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  1. So for lent this year I’m doing a digital fast. I’m basically blocking all my fun apps on my phone, which includes this site. So…I’ll see you all on the other side.
  2. They helped both my dd and my mil find effective meds and the med that sent my mil to crazy town, was on the red list.
  3. I am looking for a set of satin pajamas for women NOT made in China. I can’t find any. I definitely want satin because I get so itchy in winter and satin helps with that. Also I want long pants and a long sleeved shirt. any ideas?
  4. By the way @kbuttoni totally agree with you . My ds and I get aggressively tailgated often because he’s you know…gettin all crazy by following the speed limit.
  5. The bolded are basically my kids. But I know many who live in the middle of traffic and it seems rather…insensitive to tell single moms and other struggling folks who barely have time to teach their kids to drive that they owe it to the world to continually drive hours out of their way just to avoid hateful rude aggressive drivers and teach their kids to drive.
  6. Some people live in the deep end and if their kid is ever gonng to learn to drive, it is what it is.
  7. Chickadees Sparrows House finches (I get the goldfinches in the summer when I plant sunflowers) Cardinals Doves Woodpeckers Hummingbirds in summer Lots of hawks, A few weeks ago, my son and I were coming up the drive at dusk and an owl flew across the drive.
  8. We found honors classes very good for my science kids and skipped AP altogether in lieu of dual enrollment. (Except for my oldest who suffered through ap) My kids stressed over testing and we found with my oldest that ap classes were harder or more time consuming than just taking the college classes. I figured that if they’re gonna do all th work, and still have to pass a test for college credit, why not just do dual enrollment and have a full semester with lots of tests and grades for the college credit?
  9. What about some older shows? Andy Griffith, Leave it to Beaver, Dick Van Dyke, Mary Tyler Moore....
  10. What is it about drinking water that is hard for you? I drink more with a water bottle with a straw for whatever reason. If I have to fill a glass, I won't drink much. My water bottle holds 27 ounces so I don't have to keep filling it up. Also, in winter, I struggle with fluid intake as well because I'm cold and I don't like drinkning more cold stuff. So I make herbal tea sweetened with stevia if I'm feeling chilly. If you just don't like drinking plain water, why not get those little packets of crystal light to add to the water. The artificial sweetener isn't great, but it's better than dehydration. This is another case of don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good. And yes, walk with podcasts guilt free. Find good ones, or audio books and you may find that walking is easier. I won't SIT and listen to a podcast or audio book but I will clean or walk.
  11. Staff bios and pictures service styles (I’m a traditional worshipper so if there’s 2 services, contemporary and traditional or only one service I’d like to know) whether or not childcare is provided
  12. For your mom, can you frame it as “THEY are choosing carrying a weapon over family.” you are allowed to make the rules for your own family. I have a family member whose dogs are like their kids. My house is a no indoor animal house. We make a comfortable space in our garage for their dogs. I’m not obligated to let their dogs in my house because….family. what if it’s singing obnoxious rap songs that depict rape? What if it’s watching porn in public areas of my home with my kids around? There can always be a thing that someone gets hung up on, and if that thing is more important than family, it’s not on you to bend in your own home. you get to make the rules for your home. They get to make the rules for their home. we have firearms. I have a concealed carry permit. If someone says “no guns in my house” they don’t go in that persons house. Period. Their house, their rules. I deal with it the same way that I do when I go to any of the county or state office buildings.
  13. Being farm kids, mine have plenty of “back In my day…” stories. in fact, my dd22 works at cfa and she’s been known to say when the teen boys get whiny there “it’s quite clear who has NEVER worked in a tobacco patch”
  14. Oof...Prickly preteens. Not fun. Has the DC always been this way? Is this the oldest child? My oldest could totally be like this at that age. It was HARD. If this is a NT kid, no special diagnosis, I would deal with it head on. At least in our family, we do not dance around this kind of thing. We are gentle and loving, but my kids don't get hints. They need direct communication. "Dear child, I love you and you are a wonderful person. I have to confess that I have been failing you as a parent. I've screwed up in allowing you to run from any form of hard things. Some of good parenting is helping all my kids grow by correcting their mistakes. These are not personal attacks, but when I love someone, I can't let them continue making mistakes because sooner or later, the mistakes will cause more suffering than just correcting problems. One problem I've been avoiding is how you handle when you're corrected. I've made a huge mistake by allowing you to avoid these issues. It was unfair of me to allow you to run away when shoveling snow the other day. We needed your help and because you bailed, everyone else had more work to do. That wsa unfair of me and it was unfair of you." Then I would dig deeper. What's going on in your head when you want to leave? Embarrassment? Anger? Confusion? I would start a dialogue about how to handle those big feelings. Also, I would allow a kid a momentary reprieve to pull themselves together but they have to come back to the task at hand within X minutes. ALso, they may need more direct communication on how to manage big feelings and what negative. self talk can do to us. I also would share this quote: “The problem is not the problem. The problem is your attitude about the problem” ― Captain Jack Sparrow And reinforce constantly that nobody expects this child to be perfect. Everyone knows he/she will make mistakes, missteps, errors, or whatever. It's no big deal! Everyone does this.
  15. “Im sorry. That will no longer work for me. If the antics of a 7 year old can wreck the relationship between 2 families, I guess this is a bad fit. In my mind, adults can separate childish behavior from relationship issues, but I suppose I was mistaken in that assumption.”
  16. Yeah…coffee bar? I’ve found that if a space doesn’t have a purpose it draws clutter
  17. You know, it's entirely possible that your email recipient just didn't read your question. I used to work at my church and it was baffling how many people JUST DIDN'T READ stuff. Basic stuff. Easy stuff. Stuff that was 100 percent black and white clear as day.
  18. Your kids who work do need to file their own taxes. If you are responsible for their living expenses, you can still claim them. All my kids have worked jobs while living at home and we claimed them (I think there might be an upper age limit) as dependents, but they still had to file their own taxes. If they are supporting themselves, I think you can't claim them.
  19. My grandfather died from asbestosis so yeah, it's a pretty big deal to be really careful with it.
  20. I have days when I see everything perfectly and then there are other days where it all is a mes.
  21. This morning the coffee made it into the cup, so there's a win right there.
  22. I know the month is almost over but if you don't mind, I'd like to join in. Generally, I spend the month of January thinking and planning the year. Christmas and all sidelines all my thoughts for December, so I don't give it more thought till after the first of the year when things slow down. My word of the year is GROW. Big Picture Goals by years' end I'd like to have at least 50 credits toward my associate's degree. Right now, including the classes I'm enrolled in, I have 30, so along with some CLEP tests, this should be an achievable goal. I really really really need to lose about 15 pounds. Read through the Bible this year. Finish the manuscript of the Bible study book I began writing in 2020. Grow more of our veggies this year in the garden. That went fine last year until we spent 2 weeks travelling to Yellowstone and GNP, and then the weeds got ahead and that was the end of the garden. We won't have a long trip this year, so garden should be fine. I need a pleasurable goal. I'm a serious minded person and I struggle with adding fun into my days. And then I look up from the Grindstone I have had my nose planted in for weeks and I feel all blah. So this year, I think CELEBRATE is my theme. Figuring out how to celebrate more both big and small things in big and small ways. First thing, I received an invitation to a party celebrating the 60th anniversary and 80th birthdays of a sweet couple in my church. I don't usually attend these things, but now, I think I will. This month: Stay on top of the classes I'm enrolled in--This is working out nicely. Statistics, so far, isn't as bad as I thought it would be and the teacher is excellent. Start studying for the Biology Clep--done this. It's a big, hard test. But I have a plan in place and so far I'm working it. Weight--I've lost 2 pounds this month already. Hoping to drop another pound this week. I installed the "Lose It" app on my phone last week, and I think it's helping me with my eating goals. I'm going to the YMCA three times a week. I really need to add in some weights. That's pretty hard because I hate weights. So boring. Bible Reading is going well. Haven't even touched the manuscript and I don't care. Looking forward to February: Finish my Biology Units and prepare for the CLEP test in Mid March. Continue doing well in my classes. Lose 5 pounds in Feb. Add a 10 minutes weights routine three days a week? Ugh. I hate the thought. But continue with tracking the calories. Look at my manuscript for 30 minutes once a week. I bet this blooms into more time, but we'll see. My dd is expecting baby #2 on Feb 22, so that could blow everything apart. She will need help with her 20 month old and I can't get anything done when he's around. Attend the anniversary/birthday celebration at my church.
  23. Started bright and early. Fixed up my coffee pod in my single serve machine. Went to dress as it brewed. Forgot to put the cup under it so my coffee was all over the counter when I came back. went to fabric store and went to check out. Forgot to go by the cutting table to cut my lengths of fabric. Been buying fabric for almost 30 years. reprimanded my dd for taking my phone. While my phone was in my hand. im going to bed now. This day needs to end.
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