G5052 Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 My husband has had horrific health problems for over decade. It has been quite a rollercoaster of crises. And his mental health has gotten progressively worse. This last year has been-over-the-top. There have been horrible outbursts and then he doesn't remember them. I've begged and pleaded with him to be evaluated. We had a horrible, horrible weekend of him alternately talking about how he's losing his mind and blaming us. Then he decided that he is losing his mind so badly that we went to the ER, and they did a CT scan and sent us home with a psychiatric crisis. I guess I can't blame them. They're pretty limited on what they can do. He decided to move out, and by then I was shot. I told him go ahead. He's been threatening that for months. So he packed up and left. I have his keys, and we even signed a separation statement as recommended by the lawyer I saw several months ago. He called me just awhile ago and made sure I knew that he had arrived safely and gave me his room number. I told him that I hope that he still goes to his Tuesday appointment which was to be a dementia evaluation, but that I am not coming. I don't know what to pray for here but I am TIRED. The teens and I are doing fine. The therapist we've been seeing completely predicted this, and we'll go see her sometime this week or the next. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: This all must be very draining and difficult. I wish there were ways we could make it better, but at least know we're here for you to vent to and hold on to. 12 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I am so sorry. You have been a stalwart companion under unimaginably difficult circumstances. I will pray for peace and safety all around. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laundrycrisis Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: I am sorry you are going through this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: So sorry that you are going through this, can't begin to imagine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 That sounds draining and awful. I'm so sorry :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Diane in CO Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I'm so sorry to hear this! Many hugs to you and your children. I will keep your family in my thoughts and prayers. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Storygirl Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm so sorry. I hope he goes to his appointment. Take care of yourself as best you can. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emmaluv+2more Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I can't say I know how you are feeling, but I went through a marriage, separation and divorce with a man who had mental health issues. I do know it isn't fun, it isn't easy and it can have a severe impact on the people around him. So take care and :grouphug:. And know that you aren't alone. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiguirre Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greta Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
G5052 Posted February 27, 2017 Author Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: This all must be very draining and difficult. I wish there were ways we could make it better, but at least know we're here for you to vent to and hold on to. Yes, we have a lot of support. I called several local friends. My beloved aunt actually called as we were preparing to go to the ER because she had a "feeling" that it was a very bad day for me. Tonight she listened to the whole story and offered to fly out, but it's a long flight for an 80 y.o. I told her not to at this point. 12 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kalypso Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I'm so sorry. I'll pray for you and your family. As others have already said, we are here if you need to talk or to vent, or if there is anything else we can do to help you. I think it took a lot of courage on your part to let him leave, and right now, it sounds like it's the best option for you and your kids. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I'm so sorry for what you're going through. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crimson Wife Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Dementia can make people mean and it's so hard to watch that happen to someone you care about. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RoughCollie Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Excelsior! Academy Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I'm sorry. I pray that he goes to his evaluation and you get some answers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reefgazer Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I'm so sorry for these hard times for you; I hope things improve for you both. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 Oh hon. I'm so sorry. Soooo not what anyone had in mind... (((You))). (((Yours))). (((DH))) Mercy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 It does sound utterly draining. When you cannot pray, we can pray for you. You and your family are in my prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frogger Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corraleno Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lauraw4321 Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 This sounds incredibly difficult. I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 ((Hugs)) Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 Living with a spouse with mental health issues is very very difficult. Lots of prayers for you and your kids. <3 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 Yes, we have a lot of support. I called several local friends. My beloved aunt actually called as we were preparing to go to the ER because she had a "feeling" that it was a very bad day for me. Tonight she listened to the whole story and offered to fly out, but it's a long flight for an 80 y.o. I told her not to at this point. What a sweet aunt! I am so sorry for your troubles. I feel terrible for all of you. But I know you must feel peaceful to have the drama stop for now. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I'm so sorry, this is horrible. Hugs to you. I wish we could do more. Will pray, for sure. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 Helping someone who has mental health problems AND possibly dementia must be unbelievably hard. I am sending strength and peace to you and your kids. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Denise in IN Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I'm so sorry you're having to go through this. Praying that you will continue to have courage and wisdom to make decisions for what is best for you and your kids, and also praying that your dh can find some help. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 Sometimes life gives us too much to handle. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Innisfree Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I am so sorry. How very awful. Sending hugs and good thoughts to all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I am glad you have support from family and access to professional help as well. I am sorry it has been such a difficult road. Hopefully he will get some help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lori D. Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: oh, I am so, so very sorry! Holding you all in prayer. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 (hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammi K Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 SUch a terrible thing for your whole family. Prayers for peace and comfort as you work toward your futre. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pawz4me Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Guest Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 I am so sorry. That is heartbreaking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted February 27, 2017 Share Posted February 27, 2017 A million hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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