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  1. I feel like a newcomer! I think I first became aware of the boards around 2006; my oldest was 3 and I had begun seriously researching homeschool options. I didn't start reading regularly though until about 2010/2011.
  2. Posting again to say that it's totally fine to pay someone to do it if you dislike the job. I bet you pay people to do lots of things you could theoretically do yourself; if you ever eat out or even buy a loaf of bread at the store, you are paying someone to cook for you. Do you pay someone to change your oil? Did you buy a house that someone else built rather than building it yourself? Pay for entertainment rather than always producing all your own entertainment? I think sometimes we get stuck thinking *certain tasks* are things we just ought to do ourselves, but of we hate the task and can afford to pay someone else to do it, maybe we should rethink.
  3. I've always done ours; most years they are not very complicated. Haven't tackled it yet this year.
  4. I think it is unreasonable to expect young people to actually understand the implications of their decisions decades down the road; when you are young and your experience of life is limited, there's no way around those two realities. You can listen to the experience and wisdom of those farther along the path of life, but you don't actually have that experience. And that's not entirely a bad thing. We are all going to face serious challenges in life. Would we dare step forward at all if we really, truly knew what trials we would face on the road we step onto? I've thought about this often with regards to my own life. Would I have chosen to marry my husband had I known and understood all the anguish that his mental illness would bring into my life? Probably not. And yet I have never regretted marrying him and bringing a family into the world together. I suspect that some of the greatest shocks come when we think we do know what we are getting ourselves into. When we have tried to control for all the potential pitfalls. There is so much that is outside our control and life is guaranteed to throw us some major curveballs along the way; I have never met anyone who sailed through life without pain and struggles and griefs.
  5. Ah, bringing up the next generation of tradwives properly I see... 😁 I remember once we had a contractor at the house doing some work and he had forgotten a type of saw he needed for something. He asked me "does your husband have a [ ] saw" and I told him my husband doesn't use woodworking tools but I might have one. It annoyed me enough that I remember the interaction years later. I'm not much of a handyman but I'm the only one in this household who does any handyman stuff; I don't care if you ascribe ownership of the tools to me or the household at large, but don't ascribe ownership exclusively to someone who never uses them at all.
  6. This seems to me like a big step in the right direction. Hard to push through in the US political climate.
  7. I'm 100% with you on this. The needs of my kids are not easily addressed by the public school system, and that absolutely limits what options I have careerwise. I currently work 15-25 hours per week with most of those hours being flexible and from home; it's a rare job that allows that much flexibility, and I'm not currently in a position of needing to be a primary breadwinner. I am in the process of positioning myself to take over as primary breadwinner if (really when) my dh's kidney disease or other disabilities force him into disability retirement. Depending on when that happens and whether he is able to take over any of my current parenting load at that point, things could be very complicated. Not that they aren't already.
  8. Social Security credit for caregiving work is one of the things I would most like to see as a start to acknowledging the real value of that work.
  9. I feel like #tradwife is a different thing entirely from being a traditional full-time parent/homemaker. It seems to be *performative* in nature. I agree with you 100% that there is immense value to a family in having a parent who dedicates themselves primarily to the work of the home and family; it is not work to be looked down on. I would love to see the value of caregiving work taken up as a serious focus within feminist movements. Whether full-time or in tandem with other labor, caregiving is a huge portion of many women's lives and it hasn't been given the attention, consideration, or respect it deserves. I don't think it is actually possible to put women on an equal footing in society until we elevate caregiving on equal footing with the competitive kinds of work we currently value most highly. The book Unifinished Business did a pretty good job of explaining why caregiving needs to be taken more seriously, by everyone and especially by feminists. https://www.amazon.com/Unfinished-Business-Women-Work-Family/dp/0812984978#
  10. I know nothing about sadbeigechildren, but if you want to know about the children who were having a snowball fight last week in T-shirts, shorts, and bare feet...they seem to live at the same address as me. I claim no relationship or responsibility.
  11. To my mind the question isn't so much why do trad wife influencers make videos and such--we know why they do, it's a way to make money and probably also fill a need for attention. I want to know why anyone follows them? Also why anyone follows any influencer? Why do humans do humanness?
  12. I did learn something interesting from my aunt recently. She said that grandma (her mom) got a lot off pushback from women in her small farming community over working professionally. It wasn't that other women didn't work; they worked at the gas station, the diner, the supermarket...but grandma going to college and working as a nurse was viewed negatively. That surprised me because nursing has a long history of being viewed as a feminine profession. I think the community had a negative view of higher education in general though. My grandparents were very pro-education and made sure that all of their kids got college degrees, but my dad never really fit in back in his hometown after getting a degree.
  13. The 1950s homemaker model was never a reality for any significant percentage of women. My parents were both born in 1950. Both of their mothers worked for significant portions of their childhoods. My maternal grandmother worked as a secretary; my mom was the oldest child and was cared for during the day by one grandmother; her younger sister was cared for by the other grandmother, who lived too far away to drop off and pick up ever day so she just lived at Grandma's house during the workweek and spent weekends with her parents. My dad grew up on a farm, so his mother was busy with everything involved in running both a farm and a household; when all her kids were school-age she went to college to become a nurse and spent the decades until retirement age working professionally.
  14. I do really want to see women who have dedicated large portions of their life to family and home represented in legislative assemblies and elsewhere. I don't personally feel well-represented by women who have been primarily focused on career throughout their lives. Nurturing and caregiving are huge parts of many women's lives and I want to see those recognized as the competent, skill-filled, impactful work that they are! Not a fan of the term housewife though and no clue what Tommy Tuberville intended by that remark.
  15. Really? This has been my life every day!!! 🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 How I miss our old willy-nilly emoji...
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