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Moonhawk last won the day on August 31 2022

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  1. I think we see a lot of influencers/Youtubers who forget about reality and live their entire life for clicks. Where they either have no shame or sense of perspective on some of the things they do because, so long as those actions gain views and clicks and subscribes, it is worth it. But, audiences also forget that these are real people who have real lives and don’t only live to entertain and still have problems, that they may not being on camera. Treating people as only the sum of their youtube personality is easy but not necessarily correct. Regardless of her personality online, if she did what she needed to do to protect her child even if it would affect her youtube “career” badly — especially if it would — then I can respect that. Calling the cops for the drama isn’t unheard of, but once you say it’s about a kid, that seems much less contrived, at least to me.
  2. I've been looking at houses. I don't necessarily disagree with the listing(s), I'm just evaluating what a reasonable person would consider walking distance. I haven't had to think about this in a long time. And, I have had a lot of knee problems recently, so I know my perspective is not necessarily in alignment with other reasonable people. While prompted by life, my question is not an argumentative situation, purely curiosity about the response and what other people consider when they describe something as "within walking distance."
  3. Is it a mile, two miles? Less than a block? If someone says that they live “within walking distance to downtown”, would you expect to walk half an hour to get there? Is 20 minutes close enough? How do you judge if something is walking distance or too far? Let’s assume perfect weather and no real rush, but you have something else to do in the afternoon so can’t spend all day walking to your destination, and may be carrying a small bag. What’s a reasonable time/distance to you to call “in walking distance”?
  4. “The most recent studies show that the top ten list of human activities includes putting refined liquid fossils into vehicles, nasal swabbing, and standing on shortened plants called “lawn”, not to be confused with the other top 10 activity of “lawn-dry.” We have attached the full list for your review. by choosing three normal human activities and displaying them routinely, you will avert suspicion of your true identity. if you feel you have been compromised, use a communication beacon and do whatever you can to appear normal while we route emergency help to your location. Repeat, do everything you can to avoid notice! Please also look at updated slides for current fashion trends, including masks, gloves, and mom jeans.”
  5. Celebrate with me! I shared with you guys last summer about my job woes and leaving after a bait & switch, starting a job search that eventually netted a fairly good position close to home in AZ. Well, the ball began rolling with the job search where I had applied to some places out of state, too. One thing led to another, and today I'm sitting in a California hotel, starting my new job tomorrow. I won’t call it a dream job, but it is better than any position I would have imagined up for myself. I get to use my current skill set at the top of a great organization. They will be training me in additional duties that opens up 2 other avenues for advancement/future careers in this industry. I am considered management level, and I am a direct report to the CEO. I'm super excited about all of this and its an amazing opportunity, one I wouldn't have thought possible last year, and I'm very grateful that I was able to open the door to it when it knocked. You guys know about the other parts of life that have taken unexpected turns; it feels like this is what I need to pull things together in this new reality. I actually accepted the position last month, but with turning in a 4-week notice (Friday 10/27 was my last day), packing to move, prepping kid school stuff for this time, finding a short term rental, and the myriad of things that just come up in everyday life, I haven’t actually celebrated getting the job. Like, nothing. Today is my last day of excitement before reality strikes, so to speak, lol, so I am taking the day to actually drink it in and enjoy the moment.
  6. I say turn the tables! "Did your daughter get a phone specifically just to talk to my son? He isn't allowed to date, please make sure she is not trying to initiate anything." "Did your daughter use my son's face in her Insta? Is she still trying to make them an item?" "Do you by chance know that your daughter is continuing to pursue my son?" I mean, the mom's being ridiculous, this is all ridiculous, but if she thinks she has the ground to insinuate it's your son that's the issue (re phone etc), then fair game.
  7. Okay, well. There may be truth in that, but just because it is that way, doesn't mean it should be that way, or that is has to be that way. So while it may give an excuse to the person, it doesn't really make it acceptable. And just because it is that way, doesn't invalidate your feelings, because it's wrong regardless of normalcy. And in my nursing-education-adjacent role right now, that is not what I see, so definitely it is changeable. But that doesn't help you in your situation, sorry. Pretending you never saw the post-its and treating her with niceness and extra than usual is probably the safest course, too. Forwearned is forearmed, though, and now you can prepare in case it's a sign of what's to come. I would document however necessary. Take videos of your classes if at all allowed, and say its so you can review your presentation, evaluate, and continuously improve your performance in front of a classroom (a valid method, honestly, we did it for all sales meetings). Write down what she had on the post its. Document all interactions, try and keep the communication to text/email if possible (maybe hard to establish new routines now, but holidays are always a good excuse for changeups). Another idea: You can ask for her point-blank for immediate feedback after every class (don't bring up the post its). She can blow it off and say "it was fine", or she can give actual feedback. But document that you were asking for feedback after every class. So you can show you are trying to improve; and, if she later comes back with a poor final evaluation, you can show that none of this was a problem when you continuously asked for feedback throughout the course. Even every-other or once a month asking for feedback would probably show that you were consciously working and looking for improvement areas, and would discredit anything she says is an ongoing issue. (Caution: This does open up the territory, though, that she criticizes without giving actual feedback you can work with, and that may be an equally bad situation for your morale and relationship. But would also give you a more official reason to discuss with others in leadership how you are not getting the support/direction you need, and you don't think her evaluation will be un-biased.)
  8. Re all the discussion on contracts to show for lease: I'm finding that an official offer letter, while not a contract, is usually sufficient for most landlords during the application process, so long as it has monthly wage and/or hourly rate + expected hours/we, and a start date. That, plus ability to pay the security deposit, seems to be the bar I'm being held to as I'm looking for housing under a similar situation of job offer + move. YMMV where you are, but the offer letter (that you signed, or will sign) is probably good enough, especially if it comes from a government entity.
  9. IDK guys, maybe it's a proximity + dosage + time thing. I was in a room with 6 phones going off, in a building with probably 1000s going off, while in the middle bottom floor in a windowless room and I think I was probably the main human body hit by the radioactive waves from the "test." And, this past hour I'm feeling a mite peckish. I could really go for a nice fresh bowl of brains. Like, yeah, with ketchup or something, but that's not my normal go-to snack. I don't need it, but I wouldn't say no, if you know what I mean... Just, like, keep and open mind. And if your brain happens to fall out while you're doing that, just PM me, I'll help you clean up!
  10. Uh, no. I think a basic "Thank you for sharing your condolences, and for the care you gave our mother during the last 2 years of employment. I know you are grieving, too. We won't be sharing any more of her personal effects at this time." I agree with your "creepy and inappropriate" description, and would ghost if she brought it up again. There's crossing a boundary and then there's taking a flying leap off a cliff, and another request would be parachute territory.
  11. Just talking about this part: I've learned that if someone isn't willing to ask me directly, it's because they already know it's an unreasonable request and/or they can't justify it if I asked questions. So, they rely on people with more ability to manipulate me (eg, husband, kid) to ask me instead since I will automatically be more willing to do something for these people. Your SIL is trying to manipulate you by putting her requests through your husband's voice. I think I would take the approach that if she doesn't ask you directly, nothing was actually asked. Perhaps you should ask your DH not to tell his family "I'll ask her", but just say "you'd need to ask her yourself." And see if she actually reaches out or if she gives it up before it even begins. eta: if she does reach out to you directly, you'd need to be comfortable saying No to her directly, though, and be willing to stand firm to her direct manipulations with guilt/cajoling/etc. If it's easier just to leave as is, that's a valid point, too.
  12. I'm in rural southeast Arizona, I can see the border wall from my front door. So, a very big shift in a lot of ways. My half-sisters live in the Bay Area, so it's not a total unknown to me, but obviously my experience if very limited and there is going to be a lot of culture shock for us.
  13. Thanks for the input! the information about other towns/cities to look at, that was helpful. It gave me more options to look at when I was weighing the feasibility of moving out there. Today, I accepted the job offer that prompted this post.(!!!) I wasn't really looking for a new job, as much as just browsing and applying on a bit of a whim, so I'm still in a bit of shock at how this has moved so far along. It's going to be a big change for us, but I think it's a great opportunity for myself and our long term prospects. Very excited about this position!! More responsibility, cross training into two desirable areas but the foundation is my current skill set.
  14. Specifically Martinez, CA in the Bay area. Anyone know/have opinions on this area? Surrounding towns/cities? General information is awesome and fully appreciated. If you have very specific knowledge about the area and would be willing to entertain some very specific questions, I would appreciate PMs. Sincerely appreciate any insight! I need to come to a decision by the end of the week, probably.
  15. I read the first responses and was shocked, lol. I’m totally cool with wearing the necklace all day every day. It was a gift from a guy in the past. What matters now is that it is hers, she likes it, and she wants to wear it. Slip it under her blouse during the shared classes if she thinks it will create drama, or don’t wear it *every* day, but she has a beautiful necklace that she likes and to me that’s where the story ends. If old boyfriend sees it as a sign of future possibilities, that’s his problem especially if she is doing what she can to disengage from the friendship completely. Again, under the blouse for limited interactions not because she has to but just for ease. If new boyfriend is jealous or uncomfortable, I do get where he’s coming from. But it’s a beautiful necklace and she likes it, and if she only sees it as a necklace he should respect that too. As for giving it back: it was a gift freely given with no ties or strings attached. She does not have to give back any gifts from a previous relationship regardless of worth, there were no promises made with it, and it doesn’t seem to have put the guy in financial peril as a last-ditch attempt to save the relationship (which is the only scenario I can think of where offering it back would be polite but not necessary given the no-string nature).
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