StaceyinLA Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Good Friday morning we lost my mom. Her decline last week was rapid, and the hospice nurse told us Thursday she would be surprised if she made it through the night. She passed Friday morning around 7:25. Everyone got to say their goodbyes and have private time with her on Thursday. She was in that deep, unconscious state, but I know she could hear us and knew we were all there. She knew she was loved dearly, and I'm hoping that is what gave her the strength to let go. I am a little sad that I wasn't actually there when she passed on; two of my sisters stayed and the rest of us left because her vitals had actually improved over about 4 hours, and we were thinking we might need to take shifts. Luckily, I am only about 4 miles from the nursing home, and was able to get back there in less than 10 minutes. Hospice came and stayed with us and we were able to be with her until the funeral home came. My kids all saw her Thursday and all got to be with her alone. I have to say the most heartbreaking thing in the world is seeing your kids in pain. My mom has lived on our place for 17 years and my children saw her EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Every night for at least 10 years, at least one of my children slept over at her house with her. They are hurting, and it breaks my heart. I do have to add how impressed I am with the care my mom had. The nursing home staff was amazing. She had some extremely devoted aides and nurses. All the fears I had about her being in a nursing home were unfounded. We were so pleased with the care she was shown. Hospice is amazing! Those people have a special gift to do what they do, and they walk you through everything with such tenderness. All in all, we have felt very peaceful with everything. Her funeral will be Thursday. I think the most frustrating thing we have dealt with is the difficulty surrounding planning a Catholic funeral around Easter. It is hard to wait so long to lay her to rest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 :grouphug: Prayers for your family as you get through the next few weeks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kareni Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Sending sympathy as you go through this challenging time. I'm glad you were able to say goodbye to your mother. Regards, Kareni Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ethel Mertz Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I am so very glad you had a good nursing home and hospice. Hospice is so very wonderful. My Mom had a good nursing home as well and hospice. Like you, I wasn't there when my Mom died (we had to return home - a 14 hour car trip away), but I had been lucky enough to have been by her side for 2 weeks. She knew she was loved, as did your Mom. It is so very hard when one's parents die. I know it is tender times now for you and your children. Go well and may the peace that passes all understanding be yours. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Guest Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I'm sorry for your loss, Stacey. I hope you and your kids find peace and healing in the coming months. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I am sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I am so sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you and your family at this time. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ashfern Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 :grouphug: So sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 so sorry for your loss. May her memory be eternal! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eliz Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I'm so sorry for your loss. Praying for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Just Kate Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I'm so sorry for your loss. Prayers for you and your family. ((hugs)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 :grouphug: I'm sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I'm so very sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErinE Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 My thoughts and prayers are with you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Joyofsixreboot Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 :grouphug: I am so sorry for your family's loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pawz4me Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Geek Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Stacy, I am so sorry for your loss. I was with both of my grandmothers when they passed and my dad has passed away also. I was in my mid 20's and had to be the one responsible for making life support decisions, my father had already passed, my parents were divorced and my brother was still a minor. My family was there and so were her sisters, but ultimately it fell on my shoulders. It was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. The hurt will subside although will always be there. It has had an influence on who I am and has helped to put a lot of things into perspective as well as giving me the confidence to know that I can handle most things that are thrown my with with God's help. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Tammyla Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 (((Oh Stacey))) I'm so sorry and will be praying for your family. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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melbotoast Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 So sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I'm sorry for your loss and glad she isn't suffering anymore. Even when it is merciful it is still so bittersweet to lose a loved one. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barnwife Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I am so sorry for your loss. Eternal rest grant unto her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I'm sorry for you loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reefgazer Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I'm so sorry for your loss. I know from your posts it's just been a hard road for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alessandra Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I am so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Good Friday morning we lost my mom. Her decline last week was rapid, and the hospice nurse told us Thursday she would be surprised if she made it through the night. She passed Friday morning around 7:25. Everyone got to say their goodbyes and have private time with her on Thursday. She was in that deep, unconscious state, but I know she could hear us and knew we were all there. She knew she was loved dearly, and I'm hoping that is what gave her the strength to let go. I am a little sad that I wasn't actually there when she passed on; two of my sisters stayed and the rest of us left because her vitals had actually improved over about 4 hours, and we were thinking we might need to take shifts. Luckily, I am only about 4 miles from the nursing home, and was able to get back there in less than 10 minutes. Hospice came and stayed with us and we were able to be with her until the funeral home came. My kids all saw her Thursday and all got to be with her alone. I have to say the most heartbreaking thing in the world is seeing your kids in pain. My mom has lived on our place for 17 years and my children saw her EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Every night for at least 10 years, at least one of my children slept over at her house with her. They are hurting, and it breaks my heart. I do have to add how impressed I am with the care my mom had. The nursing home staff was amazing. She had some extremely devoted aides and nurses. All the fears I had about her being in a nursing home were unfounded. We were so pleased with the care she was shown. Hospice is amazing! Those people have a special gift to do what they do, and they walk you through everything with such tenderness. All in all, we have felt very peaceful with everything. Her funeral will be Thursday. I think the most frustrating thing we have dealt with is the difficulty surrounding planning a Catholic funeral around Easter. It is hard to wait so long to lay her to rest. I am so sorry. What a sad time for you all. I agree hospice is amazing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East Coast Sue Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I'm so sorry for your loss. (((Hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 (Hugs) Sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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El... Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I'm sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I am so sorry for your loss. It is not uncommon for loved ones to wait until they are alone to pass. Praying for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Deepest sympathy to you and your family, Stacey. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Honey girl, I am so sorry for your loss. :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eagle Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 :grouphug: I am so very sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom31257 Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I'm so sorry for your loss! :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 :grouphug: And yes, hospice is a gift... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Entropymama Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YaelAldrich Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 May the happy memories of your mother be a balm to your family's souls. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamiof5 Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Prayers, many prayers for you and your family!!! Your post gave me goosebumps in many ways!!! Yes, I bet it is frustrating to have to wait for the funeral arrangements... BUT, your mom went to be with the Lord on Good Friday!!! When we were remembering His death!! Mother Angelica, a very devout Catholic, also passed that day. To go home with the Lord on the day we are commemorating His death just gives me goosebumps. Will pray for all of you, and specially for your children, how hard it must be!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 :grouphug: It sounds like you had a wonderful mom and great times together. I'm sorry for your loss. I expect she's very proud of you and your family. Take care. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crimson Wife Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: and prayers. I know you were really struggling with things a few weeks ago so I'm glad that her passing was peaceful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink and Green Mom Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I am so sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzanne115 Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I'm so very sorry for your loss. Suzanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrairieSong Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 I'm so sorry. May you all find peace and comfort. I know the kind of closeness you mean. My grandma lived with us for many years. Bless you for all the love and care you and your family showed to your mother. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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