this girl has a few "cheesecake cakes" including carrot cake cheesecake. https://www.shugarysweets.com/carrot-cake-cheesecake-cake/

i read she was found dead of a self-inflicted gun shot wound. I had told my DD this morning that my gut was telling me this was a suicide trip, not a mass murder trip. Now that it is over I am reading that her family reported her missing and that she had mental health issues. Heart-breaking.

Yeah, I lived out west, in the high desert. it is incredible. i wish there was more info...what is she driving? is she paying cash for stuff? does she have piercings? height? weight? maybe this is being covered locally, and not nationally. Based on her pictures, she looks much older than 18. but that could be poor picture quality.

The 20th anniversary of the massacre is tomorrow and apparently an 18 yo woman from FL has posed credible threats to the schools in the area. They apparently can't find her and don't know what she is planning?! I don't even know what to say.

Sending good thoughts, LOL...

i know your grandma wasn't my mom but same. I think my mom used butter, too, and cream for special occasions. I hated them so I barely paid attention.

we always have strawberry shortcake plus something else. Carrot cake, cheesecake (an unbaked light kind), hummingbird bars have been most popular. One Person is constantly lobbying for Peanut Butter Pie, no matter what the occasion. So sometimes that. I might make that Italian Love Cake i posted about earlier in winter. It is still winter here. It snowed a couple days ago but I think I heard it is going to get warm. Soon. Maybe July.

Julie in CA posted a upscale, doctored up version of scalloped potatoes starting with a boxed mix. This was years ago on here but people enjoyed it. My theory for rich dishes is to keep them rich and balance them with healthier choices. So a rich potato dish with steamed veggies, lightly seasoned and a green salad with a light dressing. IOW, look at the whole meal to balance out on the "healthier" side.

I always thought that scalloped potatoes didn't have cheese and that adding cheese made them au gratin potatoes. But then again, I call a certain style of potatoes "hashed browns" and people said they had never heard of it with the "ED" only "hash browns."

i'm not going to weigh in on the specific topic but if this is your boss at work: I'd completely shut down any and all conversations about religion, spirituality, my child's differing abilities, etc. IMO, those topics are much too personal for a work relationship, especially if YOU are the subordinate. I'd not be giving a boss so much knowledge about my personal, emotional and spiritual life. I'd also not do it if you were the boss, either, but I think I remember a thread that mentions your boss is giving you spiritual/religious advice. JMHO

I hope you got.some help. *Need Bail in El Paso* is the name of my to-be-written country album. *Need an attorney in El.Paso* is in the lyrics of the titular song...

Agree. Cosigned. This. +1,000,000.

Firstly, YOU put the personal identifying information out there. I said "These are all rhetorical questions. I don't want any answers." I googled your numbers and found the hospital SYSTEM in about 30 seconds. Secondly, I know a lot more about mental health, emergency mental health, and emergency room statistics than you give me credit for. I knew the odds of one single hospital seeing that many people for mental health reasons in a year (38,000) would be rare in a single hospital. The percentages I've heard based on personal conversations range from 10% to 20% (depending on area and particular days) of patients who go to ERs are there for mental health reasons. Mental health orgs say 1 in 8 people who go to ER are there for mental health reasons. So an ER that sees 38,000 out of 288,000 patients for mental health reasons would be seeing a statistically number of people consistent with numbers I am familiar with. However, there is not one single ER in this country (that I know of, NOT a hospital system) that can handle 789 patients a day. 288,000/365. When you wrote 38,000 people at one hospital, I knew something wasn't right. Because 38,000 ÷ .125 = 304,000. I didn't need any more stats to know that. But you provided them even when I said it wasn't necessary.

TechWife also didn't specify that the numbers are from a hospital system, that includes 6 separate and distinct ERs at different locations.

It was a huge change, after almost a decade of schooling all together, when one went to high school. the thing with us, that I think made it harder, was that this kid is "the leader" of his siblings. The idea person, the planner, the "influencer" LOL. That was good and bad but it seemed mostly bad at first to his siblings.