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  1. This. We love dogs and have two ourselves - but I’ll admit I do NOT care for the puppy stage. And regardless of what your DH says, you will absolutely know the puppy is there. I would only do it with the contingency that the pup remain crated, with the exception of leashed walks. TBF, bringing a new puppy to a big family gathering for days at a time is going to stress the puppy out at least as much as it stresses you out.
  2. Our 17 year old pet sits in our neighborhood frequently. She is typically paid around $20 day — and these are adult, housebroken pets. I would imagine puppies would be quite a bit more.
  3. Sounds more like a language processing problem than adhd — to me. We have one dx’d adhd; two ASD. Our asd kiddos have receptive language processing issues. And our adhd dyslexic has auditory processing disorder. Caveman speak 😄
  4. I absolutely see the value of their contributions — but I never would have thought it necessary (for even only the sake of etiquette) to invite my parents’ friends and dh’s parents’ friends to our wedding — unless we were also close to them and considered them friends or family. Had we done so, the guest list would have been, well, insane.
  5. I live this so freakin hard right now. Our subdivision is being absolutely terrorized by Porch Thieves this year. I mean, it’s truly been awful. Going through mailboxes, too. And most of us have cameras attached to our front doors and have footage — but he isn’t an idiot and has obviously staked out best angles. I want a glitter bomb
  6. I'm really sorry you're going through this. Trust me -- I get it from your side. DH has one much younger sibling (11 year age difference) -- and the younger sibling was very spotty about "being around" when FIL was ill and going through hospice/long-term care. To such an extreme that I was the point of contact for his care providers (even though DH and I live about 12 hours from where FIL lived -- and BIL lived only about 30 minutes from FIL). I was quite annoyed by it at the time. I adored my FIL and couldn't imagine that anybody wouldn't want to help care for him. But, the reality of the situation was just so much more complicated (something I can only see a couple years later). The relationship my DH had with his father is just entirely different than the relationship his brother had with their father. At the end of the day, each of them had very different childhoods -- even if they were under the same roof and had the same parents. Or, rather, each of them viewed their upbringing differently, even if it actually didn't differ much at all. Does that make any sense? It certainly affected how much (time, actual energy, emotional energy) each was willing to put into my FIL when push came to shove. I have no idea if any of this applies to your BIL, so feel free to stop reading if it doesn't, lol. To sum it up, BIL had little emotional investment in his father; whereas DH had a ton. That -- by itself -- doesn't mean that BIL is a bad (or, as I thought at the time, lazy) person. Just because somebody is technically related to you doesn't necessarily mean that you're emotionally invested. I've experienced it with many of my own relatives. I'm sure there are those in my family who lament on the fact that I choose to have nothing to do with certain *close* relatives. Actually, I know there are, because a couple of them have mentioned it to me. Sometimes I have my own reasons -- and sometimes I just do not have an emotional attachment to the family member being discussed. I'm sure it sounds cold, but I don't mean it to come across that way. I've seen (on this board and IRL) that many people seem completely perplexed at the very idea that a person wouldn't care much about a person who "shared their blood / dna," even if the only thing linking them is that -- and I guess I'm the opposite. How much emotional energy I'm willing to commit to a person has essentially nothing to do with the blood I share with them... and has everything to do with the relationship I have (or haven't) built with them. All of that to really just say that I would try not to judge too harshly your BIL in this situation. I know it's easier said than done. And, actually, I don't think my own advice is particularly realistic because, hey, I certainly judged (and still do) my own BIL for similar 😛 But, as I said above -- I loved my FIL and I was (emotionally) close to him, so it colored my opinion (and will continue to, for which I make no apologies) regarding how I believed everybody else should treat him.
  7. TAN homeschool is having a BOGO deal in their history and bible sets
  8. I’m in Greenville county (it’s a HUGE county, and made up of many, many smaller cities, so I’m not sure if you’re referring to Greenville city or the county as a whole). We live in the county, but in an outskirts city about 15-20 minutes from downtown Greenville (city). Our area is great — you get a lot of bang for your buck, house-wise. Prior to where we live now, we lived in downtown Greenville. There are pluses and minuses either way. Housing in downtown or Greenville “city” is much, much more costly for relatively much less house, so to speak. But, if you’d like to be just minutes from the children’s museum, art museums, etc., it may be worth it to you. I do miss that part ? However, the area I live in (I can PM you that info if you want) is very nice, seems to be where everybody is moving “to,” and if I want to get to downtown Greenville, it isn’t far at all jumping in the interstate. Im not super familiar with Spartanburg, other than that most people I know who do live there, come here or to downtown Greenville (or another city within Greenville county) for most events and homeschool related offerings, it seems. This area in general is very homeschool friendly. And if you’re faith aligned correctly (ours doesn’t, lol) there are dozens of active co ops and several private faith-based schools that offer dual enrollment for homeschooled kids. I think there are a couple cottage schools as well. If your faith doesn’t align, there are a couple great groups that are secular — but those tend to be for general support and occasional or informal hangouts (park days, field trips, etc.). I know of one formal secular co op in the area, but I can’t recommend it one way or another as we do not participate. A few of the faith or church based co ops do allow those who aren’t the same faith to join — typically with a signed understanding (from the parent) that the child will be taught (at co op) in accordance with the co op beliefs. There are several virtual public schools. K12, Connection, and I think Calvert. Dual enrollment at the local CC isn’t allowed until 17 (from what I was reading) — unless your kid attends one of the public magnet early college high schools. Sorry for typos. Mobile.
  9. I would do it in a heartbeat if it were an option for me. I researched it and everything — only to have my doctor (also a surgeon) tell me I wasn’t a candidate. There are some causes of bad vision (like mine) that aren’t correctable with lasik. I had never really asked WHY I had such horrible vision, as it had been something I’d lived with most of my life (vision started deteriorating pretty quickly around age 10 and I was legally blind with thick glasses shortly after; moving to contacts around age 13). So before he gets his heart set on it — have him consult with a specialist. I was pretty (really) disappointed and wished I had consulted about the cause before looking more into lasik.
  10. Not if I had other options (counselor, priest, etc.).
  11. Similar here. We're about 3 hours inland (Upstate), but considering the rain we've had today and are expected to continue to get for the next couple of days, I'm pretty worried about flooding when the hurricane does hit. Our house is on pretty high ground, but our backyard is already saturated and the only road in/out of our subdivision is definitely not on high ground, and has some already-angry looking water under the bridge. And despite the subdivision vomit that has come to our area, our main road is still somewhat rural and I worry about downed trees, etc. I'm going to the grocery store tomorrow and hoping that people haven't cleaned out the bread. And I'm going to call the pharmacy to see if they will refill a prescription two days early ? I'm not super hopeful about the bread situation, as it seems the locals clean it out of most stores at the slightest hint of inclement weather, but we'll see.
  12. For those of us with larger gaps in ages of students, I can see how it would be difficult to implement. My kids are 17, 9, and 6 (with the younger two being special needs). While typically studying similar strands in history, even if the two younger guys were neurotypical, it's too much of an age gap to really get a debate or any type of discussion (of the variety that would benefit elementary and high schoolers) from. OP, I've looked at it many times and I'm glad you asked. I always choose something else at the end of the day -- but it looks like a great idea in theory... if I had a small classroom of similar-in-age children.
  13. I've found grade level indicators useful for determining a general idea of expected proficiency needed for a group activity, class, or other activity -- even (or especially) in the homeschool world. If I'm looking at a class for my 9 year old and the classes for age indicate "third grade," I can safely assume that most of the children are reading fluently and it wouldn't be a good fit for my struggling-to-read son, for example. Children working at their own pace is all well and good, but I can see how it would be almost impossible to run an efficient academic-specific activity (just for example) without grade level. Grade levels indicate an approximate functioning level in a given subject, and without it I can imagine a lot of outrage from parents whose children meet the "age only" criteria, but aren't capable of working at the level needed to participate in the activity/class/whatever. <---- and I say this as Mom to three special needs kiddos, who can almost never participate in activities and classes with children "their age" (save one-off events and activities like group outings or simple meet ups). I'm grateful that grade levels were indicated for what my kids can't participate in -- it saves a lot of frustration and potential heartache on our end.
  14. Others have replied already, I'm sure, but I will say that my mother has to take benedryl when she visits us (she has dog allergies and we have a large, hairy German Shepherd). My mother visits from out of state and stays with us when she visits. The benedryl (even a small dose) makes her really drowsy, so I'd be prepared for that with your son. It does seem to help her allergy symptoms, but visits are very limited because -- frankly -- visits aren't all that pleasant for her when she's sleepy all day, I'd imagine.
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