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  1. Probably the person working there has no idea how awful it is to live with ADHD and how it can mess with your life. And no, Walmart doesn’t always have anything, unfortunately.
  2. It is a nightmare. My son is 21 and everything in his life is like he’s slogging through thigh-high mud pits. Everything is just So Hard because of his blasted ADHD. He’s 21 now and so he’s handling this shortage himself somewhat, but I still remind him every few days to call the pharmacy and ask, “Are you able to fill my prescription yet?” He can’t remember to call them on his own. They said to call once a week to check in, but I told him to call at least twice a week. When he was 7 or 10 or 14, we could have gotten through this. But at 21 in college? The stakes are so high. If he can’t keep up his grades because he can’t focus, what happens? Drops out? Has to work at WalMart for the rest of his life? I hate ADHD so much.
  3. What is wrong with human beings? sigh
  4. 4 hours for a 5th grader is just fine. It’s completely goofy to think someone can do high school level work in 1-1.5 hours. Actually, it’s a bit heartbreaking.
  5. Covid messed with people’s perception of what “homeschool” is. All the school kids were sent home with work from the school, and everyone called that “homeschool”.
  6. I think it’s a matter of looking at every purchase you make and considering if you can skip it entirely or how you could make it cheaper. For example: handsoap. You can buy disposable dispensers and replace them when they run out. Or you could buy a jug and refill the dispensers. Or you could get the foaming dispensers and refill those, which require that you only use about 1/4 of the amount of soap and the rest is water, or you could get bar soap. Right there are 4 levels of cutting back, depending on how far you want to go. Do that with everything-decide how far you want to cut back and cut back that far. Tissues - 4 levels to choose from: name brand, generic, toilet paper, re-usable hankies. Food: There are hundreds of ways to cut back on food items. You don’t need snacks to survive, so you could entirely cut them, or have fewer, etc. Replace some meats with beans (like in tacos), etc Heat/ac: go a degree or two (or more, depending on your tolerance) hotter in the summer, colder in the winter (I wear two robes all winter long over my clothes so we can keep down the heating costs. It’s efffortless and I’m not deprived.) Gasoline: drive the speed limit with gentle stops and starts (makes a big difference in your gas mileage), combine trips. When we were at our most thrifty, I went to town only once a month for groceries, because it was a gallon of gas each time I went, so I only paid 1 gallon to get my groceries each month, instead of 4 gallons if I’d have gone once a week. There was a store closer that had fresh fruit/veg for the fruit/veg that wouldn’t make it the whole month. Look into generic or cheaper brands. Look into just doing without. Look to rent instead of buy (like library books), etc.
  7. This is new territory for the OP and her DH, though. It’s not 100 years old to them. They used to agree. They discovered they don’t. The feelings are strong on either side. They have not resolved the feelings. OP has told us in the past that she was on the verge of leaving him until they agreed not to discuss politics. That’s what’s bubbling to the surface in this instance. Of course they should be able to talk without falling apart. But there is a lot they can’t discuss that is simmering and is probably what caused this most recent upset. It’s a good start that the DH apologized. I’m not sure what they should do going forward.
  8. And yes, my dh and I used to have big, emotional fights every few years. Somewhere along the line I just stopped caring and I think he did too. (Stopped caring about being right, stopped caring about whether we agreed, stopped caring about being in perfect synch, etc.) We didn’t do anything special to get here. It just happened as we aged. (Fingers crossed we don’t yell at each other tomorrow after I’ve posted this!)
  9. From other posts, you are opposites politically. Ever since 2016, a lot of people have lost respect for the opinions of people they used to respect. It’s been very difficult for everyone to navigate. You don’t respect his political opinions and he doesn’t respect yours. You both think the other’s politics are wrong. When married people discover that they have polar opposite opinions on big topics, it creates intensely negative feelings, as you know. You and he haven’t been able to come to terms with how you both feel politically, so you have agreed not to discuss it anymore. The feelings are too intense and you can’t talk reasonably together without getting upset. So, when you had a disagreement over something silly, I’ll bet you $1 that it momentarily roused those intense feelings from over the past 8 years when you disagreed on big issues. And even though this issue was small, the feelings are big. You’ve agreed not to talk about the political issues, but you are allowed to talk about stupid office policies, so all those feelings about big issues spilled into this conversation about stupid office policies. I think he’s spot on that he feels that you don’t respect his opinion. Of course, it’s not really about the office policy that you don’t respect, but it’s about his politics. And since politics is often tied to our sense of morality and identity, once he got a whiff that you might not respect his opinion about the office policy, he felt all those feelings he felt when he realized you don’t agree with his politics (morality/identity, etc) and he got over-the-top emotional. As far as what to do about it, I don’t know exactly. Others have posted some good de-escalating terms.
  10. Right. It seems like his mom is overstepping and you don’t need to join in with that. The man’s privacy should be respected.
  11. Being unable to defend yourself is one of the worst feelings!!! There’s nowhere for the anger to go. Deep breath. We all know the truth and you know the truth and those who love you know the truth. But it still burns that people out there have smeared your good name. 😞
  12. Not exactly like that—we did have plans to go view it, but my husband injured his neck, so he couldn’t be in the car for that long or his neck pain would have been unbearable. We all had to tamp down our disappointment and make do with what we had, so we drove to an open area locally and we saw it as a partial eclipse. Even though it wasn’t total, it was still impressive and everyone did a good job of being happy with what we could see. This time, dh’s neck is ok, but the boys are now in college and have classes that day. They just can’t get away for a weekend trip, since they’d have to miss classes on both Monday and Tuesday. The oldest has learning disabilities and missing 2 days of classes would completely derail him for the rest of the semester. The youngest lives at home and is over the moon at the idea that he’ll have the house to himself for 3 days. At this point in their lives, they are actually happier to stay put. They feel satisfied with what they saw last time. DH and I are pretty excited this time around, but hoping there aren’t clouds. We understand that area might be prone to clouds, but we’ll just make do a best we can like last time. Either way, it’ll be a fun little road trip, even if we stay in a dinky hotel and it rains on us 🙂
  13. It’s going to be lovely, spending time together! We’re going to sleep in Titusville, which is about 5 hours away from where we live, but we’ll drive closer into totality the day of the eclipse. I was just thinking today that we need to figure out a few different places to drive to, in case it’s cloudy in one place and not in another. We’ll have to head out early on the morning of the eclipse, because there might be others with the same idea and I don’t know what sort of traffic we’ll run into. I suppose we’ll need some chairs and snacks, too. And sunblock, because I burn like a crisp the moment I step outside. (Must be part vampire.) It’s getting close to needing to make actual plans! (Hmm…also need to find a place with bathrooms wherever we go. Traveling is complicated 🙂 )
  14. I got these from BandH.com: https://www.bhphotovideo.com/c/product/1750789-REG/american_paper_optics_eclipse20pk2_solar_eclipse_glasses_20_pack.html I don’t still have it, but I did the research at the time and was satisfied that this pair was legit. I know the company is. They’re a reputable company. I’ve bought a lot of camera gear from them. Maybe looking at this pair can get you going. @Ginevra—which ones did you get?
  15. No. No no no. NO. No no no. (Crosses “Trip to Australia” off list.)
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