It could be myofascial pain and not just something being "out." If you have enough spasms and tight muscles, nothing will adjust well. As for the multitude of opinions, the natural people and the medical people are all gonna show their stripes and biases with back pain, lol! They are all cut from the same cloth, they just have different biases. But yeah, sounds like your back is inflamed and tight. I'm sorry. It stinks. BTDT--still working out the kinks, but it was better for me to stick with chiropractic. ANYONE that just wants to blame things on arthritis better show me x-rays with proof, lol! Or do the bloodwork/refer to a rheumatologist. It's like blaming everything on the tilt of the earth--you probably do have some degree of arthritis, but it's a catch-all way of dealing with complaints from patients.
  22. She sounds like my son. 2e dyslexia (took forever to diagnose because he had good phonics instruction), dyscalculia, ADHD, CAPD (temporal processing is his biggest issue—he doesn’t take in speech at the typical rate), oral motor issues (in his case probably from connective tissue disorder), coordination issues, developmental vision issues...
  23. My son's OT recommended this site for lots of visual processing and visual motor integration stuff. I thought I'd pass it along since such things have been mentioned in multiple threads lately.
  24. has the Story Grammar stuff and also consider learning about this tool (you might get the gist and not need to buy it, especially if you pinterest about it): We are using Thememaker from Mindwing--it's the older kid version of Story Grammar Marker. We have a story braid, the stamp set, the separate Critical Thinking Triangle book, and the Making Connections book (autism collection). Mindwing integrates the social with the academic to some extent--the Making Connections book really works on the pieces necessary to make inferences and generalizations and to process the social language/thoughts/feelings that appear in writing and real life.
  25. And yes, new mattress and/or padding. We had a great mattress, but it was padded for a young person, lol!. Even my DH needed a new mattress, and he's in really good shape. We bought another Sleep Number bed but cushier than our first, and we put extra padding in it besides what was standard. We have the option to add a padded mattress cover if needed as well. It helped quite a lot.
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