DawnM Posted December 23, 2022 Author Share Posted December 23, 2022 1 hour ago, TravelingChris said: A nice place is so important when you aren't feeling well or anxious. I am very happy he is in a good place. Merry Christmas to you and your family, Dawn. Merry Christmas to you too. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 27, 2022 Author Share Posted December 27, 2022 12/27 They have moved him up to the highest level of care. He has stopped eating. When he tries to eat he aspirates. He can't swallow. In the hospital he was taking no pain meds. In hospice he started taking codeine. Within days, they have upped him to morphine. They say he is in a tremendous amount of pain and it has gotten so much worse in the last few days. We went to see him on Christmas Day. He couldn't understand that it was Christmas. He kept talking things that did not make sense (feeling around on his bed and when we asked what he was feeling for, he said there was cheese all over his bed.) The social worker said there will be no need to worry about where he will go in 30 days, she said not to expect the full 30 days. He has been there 6 days so far. I just pray God takes him before he has to suffer longer. It is so hard to watch. 53 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cintinative Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I'm so, so sorry. That has to be terrible. Prayers. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 (((Hugs))) I am praying for you all, Dawn. That’s so hard. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I am so sorry Dawn. ((((((Dawn)))))) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LifeLovePassion Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I'm sorry, Dawn. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scbusf Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Oh Dawn, I'm so sorry. Hugs to all of you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 (((Dawn))) Praying for him and for you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Thank you for updating, Dawn. I am so sorry for you dear father’s suffering and for your sorrow. My prayers are with you. (((Dawn))) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hilltopmom Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I’m so sorry. Thinking of you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Sending you prayers and love 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vintage81 Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I’m so sorry Dawn….hugs. 😔 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zoo Keeper Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Praying daily for you and your family through this hard time. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I'm sorry Dawn. Praying for your family today. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Ahhh That’s really hard. I’m so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I’m so sorry, Dawn. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lauraw4321 Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Oh Dawn, I'm so sorry. I pray for peace and for an end to suffering. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saraha Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Hugs Dawn. Praying for strength for your family and swiftness and comfort for your dad. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alisoncooks Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Prayers for peace and comfort. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I'm so sorry @DawnM. It's so hard. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tiberia Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I'm sorry Dawn. Grace and peace to you and to your dad. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in IN Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I'm so sorry he is suffering and pray that he can go quickly and peacefully. Praying for peace and strength for you during this time. 💙 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Storygirl Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I'm sorry, Dawn. Hospice may have told you this already. We've been through this twice recently, with Mom and MIL. Both of them had dementia, and both stopped eating. Sometimes when the body is preparing for the final stages, it's common for the need to intake nutrients to cease. It bothers the family members more than the person; the person will not feel hunger. The body is starting to shut down various processes. We were told that sometimes it can take a couple of weeks for the end to come after the person stops eating, but it varies. For my mom, it was about two weeks. For MIL, it was about 10 days. I'm very sad for you, and I'm sorry that your dad is agitated. I'll pray for him to feel peaceful during these last days before he meets the Lord he loves. 5 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I'm so sorry. It is so hard to watch them suffer. Sending you hugs. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I'm sorry Dawn 😢 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Grace Hopper Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 (edited) 21 minutes ago, Storygirl said: I'm sorry, Dawn. Hospice may have told you this already. We've been through this twice recently, with Mom and MIL. Both of them had dementia, and both stopped eating. Sometimes when the body is preparing for the final stages, it's common for the need to intake nutrients to cease. It bothers the family members more than the person; the person will not feel hunger. The body is starting to shut down various processes. We were told that sometimes it can take a couple of weeks for the end to come after the person stops eating, but it varies. For my mom, it was about two weeks. For MIL, it was about 10 days. I'm very sad for you, and I'm sorry that your dad is agitated. I'll pray for him to feel peaceful during these last days before he meets the Lord he loves. And for mine it was less than a week. Dawn I am praying for you this morning, peace and patience, and for your father, mercy and sufficient pain control. We found music to be soothing at this stage, if your father has any gentle favorites you might could play them softly or sing to him. It’s a hard stage. Many hugs. Edited December 27, 2022 by Grace Hopper 4 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I'm so glad he was able to be place at a calm beautiful place and didn't have to be moved multiple times and that his pain is being managed. Sending you all peace and hugs. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 My stomach started to hurt just reading your update. I am so incredibly sorry! I, too, hope that his suffering will cease. I can't even imagine how hard this must be on you and your family. Hugs to you all. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Dawn, I am so very sorry. That is heartbreaking for him and for you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mlktwins Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 38 minutes ago, Storygirl said: I'm sorry, Dawn. Hospice may have told you this already. We've been through this twice recently, with Mom and MIL. Both of them had dementia, and both stopped eating. Sometimes when the body is preparing for the final stages, it's common for the need to intake nutrients to cease. It bothers the family members more than the person; the person will not feel hunger. The body is starting to shut down various processes. We were told that sometimes it can take a couple of weeks for the end to come after the person stops eating, but it varies. For my mom, it was about two weeks. For MIL, it was about 10 days. I'm very sad for you, and I'm sorry that your dad is agitated. I'll pray for him to feel peaceful during these last days before he meets the Lord he loves. For my FIL it was 5 days. He also had delirium and thought all kinds of crazy stuff (not cheese, but plenty of other stuff). It is hard to watch for sure. I'm so sorry Dawn. I pray for a peaceful end for your dad and you the strength to get through it all. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kanin Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Thinking of you and your family. Hugs. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 27, 2022 Author Share Posted December 27, 2022 thank you all. I pray it is only days. He stopped eating a couple of days ago I guess is what they said, so this is day 3 or 4 of him not eating. The ladies from my parent's mission called this am and asked how they could pray for us. I asked them to pray that the Lord would take him home to his glorified body and no more pain. It doesn't feel as odd to pray for that anymore. 40 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I’m so sorry, Dawn - I’m praying for the Lord’s mercy for your dad, and for you and your family. Anne 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pinball Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I’m sorry, Dawn. The only bright spot is that it is the holidays/vacation so you can spend every minute with him 😭 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I am glad he is in the hospice home where they can actively manage his pain control with experience. Hugs to all of you during this twilight time. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I’m so sorry, Dawn. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Oh, I'm so sorry Dawn. (((Hugs))) to you and your family. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rebcoola Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Hugs hope it goes quickly and peacefully. My Grandmother was 5 days after she stopped eating. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I am so sorry, and I hope your dad has peaceful and pain free passing 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Tiggywinkle Again Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 Don’t be afraid to advocate for increased pain medication either. Comfort is the most important thing right now. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amethyst Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I'm so very sorry, Dawn. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I prayed that prayer for my loved ones. It’s natural, and death brings an end to suffering. (((Dawn))) 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 I am praying for an end to his suffering, and also that he's not scared or worried. I'm so sorry. 😞 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ikslo Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 (((Dawn))) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 27, 2022 Author Share Posted December 27, 2022 2 hours ago, pinball said: I’m sorry, Dawn. The only bright spot is that it is the holidays/vacation so you can spend every minute with him 😭 I am probably going to out myself as a bad daughter, but I am not spending every minute with him. I can't. I have a family to care for, and he is so confused and keeps taking all of his clothes off. I visit, and then come home. 19 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 @DawnMI don't think anyone could call you a bad daughter. You have done so much for him. Do what you need to do and try to take care of yourself as well. 13 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mlktwins Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 7 minutes ago, Kassia said: @DawnMI don't think anyone could call you a bad daughter. You have done so much for him. Do what you need to do and try to take care of yourself as well. I second all of this Dawn!!! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 12 minutes ago, DawnM said: I am probably going to out myself as a bad daughter, but I am not spending every minute with him. I can't. I have a family to care for, and he is so confused and keeps taking all of his clothes off. I visit, and then come home. You are not a bad daughter at all. You cared for him at home as long as you could and made sure he was in a good safe place. The rest of your family needs you too and you need a break as well. 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, Ottakee said: You are not a bad daughter at all. You cared for him at home as long as you could and made sure he was in a good safe place. The rest of your family needs you too and you need a break as well. This! You have done and are doing a great job in an impossibly difficult situation. You have loved your dad well. Edited December 27, 2022 by ScoutTN 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted December 27, 2022 Share Posted December 27, 2022 @DawnM you are not a bad daughter. You have done your best for him and you are being pulled in so many directions. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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