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  1. Praying for her and for all HCW dealing with this.
  2. I've been eyeing the Baby Yoda Lego set. My youngest is 21! I think I want it for me. 😁
  3. I've always wondered how well these work. My brother had something like this years ago, in his small So Cal yard, but he wasn't a big fan and his wife (who wasn't a dog fan) hated it. When we got Bear, I thought about this because it seemed like a much more environmentally friendly way to dispose of poop. Bear (65 lbs) prefers to poop on walks so we pick it up and either toss it in a public bin at the park on our usual route or bring it home to put in his small poop garbage can outside. If we don't have time for a walk right away in the morning, he does poop in our yard (usually close to the perimeter somewhere) . That gets picked up right away and tossed in that garbage can which goes out in the trash each week. I just can't stomach the idea of leaving poop in the yard. I really don't want to step in it accidentally nor do I want to smell it. Plus he loves to play fetch in the yard and I'd be really grossed out if the ball landed in his poop.
  4. They may do that in their personal life, but they keep voting for politicians who enact policies that are pro-fetus but definitely not pro-life. They vote against policies that would actually have a meaningful effect on demand for abortion.
  5. Same here. It wasn't for hours or anything like that. But, due to my pelvic floor problems from a childbirth injury and subsequent surgery gone wrong, it was just easier to camp out there for a while when I felt I needed to. I had IV sedation right before the procedure. While the prep wasn't fun, it wasn't nearly as bad as I thought it was going to be. I'm not afraid to get my next one (I'm on the 5 year plan due to family history.)
  6. Yep. It was getting popular in dance clubs around the late 80s.
  7. I'll chime in here and another voice to urge people to get their colonoscopy. My dad had colon cancer. Due to some complication with the surgery, he suffered with gangrene at the reattachment site and then ended up with the colostomy they were trying to avoid. My husband has had 2 colonoscopies and they removed precancerous polyps both times. I knew I needed to get it done but was scared of the prep. While I wasn't looking forward to the massive amounts of liquid I would need to drink, I was more worried about getting hypoglycemia from fasting and not being able to have the procedure. The liquid wasn't bad other than the amount. They had me use Crystal Light (lemon) for flavor. So, I used a straw for drinking which seemed to help and I set timers to help me get down what I needed to. I also used diaper cream to prevent discomfort. When things got moving, I brought a table into the bathroom and streamed some shows to keep my mind off of things. The next morning, I wasn't shaky from low blood sugar and the procedure went well. I have to say when I came out of anesthesia, that was the best sleep I ever had. Fortunately, everything was clear so I don't have to go back for 5 years.
  8. Ds27: I have no idea if he wants children. He's a PhD student, isn't dating anyone, and will likely have to do a few post-docs before he settles anywhere. Not likely in his near future. I think he'd be a great dad ... a bit nerdy and quirky, but he is great around kids in his own quiet way. When he subbed for his sister in her babysitting gig, the kids loved him. 7 years later, they still talk about him. K (25): Probably not. Doesn't really enjoy kids. And probably shouldn't. Mental illness is a bugger! Dd21: She has vacillated between wanting lots of kids, to seeing herself as never being mature enough to have kids (which takes a certain maturity to recognize), to not wanting to ruin her life like I did 😁 (she did take that back, apologizing for devaluing my contributions as a mom), to not wanting to bring kids into the ecological disaster we are headed toward, to maybe wanting kids sometime in the future. She will, however, have dogs ... big dogs ... like Newfies or something like that. I've resigned myself to the strong likelihood that I won't be a grandma. It makes me sad, but that's my problem, not theirs. I want them to live happy, fulfilled lives in whatever way that turns out to be. I share dd's concerns about the future of our planet
  9. I finished classes at the end of May, passed my first specialty board exam in June, passed my second board exam in late July and finished clinicals at the end of July. My clinical site hired me for a registry position and I just finished my first week! I am so relieved to be done with school and to be working. Since this is a registry position, not full-time, I will start looking for a 2nd job fairly soon. I'm working as a sonographer for a vascular surgery group. Since it is clinic and not hospital, the pay isn't that great, but the hours are great. No evenings, no weekends, and no call! I'm hoping to get a general ultrasound job at a hospital to round out the hours and to get more experience, but I'm not looking forward to working evenings/weekends. How is everyone doing?
  10. Some Catholics have taken church teachings beyond their original intent. It is my understanding that, when talking about end of life care, the Catholic Church does not glorify suffering as good as a reason to withhold care that can alleviate it. But it is more of an acknowledgement that not all suffering can be relieved. Suffering does not necessarily equal pain. Part of the pastoral care of the dying is to help the patient take what suffering that can't be alleviated and enter into Christ's suffering. (I'm sure I'm not wording this well. There are people who can phrase this better than me.) The Church is opposed to euthanasia and assisted suicide. But it is not opposed to medication/treatment or withholding treatment to address pain that may hasten death if the INTENT is to alleviate pain. Melissa, I am so sorry for your loss and for your experience. Thank you for sharing that. It has made me aware of things that I need to discuss with dh about our hypothetical end-of-life care, since he is not the type to ask questions or be an advocate.
  11. I don't have anything to add to the excellent advice you've already received. But, I just wanted to jump in here and offer my congratulations on jumping back in the classroom.
  12. I agree about NBC's coverage. Way too much jingoism and trying to manufacture drama. I want to see the athletes doing athletic things, not see a bunch of talking heads who look like they haven't done a sport in a very long time! 😁 We have been watching sport climbing (my daughter competed against one of the Olympians), but I haven't been able to get up at 3 am to watch the live stream. I tried watching the re-broadcast on USA but it was so edited that it seemed like a highlight reel rather than a competition. But, I've also been sorely disappointed in the live stream (replay). The camera work left much to be desired. They often showed an athlete standing around contemplating her next attempt while ignoring a top athlete who solved a boulder problem that no one else in the field had solved. The also had to show their fancy graphics in the middle of the attempt rather than during the changeover of athletes. And the commentating !! Arrgh. They picked 2 people for their ability to spew lots of words every minute. Unfortunately, not many of those words were useful as it appears that they learned about climbing last week. I heard that one is a commentator for rugby (which doesn't surprise me..) They couldn't be bothered to learn the proper pronunciation of the climbers' names, especially those from non-English speaking countries. There are only 40. They didn't know basic lingo. They explained the scoring system wrong. They could have watched about 6 hours of world cup climbing competitions for a minimum of research. Heck, I could have done a better job.
  13. I'll preach with you. I had 2 basal cell lesions removed from my upper lip/lip edge 2 years ago. Now I have an ugly scar (despite the best efforts of a good plastic surgeon who tried to hide it in the smile lines as much as possible.) I have to draw on part of my lip so my smile doesn't look too lopsided. And, I had a dysplastic nevi (pre-melanoma) removed from my leg, which entered me into the "skin checks every 6 months" club. . I do avoid the sun as much as possible as I just can't handle the heat. But I lived outside as a kid (from the "come home when the street lights come on" generation.) I miss beach vacations and relaxing by the pool. My skin care routine is pretty much all Paula's Choice: Morning: Wash with Resist cleanser. Eye Gel with hyaluronic acid. Hyaluronic acid boost. Moisturizer with sunscreen. Bedtime: Wash with Resist cleanser. Anti-Aging Eye cream with shea butter and peptides. Alternate between Wrinkle Repair retinol serum and skin smoothing exfoliant. And a moisturizer.
  14. This post resonated with me. I had these grand ideas of transitioning to this post-kids life gracefully with my wonderful friends and carve out some sort of consulting career. Well, K got sick and my youngest went to high school part-time and moved away from the homeschooling lifestyle and I found that my community disappeared (homeschooling acquaintances, friends, family, church, etc.) So much of my energy was spent on keeping K alive and shielding my youngest from that that I didn't have time to work on me and my future plans. Dh is a wonderful man, but he is an engineer who gets most of his socialization at work. Plus, we aren't interested in the same things. We have to work to find things to do together because we naturally gravitate to different things. (And I've sat through way too many movies that I couldn't stand, just to be with him, but I no longer desire to do that.) During youngest dd's junior year, all I saw was an empty chasm in front of me. I tried to cultivate new friendships, but no one was interested in anything more than "once a month lunch" which would mean once a year in reality. I tried volunteering, but I was so emotionally spent from dealing with K's issues and anticipatory grief, that I just couldn't make myself commit. I needed a stronger motivation to get out of the house and do something other than take dd to her activities. When we were looking at colleges and I made too many jokes about how much nicer these dorms were and how I would move to college with her, dd told me, in no uncertain terms, that the joke was getting old (a little too close to the truth), that I was not moving to college with her and that I needed to get my own life. She really got to the core of things. I didn't have my own life. I had to let her go and figure out my next phase. Like Regentrude said, there was much grieving involved. I was at a graduation party of a fellow homeschooler's son and I became overwhelmed with the enormity of my losses and the emptiness of the future and started crying. Another mom there was a counselor at our local community college and she invited me to see her to look at options. That was 4 years ago. I began taking classes to apply to the Diagnostic Medical Sonography program. I wanted something that made me think, and that had a good return on investment in terms of time and money since I was already on the back side of my 50s. After much sweat and tears, I graduated with an associates degree and finished my clinicals last Thursday. I start a new job in 10 days. I think this process saved my life. It gave me a renewed sense of purpose. In addition, the process was so arduous and all-encompassing, that it was a good distraction from the grief. As far as grandchildren go ... K may never be self-supporting due to mental illness. And she has no interest in a family life or kids. My oldest doesn't appear to be moving toward marriage and family any time soon. He had his heart broken his senior year of college by his only girlfriend and I haven't heard him mention anyone since. DD is still young, but has stated she really doesn't want to get married and doesn't want to bring children into this "messed up world." So, I can't count on grandchildren. But that grieving will have to wait. Dh and I are working on reconnecting, especially since I am done with school and only have one more board exam to take. He has been incredibly patient during this whole journey.
  15. Any bug lovers in your house? Want to do some real science and contribute to the Cicada Mapping project? Live in an area where Brood X is expected to emerge? Then download the Cicada Safari app and go looking! My son is a PhD student at University of Connecticut doing research on periodical cicadas and he told me about this mapping project that his department participates in. For more information on the Cicada Mapping Project (and background info on the Brood X emergence), go to the UConn website. https://cicadas.uconn.edu/2021_brood_x/ My son has loved all kinds of animals since he was a little kid. He told me that he wished this project had been around when he was a kid. Now he gets to study cicadas for real. He was awarded a Fulbright scholarship to study the periodical cicadas of New Zealand. Unfortunately, his trip was postponed due to Covid. If al goes well, he should be able to go next January.
  16. Any bug lovers in your house? Want to do some real science and contribute to the Cicada Mapping project? Live in an area where Brood X is expected to emerge? Then download the Cicada Safari app and go looking! My son is a PhD student at University of Connecticut doing research on periodical cicadas and he told me about this mapping project that his department participates in. For more information on the Cicada Mapping Project (and background info on the Brood X emergence), go to the UConn website. https://cicadas.uconn.edu/2021_brood_x/ My son has loved all kinds of animals since he was a little kid. He told me that he wished this project had been around when he was a kid. Now he gets to study cicadas for real. He was awarded a Fullbright scholarship to study the periodical cicadas of New Zealand. Unfortunately, his trip was postponed due to Covid. If al goes well, he should be able to go next January.
  17. We've experienced this so often in our family. And it's not just weddings, but that is only the latest issue. When my older siblings were having kids, we all went to their kids' baptisms, birthday parties, recitals, big events, etc. Even as a poor college student, I sent cool gifts to their newborns. When my kids were born, they were all over this whole young kids thing and couldn't be bothered. My oldest is 2 years younger than the next oldest. My kids missed out on a lot of family bonding events because my siblings were "past that." It has come back to rear its ugly head with weddings. My siblings' children have been invited to each other's weddings. But my kids have not been included. Yes, they are younger, but lots of other young children were invited but my then jr. high/ high school age children were not. For some of these, it was not likely that we could take them due to distance, but it still kind of stung that they are not considered "family enough." A year ago, my niece got married. All of my nieces and nephews and their plus ones were invited. They included my youngest daughter, who was a college sophomore at the time (her name was specifically listed on our invitation.) But not my older kids. I can understand the trepidation of inviting K due to her issues (and she would not have gone.) But not inviting my oldest, who is only 2 years younger than the bride really stung. I think they included my youngest daughter because she is the "fun one" of our kids. We went to EVERYTHING of hers ... dance recitals, ball games, graduation parties (even from grade school), etc. Nobody even bothered to get his address to send him an invitation. It is unlikely that he could have attended due to being in grad school over 1000 miles away, but they could have at least asked. My kids have missed out on relationships with their cousins, aunts and uncles, etc. I hate this as well. It is the uniting of two into one. In my experience, anyone who declares it to be "the brides special day" is one who doesn't give a flip about the other people in her life. It is like an instagram moment, not a real thing happening.
  18. I got my first dose on Tuesday. It was the Pfizer vaccine. I felt fine the first day, just a little bit of arm soreness. I went to clinicals the next day and was really tired. I was also really irritable and had to work hard not to let it show to anyone. I ended up leaving halfway into my shift. I was dead on my feet and was afraid that I would not be able to filter my reactions ... either getting snippy or crying (2 things that you can't do at clinicals, which are basically a long job interview.) I went home and slept for nearly 3 hours and I rarely nap during the day. I'm feeling better today, but a little more tired than usual. I think I'll plan my next dose for when I don't have to go anywhere.
  19. I loved these books as a child and credit them for making me a reader as well. We didn't have lots of books in our house, but my best friend had this series and they lent the books to me. I devoured them. I do remember being bothered by the parenting, but it really wasn't that far from my own parents' attitudes ( or at least, I internalized them that way.) I always saw Pa as the fun parent and Ma as the law. I know that wasn't accurate, but I felt Ma's constant disapproval through the pages of the book. I remember being horrified by the attitudes toward the Native Americans, but I did get the sense that Laura felt differently about them than her parents. I also remember having the sense that Pa had some respect for them, but was clueless about how his actions affected them. In the Long Winter, he was the only one who was willing to listen to the warnings from the Native Americans who tried to warn them about the upcoming winter. I also got the impression from that book that community caring for each other was essential for survival. So, if their goal was to promote individualism, it had the opposite effect on me. I think I may have verbalized some of these "puzzling things" to my best friend's mom and I think she may have offered some criticism to the ideas presented. She was way more progressive than my parents. When reading aloud to my kids, I started with Farmer Boy, since my oldest was a boy. My oldest was like me in seeing them as a product of their time, not internalizing their attitudes. I did some editorializing when I encountered problematic areas. My middle child would often express his feelings about some of these issues and that often led to some interesting discussions. My youngest daughter was way more bothered by these themes and challenged me having this as part of our homeschool plan. I have to acknowledge the conflict between my childhood memories of falling in love with these books and seeing them through modern eyes.
  20. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart aches for you. I'll add to the voices telling you that it was not treats you gave him. You didn't give him Covid. You showed him love and care.
  21. Quoting myself here ... I have an appointment next Tuesday. I finally got an email from the county to make an appointment. I don't know which version of the vaccine that I am getting. I guess I'll find out when I get there. Now to decide which arm should take the shot. Everyone I've talked to says that this vaccine made their arm more sore than any other vaccine. Do I have lots of pain at work (right arm) or do I give up a night's sleep (left arm - I'm a side sleeper)?
  22. I'm doing my clinical rotation in a hospital that serves communities very different than my white middle class suburban upbringing. Every day, I am encountering names that I have never seen before or only know one pronunciation. I try to be respectful if I have to ask how to pronounce it. If the patient corrects me, I thank them. Some seem annoyed at first, but I make an effort to use their name with their correct pronunciation during the course the exam. All of my kids did this. My oldest was an early, voracious reader who still has a couple of mispronounced words. My youngest still cannot remember if "pint" is pronounced like hint or with a long i. If often comes up when we are baking and she messes it up every time. 😅 Oh, and I did it, too. Yosemite Sam is still yose-might Sam in my head.
  23. I was at clinicals yesterday so I didn't get a chance to watch it live. I did watch the replay later in the evening and was so moved, with a sense of relief and hope. Unfortunately, I fell asleep before I could watch the parade. Will do so later today. It was so stereotypical Bernie! I'm dying at the bolded. (I miss out on so much not being on Twitter and rely on you all and my kids to let me know whats up.) Being a Midwesterner, 39 degrees isn't all that cold if you are moving around, but if you are sitting in the shade, yeah, I'd want to be dressed like Bernie. I froze at way too many of my kids' soccer games, but was content to walk in sub-freezing temps with my dog. 🤣🤣 I'm dying!
  24. I thought etiquette deems the MOB gets dibs on color and then the MOG chooses accordingly. I think you would look lovely in any of the jewel tones - navy, a darker orchid, grape would all look lovely on you. They would compliment your hair and coloring nicely. Of the selections you linked, I like 3 and 4 the best. But, you never really know until you try it on. I needed a fancy dress for a black tie wedding and ordered several dresses, thinking I would love them based upon how they looked on the model. When I tried them on, they just weren't flattering. One waist hit in just the wrong spot on my. Another made my arms look chubbier and less toned than they really were. I happened to be in the store returning the dresses and a clerk insisted I try on a dress that I thought looked silly on the hanger (it had all these tiers that were so in.) I tried it on and loved it!
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