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  1. Yes, I enjoy herbal teas/tisanes. Only beverages made from the tea plant are forbidden. ETA I've occasionally encountered Latter-day Saints who avoid drinking any hot beverage. That is a less common literal interpretation of the original guideline.
  2. Dh finally ate something late last night and is doing better today. Eating is often the turning point in these episodes, I'm always scared when he is in food refusal mode, it correlates with serious irrationality.
  3. I would love to have your job Krissi. Did you need a teaching credential to get hired?
  4. I've been thinking about this and I've come up with a potential correllary example from my own faith. Members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints follow a guideline that we call the Word of Wisdom that among other things forbids us to drink coffee or tea. There are a significant number of members who believe that by extension drinking of any caffeinated beverage is forbidden. That isn't explicit in the official interpretation however, and there is no negative consequence applied by church authority for someone who drinks a Coke every day--whereas there are some negative consequences for drinking coffee. I have never in my life intentionally broken the word of wisdom. It would seem silly I'm sure to someone who is not of my faith that I would see drinking a cup of tea as a significant trangression, but yes it is. If a child of mine wanted me to participate in some kind of ceremony that required me to sip a taste of tea I wouldn't do it-regardless of how important the ceremony was to the child. I wouldn't personally hold to that degree of strictness if the beverage in question were Coke, although I mostly avoid any caffeinated beverage. But I would understand and respect the choice of a member of my faith who did hold to the same strictness with regard to caffeinated soft drinks as they did with coffee or tea.
  5. Will alimony be automatically withdrawn from his paycheck? I remember the games he played with interim payments.
  6. Dh's mental health has been in a downward spiral for the past few days. This is making it difficult to celebrate dd16's birthday today. The kids and I are trying though.
  7. There are videos on YouTube, if the person is the sort who like to see a procedure done before undergoing it.
  8. My kids found a nest of eggs in a pile of branches, most from the same hen. 17 eggs, we don't know how long they have been there. Is there a way to tell if they are good? And if anyone has ideas on how to convince this hen to go back to laying in the laying box those would be welcome as well!
  9. I do not have to agree with a person's moral compass or even understand why it is the way it is. If I know something goes counter to a person's strongly held moral beliefs I will not expect them to breach that for my sake. It doesn't matter what moral decision any of the rest of us would have made in Scarlett's place; she has to follow her conscience not mine. I would be profoundly wrong to expect her to follow my conscience instead of her own. I can understand her son's feelings of hurt and anger; they are legitimate but do not mean that Scarlett was wrong to make the decision she did or that he is right to hold it against her.
  10. Begging you to come could just mean that they want to control you. They get you to come to something you disapprove of, they win. My own internal compass wouldn't let me beg someone to come to something I know they disapprove of. Which would probably make me naturally suspicious of the motives of someone else behaving that way. Because my gut would judge by my own compass.
  11. I wouldn't actually think it was more loving of someone to come to my wedding while disapproving of it than to stay away, that actually feels quite disrespectful to me. Come and give me fake smiles and congratulations? No, please politely stay home with your disapproval. I only want people who are truly rejoicing with me. Clearly this is less universal than you think. Back to actually different perceptions and different moral foundations.
  12. It is probably pretty universally mind boggling that other humans have thoughts and opinions and moral systems that differ from our own. Our own moral systems would be pretty useless to us individually if they didn't feel correct, and how can what is correct to my mind differ significantly from what is correct to another? So we easily ascribe negative morality, immorality, to those who follow a different morality. Stretching our minds to try to comprehend--not necessarily to agree, but to see through actually different eyes--is likely good exercise for any of us.
  13. Rights are determined and granted by society at large. A right does not exist as a separate and absolute truth--unless, like the writers of the Declaration of Independence, we claim there are inalienable rights granted by a divine Creator; but then short of that Creator manifesting himself indisputably and publicly and proclaiming those rights himself we come back to society deciding and delineating rights. A right to enter into a social and legal contract termed marriage does not exist unless society determines it should exist, and the meaning and definition of marriage must also be determined by society. The argument that same sex marriage is a right is meaningless at any point in time in which the definition of marriage and the existence of a right to marry are being actively questioned and negotiated by greater society.
  14. And we are here circling around the heart of Scarlett's original question: what are the appropriate limits between my morality and yours? Can you rightfully and morally tell me I am wrong to try to live in accordance with my own morality? People often harp on not imposing religious morality on others but in that very act they are attempting to impose their own morality on another. This is not a realm of black and white.
  15. This looks like an attempt to impose one's own morality on others by shutting down points of view one disagrees with...
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