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  1. Both sets of my grandparents owned large, rambling properties, and it was the BEST. I mean, I would have loved visiting my grandparents no matter what, but to have so much cool stuff to explore was just icing on the cake. And my parents had fond memories and could show us around. Great times. As they got busy and/or aged they just took care of what they could, and left the rest alone. I'm sometimes a little sad that my kids won't get that experience, as my parents have moved, and my in-laws are about to. OTOH, DH and I used to talk a lot about buying some property and setting up a hobby farm, gardens, orchards. Sometimes we still do. But overall I don't regret that we live close to stuff. There are neighborhood kids to play with, and it doesn't take forever to get to the hospital, doctor, schools, stores, and other things. It's a desirable neighborhood without breaking the bank, so the property value is appreciating nicely, too. That's not why we bought the place, and we don't count on it, but it's nice. Sometimes I think I wouldn't mind living even more in the city.
  2. You could try taking a full-length picture of each, then see what looks better. Sometimes things are more obvious in photographs than in the mirror.
  3. Yet another excuse to bash millennials... I've had four men each spend an hour or so teaching me to drive a manual (driver's ed instructor, my uncle, a boyfriend, and my DH while we were dating). The first three were over-the-top critical and laughing at my completely normal mistakes and frustrations. Only DH was kind and gentle about it (gee, wonder why I married him). Anyway, I'm overall kind of allergic to manuals after that. And I'm really glad DH sold his last year and bought an automatic, because I was able to drive his car after my accident a couple months ago.
  4. I just saute it with garlic and olive oil, and finish with a little vinegar or hot sauce. Kale needs a little salt to take away the bitterness, but it's easy to overdo it . It's also really good with citrus. If I have an orange or grapefruit on hand I'll section it and put it on top of the cooked kale. I happen to like all of these flavors together, but you may wish to omit some of them.
  5. My kids poured popcorn kernals down a vent while I was resting from an injury (like I have been all week). I can't get the whole story out of them, or whether it was accidental or on purpose, or accidentally-on-purpose. They also ate a whole jar of nutella. And spilled a bunch of frozen peas, but cleaned them up, to their credit. This was all in the ten minutes all day that they weren't directly supervised. But let me tell you, friends, margaritas make everything better. Edit: it's fine, I can laugh about it now. And not just because of the margarita. :)
  6. My dad got in huge trouble in their first year of marriage for remembering Mom's twin's birthday (they were co-workers and my parents met through my aunt), but not hers.
  7. Hugs. That sounds annoying. Hope you feel better soon! Our bodies can retain water at the oddest times. I was horrified when I went to a one-week postpartum checkup after delivering a 7 pound baby, stood on the same exact scale I'd always used, and had lost only a pound. My body was just holding onto water because of my hormones and the drugs they gave me. 5 weeks later I'd lost 20 pounds without even trying. Oh, check the bottom of your scale, too. DH was once very proud of his weight loss (a pound a day), but got suspicious around day 10. There was a piece of lint under one of the feet of the scale.
  8. I'd probably double the salmon (though not necessarily), and possibly skip the rice but double the veg. If I were eating the rice, that's about the amount I would choose. A lot would depend on if I had been snacking or not. The easiest way for me to keep my weight under control is to not snack, except for maybe a planned afternoon snack if I know dinner is going to be late. Other people graze throughout the day and may prefer smaller portions at meals. Some people are more or less active, and then there's the metabolism issue. To each her own. NB, when I was in Germany and Austria, the portions were huge, and the locals were fit and healthy. All of us Americans thought it was way too much food. All the Germans were puzzled that we weren't eating more. They were very active in their day-to-day lives, though, especially from walking everywhere.
  9. I really like my electric razor. You don't get quiiiite as smooth of a shave, but the lack of ingrown hairs is worth it. Actually, a few weeks ago it wasn't working as well (maybe it's at the end of its life?), so I used a regular razor. At first I was so happy with the smoothness, and two days later cursing all the ugly, painful ingrown hairs.
  10. We have some. Somewhere. I think a few became hockey pucks. I do try to avoid setting a drink right on wood, but I'm also kind of sick of my wood coffee and side tables, which are getting pretty dinged up just from having young kids in the house. Furniture is supposed to serve me, not the other way around! I'm thinking of replacing the coffee table, at least. Maybe glass, or maybe an upholstered ottoman in a bullet-proof fabric, so the kids can roll around on it. Then when they're in bed DH and I can set our drinks on a pretty tray.
  11. My family is significantly smaller, but there was a time when we thought we'd have more, so I saved a lot. HMDs were useful in the early years, but after a while it got out of control. I think I donated five or six large trash bags full of clothes, and that's not even counting things that were in too rough condition to be donatable. My kids are all two years apart, but my boys have very different builds, so they're more like 5-6 years apart for HMD purposes. Stuff doesn't always hold up well in storage. Oldest is incredibly rough on clothes and only likes certain colors. Middle likes different colors and has a slimmer, shorter build. Basically, I've mostly given up on HMDs, although it can work for things like swimsuits, winter coats, certain pants, and hats and neutral-ish pajamas for the girl. I'm embracing capsule wardrobes. Just what they need to get through a basic week. Because of our climate and their preferences, there's not a huge difference between summer and winter wardrobes and it can all be kept in their closets, but YMMV.
  12. It can be helpful to set an arbitrary limit on what you'll keep. Like, one large tote bin of mom's stuff. You can always revise that later if you decide that 2 or 3+ is more reasonable. When I Konmaried the house a year ago, I had to keep reminding myself that I wasn't throwing away my loved ones. Just some of their stuff. I tried to save 2-3 examples of each person's writing, a keepsake or two, and then kept repeating "I am not throwing away Grandma. I am not throwing away Aunt Betty. I am not throwing away my baby," even as I discarded things they had once written, enjoyed, or worn. For photos, I have something like this. It holds 1600 photos. I have a larger box for large and odd-sized photos. Do it when you're ready, though. Don't let the minimalists goad you into something you're not prepared for yet. Since you and your family are already thinking about it, there will probably come a time when it feels right.
  13. He currently has a small beard, but it comes and goes. He picks at it when he's thinking, so when he's been doing a lot of thinking he needs a full shave.
  14. We use each others' phones if needed. I don't really care if he sees my messages. What I don't like is explaining context, usually over dumb little things. That's never happened with the phone, but if he glances over my shoulder while I'm on the computer I don't want to explain little things. Remember the WTMer whose avatar was dancing bacon at one point, and a grooming cat at another? When I'm relaxing on WTM I don't want someone peeking over my shoulder and commenting on it. I just want to relax. KWIM?
  15. I had a mean younger sister too, and my parents did not do enough. She and I don't speak. I'm surprised that my parents do speak to her, after the things she has done to and said about them (one thing landed her in jail, and another thing ought to have landed her in jail). But since I'm the one not talking, I'm the whole reason that we're not one big happy family. It's all my fault. Sigh. This is why it's important to figure out if it's meanness or bickering or good-spirited fun (which may or may not drive Mom crazy, but everyone views it as fun). The way parents handle things can affect the whole family for decades.
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