Mom25girls Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 :grouphug: Praying for all of your requests and that you will feel an overwhelming sense of peace. I'm really sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Oh, I'm so sorry!!! :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mbelle Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Sorry to hear about your loss. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Katy Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:Will be praying that everyone upset about the decision regarding your son calm down or at least keep their mouths shut. And for you to have the strength and perfect words to get them to shut up about it if they don't. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jjeepa Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 :grouphug: So sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scrapbookbuzz Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 I know this has been a difficult situation for you and it's not quite over. I'll pray for you especially as this brings you some resolution even while others have difficulty wrapping their heads around the situation. I think the decision you and your son made shows great wisdom rather than a knee-jerk reaction. I don't mean to sound harsh, but a funeral is for the living and is one instance in a lifetime. Your son's exams can affect much more than just this one moment in time. I'm proud of you! :hurray: 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 (hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnE-girl Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Praying for peace for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amy in NH Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Condolences. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Hugs and prayers Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Whew. I am glad your rollercoaster has paused. Your relatives will soon find something else to focus on besides your college lad. Its their way of grieving. I hope your mom can heal physically quickly. Peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
heartlikealion Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Seasider Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Ah, faith. So many thoughts. This day needed to come for you, and while the funeral will be a challenge, it marks the end of a hard long season. You and your college age son are absolutely making the right decision about him sitting his exams. He's the future. Let it be bright. Don't discount the many mixed feelings you will experience as you bury your father. And don't feel guilty about a single one of them. Just feel them, and let them pass. I will pray for the next week's events and for your family in the months ahead as you work through arrangements for your mother. (((Many hugs))) 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 So sad :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 I think the verse "blessed are they who mourn, for they shall be comforted" applies just as truthfully when the mourning is over not so much the death of a loved one as over broken hearts and broken lives and broken relationships. Lovely and true. Thank you for saying this, maize. Your words bring comfort to more than just Faith. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 I hope the funeral and stressful time passes quickly for you. They hold no control over you and your son. You're making the right decisions. Stay strong and let them rant without even listening. Because they hold no control over you. :grouphug: 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aras Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Thinking of you, sorry this has been so horrible for so long. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melmichigan Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 This has been such a long journey for your family, I'm glad to hear that it is finally over. I'm glad that you were able to be there at the end, so that you will never question that in the future. I hope that you find closure and are able to move forward with some peace. You will be in my thoughts through the coming weeks. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AimeeM Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 I am so grateful for the peace you all feel. And I hope the annoying relatives don't stick around long :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
displace Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Hugs and prayers Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm so sorry. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lorien Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 I've been following your story and am sorry for all you've been through. 💠Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 :grouphug: Don't worry about your son missing the funeral. It is 100% understandable and your family will eventually realize that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reefgazer Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 I'm sorry for your loss, Faith. I hope this next week passes without too much difficulty. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 I'm thankful this chapter is drawing to a close for your family. I'm sorry it's been so, so hard :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MysteryJen Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 I am sorry for your loss. You and your son are doing the right thing. Sent from my LG-H345 using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Granny_Weatherwax Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 (edited) I'm sorry for your loss. :grouphug: I wish I could do something tangible to help you and your family. Edited April 20, 2017 by Scoutermom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corraleno Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Sending you love and strength :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greta Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I am happy that your father's passing was peaceful and I will be praying for you, your son, and your family to have peace. This long hard road is almost over and I fully support you and your son's decision about his tests. My father who I loved so much and was a very good father passed away while I was camping with the Girl Scouts in the winter (I was 13). I came home and promptly got strep throat. I was still contagious and had a high fever when my father's service was held at the funeral home. I couldn't go because there were going to be so many elderly people there and I didn't want to cause anyone else to get sick (and potentially die). Fortunately, my family thought I was making the right decision and I don't think anyone gave my mother grief. And neither I nor my children could go to my MIL's funeral because we not only couldn't afford tickets for more than my husband but I was 7.5 months pregnant and couldn't travel like that and the house dh would stay at would be unsafe for my kids even if he could afford to take them. As others said, funerals are for the living. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: again and thoughts and prayers for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halftime Hope Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Faith, I'm not around much anymore but have "known" you since you all bought and started that little remodel/rebuild project. :-) Many years! I wish you the blessing of comfort and peace, and the grace to continue to be the amazing daughter and sister you've been, and the stalwart, protective mama you are, doing what is best for your kids. Several other posters have echoed what is in my heart regarding your son: his future is more important than the feelings of relatives. If he is unaware of the drama, that would be a good thing! Afterward, he can call or write a heartfelt note that would convey his regard for his grandfather and grandmother, even if he has to dig deep to find some way to honor them. Prayers going up for you and yours! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Very sorry for your loss. Your son is doing the rightest thing. There is no decision more difficult that the conflict of two right things. It's worse than the lesser of two evils. Sometimes people displace their grief into anger at times like this, and that can cause rifts that last a very long time. I hope that instead your family will be able to extend grace. You all are in my prayers. Hugs to you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Prayers and hugs. I didn't attended my grandmother's funeral. I was on vacation with my dh and DC. My mom said not to cancel my vacation, so I didn't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 (edited) :grouphug: and Prayers. Edited May 7, 2017 by _ -_- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 (edited) Faith, I know this has been a hard road. I am not sure I can even imagine all the conflicting feelings at his passing. Best wishes to your ds on his exam! Setting boundaries with family is bound to ruffle some feathers. I would have come to the same decision. I hope your mother can finally embark on a path of healing as well. :grouphug: Edited April 20, 2017 by Liz CA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 (edited) I'm sorry for your loss. May the upcoming days be peaceful for your family. Edited April 20, 2017 by Kinsa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ashfern Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Sorry for your loss. :grouphug: Praying for strength, tolerance, and wisdom as you deal with your aunts..... and for good exams for your son. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
debinindy Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Hugs and peace to you. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 I am deeply sorry for your loss. I really hope you will have a lovely summer of restoration when this is over. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilaclady Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 So sorry for your loss Faith and praying that you find resolution with the family issues ((((hugs))))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idnib Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Faith, I'm sorry for your loss but I'm glad you're out of that difficult stasis. Sending good thoughts from far away. You already know this, but you're doing the right thing with your son and his exams. Ignore the people who think things have to be a certain way and who seek to control the actions of others to conform to their subjective standards. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hen Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 so sorry for your loss. praying for peace for all of your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Peace to your family and hugs for enduring family fallout. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 I'm sorry. I hope the drama ends up bring minimal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 :grouphug: Praying for peace for you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted April 20, 2017 Share Posted April 20, 2017 Hugs hugs hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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