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  1. It also could have been the change from the norm and the "being locked inside due to snow and now we are free" survival brain rebound 😊 I too an in the PNW and we were completely snowed in for days. The only people that seemed to be able to get to us were door dashers with huge trucks 😂 but I agree, I saw an uplift and sigh of relief as we were able to get out into the world again. It was fun 👍 Your right, happiness is fleeting and contentment can be achieved by anyone. It is a mindset through much practice sitting with all emotions when they come. However, we have somehow convinced
  2. I had another thought here. Survival and wilderness treatment has been a popular choice for teens with various mental health or drug and alcohol issues for some time. I would see these hope filled eyes of parents looking at me as they asked if they should send their child to a wilderness treatment facility. I was always hesitant to recommend if I felt the parent couldn't do what was necessary on the other side. Wilderness centers have huge momentary success rates and then everyone scratched their head as to why it doesn't stick a month out. Putting someone into survival mode does so much 1. Dr
  3. I have to go shower and get ready for the homeschool morning but I will respond to this later today because I have read through bucketloads of research in this area and coupled with my own work I have many thoughts. 😉
  4. No, they don't. I don't mean just basic poverty in the USA here, because even when poor in the US, that may still include smart phone ownership and access to food, just not the good food. In historical times where survival was the focus, people seem to be more stable. I do think this is very neurochemical. I don't know if physiologically we can get to utter happiness or utopia. The mouse utopia study a number of decades ago remind me a bit of this. The thing is, our neurochemistry taps out at a certain point and then relays into a compensatory response. If you are tapping into too much dopamin
  5. I completely get your description. There is alot of "meaning of life" stuff and internal restlessness that can happen when you have everything you need and alot of what you want but it feels empty or as though something is missing. That type of therapy is really challenging. Alot of unseasoned therapists or ones who might struggle with this themselves, have a hard time helping the person delayer and think deeply. Many therapists want to "fix it" and they think their job is to help someone be happy. Happy is a feeling in a moment like any other and this pursuit or belief that one should feel ha
  6. Absolutely agree. With many who have not quite reached the level of self evaluation and metacognition needed for even this (teens, excessive drug users, pretty much anyone who has a brain that has not made those growth leaps yet) getting them to solution focused often requires thought restructuring. Solution focused can be hard when there is no follow through on doing what is needed because they cannot move through the steps to do it. Sometimes breaking it into mini goals works but usually it requires a new way of thinking.
  7. Yes! It is also why DBT and CBT are proven methods of dealing with anxiety and depression. There is something powerful about owning "faulty thinking" traps, learning to recognize them, give them a name and having the tools to work through the moment. I am deeply saddened that counseling has moved more into an affirming everyone's feelings and state of being phase, telling them they are victims and telling them they have the right to feel that way. The last 10 years I have seen my field move into "ecclectic" therapy models that give zero tools and instead just "love on" and "listen" and "affirm
  8. The way you worded this reminded me of the groups of teens I have historically worked with. An interesting thing emerges when a teen has a reason to assign to why they feel bad. Teens who met some societal norm but felt depressed or unhappy did not act on it most of the time because I believe they did not have anything to assign to the feeling. With other kids who could assign a reason...and it could be anything (adopted, single family, parents didnt like boyfriend, gay etc) they would use that as the reason for all of their unhappiness and depression. It was as if they would manifest it exter
  9. My user name is a play on my daughter's nickname and the 5 is my number of kids. Nothing super fancy or creative 😂
  10. I am so excited to hear about your name origin! It is the one I have wondered about the most 😂
  11. I do worry this will move from "one parent says yes and one says no" to "both parents say no and government says yes" and just as cases that can be quoted where a child harms themselves when they haven't transitioned, there is many about people transitioning and wishing they would have waited or not done so in such a permanent fashion. There have been cases of people killing themselves post transition too. I find it odd that we tell kids that they have the mature capacity to make this decision to alter their body at 14yo but then tell a 14yo they are not mature enough to make sexual decisions
  12. As a Christian I happily use the curriculum with 3 kids and there is nothing inherently mormon about it. We like it and find nothing that conflicts with our beliefs except for one geography lesson that took a young earth perspective that we skipped.
  13. I know, it just cracks me up. There are aspects I love about both philosophies. We do alot of Montessori math and grammar because to me it is brilliant. I love children having access to adult items in their size. I do really love the general aspect of Montessori but not the rigidity that was never really meant to be what it was. Waldorf really does a fabulous job with art and nature studies. We tap into that alot for inspiration. I love watching Pepper and Pine YouTube videos because she was a Waldorf student herself and puts together amazing unit studies heavy on the Waldorf. Lots of beauty i
  14. So one of the straws that broke the proverbial camel's back for me when my kids were in kindergarten at our local Christian school was this. One of my k's at the time wore a pikachu sweatshirt. It wa winter and they made him take it off and wear some too small sweatshirt from the office. They then proceeded to tell him pokemon were evil. So not only was my sweet little pokemon loving guy embarrassed and terrified but it sent the message that we as parents could not make adequate clothing purchases for him. It was not in the clothing banned list but apparently an email had gone out early in the
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