barnwife Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 Even just typing that hurts my heart. He has been fighting cancer for about 15 months. I know we are very, very lucky that he made it this far after diagnosis. And yet it still sucks. It's still hard. Oh, and there's one more thing. My FIL's funeral is next week. His death was completely unexpected. Sometimes life isn't just hard; it's really, really, really hard. Eternal rest grant unto them and let perpetual light shine upon them. (We are about to leave so I may not check this post for a while, but just getting this out here is helping me grieve.) 26 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JIN MOUSA Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 That is really, really hard. (hugs) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selkie Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I am so sorry. Hugs to you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zebra Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I'm so very sorry. You're not going to believe this, but 8 years ago my FIL died unexpectedly in a car accident, and 12 hours later my dad died in hospice. It was a shocking and difficult time in my life. I could not wrap my head around it at the time. In the morning I had to wake my 6 year old dd up and try to explain the whole thing to her. DH and I were spent after dealing with my dad's illness for 18 months. And yes I was so lucky to have my dad that long, but still, it's just such a draining situation to find yourself in. I wish I had better advice, but just keep on keeping on, one minute at a time. Try to not get overwhelmed by the situation. I got through it, and you will too. Great big, huge, cyber hugs to you. 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lavender's green Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I'm sorry for your losses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 So sorry for your loss. Many (hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann.without.an.e Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 That is so much loss at one time. (((Hugs))) to you and your DH. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I’m so sorry. That’s a lot of loss to process. (Hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I'm so sorry for your losses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tess in the Burbs Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 25 minutes ago, barnwife said: Even just typing that hurts my heart. He has been fighting cancer for about 15 months. I know we are very, very lucky that he made it this far after diagnosis. And yet it still sucks. It's still hard. Oh, and there's one more thing. My FIL's funeral is next week. His death was completely unexpected. Sometimes life isn't just hard; it's really, really, really hard. Eternal rest grant unto them and let perpetual light shine upon them. (We are about to leave so I may not check this post for a while, but just getting this out here is helping me grieve.) Yes, sometimes life is super hard. My dad died suddenly in May. We were going to visit him in July. My sister fell off the wagon yet again and got into trouble with the law. My stepdad was put into hospice on father's day...and my mom fell and had a subdural hematoma. Stepdad died while she was in ICU unconscious. Dh's grandma died the next day. Mom was in hospital 5 weeks. We finally did my stepdad's funeral. His best friend died the next day. I am over funerals at the moment. I am over estates and wills and family drama. I have been gone over 10 weeks this summer handling it all. Been home 24 hours and summer is almost over. It's almost like a dream. But then all the emotions come rolling in. Life is hard. But sometimes it's beyond hard. Sorry for your multiple losses. I completely understand how you feel right now. Hang in there. 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TechWife Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I'm so very sorry for your losses. I lost both of my parents within seven weeks of each other - there are no words. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ashfern Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I'm so sorry for your losses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I am so sorry, barnwife. I’ll pray for your whole family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 50 minutes ago, barnwife said: Even just typing that hurts my heart. He has been fighting cancer for about 15 months. I know we are very, very lucky that he made it this far after diagnosis. And yet it still sucks. It's still hard. Oh, and there's one more thing. My FIL's funeral is next week. His death was completely unexpected. Sometimes life isn't just hard; it's really, really, really hard. Eternal rest grant unto them and let perpetual light shine upon them. (We are about to leave so I may not check this post for a while, but just getting this out here is helping me grieve.) I am so sorry for your loss Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 41 minutes ago, Zebra said: I'm so very sorry. You're not going to believe this, but 8 years ago my FIL died unexpectedly in a car accident, and 12 hours later my dad died in hospice. It was a shocking and difficult time in my life. I could not wrap my head around it at the time. In the morning I had to wake my 6 year old dd up and try to explain the whole thing to her. DH and I were spent after dealing with my dad's illness for 18 months. And yes I was so lucky to have my dad that long, but still, it's just such a draining situation to find yourself in. I wish I had better advice, but just keep on keeping on, one minute at a time. Try to not get overwhelmed by the situation. I got through it, and you will too. Great big, huge, cyber hugs to you. I’m so sorry, Zebra. Sometimes I think the hardest part of all of it is having to tell our kids that someone they love has passed away. It’s just awful. 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ErinE Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I'm so sorry for your loss. Prayers and good thoughts for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 15 minutes ago, TechWife said: I'm so very sorry for your losses. I lost both of my parents within seven weeks of each other - there are no words. I thought of you recently when I read an article in the newspaper about a man and his wife dying within weeks of each other. It’s just so unbelievably sad. My parents died within 10 months of each other, and that was so hard to deal with, but the idea of only days or weeks between deaths is almost unimaginable. I know one poster here who lost both parents in an accident when she was just a teenager, and it makes me cry every time I think of her having to go through that. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 35 minutes ago, Tess in the Burbs said: Yes, sometimes life is super hard. My dad died suddenly in May. We were going to visit him in July. My sister fell off the wagon yet again and got into trouble with the law. My stepdad was put into hospice on father's day...and my mom fell and had a subdural hematoma. Stepdad died while she was in ICU unconscious. Dh's grandma died the next day. Mom was in hospital 5 weeks. We finally did my stepdad's funeral. His best friend died the next day. I am over funerals at the moment. I am over estates and wills and family drama. I have been gone over 10 weeks this summer handling it all. Been home 24 hours and summer is almost over. It's almost like a dream. But then all the emotions come rolling in. Life is hard. But sometimes it's beyond hard. Sorry for your multiple losses. I completely understand how you feel right now. Hang in there. Thats just terrible, Tess. I can’t even imagine it. I don’t even have any words. I’m so, so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 you have my deepest condolences. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soror Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 (lots of hugs) for your loss and all the PP's dealing with the death(s) of their loved ones. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I’m so sorry for your family’s great loss. (Hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sassenach Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I’m so sorry. My stepdad’s mom died the morning of my grandmother’s memorial. It was a pile-on, but I do believe that my mom and stepdad found some solace in their mutual grief. (((Hugs))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kimberly in IN Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I am so sorry for your losses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I am so sorry for your losses. Thinking of you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mumto2 Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I am so sorry, hugs and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DoraBora Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I am just so sorry... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kareni Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 How very sad. Sending sympathetic thoughts to you, barnwife, and to all others who have been going through challenging times. Regards, Kareni Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mominco Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 (((hugs))) so sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HollyDay Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 I am so sorry for your losses..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted August 17, 2018 Share Posted August 17, 2018 That's awful. You have my deep condolences. :'-( My parents died when I was a teenager, so I know that horrible fog of unreality, that "this can't be happening" feeling. ( ((((barnwife)))))) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest2 Posted August 18, 2018 Share Posted August 18, 2018 May their souls and all the souls of the faithful departed rest in peace. Very sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted August 18, 2018 Share Posted August 18, 2018 I am sorry for your loss and for the others who posted who are also suffering from losses. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted August 18, 2018 Share Posted August 18, 2018 I'm so sorry. Hugs to you. One of my best friends lost both parents and one parent-in-law within about two months of each other a couple years ago. Only one was anticipated. Either way, it's so tough... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frogger Posted August 18, 2018 Share Posted August 18, 2018 I'm very sorry for your losses. ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 18, 2018 Share Posted August 18, 2018 So very sorry for all the pain of loss, for barnwife and other posters. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Another Lynn Posted August 18, 2018 Share Posted August 18, 2018 (((Barnwife))) (((Tess))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mbelle Posted August 18, 2018 Share Posted August 18, 2018 (Hugs) So sorry for all the loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
readinmom Posted August 18, 2018 Share Posted August 18, 2018 So sorry for your loss...prayers for you and family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nixpix5 Posted August 18, 2018 Share Posted August 18, 2018 I am so very sorry. Losing a parent no matter how prepared or no matter what age is overwhelming and so hard. I lost my dad suddenly a few years ago on his birthday. I am still waiting to feel "normal" again as he meant the world to me. All I could do was tackle each day independently and focus on what was in front of me. Soon there were many days behind me and I slowly began to heal some and lift my head out of the fog. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted August 18, 2018 Share Posted August 18, 2018 may they both rest in peace. Hugs during this difficult time for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted August 18, 2018 Share Posted August 18, 2018 I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted August 18, 2018 Share Posted August 18, 2018 so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reefgazer Posted August 18, 2018 Share Posted August 18, 2018 I'm sorry for your loss and for your heavy heart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted August 18, 2018 Share Posted August 18, 2018 I am very sorry you are going through this. Prayers for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom25girls Posted August 19, 2018 Share Posted August 19, 2018 I'm so very sorry. Sending prayers (and hugs) your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted August 19, 2018 Share Posted August 19, 2018 Sending hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted August 19, 2018 Share Posted August 19, 2018 Thinking of you More (hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pippen Posted August 19, 2018 Share Posted August 19, 2018 I'm so sorry for your loss, barnwife. I lost a parent recently and it's been hard. ((((Hugs)))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted August 20, 2018 Share Posted August 20, 2018 I’m sorry! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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