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Everything posted by Stacia

  1. Yes, I have done it many times through the years. No, I never felt guilty. (I don't understand the mindset that thinks you should feel guilty in this scenario.) As many others have said, just do it.
  2. It might also be helpful at some point to say that it's ok if you order something & don't like it (taste, texture, whatever), you don't have to eat it (& that it's not considered rude or weird) AND that he can either get something at a drive-through on the way home or have _______ item at home (so he will realize he won't go hungry).
  3. I've read some of the responses but not all of them. I'm not even here on the main forum very often. But, every time I keep seeing this topic pop to the top of the list... People who don't apologize. I think, "I divorced him." 🤣
  4. Dc (20 & 22) both got their first Moderna doses yesterday. Other than sore arms today, they're fine. My sister & her dh (both in their 40s) got their second Moderna doses a few days ago. Apparently my bil felt under the weather the day after, but was fine by the next day. My sister said she didn't have any really noticeable issues. Neither had issues after the first shots other than sore arms. (My sister has asthma & some weird immune system issues; my bil has some pretty serious food allergies.) ----------- To recap from an earlier post a few pages back: My dad
  5. (Bolding is mine.) I'm not sure I see how many people, especially Black people & other PoC, can avoid this. The racism is baked into the system & it has been from the beginning. (There's tons of literature on this out there if you want to research it. As well as plenty of examples on the news & in our daily lives.) Literally, Black people & other PoC are arrested, accused, & sometimes murdered for absolutely no reason at all. Other than they were... outside? Having skin that was a different color? Breathing? How do you "avoid" being murdered by a bad cop when you aren'
  6. People fall into addiction for so many reasons. Some people end up addicted because they have suffered an injury & have a hard time functioning with the pain. Some people end up addicted because they turned to something to deal with terrible emotional pain or trauma. Etc. Many times, though, a person is literally just trying to get through a day, or an hour, or a minute, & they are addicted before they realize they have gone down that path. It's easy to be an armchair quarterback for judging it or seeing it in hindsight, but it's not usually so easy to recognize it
  7. It not only prevents accountability & change, it allows it to flourish. And it flourishes in an environment largely built on racism & sexism.
  8. I'll stop too. But you can't forget Pulp Fiction.
  9. Why do you think GF was being stupid? (That's what I'm inferring from your statement.) What if he did not know that it was counterfeit? What if he wasn't as aware of things because he was under the influence? Was he under the influence because of an addiction? Is addiction a choice? Does being addicted to something make you stupid? Perhaps being under the influence of something or being high means you need help rather than being judged stupid?
  10. Because in all those situations, those on the side of the police (or whoever is committing the violence in cases like this) come up with reasons why it was "justified". There's *always* a justification given. Not that they make sense, not that they are legit, not that it is ok to have responded with such force when the situation did not warrant it. I think part of that is driven by our litigious society. A CYA mentality. Even if it was a mistake or a trigger-happy sociopath high on power, the attitude is often to "justify" things; justification is easier if the victim is seen as not innocent.
  11. Breonna Taylor might too.... Charles Kinsey Tamir Rice This list could get very long.
  12. How long before her divorce is final? Is there someone else you can have help with the sit down & tell your mom to move out in the next two weeks or whatever? A trusted friend? Her lawyer? Basically someone outside the situation to physically (or over zoom) be there to help you stay firm in laying the boundary line to be out by xyz date? I don't think you need to sell the idea of the fun of a senior home. Just list options that she has: hotel (short- or long-term) sister or other relative friend air b&b or other type rental short-term apartment lease senior housin
  13. I haven't read all the responses. But, to me, this seems very modern & extremely sensible. I love it. Everyone does everything online. It makes sense to me that there's a wedding website (easy, one location to find all needed info) & that there would be a registry tab. The registry tab can have links to actual registries for physical gifts &/or a donate money button. I honestly think it's a great idea. If you say nothing, going the old school way of making others ask around to find out about a possible registry, I think it would get even harder or possibly more confusing
  14. For me, Sine-Off. Other stuff doesn't seem to work very well for me. I take Sine-Off during pollen season mostly, so on an "as-needed" basis for me, usually a few days a week during particularly bad weeks.
  15. My parents and I have gotten our vaccines (both shots) and are a few weeks out from the second dose now. My dad and I both got Moderna. After the first dose, my upper arm was quite sore for 4-5 days (mostly I noticed if I tried to lay on my side to sleep). My dad had arm soreness for a day or two. After the second dose, I came home and did a lot of physical labor stuff around the house, including an hour or two of literally crawling around in the attic. (Total of about 12 hours constant work.) The next day, I was definitely really sore all over. Whether it was the vaccine or hours of
  16. Yep. Because if he had targeted women in general and went to almost any place in the area, mostly his shots would have hit... white women. Population-wise, the odds would be all or mostly white women. He didn't do that. He specifically chose locations that were populated mostly by Asian women.
  17. A tangent to this thread (not necessarily for mass shooter situations, obviously, but for the hateful, racist actions we notice...):
  18. It is sad how very perfect this piece is.
  19. Not to mention people who are unjustly imprisoned, often POC. There have been plenty of mistakes. And, even when there aren't mistakes, the system itself is rooted in racism. So, is "justice" always being served?
  20. I totally agree. But I think for many who don't want to acknowledge racism, it is easy to mentally separate the thoughts. So, I think many say it's sexual violence, but not racism. Or it's physical endowment, but not racism. Or it's a cultural norm, but not racism. They have reflex responses to "rationally" explain their thinking (woman invited it or maybe the guy was a perv; it's just biological "fact"; hey, it's what they [the other] choose in their culture, who am I to judge?) which allows convenient side-stepping of the race issue. Race hatred and white supremacy
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