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  1. It’s stupid, I know, but I graduate today with my master’s degree in education, with a focus on children with behavioral and emotional disorders. Thanks to Covid, I’m not graduating with a teaching certification, but it’s opened doors in social work jobs. My personal life has been hell for the last two years. I cannot believe the crap the world has thrown at me while doing this degree. Plus the usual stress of working in EMS 48 hours a week and having three young children, two with special needs. Seriously, my life has almost been a tragic comedy the last few years because it’s so ridi
    100 points
  2. I got offered a job at a social service agency providing services for families of children with behavioral, mental, emotional and development disabilities. Other than salary and the travel, I’d love the job. I can take the pay cut sort of and accepted it. But then I get this email from HR stating that they need the following: Schedule Pre Employment/Post Offer Physical Exam This physical exam is a “work physical”. The provider will be provided the job description of the position that you have been offered. It will include vital signs, vision screening, urine drug scree
    92 points
  3. I got a call from DSS where our foster child is from. The case has been handed over to the adoption specialist to begin the adoption paperwork. He made sure I understood that we aren't fully ready for this yet, but that he only gets these when it appears eminent. His role is to get us to start things now so that it won't take so long after rights are fully terminated in June. It brought tears to my eyes. All the trouble with the birth mother will be worth it in the end. 💟
    80 points
  4. Today marks one year since I have started my DDPY and weight loss journey. Despite a torn meniscus in July, I have made good progress. I am down 53 pounds and 47 inches (over 10 body measurements). I am down from a 18w/2x to a 14/16 and large shirts. Even more important, I can walk and hike longer. I am stronger and more flexible. I went from the chair and stand strong level to beginner level and now can even do many intermediate level workouts with only minor modifications. Anyone else have a DDPY update?
    71 points
  5. Eta she came home yesterday. Quite nervous but already settling in. She and Auntie Blondie are happily ignoring each other. It turns out that she was a Romanian street dog rescued to Scotland but moved on due to issues with small children. We hope she can be happy with us. ............. We have our virtual home check for her tomorrow, then we should be cleared to meet her. Fingers crossed that she and our existing dog Blondie get on. What do you think, labrador/corgi? She's five years old and a bit nervous, but we are used to working with that.
    65 points
  6. As far as I'm concerned, without evidence showing otherwise that poor woman is a victim. She has been brainwashed her whole life with an abusive belief system. She likely has zero money of her own and zero support outside of that harmful group. Sticking with him isn't necessarily a sign it didn't matter. It could easily be a sign that she is stuck, possibly with the threat of losing her children.
    55 points
  7. I don’t know who is still here six years later, but the little boy this board rooted for is 6 today! he was born at 28 weeks gestation after an accidental pregnancy. I’d had a uterine rupture with my second child so this pregnancy was touch and go. I was advised several times to terminate but since I was rather far along by the time I even knew I was pregnant; that wasn’t something I was comfortable with. We’d used fertility treatments for our first two babies and had been assured natural conception was impossible. It was not. In any case, he’s 6 today!!! He’s got some delay
    52 points
  8. I submitted my last assignments for my last class for my master’s degree Today. Just in time for shoulder surgery tomorrow. I have medical PTSD and usually have huge anxiety the day of surgery. Of course with Covid I have to go in alone and wait by myself until they wheel me in. I am trying not to work myself up too much about this, but the anxiety is already starting. Connective tissue disorders and anxiety suuuccckk. Fortunately DH can be in the recovery room with me.
    52 points
  9. This is very very good. Here is Rachael's post as copied from her FB page. For those that don't know her, she was a key witness and the start of the case against Larry Nassau. ******************* I don’t even know where to begin with what we need to learn from this situation with Josh Duggar. If you haven’t paid attention to updates, you should, because it is a glaring example of the problems we have in our legal system, and especially in conservative Christian culture. The images and videos Josh downloaded for his own sexual pleasure were of toddlers and babies being sexuall
    49 points
  10. My youngest seeing his favorite aunt for the first time in a year, courtesy of her getting vaccinated and able to travel. I’m starting to think there might actually be light at the end of the Covid tunnel. (I hope the video works...) IMG_5156.MOV
    46 points
  11. Well, I signed up y'all. I go on Monday! At the site I am going to, there was only 1 less appointment than there was 2 days ago. Well 2 less, now that I signed up. 😢
    45 points
  12. Update I brought up the dynamic with my son to her and such a big surprise! She reacted badly. She kept trying to argue why they should be able to talk to each other like that and said I was being a victim 🤣. I told her that it is now three times I have set a boundary with her regarding my son and three times she has reacted badly. I said having her there is negatively affecting my family and I'm going to choose them and she would have to find another place to live. She said, " so I guess being your mother counts for nothing." Then she brought up how hurtful it is when I go shop
    45 points
  13. I am down to a normal BMI again. I've had a tendency since menopause (and because I cook for 3 males that love to eat), to slip into the overweight category, but I've been calorie counting and exercising. It'll take another 18 pounds though to be in mid-range territory. Yikes. Not sure I'll make it there, but I'm happy to feeling better. :) For now, I'll keep it a goal to stay in the normal range. That's all. :)
    43 points
  14. She asked for a pep talk and you gave her this anti-vax ? As a healthcare worker, this boils my blood. What absolute nonsense! California has the lowest infection rate in the nation because our governor has done absolutely everything to get shots in arms asap. And it is working! Not like the sh*t show I am seeing here in Texas, where rates are rising again. Oh how I wish people could walk around a Covid ICU and see what the public doesn't see -- 40 year olds on ventilators, parents not able to say goodbye to their kids. It's always no big deal until it happens to you. Over half a m
    43 points
  15. I agree, strongly with what you wrote here. Additionally, in terms of the massive amount of sympathy directed toward Anna in this thread, as someone who escaped out of a similar religious setting myself, I can't fully get down with that. I think the line of one's victimhood begins to diminish as one crosses into the territory of perpetrator/facilitator. If we were having this conversation back in 2015, I would absolutely have a lot more sympathy for her. However, IMO, there are multiple factors in this particular situation that make it stand out from other abuse situations where the victimh
    42 points
  16. Ds got in!!!! Sooo happy. (They really should put these out when they say)
    40 points
  17. Please, fellow pray-ers, join me in prayer that Anna will leave, shake the dust off her feet, and find whatever help she and her children need.
    39 points
  18. Hard to talk about this too deeply without getting political, but I'll make this comment: I'd rather see a much stronger investment in K-12 education than in preschool and community college. The whole point of subsidizing preschool (as I understand it) is to get parents into the workforce. And I get it. But how many families would truly be STRENGTHENED by an attentive parent at home? Call me idealistic, but I think parents are awesome teachers for their own kids, especially in those precious early years. And if K-12 schools were doing a better job of actually educating students--ALL
    39 points
  19. Glancing back over this thread, it’s kind of sad that we (myself included!) are attacking each other over word definitions instead of focusing on Josh Duggar, whom I think we all agree is an evil pervert. (But if anyone doesn’t agree that Josh Duggar is an evil pervert, all bets are off.) Can we all at least agree that Josh Duggar is creepy? And evil? And a pervert? And that he should be in prison for many, many years? I’m really hoping we can agree on that.
    38 points
  20. I will say I don't follow the Duggar family at all. I have heard bits and pieces, mostly here. Not knowing the charges, but suspecting them, I will say I was in his wife's position 3 years ago. My then husband was arrested on federal offenses involving minors. I had no idea. Honestly. I had defended him in a few other minor unrelated issues as honestly I had NO idea. Once I knew, the prices fell into place. My life and that of my kids was turned upside down. I pray that the media and people in general leave her and the kids out of it. I remember well the panic of findi
    37 points
  21. *checks level of surprise* wait . . . wait a minute . . . it must be around here somewhere . . . Nope. Undetectable.
    37 points
  22. Introducing Puddin'! Or Mark. Or Picket. She hasn't decided. A stray from the Humane Society. Him's two pounds!
    37 points
  23. I find the idea of making it the norm to turn kids over to government schools starting at age 3 to be misguided and unacceptable. Here in CA we already have the majority of kindergarteners deciding they are stupid because they can't meet unreasonable academic expectations. And now we are going to drive that even deeper into kids' psyches by starting school at earlier ages. Kids are so different from each other through about age 7, and then even out after that. We should be supporting parents in customizing their children's experiences to fit their specific needs during those years.
    35 points
  24. https://www.bbc.com/news/world-europe-56858863 Three German gymnasts competed in leotards with full length legs because they are annoyed by the issues that come with the regular leotards. Shorts are banned, and this is apparently the first time women have worn full coverage leotards for non-religious reasons. Over on ChalkBucket there was a lot of discussion about this article. While nobody thinks more modest leotards will stop actual predators, several people think that allowing gymnasts to have more boundaries and say in they are forced to compete in is a good idea. It was al
    34 points
  25. I'm astounded that the word "creepy" is getting so much attention. It never struck me as a particularly formal word. If that makes senses? It's almost slang, which I don't think we expect to have very specific, nuanced meanings. It's like arguing over the specific standards that must be met before using the word crap. Can it only mean literal crap? Or is it okay that it's a metaphoric crap? Does it have to meet some standard of crappiness before it should be used?
    34 points
  26. This sounds very dangerous. Many people with mental illness have spiraled in a very bad way due to all the things happening in the US this is not about religion for him...it is a mental illness wrapped in religion. i would get a burner phone, today, and start contacting any and every possible person and organization that can help you get your children and yourself to a safe place.
    34 points
  27. I'm one who strongly embraces the idea of aging gracefully. For example, I love it when beautiful women allow their hair to go silver, as cultural heroes of mine like Joan Baez and Emmylou Harris have done. Much preferable to my taste than covering it with dye. Perhaps that's a minority position, but one I embrace entirely. Botox? no. But, unfortunately, that's not what's going on with Justine. I met her multiple times when we were both young, post-Family Ties but not that many years later, as we had a mutual friend in common. The problem was--and I presume still is--that she sm
    33 points
  28. https://www.google.com/amp/s/abc7ny.com/amp/covid-vaccine-india-coronavirus-charges/10572704/ This was on my local news, this is the first article that popped up on Google.
    32 points
  29. When you live in the country odd things happen. This year we’ve had a miniature horse, a pigeon, and now a Jersey heifer show up in our yard randomly. No idea where this one came from. Hopefully the owner will see her as he drives by and come to pick her up.
    32 points
  30. Exactly. And I think some of us filtered reality through our own lens. I never watched the Duggars much but I was willing to believe there were a well meaning family, if a bit over the top. I saw the Pearls No Greater Joyvideos - where he’s rather jovial and assumed he didn’t mean much literally - my dad is like that - address the heart, work together, and discipline is more theoretical than IRL. i figures most folks who had a bunch of kids and chose to spend nearly 24/7 with them actually really liked and enjoyed them. So many of us who identify as large family and conserv
    32 points
  31. In science, the opinion of one person has far less significance than the consensus of multiple knowledgeable researchers. He can say whatever he wants; that doesn't make what he says valid and true. https://science.thewire.in/the-sciences/luc-montagnier-coronavirus-wuhan-lab-pseudoscience/ If virologists as a group reach a consensus that the virus was artificially manipulated I will believe it. At this point research into the SARS-COV-2 virus--and there are piles and piles of that, dozens of papers just in the copies of Nature I have scattered around my house--does not point to such
    32 points
  32. L has the last final for the last CC/DE class, and after that it's just paperwork. M and C are doing online school next fall. It's the end of an era, and I'm not sure what I'm going to do next. (I know that I don't want to go back to teaching in a K-12 school, nor to teaching college ed/mued/child development classes). I'm just not sure teaching and tutoring will fill the days.
    32 points
  33. I’ve worked with babies in this condition. The great news is cooling a baby is the absolute best treatment possible. This is something that wasn’t available when my son suffered his brain injury and it GREATLY improves outcomes. The hard news is that this is very serious. It may be months or even years until the full extent of any injuries suffered is known. However, as the very young mom of a profoundly brain injured child, I can tell you that this baby is still a blessing with a magnificent purpose in life, no matter the outcome. There will be joy.
    31 points
  34. Cause this gift/card kind of sucks, lol. Oh, and they also sent me a Happy Birthday Mammogram card. Which I thought was the worst card ever, until I got this one today.
    31 points
  35. The behavior was juvenile. The man is a creep. Creeps use juvenile sexual behavior in public because it has plausible deniability of being “not creepy” but it erodes boundaries and torments the target because if she objects then she’s overreacting and can’t take a joke. He’s getting his kick not by the friction of rubbing his private parts on someone but by exerting power to embarrass his targets (his wife and his daughter) in a sexually charged way.
    30 points
  36. @Ottakee, I have always been amazed by your bravery in facing your situation. I admire you so much.
    30 points
  37. Couldn’t have happened to a nicer guy.
    30 points
  38. I don't see this as surprising news. But eventually as more people get vaccinated and it's less "out there in the wild" and people start to also build up natural immunity and as (hopefully) more mutations occur that might make this even less deadly, then it won't be such a big deal.
    30 points
  39. I'm no expert. I've just read many of the proposals out there and agree with most of it. Things like-- Eliminating or circumscribing qualified immunity which grants LEOs immunity for nearly everything done in the line of duty Eliminating or scaling back 'officer bill of rights' laws that allow LEOs to wait days or weeks before providing a statement about what happened Shift enforcement of minor civil or municipal infractions to a separate entity, like 'meter maids' Shift responses to mental health/vagrancy issues to a separate entity like social workers Impose pen
    30 points
  40. Thank you. It is a bit triggering but I also hope my experiences help other women and can help others (even here) see the complexities of these situations
    29 points
  41. They need a present parent or other adult who has the mental bandwidth and emotional capacity to support them and love them and read stories and so forth. Honestly, for parents who absolutely need to maintain two incomes or who are single parents, this is exceedingly difficult. We can both believe that the best thing for young kids in general is a parent at home, make that choice for ourselves, and accept that this is not an ideal possibility for many other families.
    29 points
  42. I would tell the families of people she plays closely with -- adult to adult, not through the kids -- but I would phrase it as, "Ds27 has tested positive. The rest of us got tested because of him. We are negative and we have no symptoms. I thought you should know anyways though, plus we all have to quarantine as a household because of him. I'll let you know if anything changes." Making it a household thing, mostly about your son, should buffer your daughter a bit from any fallout. There's also no need to tell them that there is a plan to get a future test. But they do need to know. So so
    29 points
  43. Combined with the pro-job/pro-union infrastructure investments that will rebuild the American Middle Class, combat global warming, and put our economy in a competitive position in the decades ahead, this American could not be more delighted. Just what this nation needs IMO. Bill
    28 points
  44. First, remind yourself that your children’s sexual orientation is not determined by your politics or religion. It’s just not. What may be affected is how willing they are to talk to you about it. So in that sense it’s true that “this is what you get.” You get a daughter willing to talk to you about her crush. (This is a good thing.)
    28 points
  45. There have been enough instances caught on video of people doing everything they are told, or trying to when given conflicting instructions, and still getting shot to make this statement laughable. It isn't the people being killed who have the responsibility to de-escalate. It's the literal job of the people with the guns and badges.
    28 points
  46. We were there until 12:30 last night and I was up with a puking kid the night before. I'm so very tired, physically and emotionally. It went really well. They showed a lot of love, care, and support for our family, yet didn't tiptoe around things that were harming our family. His abusive behavior to us was confronted but not his delusions/mental health. I'm still processing it all. Too tired to think about a next step right now, but I feel safe as I consider it.
    27 points
  47. I'm not particularly crunchy nor am I an anti-vaxxer or conspiracy theorist. I don't think the vaccines are part of a nefarious plot. I am pro-informed consent and pro-medical freedom and privacy. All that to say, given the lack of long term safety data of any of the Covid vaccines, I'm choosing to delay getting it for now. I'll revisit the issue in a year, do another risk/benefit evaluation and may decide to get it then (or not). This doesn't make me stupid or selfish or unpatriotic. It just means that I've considered the information and come to a different conclusion than some peo
    27 points
  48. S21 had many good choices, including in-state that would have been nearly free, but today we put down the deposit on Georgetown (gulp!). Plans to study economics and government, potentially law school. After a really good visit there two weeks ago, his decision was set. He is already looking forward to interning "on the Hill" either with government or a non-profit. It will be a challenge, but he's ready for it. It seems like yesterday that I was sitting with him on the couch with "the Dewey book" (Phonics Pathways). And playing RightStart math games. And reading SOTW. He wouldn't be where
    27 points
  49. So I've read the whole thread, but seemed to have missed the actual pep talks. To me, pep talks have cheerleaders and Rah Rah!s throughout. So please choose whichever pep talk is most effective for your situation: You can do it! You can do it! Just push the button to it! (Rah rah!🎇) Your thumb is strong! The button push won't last long! (Rah rah!🎆) You don't have enough pricks in your life, so sign up for 1 [or 2] more! (rrraaaHHH 💥 rah!) When two shots love each other very much-- whoops, wrong type of talk, nvm Two small shots equals one big shot at a brighter futu
    26 points
  50. And--in the best news yet--I just scored an appointment for my 16 year old for to get his first shot of Pfizer this Friday. I'm a happy man today. Bill
    26 points
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