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Harriet Vane last won the day on January 25 2023

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  1. I think it's absolutely fine to tell her something without dh's approval. You're a grownup and so is she. There's no need for an intermediary.
  2. This. What a nasty, ugly way to treat you.
  3. I'm not sure when I started, but it would have been when my oldest was in the early primary years. (She's 27 now.) I have been so grateful for the resources and perspectives here, not to mention the fun. Thanks from the bottom of my heart.
  4. I don't have specific experience with bypass surgery but will strongly urge two common sense things based on my experience with caregiving dementia patients and someone after brain surgery. Get in-home caregivers lined up for at least some of the time. You will need the respite and the help. INSIST on physical therapy. These are not wait-and-see. They should both be in place immediately. It will take some doing, so best start talking to the hospital social worker and your insurance company right away.
  5. @Corraleno I am so sorry for what he endured. So very, very sorry.
  6. I highly recommend a book that shows the scientific case for how evolution dovetails with the biblical creation account. It’s written by a scientist named Scott Ransom. It’s a fascinating, wholly different perspective. I had never read this perspective bridging the two and it’s given me a lot to think about. http://...And It Was So: How Modern Science Sheds New Light on the Biblical Account of Creation https://a.co/d/0Wfmy98 This link gives a pretty solid summary of both Dr Ransom’s credentials as well as the premise of the book. https://www.prweb.com/releases/New_Book_Utilizes_Ancient_Hebrew_and_Current_Scientific_Evidence_to_Evaluate_the_Biblical_Account_of_Creation/prweb19443498.htm.
  7. Yes, we make our choices and have to live with our choices. Yet we do NOT have to accept limitless burdens or limitless boundaries violations. It's also true that sometimes we simply cannot see ahead of time aaaaalllllll the ramifications. I say that as a seasoned, experienced, middle-aged foster parent currently grappling with the most difficult placement I've ever had. Re Kate--Sure, she knew what she was getting into. But that emphatically doesn't mean it's okay to bulldoze right over common sense boundaries and respect.
  8. @Soror I am glad you’re seeing improvement so quickly and you know what ya gotta do.
  9. I'll tell ya, if I had a history of colon problems that's definitely one thing I wouldn't go sharing with the whole general public. Or even most of my own circle of friends. As far as I'm concerned, it's nobody's business but hers.
  10. All excellent points. One thing I will add, based on watching former foster kids struggle through something right now. If there is a one sibling who is clearly in the wrong, SAY SO unequivocally. Consider putting it in writing--briefly and in short form--so that it doesn't get clouded up by a lot of talk and rationalizing. Remaining neutral only helps the one in the wrong. I am not suggesting to stir up constant daily drama. But make sure that the child who has been wronged knows for absolutely certain that they are believed and supported, and make sure that the child who did the wrong is well aware that you are disappointed with their hurtful choice. It can be helpful, too, to make it clear that you will be so proud and pleased when genuine efforts are made to take responsibility and restore broken trust. Then let it go and focus on the day to day peace as best you can.
  11. I have no grandchildren, but I have thought it would be nice to be called Gran. It's simple and classic. My kids called their beloved grandma "Grammy" so I feel weird taking on that name.
  12. I am so sorry for the fall. I hope it’s just a minor blip for you.
  13. So thankful for SWB's sensible approach.
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