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  1. I gave ds 1/2 credit for carpentry. He helped his dad with work for several weeks. So, like a paid internship. Also confirmed he never wanted to go into the construction field. He also got 1/2 credit for "History and Technology of Space Exploration." He did a open course class on space systems engineering - cannot remember what company, and watched every video ever created about the space programs worldwide. That information he has still retained years later.
  2. I commuted 30 minutes to my undergraduate school. It was okay, it was all highway miles, and doable. I now attend grad school 1 hour from home and I moved and got an apartment. IMO, an hour commute daily is too much. It detracts from study time. It's hard to stay for evening get togethers unless you find a great place to crash for a few hours. I have evening classes as well, so I'd have to drive at night, which I don't like doing. I also TA and I know that some of my students who commute longer distances struggle with finding study time or place on top of adjusting to the rigors of college life. They may still have family obligations or chores or jobs that affect that ability to study too.
  3. If you're attending college where the seasons change aburptly, made sure you have the correct seasonal clothes when needed. I planned on getting most of my winter clothes and winter coat this weekend from my mom's. It snowed today. I'm layering my light sweaters to form a wind barrier. 🙄 I didn't see anyone in shorts today, but I have on some cold fall mornings. Know how to order takeout or delivery food. How to write a check. Many of the apartments around here don't have online payment options, so you have to write that check each month. How to ask for help, both in and out of the classroom. Where to find quiet study areas on campus. I know many people get distracted in the dorms or around roommates. Scope out a part of the library or look for good areas to work. This is important for commuter students too, probably more so. Sometimes it's hard to work at home. I still go to the library on my undergraduate campus if I'm home for the weekend, I can't work when I'm visiting home.
  4. I miss the I agree button...The above is what I did with my son and my own undergrad education (started when ds was in high school, now in grad school). I scoured the catalog and major requirements, so I knew exactly what I needed/wanted when I walked in my advisor's office. I also had a list of questions ready to ask. I happened to find a great advisor who turned into my mentor who helped prepare me for grad school - even offering independent study courses to help me prepare. He didn't have to waste his time helping pick classes, I could do that, I needed real guidance. My son has done similarly. He know has one good advisor, a mentor, and professors that he can just go in and chat with. Also, a history degree can be very marketable. While it can be an easier sequence of classes - and I agree that planning from the hardest to fulfill choice makes sense- most upper level courses are writing intensive - at least in good programs. Students learn how to research and how to communicate that analysis in a clear and concise manner. Anecdotes, but that same institution has a new president and dean of the arts & science college, both were history majors, at least in undergrad.
  5. I don't think it sounds super creepy, just lonely and awkward. I agree that a boundary is necessary. As for giving out phone # to students who want help, I would just people in the future that she prefers to have communication by email. I'm a TA and was a group tutor in my undergraduate. We never gave out our phone numbers to students. I know at least in my undergrad that was a requirement, so there was a record of communication. My school email is set up to provide notifications on my phone anyway, so I get it right away, but there is not the urgency to respond right away.
  6. I had one as part of my hodgkin's lymphoma treatment, but it was back in the early 1990s. Mine hurt - like badly, partially because the physician ended up nicking the inside of the bone on one side. Agreed about the pressure. I agree about looking into what pain relievers can be taken and probably practice some meditative thoughts to focus on during the procedure. As a friend, I would encourage you to plan something nice for them afterward, maybe after a day or two. I have a pretty high pain tolerance, but pressure type pain is hard for me. I recently had a tooth pulled and it was much the same type of pain. I do imagine the procedure has improved since the 1990s. (hugs to your friend)
  7. The people that I wouldn't mind dropping by never would, they would at least text first. We tend to live upstairs and I cannot hear someone at the door anyway, the doorbell doesn't always work. We keep such odd schedules that it would be hard for people to know our routine anyway. Of course, I don't like to talk on the phone either. I have three people I will talk to on the phone, and two of those I live with most of the time.
  8. These are great ideas, thanks. I hope to go camping a bit this fall and need some quick food items.
  9. I'm biased as medieval historian, but I would suggest medieval history. I'm cannot make specific book/provider recommendations, but the medieval era is understudied, imo. The development of the church and the development of the European continent are important concepts that shape many of our beliefs today. Also, many college students never take a medieval class, so at least a high school class would be helpful.
  10. I'd heard this, but wasn't sure if it were true. Glad to hear it is. One of my former history professors played in a rock band for a few years. He then went on to get his PhD in History focused on European Military history and Russian history. The local paper just did an article on him about his attendance at Woodstock.
  11. The only people who I know that never drank were recovering alcoholics or Baptist. This is not a knock on one particular denomination, but the Baptist churches I attended preached against alcohol usage. On our campus there was a Baptist Student Union. I never attended, but I would be surprised if members were drinking at all, much less during Bible study. My parents, who were not strictly religious, rarely drank. I think the bottle of Boone's Farm sat in their fridge for a year at time. As a teenager, I remember being surprised at how allowed alcohol was in other christian denominations.
  12. I am so sorry for your family's loss.
  13. A quality sword will be better balanced and constructed. If it is sharpened, the edge will problem hold longer. - You could argue they don't need a sharpened sword, they do sell them with dull edges. My friend, who is a medievalist and a former SCA member, has several swords which are just gorgeous and period correct. Most of them were investment pieces that did stand up to fighting and lots of play use. Museum Replicas is one company that sells good quality swords. as a disclaimer, my rule of thumb is that about that age, dc should start considering quality of items as well as price/value. A sword is something that could last a lifetime and, if their interest continues, become an heirloom item that means something to them down the road, rather than a toy to be cast off once the bling wears off. Although I still have a plastic sword that ds bought when he was about 7.
  14. Yes, I'm in the market for a sword myself. At 16 I wanted to buy my son one, a katana, not a broadsword, but I was broke. I would check the Ren Faire requirements. Ours no longer allows weapons of any kind, even if peace tied. My caveat would be that he buys a quality one, even if that means waiting if it's more expensive.
  15. We recently had our 14 1/2 lab euthanized. It was absolutely time and I miss her a lot. Yet, there is no way I could consider a new dog (old or young) now. This person is an idiot because they don't recognize your grief. I would either ghost them or simply say that your grief is too raw to consider another pet right now. If they can't respect that, then I'd block them.
  16. I would have student consider switching to Turkish towels. They take much less time to dry, will absorb as much water, and the linked ones can double as beach towels. Also on lighting, check with the school requirements. I remember hearing some dorms don't allow LED bulbs, and it seems so many of the back-to-school lamps now are LED.
  17. Lost *sigh*. I have never been able to watch again because I hated the ending so badly. Shows I do like: Supernatural, Firefly, Hell on Wheels, and Doctor Who (although I am seasons behind). New shows I've watched recently: Kingdom (Korean zombie series) - done very well, The Boys - dark & gritty, not for everyone, but I do love Karl Urban.
  18. I buy from thrift and antique stores. I purposely wanted mismatched vintage looking silverware. Sometimes you can find sets that look like they came from grandmother's china hutch - complete with box. My mom found some on ebay as well. And I am a long fork user, those are harder to find.
  19. The words "12" and "told 3 times" are mostly the issue. 12 year olds are like toddlers in that they need micro-steps and conditioning to change ingrained habits. I agree with a bright note on the wall behind the toilet and gentle reminders when he forgets.
  20. I would recommend visiting a dental school if possible for a second opinion and perhaps more affordable pricing. My mom got dentures a few years ago after having a partial for years. She dislikes the dentures, she finds that she cannot chew many foods, it took a while before they felt comfortable as well. She does like the easy care and she smile is beautiful, but she's also 82. I can't imagine being young and having dentures if there are other possible solutions. I spent most of the last year visiting our sort-of local dental school. I have many fillings, two teeth pulled (thanks to radiation tx years ago), and my two front teeth got crowns. I broke my two front teeth out as a kid and they sorely needed to be redone. My crowns were $500 each, yes, only $500. I had an estimate about a decade ago for $5000 for both of them. I had had a root canal on one of those teeth years ago. The challenge with a dental school is that you may not be able to get in for a while. At least my school has emergency walk ins on some days. Honestly, I was shocked at the price difference.
  21. I would pull out all the diplomacy you have before contacting a lawyer. I would contact her again by phone and explain that not refunding your fee is unacceptable, explain the mere hours it was before she booted your kid from the APPROPRIATE age level class, and in a real "bless your heart" way explain that she will rue the day she stole your money. If she did not respond to my "diplomacy," I would pull out the christian male-head of household thing and have your dh call her and let her explain it to him. I would also spread it all over social media, in a logical and reserved manner, just to be *itchy if she didn't respond to either of your requests. Then, I would contact a lawyer. You can't use Jesus to justify stealing money, I think he would be totally against that. *sigh*
  22. I dealt with this about a month or two ago. In my case, I think it was low iron, although a stressor could have exacerbated the issue. My hair is long and thick and it was disconcerting. It seems to have waned since I started on iron.
  23. I would scan them, but I would also keep the originals. You can buy archival boxes to keep photos and negatives in that you don't want to display. Gaylord Archival is the company that the archives I've worked in use for their supplies.
  24. I would research medieval history, something I already do. It would, however, include travel to England for research, and I would just research, not teach classes. Then I would build upon that knowledge and continue to learn more languages, probably 1 a year. This is something I'm planning already as well. To my Latin and (very rusty) French, I would add Old Norse, Norwegian, German, Anglo-Saxon, and Old French. In addition to historical research, I would write fiction, maybe delve into historical fiction. I would definitely finish the rough drafts I have - at least a few that are worthy. I would live where I do now and have a retreat somewhere when I needed a break.
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