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Anne in CA

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  1. Being a home schooling mom was a huge part of my personal identity for seventeen years. It is still odd that that chapter of my life is over. Even after four years. My youngest went to public school high school, an extremely good one by any standards (people getting D's in her English class are welcome to tutor at UC Davis or Chico State, for instance), but I will always miss being a home school mom. If I go on the General Board I get very sad.
  2. I would google images of quilts with embroidered blocks and see what layouts you like. You may want to add space or you may want a border. Borders can be very wonky even for an experienced quilter, so keep that in mind. Also, if you are going to quilt this yourself do you have a plan to feed such a large quilt through your machine? It can be done, but requires a lot of planning and thought. You may want to pay someone to long arm it for you although that will not be cheap.
  3. My ds was a wrestler. The only way to REALLY get rid of ring worm is Clorox. Dab a small bit on the infected area twice a day. This is so much faster than any other treatment it is unreal.
  4. Cut them open, scoop them out, and use them for Thanksgiving centerpieces with a few flowers in them. Scooping them out could even be done by your older kiddo.
  5. I do remember! Happy birthday to Emily!
  6. We have a propane hot water heater and heater and when the power is out it is so nice to be cozy in our own space with plenty of heat and hot water, I can't even tell you...
  7. We just had a super active woman in our community have a 92nd birthday at the restaurant. She has made me laugh every time she has come in since we bought it. She is really fun. I HOPE to be her at 92, but who knows. I have a friend whose grandmother was living at home and taking good care of herself up to the age of 101, although she finally ran into some health problems this year. But it is hard when someone you love is not going to be there anymore.
  8. It is unlikely that Kay's mom will really go away. She will turn back up every time Kay really is doing well and cause trouble with unerring accuracy. That is what these sort of parents do. It's why I know there is a devil. But I am sorry about Kay. You still need to kindly keep your boundaries, because during times of stress kids test them more and they need you to be firm. They need that a lot, as much as they need kindness.
  9. She really does need to be able to use these skills positively. A friend whose dd was/ is like this was helped a lot with sports. Being on teams really helped her a lot. Positive coaching that there is a time and place to be in charge helped a little. I was like this to a point (although I considered myself wayyyy too important to influence the play of my younger siblings, lol), and people just squished it out of me and I had a couple of lonely elementary school years before I made positive changes. That may not work for a home schooled child, and probably it doesn't work for lots of public school children either.
  10. My own dh likes things out where he can see them. It gets visually stressful and he has a hard time understanding my need for a tidy restful space. We had a huge blowout several years ago over some junky shelves he put in our formal living room for his music mess. We fought for a day, he finally acknowledged there were other places for the mess, he moved it before he went to work on Monday and I moved it, which I told him I would do with a hatchet, lol. I needed that room to have a peaceful cup of tea in from time to time. It was not acceptable for him to start to encroach there. He actually improved a lot after that and we moved where he could put his stuff in the basement and a shop. We filled FOUR huge dumpsters when we moved here.
  11. That bothers me A LOT. The social worker not being honest. A child at Katy's house got abused because the social worker was not honest. That is really scary to me.
  12. That would annoy me too. I have a terrible time with payment companies wanted to change our payment systems for the restaurant. UMMMM NOOOOO. We did the research, we have the best company for us. No! But they call constantly and right during lunch rush too, tying up the phone for to go orders.
  13. My grandmother was a money stasher. She used to freeze money ins plastic inside containers of freezer jam. When she passed away we had to unthaw all the jam to get it out, lol.
  14. The fastest police response time here is 45 minutes away. That is when things go perfectly. Rural life is not Mayberry. The nearest metropolitan area to me is a drop off point for sex offenders with a very high crime rate. Even though I live rural, there have been times we have been threatened. I WILL shoot someone to protect dd.
  15. Of course I would be deeply ashamed if one of my children did such a thing. I would feel like a failure as a parent. But the whole, village to raise a child thing is real, and kids don't live in a vacuum and they interact with the world, at school, in the community, online, and they may become people you didn't raise them to be even if the young person is neurotypical in every way. This is just awful, I feel so sad for the young people involved who think the suffering of others is funny. They don't even know they are broken. Probably broken beyond repair, but maybe not, I hope.
  16. Honestly, this is a challenge. I accept and donate. I would not feel bad at all to say I didn't want a superhero blanket as a decoration in my living room, but for many years my MIL spent money she didn't really have on stuff I would never have wanted and mostly I donated it and moved on.
  17. That's the way it is here, and the way it was where I was growing up. I am simply not afraid of guns. I am cautious of them. Right now we have a loaded gun on dh's nightstand. The safety is on and I am not worried about it. If my dd was suicidal, I would make him lock it in the safe, but I am more worried about our personal safety than that.
  18. I don't think it is shallow to not want to marry someone with health issues. Very few people are born caregivers and that is what you are asking of someone. Not to mention the chunk of change a person's partner will be spending of medical care. It's huge sometimes. Asthma itself doesn't seem so bad until you look at the whole picture... we bought our restaurant from a couple who was extremely overweight and the man had asthma and couldn't work a lot of the time, so he had to close the restaurant on his bad days and so he couldn't sell it to anyone who needed to take out a loan because it didn't show enough income. He lost at least a 100k of the price of the restaurant for his asthma, not to mention all the income he lost over the nine years he had it when he couldn't be open, also, he couldn't afford regular medical care and had to go to Mexico for medical care... ect. Lost income from an illness can be a big deal. The cost of care can be a big deal. My oldest child is finally losing weight after coming to the conclusion that she wouldn't get married or have a good life with the health problems that were coming for being overweight. For years she tried to delude herself into thinking that her health problems were not due to being 100lb overweight, but lots of those health problems are going away now that she is losing the weight, and she is dating someone nice with a good income who wants to marry her. She did other work on herself in the last couple of years to make herself better also, things I didn't think she would ever do when she had reached the age of 26 and was not growing up, but at 28 she started really being responsible, and I am really proud of her.
  19. I would love to go to Yellowstone again, and really explore it. There is just so much there! Other than that The PNW has many options that are going to be cool. You might go the Wallowa Lake in north eastern Oregon. So beautiful and cool. Edited to add, Lake Chalan in Washington is cool and beautiful in August.
  20. I'm going to have nightmares about this for a while. The gift that keeps on giving!
  21. I am so, so sorry. I hope she is found, I hope no one is hurt, I hope she gets the help she needs. Praying for you. That would scare the tar out of me.
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