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  1. That's funny, I actually edited to add this, we went there not too long ago when we went down to UChicago and did the FLW tour. We were just looking for other things to do down on the south side while we were there and this museum TOTALLY exceeded expectations. Very cool little museum if you are interested in early human history. Perfect field trip for story of the world volume 1!
  2. I used a city pass when I was in Boston for the first time and that is a really nice option and left me with some time to wander and walk too.
  3. I have a college freshman in Chicago this year. SO MUCH TO DO. I love it so much. I think I've visited like 6-7 times in the past 18 months or so. Art museum, field museum, planeterium, aquarium If I were picking one thing to do with a newbie, the boat tour done by Chicago First Lady and the Chicago Architecture Center is amazing. Theater district - check what shows are playing. Comedy Clubs - we have been to Second City a couple times, super fun! You can get discount offers on their mailing list (their stuff is generally rate R FYI) Walk millenium park and up Michigan Avenue. Note that the Bean has been closed, it is supposed to open sometime this spring but was closed last week yet so that might be something to check if you eally want the selfie at the bean. You can see it but can't get close. World's largest starbucks is on Michigan Ave. Frank Lloyd Wright tours - in town there is the Rookery and Robie House on UChicago campus. ETA - there are other museums down by the Robie house and UChicago's campus is nice too. We went to the Inst for Study of Ancient Cultures - WOW, amazing hidden gem if you enjoyed early SOTW 🙂 Off beat museums - Chicago History Museum, Jane Addams Hull House Museum on UIC campus, Driehouse museum, Ice Cream museum, Glessner house, I could go on all day lol. I have tagged so many I have visited or want to visit. Navy Pier Lincoln Park Zoo and conservatory on a nice day. Nice views of the city along the water trail from here. If you want the high view - Willis Tower or 360 Chicago. Definitely get tickets ahead. You can get transit apps on your phone. That is super handy and we use that all the time now. Then you can use google transit with maps and easily navigate the trains and bus. It is $15 for a 3 day pass. In terms of parking, we have stayed at hotels with reasonable parking. And I'm not sure the OP is asking about that or if it just came up. That takes some hunting. Ohio House Motel is our hidden gem hotel that I saw suggested on this board - walkable to lots of stuff and 2 el lines and parking is cheapish compared to the places doing valet. Not fancy at all and the parking lot is very tight. We prefer to NOT have a car in town. My kid's college campus does have some parking we can get a discount on when we need it for the day. You can park out near O'Hare and take the blue line in for something like $12 a day. There are metra lines that might offer similar options. We have used parking apps at times too. I like to have destinations mapped out and especially overnight parking requires planning. But again, we've done transit as late as 11:30 on the weekend after shows when lots of people out, totally fine for us. We've also used uber/lyft/taxi here and there. When we need to take a car in (like when my kid moved or after the holidays when kid had extra stuff to go back), we go in with the mindset we aren't going to use it to get around.
  4. Well I haven't read all responses and my youngest finished dual enrolling last year and graduated. But both my kids generally had high quality classes and excellent teachers at their community colleges. I will say we are urban, those jobs are very competitive, and some teach the same classes adjunct at much fancier 4 year colleges/universities local. Both were able to transfer a lot of their credits to their chosen 4 year universities. My older kid graduated from a top 15 public U and still says some of his best teachers were at the urban CC. My younger kid had a CC teacher that went way above and beyond for her in a number of ways. They took both online and in person classes at times. I do get the feeling this can vary a lot by location and particular community college. I am sorry you are having a bad experience.
  5. If you are leaning toward #3 and are fine with just forgoing these larger events, that is fine. I also think it is fine to continue as is, not including Sam if you enjoy those get togethers.
  6. I think in the case of a friendly group renting a large house for a vacation desired by all, I think per person is perfectly fair with everyone using a common space and everyone having someplace to sleep. If some singles were having to double up, or someone was on a couch, etc maybe that would change the dynamic. Maybe give couples larger bedrooms/beds. In the case of hotels, if you want your own hotel room, you pay for that room. That also makes sense. Maybe the family matriarch or patriarch quietly covers a young adult or something like that. I could see that happening in our family. My oldest kid lived on a campus that had a lot of private housing options. And there were lots of crazy arrangemetns. An example is where there would be like a 2 bedroom with 2 students in one room and one in the other. How I saw a lot of families handle it was something like $1000 rent a month - 3 students in a 2 bed/1 bath $500 toward common space = $500/3 = $167 per student $500 for bedrooms. 2 bedrooms = $250 per bedroom So lone student with private bedroom would pay $250 + $167 = $417 Each student in the shared bedroom will pay $250/2 + $167 = $292 For a long term arrangement, this seemed pretty fair to me. My college age daughter was looking at a weird arrangement for this next year and if she would have been sharing a room,I would have pushed for an arrangement like this. Mercifully, this weird set up she was looking at fell apart lol. (and to be clear, I wish it were really $1000 for a 2 bed, that is just an example of the breakdown). I could see the breakdown using something like this if budgets were tighter.
  7. A lot of grocery stores will do nice trays and sandwiches and salads for a party of 30. The food truck idea is great if you can get one. It may be easier on a Monday! Your ring security is TOO CUTE! 😍
  8. As someone who has worked with tweens/teens/young adults including neurodiverse ones and as someone who has launched kids to college in recent history, I would just say maturity doesn't happen for a NT kid or close to NT leaning kid one day at 18. Young adults are away from their support systems for the first time, learning to navigate adult relationships, trying to build new friendships, have healthy boundaries. They may have emotional childhood baggage of their own, They may not understand the ins and outs of neurodiversity. In some of these situations, I think the expectations on neurotypical kids/young adults to be perfect with empathy and communications may be too much to expect. Being in the middle of some of these situations, I've found very different stories on each side.
  9. What a sweet baby! Congratulations to all for the new bebe! 😍 We have an 8-9 month old kitten now I found last August. It felt karmic, it was just weeks before my youngest left for college. She is BONKERS! Always finding trouble. Buckle up! 🤣
  10. I think introversion isn't a yes or no. It's a scale. So I happen to fall very close to the middle. When I've done Myer-Briggs, I have popped up both introverted or extrovert, but very close to the middle of the scale. So sure, you can tend extroverted, but be ready to have a break. For me, I know different settings can hit differently. Like I love small groups with good back and forth conversations, but don't love all larger events. Entertaining in your own space is a special kind of tired. I also think, covid kind of shifted me a bit though I really would love more in person interactions than I am getting.
  11. My kid is starting quarter #3 today too. Weirdly, I am driving the 6 hours out to her next weekend alone for an off campus performance thing she wanted helped navigating. I think she would be fine if this happened again, but I am excited to have the excuse to go! She is coming home for summer and should be great! We had a really nice spring break, she enjoyed a lot of personal space and sleeping in like crazy and we did a few fun things. This week she starts the process of picking on campus housing for next year (which was up in the air for her for a bit) so I am crossing all digits that goes smoothly. She is trying to get into a campus apartment.
  12. Can you approach SIL? "Hey Auntie B - would you mind not texting job stuff to X. He's at the age where ..." list minor consequence in the home due to interference. "You know how tweens are! Thanks so much! The bean dip is delicious today, extra bean?" Sending a PARTICULAR job ad to a 12 year old is bonkers to me. This is still the age where kids might be I want to be a fireman, astronaut, doctor, truck driver, etc without ANY realities about what that takes or look like or what your life style looks like. And a single decently paid role, doesn't mean it will exist ready and available in 10 years. And it seems especially odd during a season while they are looking at colleges unless this is her spouse's job or something. This is the age where you educate kids to the best of ability, keep all doors open, don't get too attached to any one version of a kid and let them reinvent themselves over and over and over while presenting a wide variety of opportunities. I have a recent college grad and a college freshman. I'll just say their current paths are drastically different than any perceived middle school path they imagined for themselves. And they may continue to evolve and change. I'll not drone on with my particular story, but in my family I saw some real long term consequences from overinvesting energy in locking in a kid's path FAR too early. Never be more invested than the kid. My larger concern in reading this is your spouse's attitude. I could ignore the above if my kid met a text from an aunt with an eyeroll and my spouse and I were on the same page. Are you saving for college? Sending kids to college these days takes planning and parental support on multiple levels. Middle school was the age where we really started to get a grip on what we could afford and planning accordingly. That doesn't mean a kid might change path or is locked into anything. It just means you are preparing for that next step of higher ed. If that isn't happening, options may be limited when you get there. Maybe there is some tension because you percieve visiting colleges as "fancy". Visiting colleges is a perfectly normal thing to do and doesn't mean you are spending a zillion dollars. Is this niece a junior or senior? We regularly visited colleges when on family road trips during the high school years. We visited everything from community colleges on up. But I think it is weird THIS isn't what she is chatting about with the younger cousins right now unless she has some particular tie to this "job" stuff she is sharing.
  13. Colby has always made me nervous because they are one school that doesn't publish an up to date common data set annually and they look pretty bad in the NYT economic diversity profiles (that is older data, but the fact that they aren't publishing newer data ...) My kid was admitted to Oberlin a few years and we got really mixed reviews on being a music inteested student not in the con. We even got mixed messaging on double degree. Not every faculty member was excited about those students in their studio. No guarenteed studio spot was a deal breaker for us,, especially since that was more expensive for us. We were always lucky enough to have music teachers in our metro that were well qualified to work in a college setting so stepping back from that would have been tough. The musical studies option popped up soon after that, so hopefully maybe there are better options/contingencies for more dedicated music students not doing a full on BM program. Crossing fingers! I really think these music schools would do well to update their models and curriculum to more how modern musicians are working in the world. You have a great set of options, good luck with final visits! Teacher/faculty made a big difference here so hopefully you can connect with teachers everywhere you'd like. And maybe if you don't that can inform as well, it definitely ended up being a turn off on a few schools for us.
  14. Awful and it flashes me back to the major bridge collapse in Minneapolis a number of years ago now that was within a couple miles of us. Hoping the timing keeps the tragedy numbers very tiny. Sending hugs to our Baltimore boardies.
  15. I think it is fine if you can get it done with minimal or no debt. We have worked in STEM with engineer types and have worked with people who retrained and got out of vet work to pay off loans. We live near a well regarded vet school. Many years ago I had a small but well maintained, comfortable home for sale in a nice neighborhood (3 bed/2 bath 1930's vintage) in close range. Someone from the east coast bought it in cash sight unseen for their new vet school young adult student and his girlfriend to live in. I suspect a lot of people chosing vet school have that kind of financial backing and ease. Or live very stressful lives trying to catch up with debt. This is an old article but is specifically about debt wrt going to vet school. The student featured here seems extra bonkers but even with half that debt, yikes. I have young adults so I get you can counsel but they're going to do what they're going to do. I certainly wouldn't be putting my own finances on the line for a high level of debt. But at a minimum I'd want a kid to be going in eyes wide open. https://www.startribune.com/debt-swallows-up-students-at-vet-grad-professional-schools/275017651/
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