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Everything posted by Rosie_0801
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(((hugs)))
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From what I see, it depends how much time they spend being raised by their parents v the internet.
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They certainly don't. We had an exchange student killed here a couple of years back, on her way home from class, while she was talking on her phone.
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Interoception clues may give you some hints about what you really do and don't want.
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My nearly 17yo has been taking care of most things for herself for the past couple of years. Her uncle gives her an allowance to cover transport and fees for her extra curriculars, so she manages all that. Where she lives is safe enough for her to get herself around town. She arrives early for activities in winter so she's inside by dark and he's back from work by the time she needs picking up. Her skills deteriorate when she's with her old mum, of course, because that's how it is with mothers. Most of her deficits are the sort of executive function issues one doesn't really master until there is no back up adult around. She knows how to do each task separately, but it isn't routine to manage all of them yet. She'd be fine on her own as long as nothing especially crazy happened.
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A jug of hot water at night.
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Or even sleep deprivation, and are there teenagers anywhere who aren't sleep deprived?
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"Figure it out" works for the things one can figure out, but we all have things we can't figure out. Heck, most of us have things we can't figure out even when someone is explaining to us very nicely a zillion times. We certainly can't figure out things we haven't even heard of yet and we can't google how to achieve impossible things. Nobody gets far without investment.
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Every now and then Youtube thinks I should need prenatal vitamins, so I tell it I have no one to have babies with and it gives me ads for meeting singles. Single Russian ladies, single Asian ladies, single Christian ladies, single specific Asian nationality ladies, none of whom are suitable for the job seeing how I'm not a bloke. I am offered prenatal vitamins for women and men just in case though.
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Well, sounds like Mother is reaping what she's sown. Nothing you can do about that, eh? I mean, if it were really about your son, she could have said "If he's a gentleman he'll wait until you've finished high school" or something.
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"Well, I don't know what you should do, but I don't want to destroy my relationship with my kid because I would be so very miserable if they stopped talking to me or moved out before they could really afford it, or <insert any other idea that they might feel they don't want to happen but probably will if they keep being pushy>" *shrug*
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Have you ever successfully overcome an inhibition?
Rosie_0801 replied to Sunshine State Sue's topic in The Chat Board
Sure. It occurred to me that I didn't need to feel ridiculous in front of people who were too busy stressing about their own stuff to notice. I still don't enjoy doing those sorts of things, but dislike isn't the same as fear. My Nan did too. My grandfather had inadvertently trained the sociability and independence out of her, so after he died, when I bought her an Auslan class in the city, she was excited, then baulked at the door. I opened it, pushed her in and she came back out at the end totally thrilled with life, and a few weeks later, when I couldn't escort her, she climbed right on the train all by herself (she'd been afraid of that too) and took herself to class. The next I heard she was top of her class and telling me her dog was looking at her funny when she practiced in the mirror. When she finished, her certificate was framed and in pride of place on her telly until she moved away. The aunts all said she wouldn't do it, but she did. -
Article 17 of the Declaration of Human Rights: Everyone has the right to own property alone as well as in association with others. Apparently it is a right. A theoretical sort of right anyway. As to the rest of your quote here, I agree. Back in the day, our federal government sold off public housing for exactly those reasons. That was great and would've worked well a few more times if only successive governments had built more.
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People can buy me expensive cheese any time they like...
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Hon, if your plan is to do what you want to do, just as you have been, you don't need to call and tell her so. All that'll do is open you to attack.
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The most likely thing that will happen if you don't call on Sunday nights is she'll backstab you, and probably the Monday following the second Sunday she'll ring and scream at you for being a liar. You are being villainised because she is a mean person, she likes being the victim and you are an easy target because you're nice.
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Oh no. Haven't you watched 'The Castle?" 😂 I read The Barefoot Investor's newsletter and some lady wrote in the other month foaming at the mouth about some policy change that was going to penalise poor people like her mum who only has 4 million in super. He pointed out that most people barely have enough to cover their property taxes for the year and her mum is right up there in the 1%. I'll bet it was more than 99% of his subscribers who had a nice old laugh at that.
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Changing laws, ordinances, policies and such would limit people's rights. Public housing would require taxes, and taxes are an infringement of rights. Charity would require wealthy people to choose to give away money, and we can see that isn't sufficient, plus public pressure for them to do more would be an infringement of their right not to. Not sure what else is left. Other than a discussion of what does or doesn't count as a right.
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You sound like my daughter! When she was about 9 (give or take) I took her on a trip to see caves in the neighbouring state for her birthday, and on the way home she made me detour to a tiny little town in the middle of nowhere because one of our prime ministers had been born there. 😂
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Cost of building materials is a huge problem here. I don't know about the US, of course.
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Trauma is pretty expensive. Unstable housing means traumatised adults, traumatised children that grow up into traumatised adults... Everyone needs to make money somehow, but there is a certain point (where exactly we could all argue about forever) where people who live in safety don't need more. Homelessness and hopelessness aren't rights that need protecting.
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It sure is a lot. ((hugs))
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People have to talk about something or there's no relationship. Too few of those and one gets depressed. I think an adult in their 20's or 30's needs to be responsible for accepting that this is the sort of thing one's parents will talk about, and for employing enough mental hygiene that they don't turn a family update into some sort of conglomeration person to compare themselves to. So Jane had a baby *and* Billie got a promotion *and* Tina went on holiday *and* Rowan renovated their bathroom. No single person had a baby, got a promotion, renovated the bathroom *and* went to Fiji all in the few weeks since you last spoke to your folks. (This obviously doesn't mean gushing about babies to people who've had miscarriages, promotions to people who just got laid off, renovations to people who are getting evicted. That's just tactless.)