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  1. Sorry, hard to keep up! Still may not be baptized though, you never know.
  2. Members are only disfellowshipped if they are baptized. Her stepson didn't live with her for a long time, I'm guessing it's likely he never got baptized. Typically JW do not get baptized as children, although there are a always few cases of 9-10 yo's. The norm is usually teenagers. Correction, not stepson.
  3. It's possible it was the girl who made the choice of location, and possibly that he thought since it wasn't a hard and fast rule that she could see a way to make it work. Here's an example: JW's prohibit blood transfusions but not organ transplants. I knew a JW man whose personal conscience on the matter led him to refuse an organ transplant and subsequently led to his death. His daughter, who was not a JW, was angry angry. She was angry that he "could" have found a way but didn't. Years later, she realized that for him, there wasn't a way. His conscience was dictating, not church rules. She still didn't agree with it, but eventually was less angry. (Years later, however!) But so yes, in the moment, it could seem hard to process.
  4. He wanted you to (insert thing) and you wouldn't. He loves you and he was hurt and he was angry. He obviously does not fully agree with your reasoning for not doing (insert thing). He is lashing out in his hurt and anger. Is the morally high-ground thing to do to respect your decision graciously because you are only honoring your conscience? Sure. But is it surprising that because of his emotions he is not seeing it that way? No, not really surprising at all, considering his age as well as the intensity of emotion this would evoke. He is taking it personally to him rather than the abstract of "a person respecting their conscience". This is DEEPLY personal to him and he likely feels deeply hurt by it. I'm not saying you owe him an apology or are in the wrong. But to view his anger as an attack on you personally...seems to me the same as him viewing YOUR choice as an attack on him personally. Both are being clouded by the emotion of the moment. Let it sit. Keep being as much of a loving mom as you can, let him know however you can that you want a relationship with him. Try VERY hard not to take it personally. Yes, it's hard and it sucks, but it's the best way to move forward.
  5. That may be true, we're just going on the information you are giving us. Disagreeing with the choice you made, being hurt by it or angry about it, is not in itself turning on you. Yelling, cursing, namecalling which you've described is bad behavior and may be accounted to his youth and his high emotions. I am glad you are willing to be understanding of that. An adult child deciding to take a radically different path from their parents is not turning on them. A majority of the time, it is not about the parents at all, and totally about them finding their own way and making their own choices. They don't usually do it to "spite" their parents or to "turn on them". That's the only point I was making. An adult child turning on you would involve more than the information you are giving us in my opinion. But sure, it may be true.
  6. Most JW's will not attend a wedding if it is at another religious institution. However, it is not a "rule" specifically, but left up to a person's conscience. I would understand why the son might be angry if that was the case. However, it's better he understand now that things work like that, people can make choices and you can be angry at them. You both have that right. It's life. I disagree with the name-calling on anyone's part, but I don't think him being angry with Scarlett on its own (without accompanying poor behavior) equals "turning on her". He can disagree with her choice and decide he doesn't like it, the same as she can make the choice in the first place. I would say his immaturity is playing a role in how he is choosing to express himself.
  7. Fortunately I don't think they are that sensitive, I have been told it's okay as long as everything has been washed.
  8. Confession: I'm 52 years old and have never made a roast. 😳 We're not big red meat eaters and the idea of a roast, although I think I might enjoy it, has always intimidated me. I like casseroles and casserole type dishes. Does shredded cheese have gluten? We have a really good zucchini enchilada dish although we would have to double. Check these ingredients: cooking spray 1 tsp olive oil 2 tsp minced garlic 2 medium green onions, chopped 1/4 cup cilantro, chopped 2 medium zucchinis, grated Salt and pepper 1 1/2 cups grated reduced fat mexican blend cheese Corn tortillas chopped scallions (optional) chopped cilantro (optional) Enchilada sauce: 1 tsp minced garlic 1 tbsp chipotle chilis in adobo sauce (optional for more heat) 1 cups tomato sauce 1/4 tsp chipotle chili powder (to taste) 1/4 tsp ground cumin 1/2 cup fat free vegetable broth Salt and pepper
  9. I thought you had to have a smart TV for any of those to work? We have YouTubeTV and a Roku. DH wanted sports, and that was better for sports. But I love all the channels, there are quite a bit. Locals, plus BBC, TNT, FX, NatGEO... etc. We love it.
  10. I need something pretty easy to make for a family who lost a loved one recently. All my recipes are heavily glutenated! 🙂 Please help! And a side if you can think of one to go with the entree?
  11. The difference is that most people don't view that as a problem for society to fix, or that society owes them a fix somehow. And then get crazily angry that the fix has not been delivered.
  12. I am totally lost here. How does that argument compare to the incel argument? Forced celibacy because of an unrelated party's religious beliefs is not the same as forced celibacy because you can't keep from hurting another human being or violating them without consent. Hurting another human or ignoring consent is prohibited by the Constitution. Life, liberty, etc. These arguments don't seem comparable to me, or even based on the same principles.
  13. One of the comments I read was roughly "Society tells you that if you don't have a sexual partner it's because of you, that you are the problem. But I'm here to tell you that you are not the problem." The point seems to be "I shouldn't have to do anything x, y, or z to make myself more appealing if I want to have a partner. It's society's fault (or women's fault) that I don't." Part of the attitude is that women are so demanding or entitled themselves now that they refuse doing their job, which is apparently to "service" any man that wants it. So it's involuntary in the sense they don't think *they* should have to do anything to get or deserve a partner.
  14. I'm aware of that. It does not have that application now, as others have noted. Janeway was saying the author meant for us to think it was only men but that wasn't true. In the current sense of the word, and in relation to the discussion about the dangers of that thinking, the author was not misleading anyone.
  15. That part (others getting feelings hurt) is not something you can control. At that point, you are detaching for your own personal health and well-being. And as others have said, that is totally separate from forgiving (or letting go) of the anger against that person.
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