Jump to content

What's with the ads?


  • Content Count

  • Joined

  • Last visited

Everything posted by barnwife

  1. When my sister hosts, they invite both BIL's family and our family. It works as it's not a ton of people even with both sides. And everyone is nice/has good manners. I'd never be upset or offended if I found out they were just hosting BIL's family though. We have also hosted my family and DH's. That's...a lot more complicated. The reality is that DH's family involves many more people. Frankly the thought of hosting all of them is overwhelming, although we certainly do it. I just go into it with my eyes wide open, knowing I'll be stressed out. This reminds me will be hosting both sides for something next spring. I'll start praying for good weather now, so all the kids will be able to be outside (if all nieces/nephews attend, that's almost 20 kids). FWIW, my family and DH's are very different. But everyone generally has good manners so it works. I also make sure that both sides know both are invited.
  2. I knew my score would be low, and it was: 58. I am not sure how the "help" I received from our four kids affected my score. DH is taking it now, without help from our kids. His first comment "even this first section is hard" made me laugh. I always thought he was better with faces, but maybe not as much as I thought!
  3. According to this site, anything with ice crystals present can be refrozen. I think the advice I heard not to refreeze was based on quality, not safety. If you think their advice is too dangerous, look at the very limited refrigerated items that they say are safe. If there's ice crystals present, it's NOT 40 or 50 degrees. Don't believe it, use a thermometer.
  4. If "frosty" means there's still ice crystals in anything, then it's all still safe. You might not want to eat anything because of the quality and texture. And you shouldn't re freeze anything either. What are you concerned about, listeria, botulism? If there's any ice left, then it's still colder than a fridge. If frosty just means it feels cool, but it's really 50 in a 50 something garage, then you might have some bacterial issues, but you'll be fine for anything that gets cooked, UNLESS it was longer than you think.
  5. I really struggled to nurse with our oldest. When I went to an IBCLC, I told her I wasn't ready to try supplementing with formula. She listened to all my struggles...and then said, "I think you should go home, give baby a bottle of formula, and take a nap." That made me even more determined to exclusively nurse. (FWIW, I am not against formula I just knew that if I tried it and baby seemed happy with it, I'd nurse less and less. i didn't want to even tiptoe near that slippery slope.) And I did. It wasn't easy. When baby was 3 months old, and we were still nursing exclusively, DH and I celebrated with champagne. I didn't wean him until he was 2.5 (he'd have continued happily, but I was tandem nursing at that point. Something had to give for my sanity.) I don't have super long at the moment, OP, but have you tried using a spoon or cup to give baby pumped milk (after attempting nursing) instead of a bottle? It might make nursing more attractive.... All my other thoughts were just posted by Ktgrok, so I'll just say I hope you find something that works for you and baby!
  6. Remove hoses from the faucet so the faucet can drain, they won't burst on their own because they're flexible. There are freezeproof faucets that drain on their own, just compare what you have to some pics online. if they're not self draining, they should have a valve and drain inside the house so you don't have to cover them outside. Leaving water drip is mostly for houses with problems, like plumbing in outside walls, unheated drafty basements, vented crawlspaces, pipes not buried deep enough, exceptional cold spells, etc. The former residents or owners should know what you'd need to let drip and when. I was talking about SEALING against air leakage. Insulating (as in stopping conduction) is a distant second priority. The attic and ceiling are most important because that's typically where it's easiest to accomplish. You FEEL the cold coming in the windows, but if you put in perfect new windows, that air will come up through the floor and out the ceiling just as easily. The floor is difficult to seal, and if you did, cold air would still come down from the ceiling at the same time warm air goes out different spots in the ceiling. So sealing the ceiling is the first priority. Insulating anything is much less effective. Except your toes of course!
  7. Look at the watt rating on an electric blanket, even the high setting will be a fraction of the wattage of an electric heater on low. Speaking of electricity, it's not hard at all to inspect an electrical system to see what you have. If it's unsafe, it should be off/removed. If it's safe, then electric blankets are one of the least possible problems. Look at the type of wire, (romex vs knob and tube) the gauge of the wire, and if the gauge matches the circuit breaker/fuse rating. There's nothing unsafe about fuses or knob and tube if they were installed and maintained correctly. Then determine which outlets are on the same circuit, don't ever plug two room heaters into the same circuit. Three electric blankets on a circuit is fine on any halfway safe circuit. Room heaters draw lots of power, so they're not good to be plugged in. Even hardwired on their own circuit (baseboard etc.) they're still too high a fire hazard in my mind, but much better than plug in, candles, kerosene etc. Carbon Monoxide is CO, Al Gore is concerned about CO2. Kerosene is not a good fuel to be burning indoors unvented, this isn't the 50's (1850's). Like was mentioned already, gas is your cheapest fuel if you already pay a gas bill (natural gas, that is, you didn't say propane, but that's possible, propane is still much cheaper than any kerosene pump I've seen). Use those heaters as much as possible, and any fans that are needed to move the hot air. Don't fall for any gimmick that claims higher efficiency for an electric heater, there are lots of them out there. Unless, the heat is going closer to the body like a blanket, socks, coat etc. If it's zero outside and the house is as drafty as it seems, a dehumidifier will just be a loud heater, and you don't want electric heaters already. Dryer air is COLDER, just like in the summer, dry heat feels cooler than humid heat, dry cold air feels colder than more humid cold air, and you WILL BE cooler because you're made of water with a permeable skin. Seal the ceiling first and best. You feel the drafts at the floor and in the windows because that is cold air coming in. The warm air is going out the ceiling, through holes you can't see, and will never feel. The most effective action in 99% of drafty houses in heating climates is to go into the attic in a disposable tyvek suit, with expanding foam great stuff/fill and seal, and pull back the insulation and fill every crack, hole, joint, etc. If the ceiling is plaster, cover it with plastic, foam the plastic seams and edges to the framing, then insulate on top. Blown in cellulose is cheap, and easy, but MESSY. If the walls are open, balloon framed, insulate them also, if they're closed, don't bother insulating, just seal the top plate.
  8. Now that I have finished laughing at the thought of that as winter, I think each person should have pajamas and long underwear for people who really get cold. My mom likes to sleep in a hooded sweatshirt with the hood up. I would hate that. I prefer to pull blankets and comforters over my head if necessary. I'd definitely get those kits that are plastic for your windows for insulation in the winter.
  9. Well, we are Catholic. So far (our oldest is 9), they all do enroll in religious education in preschool and continue on. If one of them said they didn't want to attend, I don't know what we'd do. After all, the RCC teaches that parents are the primary teachers of their children. While most kids do attend religious ed, it is certainly not a requirement. It's not even a requirement for sacrament years. However, I've actually been pondering this question myself. We have a couple new RE teachers in the parish this year. I happened to need to grab something from one of the rooms during class. All I could think was "not a single one of this kids is engaged. Where is the joy of the Gospel?" Thankfully, I have a couple years before any of our kids are in that class...and a lot can happen in two years (like that teacher getting more comfortable). Because while I don't want our kids to experience that, RE is also currently their only class out of the house. And I'd do think it's good for them to hear about the faith from other people. But, if you aren't currently practicing Catholicism that adds another dimension, too. I'd probably keep communication open with the child and ask them to stay for X amount of time. I'd approach the teacher and try and open a dialogue there. (Frankly, as an RE teacher, I'd love to hear from a parent.) When the agreed upon time came, I'd have another discussion with the kid. If they really wanted to, I would give hard thought to only HS them for religion. It's not an easy place to be in OP. I hope you find a solution that works for you and your child.
  10. If you want to keep the car, you need better mechanics. Saying there's nothing wrong because there's no code is stupid, there is (almost?) never a code thrown for no start. almost by definition without getting in to deep in the explanation. The second one tried, halfway. There's lots more that can be done to figure this out. It's not like you're the only person experiencing this problem, car makers publish these things called technical service bulletins that describe any problems that have cropped up that are somewhat difficult. Any mechanic should be able to find a top three list of places to start, and check from there.
  11. When we were engaged, DH suggested adding a rice cooker to our registry. I thought, "why? Can't I just use the stove?" And, if I am being truthful, voiced those same thoughts. But, to keep him happy, I added the rice cooker to the registry. Someone gifted it to us...and I am so eternally grateful to that person (and yes, to DH as well, for he was right). It makes my life so much easier, knowing I can get the rice started midafternoon and not think about it again until dinnertime, when it will be warm and perfectly cooked! When that original rice cooker died, I bought another ASAP. Welcome to the dark side, OP.
  12. can eat cattails! As for the OP, I'd live in lighthouse for a short period of time. (Actually, my kids and I just read a picture book about a lighthouse. And yes, I did think, "boy...this would be fun for a week" while reading it.) I also voted for the converted barn option, which shouldn't surprise anyone based on my screen name.
  13. Well, isn't he sweet! Welcome to the world, little one!
  14. Well, even our toddlers go (have gone) outside without us right there. But...usually one of the older ones is out there with our current toddler. Also, we live in the country so we have a lot of space for him to roam. Furthermore, one wall of our house has tons of window, so I can usually see him. We just visited family who live in a small town (much like where I grew up, actually). The toddler played outside, but I was out there. I didn't always follow him around from front to back, although most of the time I could hear him. I checked after a couple minutes anyway, because it'd be like him to explore the road. By 5, I would definitely let a neurotypical kid play unsupervised. I mean, I walked home from school alone at five. By 6, I was in another school that was halfway across town and I still walked. If it's a neighborhood of kids, I think I would expect playground-ish rules (Lord of the Flies style, that is expecting them to solve most of their own problems.
  15. Well, missing Mass is a mortal sin if done willy-nilly. It doesn't seem like that would be the case here. Obviously, I don't know what other difficult choice you would have to make. But I would end up needing to make that choice if your child will be needing to stay home often during cold and flu season. I'd be looking at other options (Sunday Masses at other parishes, Sat. evening Masses, even Sunday evening Masses if you are lucky enough to have one, talking to my priest to see what he says). I'd even look into hiring a sitter for the child, which is probably easier said than done. That's a long way of saying, I'd probably arrange to switch off for Mass, even if it meant another difficult choice.
  16. I don't know that I've ever thought about rigor with regard to HS our children (oldest is currently 9). It seems to me that a rigorous education for one child would be way to easy/light for another or way too hard for another random child. Rather, I think in terms of constantly stretching skills in various areas. FWIW, we are (so far, anyway) a family that focuses on reading, math, and writing. I consider everything else gravy at this point. That doesn't mean I don't have things I want to expose them to in science or history or whatever. We absolutely read and experience science, history, art, etc...I just don't concern myself about doing it at a certain pace or in a certain order. My goal is to consistently and regularly expose them to science, history, art, music, etc...I know some things stick, because they will ask questions or talk about them. I am constantly amazed by the places our just turned 6 yo can identify on a globe. I've never done formal geography. I just pull out a globe and point out places we are reading about. As for whether your poetry experience was educational, I hereby declare the answer is yes.
  17. The sellers were willing to pay above market because that's what they offered, now FHA isn't willing to loan them the amount they offered, that's their problem not yours. You're not talking about holding to your price, you're giving them something with your counter, that's fine if you feel like it. But don't think it's a sure thing even if you drop to the appraisal and still pay closing costs. Has the inspection been done already? They think they can get into a house with FHA qualifications (0-10% down?) in a buyers market? that's a pretty ambitious of them, but it's not your problem if they aren't qualified to buy your house.
  18. "be generous with your bacon!" " a mixture of lard and butter is good" and rabbits are almost edible also. I wish I knew what do about rabbits. You can try to fence the things you don't want destroyed, but then you get a snow drift in March and they'll eat it above the fence.
  19. This happened to me when our second kid was less than 2 months old (so way younger than you!). I bent down to pick up a towel I had dropped and I was instantly in excruciating pain. If my parents hadn't been here, I have no clue what I would have done at that moment. (DH was home but outside). As you said, it was rolling over and going from standing to sitting or vice versa that were awful. So what helped? Doing absolutely nothing. I stayed in bed on or the couch as much as possible. (Tricky with an 18 month old and NB, but I did my best.) If I had to move, if DH was around he basically moved me. I also invested in a very nice back brace. I can't actually remember how long recovery took. Well, months later I was still dealing with manageable, but lingering pain. I finally decided to see a chiropractor. I'd never been to one before. But there was immense immediate improvement. I am sorry this happened to you. I hope you improve quickly!
  20. We need a new fake tree. We've needed it for...a while now. I never can seem to bite the bullet, because I can't find one that I really love and is unlit. I absolutely do not want prelit. This one might make my list of possibilities. If anyone else has a favorite, please post a link!
  21. Is that $7.20 NZ dollar or American? Even if it's $4.50 American, that's high considering NZ's dairy industry. Anything under $2 in the US is extremely competitively priced, but profitable for large scale sellers. Most of the prices that are lower are loss leaders in my opinion. The hundredweight price has been roughly $16 this year, $12/hundredweight is roughly $1 gallon, and farmers get some bonuses on top of that price, add trucking, pasteurization, bottling, trucking and more trucking, $2 seems cheap. I'm thinking whole or 2%. 1% or skim, the price could be a bit lower because the cream is worth more than the milk, and has been skimmed off. Interesting article from Cato, about what you'd expect. The milk policy is in line with other food security policy. Do they realize that wool is subsidized for national security reasons? Would they prefer milk fluctuate between $1-$10? That would be the price I'd expect with a free market policy.
  22. I voted maybe, solely because my oldest is only 9, so I have no idea what I'd actually do. I mean, DS isn't ready to stay home alone yet. But I wanted to say that were I your sister or SIL, I'd want you to ask if he could stay. So while asking feels huge to you, perhaps it wouldn't also feel that way to them. Also, congrats on the anniversary! A foliage trip sounds like a lovely way to celebrate.
  23. When the child recognizes the letter sounds, I move on to oral blending. We play a lot of "say it fast" and "say it slow." I ask things like "if the first sound in top changes to the sound of h, what would it be?" When a child can do that easily, I start having him or her read a few CVC words written in all capitals on our white boards (or off a computer screen) each day. Soon we move on to Progressive Phonics and OPGTR. As for what age each of those steps happens? That's too child-specific to say. So I'll say that learning letter sounds would hopefully begin as a toddler/preschool kid in a fun/game/active way.
  • Create New...