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  1. The youngest would sleep in a toddler bed til age 5 or 6. My oldest will likely be out of the house in 4 or 5 years so we’ll probably have another bedroom available by the time he needs a regular sized bed.
  2. We want to get a bunk bed for the room my 3 yo and 11 yo share. Our almost 2 yo will eventually be in that room also. DH wants a twin over full so we can use it as a guest bed also. We do not have any other space for a guest bed. However, we very rarely have overnight guests other than my parents (maybe 2-3 times a year, usually a single person). My parents prefer to sleep on our couches and wouldn’t use a guest bed. DH also thinks the twin over fulls are sturdier than regular bunk beds, which would be a good thing if they are as my boys are wrecking machines. But the bedroom they share is on the small side, about 10x12, and it has a large dresser in it already, so a full bed would take up more of the limited floor space. Also, I think my boys would try to jump from the top bunk to the bottom with a twin over full. Is it worth getting a twin over full, or should we stick to a regular bunk bed?
  3. I’m having a hard time figuring out what reasonable screen time limits are for my 14 yo. She can easily spend 5 or 6 hrs a day on her tablet, between messaging friends, using nanowrimo, playing games, watching Netflix, etc. That's not even counting time spent listening to music, which involves a fair bit of screen time too due to time spend searching playlists for songs, switching between songs, finding new songs, etc. It’s nothing like the low-tech options we all grew up with which only involved switching out tapes or CDs and changing the radio station. I’ve been giving her an hour a day of free time on her tablet and leaving her messaging apps and music unblocked during daytime, non-school hours (so they don’t count toward her free time). But she’s been spending several hours a day messaging friends (not due to coronavirus as our schedule is very similar to the pre-coronavirus one we had) and I think that is excessive. She wants nanowrimo unblocked also. Even if I limit her to 1 hr of nano, 1 hr of messaging, 1 hr of free time, 1 hr of Netflix...that’s 4 hrs a day, not counting school screen time, and that’s just too much. What screen limits have you set (pre-coronavirus) with your younger teens?
  4. From what I've heard it's basically impossible to get the public schools here to do testing if your kid doesn't go to the school (actually it seems to be extremely difficult to get evals even if your kid goes to the schools). Maybe it could be forced with a lawyer, but by the time I spent the money for a lawyer it'd probably be close to the price of psych evals. Maybe I'll just wait til it gets to the point where I need more information to keep going with him and then push for evals. I don't need them now. He's already doing Barton with a tutor and I already make accomodations for him and he's doing fine. I think that at some point it'll be really helpful to know exactly what his issues are, but that's not right now.
  5. DH would never ask about that stuff because it has never crossed his mind that those could be issues.
  6. I’ve found a Barton tutoring place a few hours from us that does some testing for dyslexia and other things for a decent price. They don’t use the Barton tests but some others. I’m considering getting my 7 yo tested. I already know he’s dyslexic but it would be nice to have someone confirm it, and to have a piece of paper saying he’s dyslexic for DH. My main reason for doing testing would be for any additional information the testing would provide. This is my 4th kid with dyslexia and he appears to be the most severely dyslexic and also the glitchiest kid overall. I suspect he has pretty low working memory and processing speed, even compared to his dyslexic siblings. He’s also somewhat uncoordinated in general and seems to have some visual issues (tracking etc) though he has only been evaluated by an OT for that. The basic dyslexia screening they do includes the CTOPP and WIAT-3 subtests for early reading skills, word reading, pseudo-word decoding, alphabet writing fluency, spelling, sentence composition, and reading comprehension. They can add on the Developmental Test of Visual Processing and WIAT-3 subtests for listening comprehension and oral expression. What kind of useful information am I likely to get from these tests?
  7. My 11 yo somehow got his thumb jammed inside our hoverboard earlier this afternoon. Apparently he was touching the wheels while they were spinning (while sitting next to the hoverboard) and somehow his thumb got carried up between the wheel and the standing platform. The first joint of his thumb is quite bruised on the inside (palm side of hand) and somewhat swollen and he has a couple minor lacerations. He says it hurts too much to bend it and he can't grasp anything with it, but that it doesn't hurt unless he touches something with it. He also says the tip of his thumb is a bit numb. He tends to overreact big time to pain so it's difficult to to evaluate his injuries because of the drama involved. I'm debating about whether to take him to urgent care tonight or wait and see how it is tomorrow. Dh thinks we should splint it and wait and see. Is there a reason to go tonight vs waiting for tomorrow? We have 2 hrs til they close. I would have to take all 6 kids with me to urgent care as DH is working. Coronavirus is not really a concern here currently (14 cases total for a 60,000 person country) but urgent care may not be thrilled with me bringing that many people in.
  8. I have a few who most definitely fit the criteria for ADHD (not diagnosed cuz DH doesn't believe in such things). My most ADHD child is DS11 who was the most active kid I have ever seen from ages 1 to 5 or 6. When he was 6 mo old we attended an hour long event and he stood up on my lap holding my fingers and bounced himself up and down for the entire thing. He was very fast and constantly moving and climbing. Nothing ever wore him out. I think he was 5 or 6 before he made it through an entire meal without falling out of his chair repeatedly (and then only because we got one of those wobble seat cushions). I have since seen one other kid who is probably even a bit more active as a toddler/preschooler, and then my current 3 yo rivals DS11 for activity level. DS11 was also so incredibly impulsive. He was a runner, and a Houdini...nothing was ever enough childproofing to keep him out of stuff. He was (is) what I call a "more" child...louder, more dramatic, stronger, faster, more ingenious, just more of everything.
  9. I think things should open up on a state by state basis (area by area even), just as they shut down. I definitely think my state should open up. I don’t think people are going to comply well if the governor extends the shutdown again. We have less than 400 cases for the state and 7 deaths (Montana). They’re saying we’re already past our peak. I live in the 3rd largest county and there are 13 cases here. This is NOT worth the economic cost or disruption to lives cost here. If there’s a plan to open back up, it’s not being publicized. The current stay at home orders extend to the 24th. Use some caution, start slow, fine, but things need to open back up here. Dh's job has been affected (much less work) but is considered essential so he still goes to work. I don't know anyone who has had COVID. If things open back up I’ll encourage hand washing (though frankly it seems like a lost cause here...1 yo sucks his thumb and 7 yo picks his nose constantly, plus my 11 yo is always putting stuff in his mouth so chances are good someone would touch their nose or mouth before I could have them wash their hands) and use common sense but we’ll resume our normal life as much as we can. Everyone here is low risk and I am not particularly worried about it for us.
  10. I hope they will move toward doing this here in Montana (contact tracing and quarantine contacts). The latest projected estimates for numbers here said total deaths reduced from an estimated 280 to 22 (these are projections, current deaths at 6). Currently we have about 300 cases and have been in stay at home mode for 10 days. Schools never reopened after the first cases were diagnosed. I think we've flattened our curve and now the focus should shift to what can be reopened and how to keep things under control without destroying the economy. I am sure the governor will extend the stay at home order which currently ends on the 10th for another 2 weeks though.
  11. I am really struggling with depression. It's not really because of cv19 but the shutdowns have removed most of my coping helps (ie shopping while kids are at activities, going to the gym which had free daycare, sometimes having a sitter for the littles while we did school, taking the kids to a sitter one afternoon a week, having a weekend mostly free once or twice a month when my parents visited). It's starting to be nice enough to go to parks but tomorrow starts two weeks of shelter-in-place (in a state with 100 total cases) so no going to parks. I feel like this will never end. I understand flattening the curve and don't disagree with all the precautions here, but where does it end? What is to prevent this from stretching into months and months of everything closed and everyone locked down? Once the curve is flattened, what is the long-term plan for dealing with cv19? My kids are generally pretty awful behavior-wise but are being unbearably awful the last week or so. I have no hope that their behavior will ever improve and I feel certain things will only get worse as they get older and the little ones copy the older ones' behavior. I was ready to send them to school but now there's no possibility of that til September.
  12. We're probably spending less overall since I lost both my school-time sitters and my once-a-week sitter. We have been getting take-out more often. I go back and forth between thinking I should be careful in case DH's job take a big hit (he's working in the used car industry so pretty dependent on the economy overall, though he's unlikely to be out of work entirely), and thinking I should buy the things I really want in case I can't later.
  13. My 3rd, 5th, and 8th graders are using Teaching Textbooks for math this year. I want to switch to something non-computer-based next year. My 8th graders has been asking to use Saxon for years since that's what most of her friends use for math. Does Saxon generally work well for dyslexic kids?
  14. My 3rd, 5th, & 8th graders are using Teaching Textbooks this year. I want to switch to something non-computer-based for next year but am not sure what. It needs to be non-teacher intensive. I don't mind explaining something if they don't understand, but I can't be the one teaching all the math concepts. My 8th grader used CLE math for a couple years and it seemed decent, but they don't have high school math past Algebra I so I don't know if that would work for her. I'm a little afraid my boys will rebel against doing boring black and white math after T.T. Any other suggestions?
  15. No 2nd adult at home, but I'm ok with leaving the 11 yo or 9 yo at home alone for a short period of time. I've only done it a handful of times, mostly the 11 yo, but it's gone ok each time so far.
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