Requesting prayers for my brother

[Angie in VA]

One other thing regarding your SIL, I was the calm one (I'm the baby in the family) and everyone else was a mess.  I was in SHOCK!!!  I planned the funeral and took care of my dad, older sister, and niece.  I made it through what I needed to keep things going.  It really HIT ME down the road when I had dealt with everything that had to be done ASAP and my REAL grief started maybe a month after her death.  Keep close to her -- even when she looks like she is calm and strong.

 

 

This. Every word of this. Exactly. 

 

I could have written this. 

 

I'm so very sorry for your loss, JanOH. I can't imagine. Praying for your family at this sad time.   :grouphug:

[goldberry]

I'm so sorry, prayers for you and your family.  Some things just aren't right.

[Ravin]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Jan.

[lllll]

:grouphug:  I'm so sorry, Jan.

[Tiffnkids]

Praying for your family.

 

Please consider Hospice grief counseling if available in your area - for YOU, your parents, his wife, his children.

[Penguin]

So very sorry. Many hugs to you and your family.

[FloridaLisa]

Jan, 

 

My heart is breaking for you, your parents, your sister-in-law and her son. What a devastating loss. Please know that I will be praying for you all during this time. I don't know your sister-in-law's name but I will add her to my prayer list.  :grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:

[ErinE]

My heart goes out to you and your family, including your sister in law and nephew.

 

I second the recommendation of grief counseling. I was so calm in the first few days of my parent’s death as I needed to handle final arrangements. But later I found I would succumb to weird bouts of rage and grief. Talking with someone helped me so much.

[matrips]

I am so sorry for you losing your brother, and the rest of your family for losing their son, husband, and father.

[rutamattatt]

Oh Jan, so very sorry to see this update.  Praying for you, your parents, and your brother's family.   :grouphug:

[Guest]

I am so terribly sorry.

[Halftime Hope]

Jan, there just aren't words.

 

I'm so, so sorry.  :crying:

 

 

 

[PuddleJumper1]

I am so very, very sorry Jan. Keeping you all in prayer.

[Liz CA]

Oh, Jan.

 

From one second to another the whole world changes.

 

Continuing prayers, and standing with you in this sorrow.

 

 

This is what I was thinking when I read your update. Many hugs.  :grouphug:

[Melissa in Australia]

I am so so sorry

[Kassia]

I am so sorry.  What a horrible tragedy.  Thinking of you and your family.   :grouphug:

[ashfern]

:grouphug:  I'm so sorry for your loss. Praying for your family through this difficult time.  :grouphug:

[Rachel]

I’m just seeing this update, I’m sorry!

 

The decision was made last night to disconnect the ventilator. He's gone. Please pray especially for their 19 yo son. He is having a rough time.

 

I think my parents have aged 10 years in the past four days. Yesterday was my father's 82nd birthday. I think they'll be ok but it was a long day yesterday.

 

Good things happened though. My sister-in-law was very calm and we were able to help her plan most of the funeral stuff in the afternoon. The original plan was that the vent would be disconnected this morning but his condition deteriorated quickly and it became very obvious that last night was the right time.

 

Thank you all.

[Lilaclady]

So sorry for your loss. (((Hugs))))

[readinmom]

So sorry for your loss...prayers for you and you family

:grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:

[idnib]

I'm so sorry to hear this outcome. Holding you and your family in my heart.

 

 

[dirty ethel rackham]

I am so sorry for your loss.  Holding your family in prayer.  

[guilfordlake]

I am so sorry!  :grouphug:

[Tenaj]

Thank you for continuing to pray.

 

Services won't happen until Monday and Tuesday. The coroner had to be involved since it was an accident to confirm the cause of death.

[East Coast Sue]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family as you endure such a tragic loss.

 

 

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[MBM]

Prayers for your family, Jan. This is so heartbreaking.

[Stacia]

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

[wintermom]

So very sorry for your loss. Life is so fragile and precious. 

[Spryte]

Oh, I am so, so sorry for your loss.

[kbutton]

I am so sorry for your loss. 

 

The comment made about shock and going through inheritance quickly reminded me of this...I remember one financial expert saying that bereaved families shouldn't make any big decisions they don't absolutely have to during the first year. I know of a widow that made a not so great one financially, and it has left her with fewer options. I don't even know what it was, and she's not letting it rule her, but it made things harder. I will pray your SIL will be able to grieve well and still continue to think clearly when big things come up.

 

:grouphug:

 

 

[Rosika]

Words seem so trite at a time like this, and yet that's all we really have. I wish I had words to do justice to the shock and pain your family is experiencing, but I don't. 

 

I know how painful it is to outlive a brother, and my heart hurts for you. I can't imagine the horror of losing a husband or parent, or the unfathomable tragedy of burying a child.  :grouphug:

 

Just know that your grief is our grief, and that even when this thread is buried so many of us will continue to have you in our prayers and our hearts. 

[cave canem]

What a horrible shock.  I am so sorry.

[Chris in VA]

I'm not on the boards very often anymore, so just seeing your news. I wish I had better words than I'm sorry. I lost my brother in October. I hope you have good memories to ease your heart. Many condolences and prayers.