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  1. Innisfree

    Losing another sister...

    I'm so sorry. Holding you and your sister in my thoughts.
  2. The original colonies had long, separate histories and cultures before the Revolution and before the Constitution. Think of the different countries in Europe uniting into the European Union: obviously the divisions there are longer and deeper, but the thought process was similar. There were disagreements over how much power and authority should be given to the federal government as opposed to left to the states. States were very unwilling to sacrifice local control, because different regions had different needs, histories, cultures and resources. The eventual decision left all powers not specifically awarded to the federal government as belonging to the states; hence, the various later strong feelings over the concept of states' rights. This is all long ago, but state identities remain strong and distinct. Voter decisions in states may be quite different, and the impulse to keep control over many issues at state level remains powerful.
  3. Innisfree

    What is this mystery plant?

    Something in the mint family, like maybe coleus, was my thought too. Does it have a square stem? You can feel the "corners" if it does.
  4. Years ago, there were a couple of quiverful families who attended our local pool. This was before I was homeschooling, but I was curious, and I got to talking with one of the moms one day. She was very open about not registering. I got the feeling that it was actually a point of pride for her: the government has no business being involved in their family was the general theme. She had no idea who I was, other than just another mom hanging around the pool. So I know some people are not exactly hiding this choice. Personally, I think I like the idea of newspapers identifying whether families are following state laws if the matter comes up. I might privately consider careful, diligent unregistered people who teach their own children to be homeschoolers, but for public discussion, I think I come down on the side of not identifying them that way unless they are following the local laws.
  5. Innisfree

    Busch Gardens (Williamsburg) experts...

    Well, I have very little experience of Busch Gardens in particular, but we've generally found spring and fall are by far the most comfortable times to visit the area. Spring tends to have lots of school groups travelling to the area, so I'd argue for fall. Still a few school groups, but not as many, and cooler past September. I'm not sure what BG's hours are like then, though. eta: At least in Colonial Williamsburg, crowds drop off very fast once public schools open at the end of August. I'd assume the same would be true at Busch Gardens, but maybe they're only open on weekends then, so still crowded.
  6. Innisfree

    Never mind.

    Okay. For what it's worth, I know you mean well, and you already know what I think. If you really want to provide a good outdoor shelter, make it a heated, air conditioned shed or outbuilding which will be comfortable, safe and suitable for your girls to spend time in, too. Maybe a study space. Then they can really hang out with the dog, regardless of weather. It still won't be as good as being in the house, but far better than a doghouse arrangement. Editing to add, also, think about a middle-aged rescue dog for whom this situation might be an improvement on the alternatives, rather than a young german shepherd. Good dogs are out there, they just take some effort to find. And... Editing again... It is not treating a dog like a person. It's treating a dog like a dog. The nature of dogs is to be social and highly focused on interaction with their humans. In the past, when dogs spent more time outside, they were alongside people who worked outside too.
  7. Innisfree

    Never mind.

    I think this is sufficiently important for you to ask yourself whether getting the kids a dog is worth making other living arrangements. Adults who have veto power over living arrangements deserve respect. Kids have needs and passionate desires. Animals have needs which deserve respect, too. If the three can't fit together, consider which needs to be shifted. But not at the expense of a vulnerable animal. Which is more important, your need to maintain this living arrangement or your kids' desire for a dog? Either one would be a more valid place to take a stand than getting a dog but leaving it outside.
  8. Innisfree

    Never mind.

    Agreeing with everyone else. Making a dog live outside, away from its people is really not fair to the dog, unless its pack is really the livestock it guards. I think you've said you work full time, right? And your kids have various activities. Under that scenario, you'd be stretched to provide enough time for a young dog even if it lived inside. A german shepherd needs a lot of exercise and training. But you might be able to manage it, especially with some doggy day care, if the dog lived inside. Then it could cuddle with kids while they study and sleep. But outside? You're talking about making a highly intelligent, highly social animal live a lonely, boring life. It will develop behavior problems, because its basic needs cannot be met in that scenario. Not a good lesson for your kids, not a good thing to do to a dog. Also, the question of the dog's lifespan is important. What will happen to the dog when it is, what, six years old and the kids go off to college? I know you'd provide basic care, but dogs need more than that.
  9. Thanks, everyone. You're making me feel better about the possibilities here.
  10. This is exactly what I'd like to do. Maybe I just need to hear that it's okay as an option.
  11. The legal state requirements for homeschool do not define any particular standards for graduation. Homeschoolers must either pass yearly tests or show adequate progress in a portfolio review, but there are no particular standards outlined for that portfolio. So, assume that the standards for public school students to graduate are clear and at least somewhat rigorous, but the standards for homeschool *graduation* are not defined at all. The only standard is "adequate progress", which I know is interpreted very differently by different homeschoolers. The community college does not require high school graduation of any sort. They have remedial courses for those who need it, and test to place people at the proper level. So, the only question really is what standards I decide I ought to enforce. It's hard to imagine telling dd she isn't going to qualify for a standard diploma. But I also don't want to award one of it's not appropriate. This is purely theoretical at the moment, but she's approaching eighth grade, so a trajectory is visible which will require some hard decisions.
  12. Yes, our locality, and maybe state, does require the algebra 2. This is where we will be throughout her school years. What I'm trying to figure out is whether that means, assuming we continue to homeschool, we need to be just as strict.
  13. For example, if local public school students are required to do math through Algebra 2, would you feel that you could not award your student a standard diploma without passing Algebra 2? Assume multiple documented disabilities which affect academic performance, but not intellectual disability. Not 2e, though, either. Further education goals would be some community college for career certifications or, as a stretch, maybe an AA degree some day, but not a typical 4-year college plan. Honestly, though, I could see this kid finding a basic job after high school and continuing with that long-term. I'm trying to figure out where we'll be several years down the road, so maybe the algebra will end up being manageable. But if not, or if, say, typical lab sciences turn out to not be something we can do, how much flexibility is generally accepted for homeschoolers? I know that in practice, there's a huge range. But I'm trying to figure out what is responsible and moral. I think the best path for this student would be a firm grounding in math fundamentals and personal finance math, and more time spent on work experience and addressing areas which are weak because of the disabilities. I can do that. But at what point does it mean issuing some sort of non-standard diploma?
  14. Innisfree

    Aging parents - this is hard. Anyone else?

    Yep. I had this exactly. It does last for years, and it is very, very hard. I still tend to shy away from threads like this-- I think I'm traumatized, lol. For me, both parents needed significant help, in different ways, for years. My mother had dementia, with accompanying hallucinations which were beyond awful. My father was lucid, but in pain and physical decline. My toddler was an undiagnosed force of nature, who was a fifth grader by the time they died. They finally died nine months apart, with dd's diagnosis coming in between. It was ... quite a year. I'm sorry you are dealing with this. It changes us, I think. I know what you mean about never being able to do enough. There is always more they need. But then, finally, there isn't anything more you can do, and you wish you could.
  15. Sure, I essentially agree with you. I did say the onus is on the parents to check the email. Expecting that on a daily basis is reasonable, as is calling g them at work or wherever if they haven't responded. The only reservation I had was about shaming them publicly in a meeting. I guess I was trying to say that yes, you are right, but if that isn't working, maybe the folders or something else would. I can see that in your situation the folders would not be a solution
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