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  1. I am glad the firm I work for is tiny because I have worked before in frantic firms where everything is insane every day and there is no time to talk to clients. I have come to realize - and maybe this is worse with COVID - so many people desperately need to feel heard. Numerous clients have called in a state of agitation (i.e., “What is taking so long? Why do I have to pay this? Why did my BIL’s/neighbor’s/friend’s case settle in six months while mine is dragging on for over a year? Etc., etc., etc...) and I thankfully have time to make it my job to leave them in a better state than I found t
    59 points
  2. I didn't open many of your videos, but I did see that there's one about the decades-old Satanic Panic that made me think it wasn't worth opening the other links since debunked scare tactics don't help trafficked victims today. It really bothers me when people say that I don't think that child trafficking happens when I'm skeptical of the current brand of hysteria going on about it. Child trafficking is a huge problem all over the world, both labor and sex trafficking. The US has been focused on this for decades, at least partly through its annual Trafficking in Persons report which star
    52 points
  3. (Deleted personal details)... she let men abuse her child in exchange for drugs, food, and housing. That is sadly common. Exploiting runaways, illegal immigrants, and alienated teens, manipulating them with drugs, “love,” violence, and small amounts of money is also sadly common. What unequivocally doesn’t exist is the q-anon version of this story. Or the idea that middle and upper middle class kids or their mothers are frequently kidnapped from Walmart and sold. These people don’t pick kids that fight back. They don’t pick people who know their worth and will run to the police at
    48 points
  4. She and my dad are more than 2 weeks post 2nd dose of the Covid vaccine, and they want to see us. Plan is to use masks if we are inside, just in case. But she wants a hug, and they have a great outside patio area and pool. Y'all, I haven't seen my mom in a year. I cannot freaking wait. (I'm super excited to see my Dad too, but there is just something about your mom, you know?)
    47 points
  5. BTDT. A few things. Be as affirming as you can. Look for ways to compliment these kids. Often they hear the message that "I'm a bad kid, nobody likes me so why should I try?" Even if it's something as simple as he gave the baby a single goldfish. Catch that kid doing good, doing right, and being okay. It doesn't have to be anything spectacular. You just want him to hear things besides "Stop it." "Leave them alone. " "Could you please just be a little quieter." If I remember correctly, meds for ADHD are not an option for your son. Find some books on ADHD and read them. Ma
    46 points
  6. I got vaccine appointments for my Grandfather in law!!!!!!!!! I'm still looking for my mother, and my father in law, but he was definitely the one I was most worried about.
    46 points
  7. I have to admit that I secretly hope he gets to 100 so he gets a letter from the queen congratulating him.
    38 points
  8. You: I want to talk about MIL's crazy Covid beliefs! Your mom: Hold my beer.
    38 points
  9. "No cash" would have extremely negative impacts of the most marginalized people in our society. Those of us in the middle class often underestimate just how many of our fellow citizens do not have access to standard banking and just how ripped off these people are when the need to turn to predatory financial alternatives. Accepting cash should be required for all debts and payments IMO. It is a matter of equity and justice in the prevailing conditions. Bill
    37 points
  10. censored, banned, burned by governments or mobs... ...vs discontinued by the author / author's estate Evidently the Seuss estate *did* want to "make a huge public statement over it." The statement they evidently wanted to make was something like Which is a wonderful and evergreen and valuable lesson. Seuss continues to teach us. [from a forever fan, despite the uneveness]
    36 points
  11. If you need a good laugh, this is for you:
    36 points
  12. This story is a perfect illustration of the "outrage culture" fomented by talk radio and social media. So a minor story noting that the company founded by Seuss's family will no longer reprint a few books that most people have never heard of, gets blown up into "they're banning Dr Seuss!" And now people are paying inflated prices to buy up soon-to-be-OOP books that they've likely never read, and have no real interest in reading, because they saw a tweet or a FB post telling them that their right to read a book with racist stereotypes is being taken away from them!!! and they should be totally
    33 points
  13. When I first heard this story I was reminded of my own hair disaster experience. I was in my first year of college and living in an off-campus dorm at UCSB (Santa Barbara). A buddy (Marty) and I like to go spearfishing off Deveraux Pt in Isla Vista near where we lived. We did this pretty regularly. There was oil drilling off Deveraux. And occasionally tar would wash up on the beach. "Natural seepage" according to the oil companies. But one time we went out and unbenounced to us there was an oil slick. I think a tanker had just filled up must have made a spill. Although we
    33 points
  14. @Pen I debated whether to write anything because I I do not have the length of time on this board like the others. But you are one of those I have interacted on multiple threads. In fact my first encounter with you was on the COVID thread because you seemed to know a lot about vitamin protocols especially about COVID. I have also interacted with you on the fitness thread, the book thread where you always posted about loving books with dogs as important characters and I found that so charming about you. You also started a not complaining ever thread. I have less than a year here, this March wil
    32 points
  15. I do love Dr Seuss, but when you know better, you do better. Times have changed and it is appropriate to retire offensive stereotypes.
    30 points
  16. So, not knocking personal responsibility. There are different levels that people can do due to situation, storage and affordability; what you can do to prepare for the expected situation is the level to which you are responsible for. But, it's interesting we are ok with saying that families should be responsible for preparing for multiple facets of an emergency -- water, food, clothing, heating and warmth, escape routes, means to evacuate with full tanks of gas, living without water or electric or gas, and maybe even set up backup electric -- but are glazing over a company responsible for
    30 points
  17. I need better cookie cutters
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  18. I'll try this when testicular acupuncture is a thing.
    29 points
  19. is complaining because her neighbor's dog has been outside all day. She's terribly worried about the poor dog, because it's freezing. People are telling her to call animal control. It is currently 33 degrees here, and the dog in question is a HUSKY.
    29 points
  20. It's so infuriating that there are people on this thread who still don't get it that your mask doesn't protect you very much; it protects everyone else. My risk is only minimally lowered by my mask. My risk is dramatically lowered by everyone else's mask. That's why we can't all just go about our business and do our own thing. Because your behavior is what puts me at risk, not my behavior. If others would mask, it would be safe for everyone. There's a real irony here as well in terms of what's open and what's not. There's no way to make indoor dining safe. But shopping, museums, schools,
    29 points
  21. re the business model and harvesting the data footprints of who clicks and likes and forwards your youtube links, which is how the next IP address gets identified to further push the conspiracy. The digital frontier that folks like Kate Starbird who track how QAnon and other conspiracies disseminate have identified Pinterest affinity groups on cozy subjects like knitting, crafts and cooking as the terrain on which QAnon crossed over from an overwhelmingly male, explicitly white supremacist network (leaning hard in that crowd on 2A themes and exulting in MAGA "masculinity") over to
    28 points
  22. No message since with moderator edits the post no longer made sense and several people made the same points and mentioned the same things in later posts.
    28 points
  23. I haven’t read all the replies but I had a kid like that. From about age 5 to 12 he was wild, out of control, obnoxious, etc. It was such a hard time. He was always getting in so much trouble in any activity (co-op classes, church classes, etc) that I ended up removing him either because it was clear the teacher was unwilling to deal with him or because I just could not handle another phone call or report about something my child had done. The implications and straight out accusations about my unfit parenting were pretty traumatic too. This kid is 18 now and getting ready to graduate high
    28 points
  24. Ok. I know this is a pretty boring topic to the rest of the world, but I saw this and laughed out loud!
    28 points
  25. This post keeps coming back to mind, and the more I thought about it, the more concerned I am about you, Pen. I’ve seen a shift in you over the past year, and accelerating over the past few months, and it makes me wonder where you are hanging out getting your information. I’m afraid you’ve gotten sucked into something bad 😥.
    27 points
  26. This. It can't be emphasized enough. Conspiracy theorists influenced people to vote for an administration that has put children in cages, and separated them from families, actions that dramatically increased the risk that these children will be abused. Conspiracy theorists influenced people to vote for an administration that has made it harder for women and children fleeing violence in their home countries to find safety in the US. Conspiracy theorists have diverted law enforcement resources that could be used to fight trafficking to fighting insurrection. A conspirac
    26 points
  27. My personal opinion is that people latch onto these theories because the truth of child trafficking is too horrible to consider. We all know that it’s real and it’s a terrible problem. However....it’s easier to contemplate children and grown women getting snatched by strangers at Walmart or in a van by the park than the truth, which is most trafficked children are sold or traded by addicted parents. They can’t believe a mother would offer her child to her drug dealer for s&x in exchange for the next fix. Or sold for a bit of money to buy meth. But that, in the vast majority of cases, is
    26 points
  28. Huh? A positivity rate is *the* indication of how prevalent the virus is in your state/community (esp since the US has no contact tracing). The higher the positivity rate is, the more likely you are to encounter someone who has the virus if you go out in public. And no, the odds are not the same regardless of the positivity rate (smh). The higher the positivity rate, the more likely the person sitting next to you is positive.
    26 points
  29. That sounds really hard. I am sorry you are having to deal with this. However I really love this typo. Maybe instead of complaining that my husband is like an extra kid, I should complain that my kids are like extra husbands.
    26 points
  30. Treading carefully here (and I did check to make sure it isn't a JAWM post) -- I think "watch yourself" is pretty darn aggressive phrasing. If someone said that to me under that scenario I wouldn't have been rude, and I would definitely have said a very sincere "Sorry!" But internally the "watch yourself" wording would have made me PO'd and I would have labeled you as very rude and would have probably gone several rows over to avoid encountering you again.
    26 points
  31. Yeah, I've got concerns. One of my top concerns in homeschooling right now is the role of edtech in the homeschool world - the ways that it's detrimental to homeschooled students and undermines the quality of their education. One of my main concerns is the way opportunistic "entrepreneurs" who know nothing about education swoop in to try and make a profit off families by telling them they need online education with slick sales sites that have great SEO so they capture all the people trying to connect with home education. And then the quality of the kids' education suffers. Because again, these
    25 points
  32. My husband said I could not have this puppy, or any puppy, right now. So while he is on a 24 hour shift I am redoing our bedroom in pink florals.
    25 points
  33. I'm pretty sure there are other rules for vaginas.
    25 points
  34. I think we can talk about someone's character separate from their politics. Rush was a cruel man, and while I believe other stories about his generosity, that doesn't change the fact that he said many cruel things in the guise of being "funny". People are not one dimensional - they can be both cruel and generous - and I guess we are left to weigh which matters more in evaluating a person's life. And that is setting aside how his style affected our national political discourse in general. I am deeply, deeply adverse to cruelty. I don't think it's funny no matter a person's political views.
    25 points
  35. 1. This is traditional Texan flavor Republican rhetoric—everything is your responsibility. The government has none. This is why HEB, a grocery store, has disaster relief trucks and why a furniture store owner in Houston opens his stores to let people charge phones and sleep. 2. They are not pointing fingers at ERCOT, and should be. If the power had stayed on, very little damage would have occurred. ERCOT could have mandated insulating their wells and facilities and didn’t. Right now, elected Texan officials are pointing fingers at wind power (officials whose campaigns are funded by o
    25 points
  36. Well, I’m a bit of a prepper (the kind that doomsday preppers laugh at) so I think individual planning is extremely important. I’m also a CERT (community emergency response team) member in a family of paid and volunteer emergency responders, so I believe in municipal-county-state-federal responsibly and planning. And I also believe in climate change, among other disaster causes. Combining personal and governmental responsibility is, IMO, the way to go and I can’t imagine what might change my mind. And that is, in part, due to a lack of equitable resources.
    25 points
  37. I don't think a child experiencing human nudity in a context in which nudity is socially normative is abuse. Many human cultures would be inherently abusive if that were true. Not just the occasional tribe here and there; there are many cultures with traditions of communal bathing, saunas, unclothed swimming, etc.
    25 points
  38. It’s a small school to start with, and they managed to get classroom sizes down to 10 kids. I have not been overly Covid cautious, but I had a five year old patient die a few weeks ago from Covid with no underlying conditions. I am concerned about the new strains and kids, but the school has done a fantastic job podding the kids into groups of 10. Plus masking is required and my kids don’t mind masks. Also my youngest has developmental delays, probably mosaic Down Syndrome based on initial genetics, plus he was a preemie. He needs more academic intervention than I can give, even with f
    25 points
  39. The bitching was rude, but "watch yourself" does not exactly have polite connotations. "Watch out" would have been better. I would probably actually have said "excuse me", even if I didn't need an excuse
    25 points
  40. I'm one of those crazy women that quit her sensible job, moved across the country for a "lesser job", and left her husband for some guy I met on the internet. To outsiders, it looked like I'd lost my mind. My family told me I was ruining my life. The judgement was harsh. The part that outsiders didn't know was that a) I hated my job and had never planned to make it a lifetime career. It was the thing I would do until I figured out what I wanted to do next b) I hated where I lived, and was only there because of the job that I hated, and c) my (ex) husband was a drug addict and an alcoho
    24 points
  41. To Those Who May Still Remember Me . . . I think of you often and remain very grateful for how you lifted dh, ds, and I so faithfully in prayer. My intentions have been many and often to post another update. Truly, I have some wonderful testimonies concerning ds who – unbelievably – has been Home in Heaven with Jesus for over five-and-a-half years now. However, this post will not include those testimonies. The purpose of this post is to let you know that my son has now been joined by his dad – God called my husband Home on Friday, February 5, at about 11:30 p.m. His pass
    24 points
  42. Institutionalized care for children has been and still is, in some cases, a horrific nightmare for kids. It goes way beyond reactive attachment disorder. The abuse and neglect is real. (Deleted personal story about RAD and abuse/neglect in orphanage. Suffice to say that this is personal to me.) That is part of the reason DH and I became an approved foster home. So, yeh, hearing that institutionalized care is absolutely better than a loving, caring, supervised foster home? Ouch. Better oversight, better training, better resources for foster families, sure. But “orphanages” over we
    24 points
  43. Just a note: well-insulated homes are not only important in cold places, they reduce energy consumption in hot places that use air conditioning too.
    24 points
  44. You know what would make that bedding better? A puppy. 😉
    23 points
  45. Pen, you are worrying many of us. You’ve gone deeper and deeper down these rabbit holes over the last few months. It’s like watching you slip away and turn into a different poster. Your posts have radically shifted. I won’t even address the implication that you think most people here don’t care about child trafficking.
    23 points
  46. re micro-level Individual Responsibility vs macro-level government responsibility It's not a binary choice, every homesteader for themselves vs full-on SOCIALISM. It's branded that way sometimes, but I really, really, really don't see it that way. Individuals can make very basic household-level emergency preparations -- enough shelf-stable food on hand to get through a week or so (even if non-favored food); sufficient water to drink and cook (even if toilets get a bit gross and dishes aren't washed as promptly or thoroughly as usual); flashlights and non-tip candles; a container
    23 points
  47. One of the most eye opening and humbling experiences I had as a teacher was in my first job out of college, where I was the one White person in the building. My preschoolers were very interested in hair, and with my assistant teacher taking the lead (because she knew what to do and I didn't), we set up a play area as a salon, etc. And, at my kids' encouragement, I eventually had my hair done by an older sister who braided hair professionally, who spend most of a day braiding my super fine, super long, stick straight hair. I could not believe how much it hurt (and how hard it was to stay still)
    23 points
  48. It was released by the court. As a lawyer preparing for zoom trials, I desperately needed this laugh and I have nothing but respect for all the participants.
    23 points
  49. I wanted to share the outcome of DD’s applications this year as we are close to being done with the process. I haven’t been active in these boards and have been mostly lurking over the past several years, but wanted to contribute as the information I gathered here was crucial in helping us prepare for homeschooling high school. The yearly admissions thread was always my favorite and often provided encouragement when I was feeling doubtful. This is the outcome of each one of DD’s applications. She has been homeschooled since 5th Grade. GA Tech, accepted EA, Stamps Finalist UNC Ch
    23 points
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