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  1. People get SO offended when I point that out. When we had fires up here, a local homeschool group started collecting all sorts of donations, including stuffed animals. I tried to temper it but then I became the bad guy because they were “just trying to help.”
  2. I have a a figure it out kid who is ridiculously self-motivated. I have another kid who wants everything spoon fed (and a couple of kids that are somewhere in-between). I consider it one of my parenting failures that I bailed the second kid out way too often. They needed to figure it out far more than I made them, mostly because they were willing to whine and I had a low tolerance for seeing my kids struggle. As a young adult, I am seeing the consequences of this and I consider this kid to have fallen behind in maturity and launching. IMO, figure it out is basically equivalent to grit. Dh and I are very, very gritty. We don't give up. That is not equivalent to never asking for help but it does imply that one will at least try to work things out on their own and use their resources. Is asking for help a resource? Absolutely. But there is appropriate asking for help and inappropriate. Example: One of my children has a classmate that relies exclusively on his mother and fellow classmates to help him fill out paperwork and get signed up for necessary things. He's a really smart kid and fully capable of doing this himself. This kid failed to fill out important paperwork for clinical placement and was shocked to miss the first day. That's a problem. Fully functioning adults need to file their taxes and do a million other things that require them to take the first step to figure sh*t out. So it's a little of both. It's not a problem to ask for help but it's also really, really important to have the skill of figuring it out.
  3. I've been hitting the audiobooks hard this stay. Sleep suggestion- the Calm app has "Sleep Stories" that have been a God send for me. They help drown out the hospital noise and help me to fall asleep.
  4. We are discharging today after a 2 week stay. Our longest stay was 5 weeks. I am also a peds oncology nurse, so I work with a lot of families that are in the hospital for weeks and months. The scrolling is inevitable. I try and bring meaningful things to work on but despite having lots of "free" time, I am rarely successful at doing anything of substance while we are here. Dh and I have worked out a pattern of him bringing me Starbucks for breakfast every morning (this is a luxury) and then I will often run home for a rest and shower while DH works from the hospital. I do most of the overnights because DH has an injured back and I don't think he would survive the sleeper chair. I would like to stick with one patient and not 2. Try to eat and drink. Ask the nurses for a food tray (they may be able to provide one, depending on the facility). Try to walk outdoors once a day. Let your dh do what he can. It can be hard to leave the hospital, especially if you feel like the more medically capable parent, but for your own self care, you need to take breaks. Let people bring you food. I do a lot of phone calls. It helps me pass the time. Praying for answers and healing for your daughter.
  5. I just had a CO poisoning patient today. Did they check troponins? It would have been a blood draw. CO toxicity can cause myocardial damage, which would be my biggest concern.
  6. I’m curious what state you are in. I’m in California and it feels unbeatable for its disability support.
  7. There was also a whole lead-in video where he talked about how much the song meant to him and why he chose to record it. That segment was my favorite part of the night.
  8. I agree, this is not ER worthy as it stands. I would also not send a sensitive kid to the ER for a non-ER worthy issue for fear of losing my credibility in the future with something actually ER worthy. Any way you can get a thermometer delivered to him? Shipt, postmates, and Whole Foods should all be able to do that.
  9. Things I love that are only found at TJs: Jalapeno Artichoke dip (eat with tortilla chips) Slightly coated dark chocolate almonds (a sweet treat without a ton of sugar) Unexpected Cheddar Jalapeño sauce (amazing on eggs) Brown sugar oat milk creamer Everything but the Bagel seasoning 21 Seasoning Salute (thee best on roasted veggies) Everyday Seasoning
  10. Purewick is the closest thing we have to a condom cath for women. It sounds like the best combo would be purewick at home and briefs while up in the chair. It may be time for her to have more help than assisted living can offer if she is sitting in soiled briefs for long periods of time. For her wounds, is she seeing a wound care nurse? They might be able to suggest barrier creams to help her skin keep from breaking down. Destin Max is a favorite on my floor. Alternatively, something like cavalon could be applied to intact skin as a protectant (but my only experience is with peds and I would want someone who has experience with elderly skin to sign off on that). If it gets to the point that you need to revisit placing a Foley catheter, I wonder if she could be given an antispasmodic to help tamp down on those bladder spasms (ouch! I can't imagine pushing the balloon out). Sorry there are no easy answers. Things get so tricky at this stage.
  11. I was 24. Then we relocated/housing crash/yada yada and didn't own again until I was 36.
  12. My grandson repeats himself until you say the sentence back to him. I think it's just a language acquisition quirk. He's a bit younger, though.
  13. I lived with my mom for the first kid and across the country for the rest. For the first, I was still living like a teen (I was 17) so it’s not like I was running a household. She helped with dd but not overly so. My dad used to love taking dd for the early morning shift, which looking back was sweeter than I appreciated. My second was in the hospital for a month and my mom came out when we brought him home. For the other kids, she came out when dh went back to work at 2-4 weeks. She was huge in the wrangling older kids department and laundry/cooking/cleaning. I was pretty independent with newborn care, even with the first. My mom is super great at being a help without being overly intrusive. She was always easy to have around.
  14. Do it! Your family is already used to having one parent in college, so I'm guessing a little switcheroo between you and dh will be totally fine. I have this deep belief that when a hs mom goes back to school, it's almost always easier than expected because hsing is so demanding and requires so much of us, the transfer over to our own education is either lateral or lighter than what we've been doing for years (the exception being those who are adding college in addition to hsing, you crazy people).
  15. Glad it worked out! They change out their colors seasonally. Circle back in the spring.
  16. So did the driver at first admit to drinking and then switch it? I would put 99% of my energy into my kids and about 1% into the guy. Alcohol will always be around but the good sense to not drink and drive is an internal issue. Your OP is way too focused on the kid and my guess is your kids can smell it so they’re deflecting onto him instead of taking responsibility for themselves.
  17. Hannah Coulter by Wendell Berry, which I suspect is not least shelved among the hive.
  18. TBH, yes, I think you will. I'd be more apt to give it away and buy a chuck roast if you want to go that route.
  19. Kurus saved my feet. I'm a nurse and my former go-to shoe (Alegria) changed something and all of a sudden my feet hurt all the time. I wear Quantums because the wide toe box really works with my feet. When I get home, I switch to Oofos slides, which feel great after a long day.
  20. Awe? Wonder? To me, the best part about travel is being blown away by the new sights and experiences.
  21. His prose is beautiful and it's very engaging, but it is LONG and possibly too dense for a 7th grader. I listened to it on audio, am an oncology nurse, and still needed to come up for air sometimes. I wonder if his newer book, Song of the Cell (?), might be a better topic. It still touches on cancer but it's not solely about cancer.
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