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  1. I agree with this. Your dh is seeing first hand that you cannot rely on SS. He is right to be concerned that you want to take on the bills of another person. This is a very big deal. I know you want to help and that she needs help and you’re going to help, but he is wise to be concerned. And if he hears you saying, even joking, the plan is to make a lot of money somehow, that’s just going to make him more concerned, because this is serious and without a plan, you could be your mother in a few years.
  2. This is basically my story. I did all my stocking up for groceries on 2/27 and I know because that’s the date I handwrote on a bunch of canned goods I bought that are sitting on the shelves in my pantry. But unlike you, I told only a single friend about my preparations. When I did, she burst into laughter at me and called me silly. But then when everything shut down, I wished I’d prepared a few of my more thoughtful friends because I felt like I had let them down by selfishly preparing my own family and letting everyone else’s family float in the wind. (Like, I had stocked up on 2 extra packs of TP—if I’d told some people, they could have prepared like that as well). I have a lot of friends on FB who will not wear masks and it boils down to the fact that they do no believe the numbers are real and they also do not believe the disease is all that dangerous, being that 98% of people recover. There is no nuance for how miserable the people who’ve recovered are when they were sick (people report feeling sicker than they’ve ever felt in their lives, and the illness can last for over a month). They also were extremely upset when doctors started using Covid as a “probable” cause of death. If the cases weren’t 100% confirmed with a test, they were sure it was a conspiracy. So, in their mind, the numbers are a flat out lie and the disease isn’t that bad anyway. Yup. I remember feeling great trepidation when I contacted you to cancel our lunch together when you got back from your trip. I waffled about how to word it for a couple of days. I was so nervous that you’d be completely offended that I didn’t want to have lunch with someone who’d just got back from a trip from a place with confirmed covid cases. I am so thankful that we were on the same page! But I can’t imagine that any of my other friends would have understood. Right now, I have a group of friends who get together every couple of months for lunch or dinner. The coordinator of the group asked when we all thought we’d want to get back together. The kicker? The coordinator of the group who was asking is a nurse practitioner who works one week on/one week off with dying covid patients in a hospital. I was the only one saying I wasn’t sure if I’d be ready to meet up with everyone for a while, because I wasn’t sure if DH was high risk or not. (After researching it in the past week, new info has come in and it looks like my dh isn’t high risk, which has been a personal relief for all of us.). I don’t know how to react when a person who looks into the eyes of people dying of Covid asks us when we all want to get together for lunch. It’s then that I think maybe I’m the wrong one in all this to be concerned. If she can stare into their eyes while they’re dying of this disease and still want to meet with friends for a meal, then maybe I’m assessing the risks as higher than they are? It was messing with my head. Maybe she meant outside at a cookout? That’s a very low risk activity. But if she means get together around her diningroom table like we usually do...nuh-uh. I’m not ready for that.
  3. I’ve heard that it’s easy to accidentally hit the button and you don’t always even know you’ve done it. And...men are just LOUD. They don’t even know it. When I’m cooking, I quietly set the spoon down or place the pan on the burner. Dh tosses the spoon (clatter) and bangs down the pan (crash.) I was watching Casino Royale the other day (James Bond movie) and Daniel Craig was snooping around ”quietly”, but he was doing the same thing my dh does—tossing stuff on a table (clatter) and banging cupboards shut. By the end of the scene, I had to cross Daniel Craig off my “If I was single, what celebrity would I marry” list. All that noise! Men think they’re being quiet, but they just don’t get it. 😄
  4. Pretty comforter! It’ll brighten the room.
  5. I’m not sure if it’s an indulgence or not, but I’m so much more content with mundane things taking up my time. In the past: Dang it! I need gas in the car: rush around getting the gas. Dang it! We need some milk: squeeze in a trip to grab some milk from somehwere. Oh no! The dishes are insane today: miserably wash the dishes, chafing because it’s taking so long. But now when those everyday things need to be done, I don’t have to rush to do them around other tasks. I can take my time and be in the moment no matter what I’m doing. So, I’m finding that all the daily-life things that used to make me feel frazzled don’t frazzle me anymore. It feels like an indulgence because I can take the time do things calmly and without having to dash to the next activity.
  6. That’s me! I am missing being out in store (alone), but I am not missing hanging out with other people. I’m all peopled out due to the fact that my dh is home ALL DAY. That’s enough people! Just yesterday I was thinking, “Any day now, my in-laws are going to say, “Why don’t we get together for a backyard cookout,” and I’ll have to die a little inside . I just don’t want to see anyone yet. I meant to quote, but must not have hit the button right—someone else mentioned that they wanted their family to leave the house so they could finally be alone. I’ve been feeling that. My husband and sons went for a walk together yesterday and I had 30 glorious minutes by myself in the house. I’m also the one who goes shopping every 2 weeks for food, and I love the alone time. Last week, DH said, “Do you need me to come with you?” “NO!....er, I mean, No thank you, dear.” I agree with the above. A harsh, strong lockdown initially to assess. Collect the needed supplies, and then open up the areas that could be opened. I have friends who live in a county with only 3 active cases and they were all just miserable being locked down. They should have been open.
  7. I did World Lit with my oldest when he was in 9th grade. I found that a lot of recommended world lit was too brutal for him. Also, like others have said, a lot of recommended world lit is written by Americans or British people. What? I didn't want to read that. I wanted us to study books written by people of other nations. We would study Am and Brit lit in other years. But I also didn't want to read brutal books to him. He wasn't ready. I'm going to cut and paste my notes from that year. We actually did everything through Picnic at Hanging Rock. If you see anything after Picnic (and you will), those were notes of other possibilities to do that year that we decided not to do (or ran out of time to do). Note: Don Quixote is actually two books in one. Cervantes wrote his book, and then a fan decided to write some fan fiction tales about the character Don Quixote. Cervantes got mad about that, so he wrote a second part to his book to take back control of the character. We chose to read only the first part, because reading both parts of Don Quixote was too much. It's a THICH book. And so is Three Musketeers, which we needed to find time to read as well. Also note, for 1001 Arabian Nights--there are original tales written long ago, but some of the more well-known tales (Ali Baba, Aladdin), were actually written by Europeans in the 1800s. In my notes, I mark which are which. We chose to read both kinds and compare them. Below I'm including everything, even the things we decided not to do (found below "Picnic at Hanging Rock"), because you might prefer what we decided not to do. It's a lot! Hope something on here is helpful to you: TO DO: For 28 weeks, we will write essays on these book. There are 8 weeks left over where there is no writing. Just literature. http://www.shmoop.com/don-quixote/difficulty.html Tells you how hard books are Read this about translations: http://www.learner.org/courses/worldlit/art-of-translation/index.html Do the activity where we create our own translation: http://www.learner.org/courses/worldlit/art-of-translation/index.html 9 BOOKS FOR THE ESSAYS: 1. The Epic of Gilgamesh 2100 BC, Sumeria Should the gods have tried to "fix" Gilgamesh? Or just destroyed him? Should they have made Enkidu? The commentaries under the scripture about Nimrod (scroll down past all the translations: http://biblehub.com/genesis/10-9.htm Nimrod is Gilgamesh: http://www.christiananswers.net/dictionary/nimrod.html http://www.shmoop.com/gilgamesh/difficulty.html Translation by Stephen Mitchell --written as prose. Is very accessible. https://www.amazon.com/Gilgamesh-English-Version-Stephen-Mitchell/dp/0743261690/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1469803712&sr=1-1&keywords=gilgamesh+stephen+mitchell#customerReviews Or David Ferry --written as poem. Is also very accessible. https://www.amazon.com/Gilgamesh-New-Rendering-English-Verse/dp/0374523835/ref=sr_1_8?ie=UTF8&qid=1469800793&sr=8-8&keywords=epic+of+gilgamesh 2. Odyssey (Greek) Translation by Stanley Lombardo (BOUGHT) 700 BC http://www.shmoop.com/odyssey/tough-o-meter.html http://forums.welltrainedmind.com/topic/615516-which-translation-of-the-iliad-and-odyssey-other-s/ Use this video lesson thing with the Odyssey: http://www.learner.org/courses/worldlit/odyssey/ Note: some of the things can be done before (look at a few pictures, but not all). Some are best done after or during (some of the questions can't be answered until you've read the book, for example.) I own the paper Cliff's notes for Odyssey. Online literature guide: http://www.bibliomania.com/1/7/189/2456/frameset.html Another online lit guide: http://www.penguin.com/static/pdf/teachersguides/HomerOdysseyTG.pdf Could take LTW ideas from some of the questions on this page: http://www.learner.org/courses/worldlit/odyssey/explore/key-points.html After reading, study how Star Wars is an epic story. Sun Mon Tues Wed Thurs Fri Sat 8/31 125-143 9/1 144-162 9/2 163-181 9/3 182-200 9/4 201-219 9/5 220-238 9/6 239-257 9/7 258-276 9/8 277-295 9/9 296-314 9/10 315-333 9/11 334-352 9/13 353-371 9/14 372-381 // 3. The thousand and one arabian nights (OWN) 940 CE Use this video guide: http://www.learner.org/courses/worldlit/ On Friday's use the questions on these pages. The first section on the first Friday, the second section on the second Fri… http://www.learner.org/courses/worldlit/the-thousand-and-one-nights/explore/key-points.html Read the "Getting Started Tab" on the first Tuesday http://www.learner.org/courses/worldlit/the-thousand-and-one-nights/read/getting-started/ Read the "Expert's View" on the second Tuesday: http://www.learner.org/courses/worldlit/the-thousand-and-one-nights/read/look-closer.html Look at the slideshow on the third Tuesday: http://www.learner.org/courses/worldlit/the-thousand-and-one-nights/explore/slideshow.html#slideshow_1 http://www.shmoop.com/video/arabian-nights/ (5 min video) READ THESE: Originals: First week: Introduction (my book) The Story of the Merchant and the Genius (my book) Read the Story of the Second Old Man on Gutenberg (Gutn). Was cut from this children's book because of adultery Second week: The Story of the Fisherman (my book) The Story of the Porter and the Three Ladies (my book, but called "Story of the Three Calenders…) Newer stories: Third week: The Seven Voyages of Sindbad the Sailor (my book) COMPARE TO ODYSSEY Fourth week: Aladdin and the Wonderful Lamp (my book) Ali-Babba and the Forty Thieves (need to find) Original stories: • The Merchant and the Demon. • The Fisherman and the Jinni. • The Story of the Porter and the Three Ladies. • The Hunchback cycle. • The Story of the Three Apples, enframing the Story of Nur al-Din and Shams al-Din • The Story of Nur al-Din Ali and Anis al-Jalis • The Story of Ali Ibn Baqqar and Shams al-Nahar, and • The Story of Qamar al-Zaman. On Project Gutenberg: Merchant and Demon Fisherman and Jinni Hunchback Story of the three apples Added ones that we ought to know: Ali Babba and the 40 Thieves Aladdin Sinbad the Sailor 4. Don Quixote 1605, Spain Read from Oct 8th to November 13 = 37 days. 922 pages divided by 37 = 25 pages a day. I need to stay a day ahead of Logan and see if anything can be skipped. Will stop to talk about this one, but not as much as Gilgamesh or Odyssey, since it's so long. First day: Read this summary from Shmoop: http://www.shmoop.com/don-quixote/ Then read about the prologue, which we're not going to read for ourselves: http://www.shmoop.com/don-quixote/part-1-book-1-chapters-1-8-summary.html Read the timeline on page 8-9 in the BACK of the book. Discuss the poem on page 11 in the FRONT of the book. Try to figure out the endings. Then, skip to page 19 to start the book. Be sure to read the italics and the footnotes. Read Shmoop from time to time and tell Logan something from it. Read Shmoop when get to the ending to explain that the author was ticked off by the fan fiction and wanted to end it for GOOD. Order The Count of Monte Cristo by 11/1 10/8 Sat 10/9 Sun 10/10 Mon 10/11 Tues 10/12 Wed 10/13 Thurs 10/14 Fri 19-44 45-70 71- 96 97-122 123-148 149-174 174-200 10/15 10/16 10/17 10/18 10/19 10/20 10/21 201-226 227-252 253-278 279-304 305-330 331-356 172-184 10/22 10/23 10/24 10/25 10/26 10/27 10/28 185-197 198-210 210-222 223-235 236-248 249-261 262-274 10/29 10/30 10/31 11/1 11/2 11/3 11/4 275 -287 288-300 301-313 11/5 11/6 11/7 11/8 11/9 11/10 11/11 5. The Three Musketeers (Dumas) 1844, France 6. Collections of 6 Short Stories and 2 Poems 1886, Russia Fiction 101Week 1: 1840s Turgenev The Country Doctor pg 1272 (1818-1883) 6 (Read aloud) (read aloud/study in one day) Week 1: 1842 Gogol pg 518 The Overcoat (1809-1852) 20 (read aloud/study in 4 days) Week 2: 1886 The Death of Ivan Ilyich (Tolstoy) pg 1234 (or in our little books) (1886) 37 Week 3: 1899 Chekov pg 185, The Darling (1860-1904) 9 Glencoe World Lit (hardback) These all have introductions and discussion ideas before and after the stories/poems Week 2: 1886 Tolstoy: pg 937 How Much Land does a Man Need? (1828-1910) 11 Week 3: 1889 Chekov pg 951 The Bet 6 Poems: 1900s Week 3: Pg 975 Lot's Wife, Anna Akhmatova (1888-1966) https://www.poets.org/poetsorg/poet/anna-akhmatova Week 3: Pg 1018 Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn "Freedom to Breathe" (1918-2008) http://forums.welltrainedmind.com/topic/614938-crime-and-punishment-dostoevsky/ http://forums.welltrainedmind.com/topic/604872-calling-lovers-of-the-russian-novel/ 7. The Hiding Place Corrie Ten Boom 1940s, Holland Lit guide: http://www.gradesaver.com/the-hiding-place/study-guide/essay-questions Note: This is also a movie Purchased 1 copy (1/15/17) Reserved 1 copy fm library (1/15/17)--abridged version for 9-12 year olds Purchased 2nd copy (1/18/17) 8. The Little World of Don Camillo: The Don Camillo Series, Book 1 (Giovannino Guareschi) 1947, Italy. A series of 3 books about post WWII Italy, a small town and the inevitable skirmishes between the local communist leaders and the parish priest. Several of them have been made into movies (black & white, 1950-ish.) Not literature, but is well-loved and teaches lessons about tolerance. Ordered 2 copies (1/15/17) ORDER THE PICNIC AT HANGING ROCK MOVIE NOW 9. Picnic at Hanging Rock Joan Lindsay 1900, Australia (written in 1967) No Sparknotes or Cliff's Notes. Ambiguous ending--the reader guesses whether it's real or not, etc. Is a "classic" but from the 1960s. It's something many Australians know--one of their great books. NOTE: I bought The Secret of Hanging Rock on my ipad Kindle. READ Picnic at Hanging Rock READ The Lady or the Tiger (Collier Greatest Short Stories, Volume 1, pg 123 READ The Secret of Hanging Rock (on my ipad Kindle.) WATCH movie Ordered 2 copies (1/15/17) LITERATURE GUIDES: http://forums.welltrainedmind.com/topic/449103-free-literature-guides/ NOTE: Get the paper copies of Cliff's Notes or Spark Notes or Shmoop. It's irritating having to endlessly scroll. Cliff Notes are identical on paper vs online. EXTRA BOOKS FOR FUN: Timeline by Michael Crichton Micro by Michael Crichton SHORT STORIES FOR THE IN BETWEEN WEEKS: Consider a Norton's World Lit anthology for short stories: http://www.amazon.com/product-reviews/0393933547/ref=acr_offerlistingpage_text?ie=UTF8&showViewpoints=1 Or other anthologies: McDougal Littell's Language of Literature series has a World Lit book that I like. You can find use copies cheap on Amazon too! POETRY From these places: A country in South America, a country in Africa, China, Japan, India, a Native American nation poem. Idea: read a few poems and turn them into prose. Article about the importance of poetry: http://www.theatlantic.com/education/archive/2014/04/why-teaching-poetry-is-so-important/360346/?utm_source=SFFB Website with list of a bazillion poets. Try to find world lit poets on this list: http://www.famouspoetsandpoems.com/poets.html Indian poetry: http://www.famouspoetsandpoems.com/poets/sarojini_naidu/poems/4561 Native American poetry: http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/a-cry-from-an-indian-wife/ Ukraine http://famouspoetsandpoems.com/poets/anna_akhmatova/poems/13 Rewrite this poem as a short story: I Wrung My Hands by Anna Akhmatova I wrung my hands under my dark veil. . . "Why are you pale, what makes you reckless?" -- Because I have made my loved one drunk with an astringent sadness. I'll never forget. He went out, reeling; his mouth was twisted, desolate. . . I ran downstairs, not touching the banisters, and followed him as far as the gate. And shouted, choking: "I meant it all in fun. Don't leave me, or I'll die of pain." He smiled at me -- oh so calmly, terribly -- and said: "Why don't you get out of the rain?" WTMer: We also did many alternatives to book reports. For example, a catalog for an artistic child. They would draw or copy illustrations, and product descriptions contained far more detail than a Q&A worksheet, plus it was fun. I also allowed, ummm actually encouraged, snarky sarcastic projects for books they hated. A kid might spend MORE time making fun of something they didn't like than writing a boring essay, and give so much more detail and memorable observations. Cranky poetry for kids who hate poetry is kind of ironic because I think the level of work is tremendous. (for eric, too) Kolodny: Another thought is to occasionally have him pick out a line or two that he has strong feelings about - loves the rhythm, hates the image, reminds him of an experience of his own or more he's heard about, etc - and write a response. Give him some choices. Also, choose a few lines with a definite rhythm - such as the 1st stanza of the poem on this email, which has 9 syllables in all but one of the lines- and have him create 4 lines, using a topic of his choice, using only 9 syllables per line. This would give him a feel for the rhythm, and (hopefully) some appreciation for the writing, whether he likes the poem or not. And if you do any Shakespeare this year, this definitely would tie in with Shakespeare's meter. Also, don't reject songs - they ARE poems, and some may appeal to him more than traditional poems - and could be a transition to more formal poetry. REJECTED BOOK IDEAS: Tog book lists http://www.tapestryofgrace.com/year4/ One Hundred Years of Solitude (South America) Gabriel García Márquez Dei Sijie's BALZAC AND THE LITTLE CHINESE SEAMSTRESS Facing the Lion_, (Africa) a memoir of a Masai man who lives in Northern Virginia during the school year, and goes back to Kenya to live as a Masai during the summer. Spirit of the Rainforest_(South America), by Mark Andrew Ritchie, is the firsthand account of a shaman among the Yanomamo in the Venezuelan Amazon rainforest. It is fascinating, because their shamans see our angels, and God's kingdom, but don't know God loves them. They call Him the Great Enemy Spirit, because the shamans see that when a baby or child dies, a bird comes and takes his spirit to to this kingdom, and they don't see what happens after that. The jungle spirits tell the shamans that the great enemy spirit eats children's souls -- because the devil is a liar. Anyway -- very worth a read. Augustine's _Confessions_? He was African. Translation by E.J. Sheed The Good Earth for China The Art of War (China) The Communist Manifesto, Karl Marx Aeneid Prometheus Bound Plato's Apology 1Q84 Murakami (Japan) NO--is 1000 pages long. Tiny, tiny print. Confucius Bulfinch’s Mythology (or any other account of the Greek, Roman, and Norse Myths) Plutarch, Lives of the Noble Grecians and Romans Dante, Inferno The fairy tales of Hans Christian Anderson Any substantial collection of the world’s major folktales INFORMATION TO KEEP, BUT PROBABY DON'T NEED: Any ideas for world lit in here: http://forums.welltrainedmind.com/topic/606319-girl-books-for-high-school/ http://www.gradesaver.com/balzac-and-the-little-chinese-seamstress/study-guide/essay-questions Book-balzac and the little chinese seamstress‏ Hang on. Analytical Grammar has "world authors" and provides a list. Can any of these be used for our literature needs? Here's the list: Authors include: Homer The Bible Dante Aligheiri Niccolo Machiavelli Miguel de Cervantes Moliere Johann Wolfgang von Goethe Alexandre Dumas Victor Hugo Hans Christian Andersen Henrik Ibsen--A Doll's House (maybe so. Looks beefy.--noted on 7/8/16) Jules Verne Robert Service Hermann Hesse Antoine de Saint Exupery Ayn Rand Aleksandr Solzenitsyn Elie Wiesel Plan for Africa section of Glencoe book. Glencoe: Night of Sine, pg 25, do activities on following pages Poems and notes from pgs 52-56 (pg 56, just the "Extending your Response" Romance Reconsidered and Skill Minilesson. Tselane and the Giant pg 43. Comment on the last para on pg 44. Long, long, long. Short. Powerful. Answer questions on pg 50-51 I thought I'd have time on non-writing weeks to study more literature, such as poem. But it's not working out like that. We need some solid time for grammar and spelling. This was the old plan, in case I need to refer to it: Fill those 8 weeks with short stories and poems. Have Logan write a few poems or short stories (COME UP WITH SOMETHING!) Like my assignment in school: a modern fairy tale, oldest memory and how you felt--very very oldest memory, a poem) From Glencoe book, coordinate short stories to books in this way: 1. After Odyessey: Do the Ancient Greece and Rome section. 2. After Arabian nights: Do the Southwest and South Central Asia section 3. After Don Quixote: Do the Early Europe section 4. Africa (scroll to bottom. I had started planning this back in Aug, but then realized I should coordinate Greece with Odyssey.) 5. Japan/China 6. Europe (Use book and also the poem I have copied on this page … scroll to "poetry" section of this page.) 7. South Americans 8. Native Americans Native American poetry: http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/a-cry-from-an-indian-wife/
  8. I’ve been indulging in pretty things for myself. For Mother’s Day, I got a very pretty shower curtain. And decided to paint the bathroom to match (in fact, I’m almost done...am waiting for the paint to dry on one of the cabinets for the last coat. And since the bathroom went from dark blue/brown to pink and cream, I got new flower pictures to match the new pink walls. I’ve also ordered two children’s picture books, simply because the illustrations in them are spectacular. I don’t need children’s picture books. I won’t read the stories in them and will only rarely look at the pictures, but it makes me happy to know I have them and can look at them whenever I want to. Plus...Doritos. Have been eating more Doritos than normal. And Fruity Pebbles for dessert. 🙂 https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B07SZ9LVDK/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o03_s00?ie=UTF8&psc=1 https://smile.amazon.com/gp/product/B0754L813G/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_search_asin_title?ie=UTF8&psc=1
  9. Just lay the skirt on the bed with the boots next to it. I want to see the foxes!
  10. Yes! This happened to me! I love the fact that my home is 71 years old. I love it that it’s eclectic. I love all the colors on the walls. I love it that it’s tiny. I love the fact that it’s not open concept. And then I started watching all those home improvement shows for about 3 months. I’d watch them whenever I was cooking dinner. And I started being unhappy with my adorable little house! Like, seriously unhappy. 😞 I stopped watching, and the feeling went away in about 2 weeks.
  11. I’d stay and take the night shifts. I’d set aside time to grieve the loss of what it Used To Be Like. I’d write out a plan for the future. (After dh gets his nursing degree.) Then, I’d ride it out, keeping my eyes focused on the plan for the future. I wouldn’t expect to gain satisfaction from the coworkers. I’d gain satisfaction in your own job well done. I wouldn’t expect relationship with the people there. They are simply coworkers and I’d ignore them as much as possible without being weird about it. Just polite, but doing your own thing.
  12. Not sure where to post this, but am starting here. I have a strong feeling that my ds15 has some vision tracking problems. I didn’t think so until last week when he said that when he reads, words sometimes disappear from in front of him. Thinking back, whenever we did read alouds when he was younger, he was constantly skipping lines. He doesn’t enjoy reading and says it makes him sleepy. I didn’t realize that the sleepy part could be related to vision tracking issues until I googled it just now. And I didn’t take much notice of the skipping lines at the time. It wasn’t until he said last week that words disappear off the page that I realized something might be wrong. I’m going to look into getting him an eye exam for tracking issues (he has a regular exam every year or two). I’m not sure if anyone is doing those exams and vision therapy right now what with Covid being around. And even if they are...what does VT involve? Is it something that can be done at home? I dimly remember reading some threads about it and people saying their kids hated it and they (the parents) didn’t think much of it. What do you guys think of vision therapy? Absolutely necessary and a life saver? Something that can be done at home? A racket? Somewhere in the middle? I wouldn't think twice about taking him for VT (if he needs it) if there wasn’t the pandemic going on. I don’t really want my son to have to be in a small room with someone right now, if that’s how VT is even done. @PeterPan (I think you’ve posted about this in the past and might have insight, so I’d love to hear what you think.)
  13. Yeah, I know. I was thinking that as I wrote it. I’m personally not that way. I am ok if I’m taking over a new task to have the advice of the person doing it before me. But I do know that other people can’t take advice and get insulted. It’s a personality thing, I suppose. If the OPs dh can’t handle it, oh well. Some people see it as team work, and others see it as one person being bossy. The idea was to do it just for a couple of weeks because the OP asked how to make her dh “see” what needs to be done. Sometimes you can’t “see” what needs to be done until you are put on the spot and asked “what would you do?”from someone who can then help you “see” all the issues. The point is moot though, as the OP wrote back with descriptions of her problems and her DH just can’t take over those responsibilities.
  14. I started reading this thread yesterday and then had to stop reading, and have come back to it. So, I’m going to suggest something, but maybe it was already suggested and I missed it: You were saying that what’s difficult is that you have to problem solve on the fly with things for ds10. And I think there’s also the issue of him not “seeing” what needs to be done. And you were saying, how could you teach him to do those things? It would be more work initially, but what if you on-the-job trained him in doing those things? Like, when an issue comes up that you have to problem solve on the fly, call him over. “Dh, here’s the situation—X. I’m going to have to figure out what to do, so I’m going to do Y, and the reason for that is Z.” Then, after a few times of doing that, when there’s a problem to be solved, say, “Dh, here’s another situation where we have to problem solve on the fly. If I wasn’t here, tell me what you’d do and I’ll help you see if that’ll work or not, based on my experience.” And see if he can start figuring out what to do. You had to do that initially without anyone to guide you, so he can probably figure it out, especially if you guide him at first.
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