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  1. 41 points
    Thank you all. My surgery went perfectly and I just got wheeled out of recovery. My baby girl, no name yet, was not breathing well when she was born and has been on oxygen since. The amount of oxygen dependance has decreased gradually since she was born and Dr aren't too concerned. They did a chest x-ray and blood work but I haven't heard what the results were. Thankfully, on the way out of recovery they wheeled me into the nursery and I was able to cuddle her for 45 minutes. And they'll wheel me to her whenever I want. But they don't expect she'll be in there for too long. Last I heard from sil was around 1 and baby had passed 2 tests and she was waiting to hear from the Dr. Haven't heard what Dr decided was the best course of action. With being over due, sil having gestational diabetes and some other issues they are being very thorough.
  2. 41 points
    10 yo is really young. He might not be gay, he might just be figuring things out. I hate the pressure we put on kids that a "crush" at a young age = you're gay, it's permanent, break out the rainbow confetti. I mean, sure, maybe he is, but I guess what I would tell the parent is to stay calm. If it were my son, I'd remind him that daddy and I love him no matter what, and encourage him to be patient and give himself time to grow up before he identifies as anything. A friend on mine's 18 yo daughter was describing this phenomenon in high school: freshman year a bunch of girls came out as lesbian, by junior year they were dating boys exclusively and wondering what they were even thinking back in freshman year. Sexuality is complicated and hormones are crazy things. The fact that he's had crushes on girls suggests that if he's gay (big if, dude he's 10!!!) then he's not exclusively same-sex attracted. So, given his community's standards, if the same-sex attraction continues, I'd talk to him about not acting on it and limiting his romantic partners to girls since he's attracted to them, too.
  3. 27 points
    My homeschooled daughter just started full-time college 3 weeks ago and she absolutely loves it. She already has 45 extra credit points in her art history class and she says her professors know her by name, because she sits in the front and answers questions. I was so worried I had ruined her with this homeschooling thing! She had never done dual enrollment or anything - just jumped right into college. Lol
  4. 25 points
    I'm getting snuggles from my Philly granddaughter. I drove up to visit yesterday and will stay through the day today. DIL is Chinese American and they decided not to do the big family celebration this year. It requires driving 2+hrs one way celebrating all day and 2hrs home with a 6mo old. So they invited me to come visit instead. Happy Chinese New Year.
  5. 24 points
    I was probably never going on a cruise, but now I'm really really never going on a cruise.
  6. 22 points
    My dd had a hobbit feast for her birthday party yesterday. Five good friends, good food, and a riddle game. It was great!
  7. 20 points
    I found out today that my dd10 thought the word "several" referred to seven. So if you bought several bags of chips, you bought 7 bags.
  8. 19 points
    Be kind to retail, food service, and janitorial workers. Be mean to everyone else. jk. but seriously, when you are ordering food and the waiter/ff worker comes to you with a delay/problem, it goes A LONG WAY to give them a smile and a “no worries!”. Stuff like that.
  9. 19 points
    Not only that, but showers themselves were created so that (mostly) women could support other women while they set up house for the first time or started a family. It was about the support being given to that new family, not the price of admission to a party (most of which are not really to my taste anyway). And yes, that support was in the form of practical goods but it wasn't about having the right brand. If someone can afford to be so picky to only want Instagrammable clothing or XYZ brand, then they should save up for those items themselves.
  10. 19 points
    Update: So I did contact the SUNY school admission office and talkedto the admissions officer and explained that we don't have a cover school in this state (which is apparently what they were asking for- but the transcript be sent from a cover school). So after doing that they said okay we'll update a records to reflect that your transcript sent is the official one. Anyway, to make a long story short my daughter did get into that school.
  11. 18 points
    I'm so happy for you!!! Hooray!!! I know your husband will probably object to this, but I suggest opening an account only in your name to have your paycheck deposited in. And if you need to use some of your money for household expenses, you can transfer a specific amount to the household account without using all of it. I think this is important enough for you to hold a firm line on it and refuse to just put your money into the main account. You might tell your husband that you want to build some savings, so that your family will have options if/when you decide to live somewhere other than the faculty housing, and that this is a good use of the money, since your job will not cause an increase in household expenses (little to no time in the car).
  12. 18 points
    Update! I got the $35 Furniture Transformations kit, and also got a different poly because I read so many complaints about the one that came in the kit. Oh, and a nice paintbrush. Did no sanding, just scrubbed it with the deglosser (comes with a scrubby pad) and then wiped with a damp rag and let dry. It looks awesome! I mean, there are mistakes where I had drips of paint on the chairs, or drips of poly, but given that the chairs are missing entire rungs in places I'm not too worried about a few drips, lol. I did the optional (included) decorative gloss only on the top of the table as it is designed to simulate wood grain via the brush strokes, and although that worked great on a large flat surface it didn't work well on the intricate rungs/carvings/etc on the chairs so we just left them and the table legs plain grey. This is a photo of the top before and after.
  13. 18 points
    My daughter reads professional journals in ecology, field biology, and Herpetology. In her case, the despair and frustration is NOT because of not knowing the science.
  14. 17 points
    I've long regretted quitting piano as a tween (over 25 years ago). And I've long wished I could converse in a 2nd language. I've finally decided that regret and wishes aren't doing a thing for me. I'm working on both -- Spanish (about an hour a day + attending a Spanish church service on Sundays), plus piano (about 30 minutes a day). I feel like my old brain is waking up and there's hope for me yet. 😉 How about you? Is there a hobby-skill-sport-activity-dream that you've picked up/developed as an older adult? What are you doing to further it?
  15. 16 points
    Gosh, I just want to say to all of you with such difficult relatives that I hear you, and I believe you had it very hard, and I appreciate as a human how you have come to terms with your realities, and have so courageously stayed good people. It sounds odd, but I am grateful for that.
  16. 16 points
    At least, good veterinary care 🙂 My border collie is a senior, and has steadily gained and gained despite me working on his diet diligently, has a history of skin problems, etc etc. He LOOKS like a dog with low thyroid, but every senior panel came back normal. Well, this time around we have a different vet, and at the exam she expressed that even with a normal T4 she'd think he was hypothyroid, asked if he'd had more in depth labs done. I said no, and was grateful for her approach. Well, labs this time came back, and it was low normal, same as before, BUT he also has borderline low hemoglobin and slightly elevated blood glucose, both of which can go with low thyroid. So she said she can run more labs, or we can just go ahead and start him on meds and recheck levels in a few weeks! She also has me feeding him more canned and people food, and did the most thorough exam I've ever seen. Instead of writing off his slipping on hard floors as age/muscle loss/furry pads (he does have furry pads) she also found back pain (which I suspected) and also knee stiffness/pain. She put him on two different pain meds, and he hasn't slipped getting up ONCE in the week and a half since! I am flabbergasted. he was slipping and falling several times a day, and now not at all. She did also say we could order surf board wax to help his paws have more friction, but that may not be needed! Anyway, with all the discussion of treating symptoms not just numbers regarding thyroid, thought you all would appreciate that.
  17. 16 points
    What's wrong with the Meals on Wheels plan? My dad loved those when my mom was ill - it relieved him from cooking and worrying about meals, it provided one person to talk to (even briefly helped), the food was nutritionally balanced, the food was mostly tasty (there were a couple of meals my folks didn't enjoy), and it provided some exposure to the outside world (via the delivery person, opening the door, etc). I also think my dad looked forward to the one routine time/spot in the day when the meals were delivered. The meals delivered actually made two meals for them - one for lunch with leftovers for supper. My dad had delivered Meals on Wheels previously and had spent a few minutes in conversation with each delivery. Cooked meals - It's my understanding that cooked meat only lasts 3-5 days in the fridge. I'd personally be hesitant to have him eat it past four days. If he is having memory issues, I'd be afraid he would eat a past-due meal and get sick. If he is having memory issues, is the plan to supplement from the grocery store a good idea? (assuming he drives there and doesn't just do grocery delivery - which I'm assumed since you said you didn't think he would learn to use an InstantPot - I wouldn't think he'd learn to use his computer or phone to order groceries for delivery). Honestly, this is what Meals on Wheels is perfect for. It's also a nice daily check on the elderly to make sure they are okay. When he moves, he may be lonely, so the Meals on Wheels delivery may help with that too.
  18. 16 points
    That would be correct. Which is why a used gift, given with the sentiment of "I know you will love this" is entirely appropriate, even if the item isn't some family heirloom. If someone finds the exact set of wine glasses the bride wants, and has been looking for, at a yard sale for half the price of new, the sentiment is involved and there's no reason to value spending twice as much just for new glasses.
  19. 15 points
    You are not a whiner. You've had major unavoidable expenses as well as a major loss in the last few months. Complaining/venting is absolutely okay and understandable. It's HARD! And none of these expenses are anything you ever would've wished for. IF it had at least been a vacation or too expensive car you would've had SOMETHING fun with that money. As it is, the bills are kinda a slap in the face when you're already beaten down.
  20. 15 points
    So... you're the one who does all the work - save some of the baking - yet somehow SHE is the one who decides the rules? Uh-uh. "New Director Lady, I really appreciate that you've stepped in to run things. A lot of our back and forth has made me realize how much I was putting into this without enough involvement by others. I'm looking forward to bringing in a small donation for the bake sale and buying a few items instead of running the show. It's clear you've got it covered and that you're bringing in more new blood, which is just what we need. It's nice to be able to step back and let others take over. Let me know if I can give you any tips about how I used to do it, though I'm sure you've got this."
  21. 15 points
    But this is a house her DH loved and she didn't, that she agreed to buy reluctantly. So he got the house he wanted, he's dragging his feet getting the projects done (since he doesn't care about them), and now he's bitching she spent $1500 of their joint money buying furniture and curtains to help make the house he wanted a bit more livable for her. I don't think she's being at all unreasonable, and I think he's being really selfish.
  22. 15 points
    I'd be extremely surprised to find out that atomic scientists and Nobel Prize winners were out to irritate people, but I suppose all things are possible.
  23. 14 points
    For the first time since I had my first baby 22 years ago, dh and I are going away on a solo trip this weekend. Sunday afternoon to late Monday. Dd has agreed to take care of the menagerie. I have booked an air bnb in a scenic area a couple hours away. I'm so excited!
  24. 14 points
    Good morning! Happy Singles Awareness Day! Dh is taking me to the airport in an hour. Today is my mom's 80th birthday, so I am flying up for the weekend to celebrate with my family. It is currently -14 degrees there. Happy Valentine's Day to all the ITT Friends! You are loved! Coffee!
  25. 14 points
    No, not at all. I don't think it's reasonable to assume your animal is a welcome guest in someone else's home. We have cats and there is no way we could have an overnight dog in our home. Once my brother brought his dog. Never again.
  26. 14 points
    So, I’ve been ignoring this thread for years but here for the past week or so I finally delved in. I really need to get back to ignoring y’all again, but now I can’t... ugh.
  27. 14 points
    We didn’t get any rain on the weekend, but it is meant to rain today. Hoping it is heavy. About 100 mm would be great. Fingers crossed
  28. 14 points
    Not that one, but I went as someone’s guest to a similarly marketed event. What I would say is to remember that the people on the stage became rich and successful not by following the advice they are giving but by convincing other people to pay to hear it.
  29. 14 points
    I would not take any extra kids along, regardless of the reason. Fair = oldest getting to view colleges without sharing time and resources with siblings. Unfair = any siblings going along on the visits. I would leave all the youngers home with the babysitter. If I didn’t feel comfortable with that solution at this point, we would have one parent stay home while the other parent visits colleges. For the record, dh and I do not both go on college visits, so my advice is actually what we do in our family. One parent stays home while the other goes on the tour. The college kid needs to experience the college without siblings underfoot.
  30. 14 points
    My 10 year old is having a minor outpatient procedure this morning to see if we can get some pain relief for him. It’s a common procedure with minimal risks but he’s had a few minor procedures go really badly in the past few months so everybody’s anxiety is running high. If anyone has a moment to pray for relief from pain and fear for him, I’d be grateful.
  31. 14 points
    About a month ago, I thought we were done with college applications. Well, I knew USNA wasn't complete, but based upon the non-response from one Senator, the rejection from the 2nd, and PonyGirl's impressions of her interview, she didn't think she would get a nomination. I tried to tell her to complete it anyway, she never knew what could happen ... but as the weeks passed when she was supposed to have been notified, she just felt like it was a waste. Well, 31 January -- at 6pm, a letter arrives in the mail from our Congressman's Office. I tell PonyGirl that her "we're sorry" letter is here, and she came down to open it. Then you hear, "Oh No!" -- I spin around and say in mixed shock and horror -- "You got the nomination?" She replies, yes, to USNA AND USMMA! USNA's application closes at 11:59 on 31 January, and USMMA's closes on 1 February. While most things are done, she hasn't completed her Personal Statement, her CFA (Candidate Fitness Assessment) OR her BGO (Blue & Gold Officer) interview. (Her DodMRB (Medical) was done for USCGA). I shoot off a message to an old friend of mine (USNA '92), and he's like -- she's still got 5 hours... tick-tok! I'm like -- not sure how that's going to work, she still has her CFA and BGO interview. He asks, if she could get those done tonight, would she? Yes, of course...which led to a flurry of texts, phone calls and flying out of our home at 8pm to meet up with her BGO officer at ODU (where my oldest son works), to complete her CFA and her interview. Keep in mind, the child (and I) have been up since 0315 in the morning. She's already had two full workouts that day. She begins the fitness assessment at 8:45pm. Basketball Throw (oldest son teaches her how to do it), Pitches it 30 feet (a little below average -- but not too bad). Pull-ups -- 1 (she normally does 3, but 1 isn't bad apparently) Shuttle Run -- 12.5 seconds (kinda obvious from her turns that she's not a basketball player) Sit-ups -- 89 Push-ups -- 52 Mile Run -- 7'23" Then, it's interview time. We bolt out of the ODU gym at 11:00pm -- arriving home with 10 minutes for her to finish her personal statement (she had been working on it in the car on the way to/from meeting the BGO officer. All submitted by 11:59pm. All this to say, if your child is hoping to go to a service academy -- complete everything that is within your control. I have it on good authority that if your child is someone they WANT, they won't let something like not getting a nomination get in their way. Just complete the process. (I have no idea what will happen with USMMA, as it wasn't a nomination she requested, or was expecting -- we have the feeling someone else turned theirs down and they sent everything to PonyGirl at the last moment. King's Point was showing her nomination was received, but USNA was not). Thankfully, I will not go through this with PokeMan or Blondie. I don't expect it for Boo -- but she's got a few years left and could surprise me.
  32. 14 points
    It is not as simple as he left her to fulfill his own sexual desires. There were many aspects of his life that were unfulfilled because he was in a heterosexual marriage that he entered because he was too fearful of society to live how he really wanted. He had to hide some of the things he loved the most out of fear of being outted and how that would effect his relationship with his family, his career, etc. And he was right to be fearful as him coming out did change his relationship with some of his conservative christian relatives. But he waited until he felt that he was safe enough because society has come a long way. He can still love my mil while making the decision to finally love himself more. He stayed with her until their children were adults, is continuing to support her financially through alimony, and will financially support her through retirement. He didn't just up and leave as if she were nothing to him. Selfish was putting her in that position in the first place. And staying would have been just as selfish because ultimately mil deserves a man who wants her and doesn't just feel obligated to her because of a selfish decision he made out of fear two decades earlier.
  33. 13 points
    Buy less crap. Seriously. Consumerism is so destructive in so many ways, both physically to the environment and to relationships. Feed someone. Anyone. Anything. Even if it’s just a cup of coffee. Even if they aren’t hungry, there’s something spiritual about sharing any kind of sustenance with another that uplifts souls. I wouldn’t go so far as to say “food is love,” but it is something indelible when shared in genuine kindness. Go for a walk. Alone or with someone. No earbuds to tune out the world. Suddenly we notice things we drive past every day without really seeing. Make the most important things in your life reflected in where you put your money and your time. So many people live with regrets that they misspent money or time. So many people think “someday” how they spend their money and their time will actually reflect their life goals and values. For many someday never comes.
  34. 13 points
    🤣 Less than a month away from 5 years, ladies!
  35. 13 points
    I think it's broader than family. There's been a breakdown in traditional forms of community, and the space that leaves hasn't neccessarily been filled with new forms of community meeting the human needs that never went away. Obviously, this is going to vary widely by region, by dominant or family cultural norms, and by luck of the draw. But I know where I am, church going is way, way down, volunteer work is down, especially amongst the non-retired, civic organisation membership is down, trade union membership is down, membership of political parties down. And all families are affected, not just non-traditional families.
  36. 13 points
    A lot of good points. But this: Doesn't it follow from his own run down of the breakdown of the American family that these people are "hungering" to replace their broken and otherwise uncomfortable family-of-origin situations with anything approaching stability? What I mean is, wouldn't all these people have preferred to just have a good family from the beginning? I would. While people need what they need and find it where they find it and that's fine as far as it goes, what I have seen recently has been a lot of self-centered people saying that their friends are their "real family" while they're jerks to the max to their actual real family. Also, there's some stuff in the air lately where adult people are telling teenagers that what they REALLY need is a "tribe," by which they mean friends they select themselves, who support fully their every whim. Unsat. So part of my opinion is that while a lot of this stuff is true, it doesn't necessarily mean it's right.
  37. 13 points
    I would not leave one child out and take the rest. I think that is cruel regardless of the reasons. But I would take on the college child and leave the rest home with the sitter. The focus should be on the college-entering child, and should be special time to spend with them before they are gone from your life.
  38. 13 points
    Who decided that women can't be strong and smart AND sexy? That is such a bizarre dichotomy. And why should JLo, or any woman, be required to represent All Women All the Time? Why can't she just represent JLo — a sexy Latina singer and dancer who has made a really great living from her talent? Why would watching one 15-minute performance somehow undo what a child learned in nearly two decades of life in a family that believes that women can be strong and smart and powerful?
  39. 12 points
    Robin, yes, very often. Also, that's one of my favorites. My dh and I love this song. I read The Seven Martyrs of Hurmuzak - 5 Stars - My dear mom recommended this book to me and I am so grateful to her for that. Here’s a link to my Good Reads review, since I can post photos there. I would only recommend this book to Baha’is. I've been re-organizing all my photos and I can't quite recall if I've shared these or not. The first one is from the L'Occitane store in NY - their flagship store. This is their display of hand creams. We love their hand creams and had never seen so many all at once! Plus, the ceiling is decorated with flowers. Their store is across the street from the Flatiron Building (2nd picture). The third picture is one we took of the sunset here several months ago.
  40. 12 points
    Serive, you won;'t see this until tomorrow morning, but I posted on your K-8 thread a nice long list of things for you to look up. You're welcome. I really should go to sleep. Did I tell you guys I found a 6 bedroom/3 bath house in Scotland with a great layout near where Scotsman's work will be at a price we could actually afford to rent it? Now all we need is for the company to get the contract, hire him, and move us before someone else snatches it up! Not gonna happen, but I can dream. You know, they have seasons there? I haven't lived somewhere with actual seasons in more than 20 years. My kids never have. All those "do this acitivity in x season" could actually be done!
  41. 12 points
    The DMV was shockingly fast. 🤯 Only two people ahead of me! I came home and made cookies and lesson planned. Oh, and I did order that dress and it came today and it fits!💃 Also today came adorable ballet look baby socks. 😍
  42. 12 points
    Call his primary care doctor and work out a plan. Swallowing a pencil is not something you wait out. We have done things in the past like get X-rays at the primary doctor or at an orthopedist’s to avoid the ER.
  43. 12 points
    I agree. I cannot even imagine. My 3 year olds were still eating a lot of their food with their does it even work to let a preschooler run around the house, periodically popping by to shove a bite of lasagna or stir fry in their mouth before darting off again? Oy vey, what a mess of dribbled food and sticky finger prints!! For us every meal starts with everyone (even little ones) setting their places at the table, then we eat with everyone sitting in their chairs, and at the end everyone clears away their dishes and immediately washes their hands. Meals are times to talk about our days and practice patiently listening to others, practice good manners and using silverware neatly, model healthy eating, etc. They are a labor of love that someone (mostly me) has put a lot of time and effort into preparing to healthfully nourish our family, and even young children are taught to show a modicum of respect by sitting with the family for 10-15 minutes (and normally longer because we tend to keep meals upbeat and fun). At our house, though, most of this learning happens around 18 months. By 3 years old the kiddos are well versed in how things are done in this family and don't really fight against sitting at the table (even if the food choices are not entirely to their liking). They are still strapped because they are incredibly impulsive and need the physical reminder that it is time to stay seated, but they aren't actively trying to escape the buckles. Wendy
  44. 12 points
    This should not be an issue. It makes perfect sense not to allow non highschool age people into a highschool event like prom
  45. 12 points
  46. 12 points
    Sorry for my earlier post which was meant for the tackle thread! So yesterday I finally finished Boundaries with Teens. I started re-reading the Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. Last time I read it all the way through, I believe was before kids, or at least before snotty middle schoolers, LOL. I'm to the part where they say I should meditate daily. Sounds like a great idea if I can fit it in .... We are listening to Wuthering Heights in the car. It is weird in the beginning but at least one of my kids is interested enough to ask questions. I read the Reader's Digest condensed version of this book when I was their age, and I absolutely loved it. Hoping to start back reading aloud if I could stop getting derailed by more important things ....
  47. 12 points
    Dear boss, As I had expressed in my initial communications with you, I am unavailable to work xxyy hours / days. It has recently become clear that the staffing needs of ___ are incompatible with the availability I communicated to you. Thus it appears this arrangement is not going to work out. Accordingly please accept my resignation effective ___. Best wishes,
  48. 11 points
    So he was on a plane with a confirmed case of Covid-19, and now he and all the other passengers and going about their lives? Standing right next to you having a conversation, breathing the same air as you? Welp. There’s basically no containment for this, is there? Not even an attempt really.
  49. 11 points
    Thank you everyone. It was very comforting yesterday to know that people were praying for us. I thought I'd come back and update. A day and a half after the procedure, he's still in a fair amount of pain, but that's to be expected, and he's got good pain meds that are helping. He slept well with a lot of medication last night, and woke up much less anxious today. We're definitely out of the woods as far as cardiac complications, which are always one of the biggest worries. The next few days will tell us whether the procedure worked and will bring long term relief, but he's had it before with success and is feeling optimistic. The next few days will also tell us whether he caught any germs in the hospital.
  50. 11 points
    I now have a new term for whenever I head up to the green water and write and then go creek swimming in the summer. "Can't clean house today. Going to the forest to take a bath."
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