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  1. Well, missing Mass is a mortal sin if done willy-nilly. It doesn't seem like that would be the case here. Obviously, I don't know what other difficult choice you would have to make. But I would end up needing to make that choice if your child will be needing to stay home often during cold and flu season. I'd be looking at other options (Sunday Masses at other parishes, Sat. evening Masses, even Sunday evening Masses if you are lucky enough to have one, talking to my priest to see what he says). I'd even look into hiring a sitter for the child, which is probably easier said than done. That's a long way of saying, I'd probably arrange to switch off for Mass, even if it meant another difficult choice.
  2. I don't know that I've ever thought about rigor with regard to HS our children (oldest is currently 9). It seems to me that a rigorous education for one child would be way to easy/light for another or way too hard for another random child. Rather, I think in terms of constantly stretching skills in various areas. FWIW, we are (so far, anyway) a family that focuses on reading, math, and writing. I consider everything else gravy at this point. That doesn't mean I don't have things I want to expose them to in science or history or whatever. We absolutely read and experience science, history, art, etc...I just don't concern myself about doing it at a certain pace or in a certain order. My goal is to consistently and regularly expose them to science, history, art, music, etc...I know some things stick, because they will ask questions or talk about them. I am constantly amazed by the places our just turned 6 yo can identify on a globe. I've never done formal geography. I just pull out a globe and point out places we are reading about. As for whether your poetry experience was educational, I hereby declare the answer is yes.
  3. The sellers were willing to pay above market because that's what they offered, now FHA isn't willing to loan them the amount they offered, that's their problem not yours. You're not talking about holding to your price, you're giving them something with your counter, that's fine if you feel like it. But don't think it's a sure thing even if you drop to the appraisal and still pay closing costs. Has the inspection been done already? They think they can get into a house with FHA qualifications (0-10% down?) in a buyers market? that's a pretty ambitious of them, but it's not your problem if they aren't qualified to buy your house.
  4. "be generous with your bacon!" " a mixture of lard and butter is good" and rabbits are almost edible also. I wish I knew what do about rabbits. You can try to fence the things you don't want destroyed, but then you get a snow drift in March and they'll eat it above the fence.
  5. This happened to me when our second kid was less than 2 months old (so way younger than you!). I bent down to pick up a towel I had dropped and I was instantly in excruciating pain. If my parents hadn't been here, I have no clue what I would have done at that moment. (DH was home but outside). As you said, it was rolling over and going from standing to sitting or vice versa that were awful. So what helped? Doing absolutely nothing. I stayed in bed on or the couch as much as possible. (Tricky with an 18 month old and NB, but I did my best.) If I had to move, if DH was around he basically moved me. I also invested in a very nice back brace. I can't actually remember how long recovery took. Well, months later I was still dealing with manageable, but lingering pain. I finally decided to see a chiropractor. I'd never been to one before. But there was immense immediate improvement. I am sorry this happened to you. I hope you improve quickly!
  6. We need a new fake tree. We've needed it for...a while now. I never can seem to bite the bullet, because I can't find one that I really love and is unlit. I absolutely do not want prelit. This one might make my list of possibilities. If anyone else has a favorite, please post a link!
  7. Is that $7.20 NZ dollar or American? Even if it's $4.50 American, that's high considering NZ's dairy industry. Anything under $2 in the US is extremely competitively priced, but profitable for large scale sellers. Most of the prices that are lower are loss leaders in my opinion. The hundredweight price has been roughly $16 this year, $12/hundredweight is roughly $1 gallon, and farmers get some bonuses on top of that price, add trucking, pasteurization, bottling, trucking and more trucking, $2 seems cheap. I'm thinking whole or 2%. 1% or skim, the price could be a bit lower because the cream is worth more than the milk, and has been skimmed off. Interesting article from Cato, about what you'd expect. The milk policy is in line with other food security policy. Do they realize that wool is subsidized for national security reasons? Would they prefer milk fluctuate between $1-$10? That would be the price I'd expect with a free market policy.
  8. I voted maybe, solely because my oldest is only 9, so I have no idea what I'd actually do. I mean, DS isn't ready to stay home alone yet. But I wanted to say that were I your sister or SIL, I'd want you to ask if he could stay. So while asking feels huge to you, perhaps it wouldn't also feel that way to them. Also, congrats on the anniversary! A foliage trip sounds like a lovely way to celebrate.
  9. When the child recognizes the letter sounds, I move on to oral blending. We play a lot of "say it fast" and "say it slow." I ask things like "if the first sound in top changes to the sound of h, what would it be?" When a child can do that easily, I start having him or her read a few CVC words written in all capitals on our white boards (or off a computer screen) each day. Soon we move on to Progressive Phonics and OPGTR. As for what age each of those steps happens? That's too child-specific to say. So I'll say that learning letter sounds would hopefully begin as a toddler/preschool kid in a fun/game/active way.
  10. I agree with pp. Asking for a 7 yo to work independently is...a lot. FWIW, my just turned 9 yo still does 99% of his work with my at elbow. Some things (cursive and copywork) I can get him started and putter around the kitchen (we do written subjects at our kitchen table). But if I give him a math problem, I need to be right there. Also, all of mine do better when they are the only kid in the room. If they aren't the kid I am working with, they go play. My only suggestion is that all of my HS kids do better working with our visual timer. They know that when it goes off, they get a break even if they are in the middle of a lesson. And if they wrap up a lesson with only a couple minutes to spare, I let them break early and make the timer ring themselves. (Who'd have thought that'd be an incentive to get work done?) As pp have said, I'd work on decluttering and making sure you have a rhythm to your days for your older kids. That's what's been helpful each time we've added a kid (we have 4). They like knowing what's coming next, even if I did/do have to pause the rhythm for taking care of baby/toddler. Most helpful though has been giving myself/us grace and remembering that this is a season of life that will soon pass. GL finding what works for you and yours and congrats on the soon-to-be addition to the family!
  11. Well, I haven't bought it yet, but this book get great reviews. (Yes, it's Catholic.) Holy Heroes also has some stuff on the Works of Mercy, which you mentioned. Or read Tell Me the Story of Jesus (this one isn't specifically Catholic). This one has nice illustrations.
  12. Well, a family we are very close to is expecting #9 later this year. And we are fairly close to a couple families from our church with 8. (Is there where I mention all of these families are Catholic?) Oh wait, a high school babysitter we use is from a family of 9 or 10 I believe and they aren't Catholic.
  13. I recently sent our 2.5 yo out of town with DH for a few days because I just couldn't nurse any more. He still wanted to nurse constantly and I just couldn't take it. And I wasn't having any success in getting him to not nurse often/stop asking. So I forced it by sending him OOT. He's been back almost a week, and he still asks multiple times a day. But before he went, my putting him off/refusing would result in a massive meltdown from him. Now he's totally cool with it. And yet, I am still sad. So...hugs. Also, he's sort of potty-trained at home. He doesn't wear diaper and makes it to the toilet the vast majority of the time. But out and about is another story. I have to really pay attention to making sure he goes to avoid accidents. DH was astounded by this on his trip. "It's like he can't remember using the toilet when not at home. He had accidents all.the.time!" My response was something along the lines of, "Oops. Did I forget to warn you about that?" I hear you on sleeping through the night though. Actually, I'd settle for giving up his night-owl ways (I am so not a night-owl).
  14. Well, my just turned 9 yo has never completed a 4 year cycle. If I'm being completely honest, he's only completed a year of ancients and of US history. But he's had a lot of random other history covered. To the point that other people have commented on it when he sees/hears something and mentions something related. So while his study of history has at this point been disjointed, we are meeting my goal of getting him to enjoy history. I hereby give you permission to just study whatever you want for history for the next year. Whether that means studying the history of boats for a month and then changing to the Aztecs or the Oregon Trail or whatever. Take the time to do a year of history that you/your child truly enjoys.
  15. Well, given that my oldest is only 9, I'd certainly change something. Whether that means we would take an unexpected trip (educational or not), an unexpected break, change some resources, or tweak our rhythm would depend. While I'd wouldn't toss anything right away, I'd certainly put things in storage. FWIW, I switch things out of our morning time box...a lot. I'd absolutely skip to a history period you think will be more enjoyable. Not knowing more details of your situation, I'd probably start with a short break from school and taking a trip (even an unexpected visit to a local museum good work). Heck, even just spending a long time in the library choosing a ton of books could work. (Bring them all home. and then have a school day where all you do is read library books and follow rabbit trails using documentaries and such.) I'd use some of the break to think through whether more change is necessary. Realistically, I'd prioritize areas to change things up. (That is, which areas do you dread the most?) And then I'd go from there. I'm sorry you are feeling this way. I hope my jumbled thoughts provide at least commiseration (because I've certainly been in a similar place).
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