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Kanin

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  1. I'm not sure if being prepared for what's to come will make it better or worse!
  2. Gee, I can't wait to start menopause now... Sorry everything sucks right now!
  3. Ugh, posting things like that about teenage kids is icky. What high school kid wants their mom revealing personal details on social media?
  4. If you could get a diagnosis from his doctor, trying ADHD meds would give you a pretty clear answer.
  5. Yeah, I'd want to know what this means exactly. Are the finances pretty simple, like mortgage/rent, typical bills (streaming services, food, electricity, etc? Could you just have him pay certain bills and you pay other ones? Since he makes double your income, he could pay the more expensive ones. If you wanted a joint account for savings, each could have a percentage direct-deposited into that account. Each person could then have their own checking account for paying bills and spending on whatever they want.
  6. DH and I have separate accounts. He pays the mortgage and some other things from his account, and I buy groceries, pay heat/electricity, and some other things from mine. We could use the other's account if we wanted to. I love having separate accounts, though, so I don't have him seeing all the money I waste at Goodwill, ThredUp, and the natural foods store 🙂
  7. If I had to survive on only my income, I'd need to eat really cheaply. If I had access to my normal grocery budget, I'd probably still spend a lot. I love grocery shopping and trying new things 🙂
  8. My cat had two or three UTIs in a row. It was horrible. The vet told me to completely clean the litter box each week - dump, wash with soap, refill with new litter. She didn't have problems after that. Maybe that would help a little.
  9. Yay! They're way better than regular sponges because they dry so quickly. It's also fun how they're hard when they're dry, and soft when they're in hot water.
  10. Ouch! Looks painful and itchy. I'd go to the doctor. Do you have any gluten issues? Celiac can cause a rash like that.
  11. Omg! I'm a crazy fangirl of Scrub Daddies. And look what else you can buy... https://smileshop.scrubdaddy.com/product-category/scrub-daddy-merchandise/ Look at the Halloween costumes... 😂
  12. We lived in Boulder, CO for six years without a car. They have a really good bus system that goes all over town, plus we were fine with biking when we didn't want to take the bus. It's a really bike-aware community, and they have lots of dedicated paved bike paths through town (not just along the side of the road, although there's that, too). It was amazing. I miss the bike paths so much! Where I live now, I could live without a car but my day to day travel would be really limited. I'd need to work in town, too, which I currently don't. It would be really tough.
  13. Ew! I've never heard of that. Do kids in your area hesitate to play in the snow because there might be snow fleas??
  14. In public school, I'm seeing so many kids with organizational issues. First grade isn't too young to have kids do things like put their worksheets away in correct folders, put books away in a specific place on a shelf, etc. I'd make sure to do those things daily, and you can bump it up as he gets older and has more stuff to manage. It would also be cool to teach him to use a simple checklist, and that could translate to using checklists in the future, and also using a planner to keep organized.
  15. Ugh, that's horrible. It really throws off your sense of self.
  16. Yeah! We could create a great meal, and then you would talk and I would prompt you and write down what you say 🙂
  17. Agreed! I still live with some things my mom shared with me as a kid when she was going through a divorce, and even though I know she needed someone to talk to, it's stuff I still think about to this day and I'm sure has impacted my relationship with DH. I'm glad your mom feels comfortable talking to you. I hope it's not too much for you, though.
  18. I think it's the word impacting the larger world, at least I hope so. I really want to just finish everything on the work to-do list and start fresh and see if that helps. Unfortunately, I don't now how to find the time to do that. New things keep getting added so the less-urgent things on the list stay there for a long time. My principal has offered to get me a sub so I can do paperwork, so I should take him up on that.
  19. Hmm, this is really making me think I should get checked out just to be on the safe side. Thank you for sharing your experience.
  20. I would also like to tackle things topically. One thing that really gets to me is my to-do list which has a lot of really different things on it that require me to switch gears really quickly. About talking and identifying things that cause anxiety... well, I'm getting some relief from talking with you and others here, so thank you. I do feel relief talking with a few teacher friends that feel similarly to me, although sometimes it's just a downward spiral with all of us venting but not really making anything better.
  21. It's possible... I'm 40 and my mom said she went into menopause early. I do have a doctor that I like. I've only seen her a few times but she seems thoughtful and helpful.
  22. Hi everyone. If you read my post from earlier in the week, I have a coworker at school who is giving me a hard time. However, over the past few weeks/few months I have also started to feel anxious about going to work in general. I dread driving there, don't enjoy teaching the kids like I used to, dread sitting in meetings, don't feel like interacting with anyone at work, and feel totally stressed by the thought of calling parents to arrange conferences, doing the paperwork, and mundane things like entering grades into the gradebook. I've never had anxiety in the past, so this is new for me. Is this anxiety? I feel on edge and nervous almost all of the time, even when I'm not at work. I think about work almost all the time (mostly about how much I don't want to think about it!). I also feel somewhat stupid because the level of nervousness I feel seems way out of proportion with what's actually going on. In comparison with a lot of schools, my school functions well. The kids are pretty well behaved. I have supportive coworkers and admin. Yes, paperwork and keeping up with things is stressful, but my workload isn't outrageous like lots of people's is. It would be manageable if I could make myself deal with it for a short time every day so it doesn't build up, but I get so overwhelmed thinking about it I put it off, and it's a bad cycle. Overall though, it just doesn't make sense that I should feel so nervous all the time. I'm also starting to get anxious about every "obligation," even things that I don't mind doing or even enjoy, like planning meals, ordering something from Amazon, or taking a load of stuff to Goodwill. It feels like every single thing I need to do is taking away time from... what exactly? If this started as workplace-related anxiety, will this new generalized anxiety go away if I'm not at work? Just a question... I don't actually want to quit. But I am hoping that this is not the new normal, whether or not I have this job. Just now I had to cancel coffee with a friend because I got anxious, my chest felt tight, and I was nauseous. Now typing from bed, where I'm now feeling better. I need some ways to deal with this anxiety. I don't want to take medication for anxiety that's caused by a job - in that case, it seems like it would be better to quit the job rather than medicate my way through it. That would seriously change a lot of things for the worse, financially and professionally. Thanks for reading.
  23. Oh my. I hadn't considered allowing him to get enraged (with me) while in the presence of a student. He'll probably say, "Student, do YOU think I'm yelling?" But... good ideas!! Much to think about.
  24. Wow! Totally normal. The other person, on the other hand... wow. They must be upset about everything all the time, if that's all it takes to get them riled up!
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