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  1. I would! You'd hate to be missing something that could be very treatable. And physical stuff is often much more easily treatable than psychological stuff. Or, it could be that something physical is going on that is aggravating the psychological stuff.
  2. I'd start with a regular doctor, but I'd definitely want to see a neurologist too. I think a brain MRI would be very fitting. Bigger, more obvious things I'd want to rule out would be mini-strokes and epilepsy. (I don't think it's either of those, but I'd want to rule them out.) I think a full panel of blood work is very important. That could pick up a lot of physical stuff that might be going on. (There could be some food/nutrient-absorption problem or a thyroid problem, for example.) I'd focus on looking for a physical problem first, before thinking it's psychological.
  3. That's super interesting. It makes sense though, because so many bodily changes are occurring. I've heard about dogs that can smell a seizure ahead of time in someone with epilepsy. My sister has epilepsy, and she says she can taste her seizure ahead of time. She begins to get a metallic taste in her mouth, and she knows she'll be having a seizure soon. It gives her time to sit down and prepare herself or others.
  4. Yeah, it really made an impression on me. Today's church seems to often be asking "How can I feel Jesus, how can I get the gifts of the Spirit, how can I feel peaceful, how can I.... etc. etc. etc." (And it's so easy to get caught up in that!) Bonhoeffer (at least up to where I've read so far!) doesn't seem to ask those questions. He simply goes out and serves.
  5. Well, I have some strong opinions on this. I went through the exact same thing. Except my doctor told me to see an endocrinologist, which I did. My TSH levels were perfect, and my nodules appeared benign. But I ended up having a biopsy, and that was mixed. The endocrinologist wanted to remove the nodules under surgery just to make extra sure everything was okay, with the possibly of removing the thyroid. It turns out, I had pre-cancer cells in the nodules. They removed the entire thyroid. I also was diagnosed with hashimotos. That was over 20 ago now! I didn't even know I was tired until I had my thyroid removed and went on synthroid. It turns out that my thyroid hadn't been working well so I was really tired but had begun to think it was normal. Once I started synthroid, I felt great! I've felt great for over 20 years now. I'm not saying you'll need to have your thyroid removed, but I'd definitely meet with an endocrinologist to make sure nothing is being missed.
  6. Yes to this. This is part of the reason I love the church we're at. I was very comfortable in my Lutheran church when I was growing up, but it was very insular. In hind site, it seems kind of ridiculous that it wasn't an outward-loving church. I can't imagine anything more important than that now. I remember when my kids were all home and going to youth groups at various churches, and thinking that the emphasis always seemed to be about them. How can they feel Jesus, how can they feel comforted. It just felt...uncomfortable. I'm reading the book Bonhoeffer: Pastor, Martyr, Prophet, Spy (that's a book you could read!), and I'm struck by the fact that this is a great theologian with a great faith but it's never about him. It's always about how can he best serve others. How can he be the love of Jesus wherever he is? (He eventually died at the hands of the Nazis during WWII.) I'm glad you found a church that you like! I've attended a couple Baptist churches like that over the years. There must be a wide range of what's acceptable as Baptists. (The church I'm at now is a spin-off from the Baptist church.)
  7. Interesting... I'll have to give this some thought. I don't think I can see this happening with my ds. (I would otherwise say that I for sure don't see it happening, but I've said that before and have definitely been wrong.) Something to think about...
  8. I was wondering about an eating disorder too. I remember reading an article by a doctor saying that a certain personality type can more easily transition into having an eating disorder once they've been successful in losing a lot of weight. It can be a subtle-type thing, and I think the mind can be pretty good at convincing someone that they really aren't hungry. In any event, I think a doctor's appointment is a good idea.
  9. My background isn't Roman Catholic, but my dh's is. For all of its odd stuff, my dh had a pretty good experience growing up in that tradition. I was blown away by the emphasis the Catholic church put on helping the poor. I remember the first time my dh told me (before we were married) that he sometimes couldn't sleep at night because he was so worried about the poor and the homeless, I thought he was joking! But that was his Catholic church background. It gave him a real love for the poor, and he continues to act on it to this day. That was a type of love in action that I wasn't familiar with until I met my dh and got to know the Catholic church. I think there are a lot of beautiful things about the Catholic church and I imagine the EO church as well. I believe those churches can be the right place for some people. My (adult) ds is exploring the EO church right now. He's been through some tumultuous years and we believe has some mental health issues. I think the structure and mystery of the EO church has touched something in him that he needs right now; it feels calming, in a way. The Lutheran church (where I grew up) has a lot of tradition too, and I definitely miss some of that. There's something to be said for being able to rely on tradition and orthodoxy. Also, I do think you can embrace more than one type of church. I don't think it needs to be one at the exclusion of others. We had a Lutheran minister and a Catholic priest marry us. We're members of a non-denominational church, but we'll sometimes attend a Catholic mass when we travel. The Dorothy Day center for the poor is just a few blocks away from where we live, and we volunteer there. Our dd attended an all-girls Catholic university, which was actually a very pro-feminist, progressive school. (She's going to graduate school now in political communications because November 8, 2016, made her cry too, and she wants to help change things...) I sure don't like Americanism either. Or the prosperity gospel. Ugh. I love that phrase Christ-haunted too...
  10. Ditto to all of that! I was shocked when I learned that a whole segment of Christians totally ignored some scientific theories without reason. I, too, grew up in a church that had no problem embracing science. I figure science is simply the study of the world around us, and the more we dig into it, the closer we'll get to finding God in the end. God is behind science, too.
  11. Yes to this. This is exactly how I feel. The church I attend now/the beliefs I follow I believe more closely align with the early Christians and are very Christ-centered. Many in the evangelical church (including my relatives) might call me a heretic, and definitely call my pastor that, without really trying to understand it at all. (I think they'd agree with a lot more than they realized if they gave it time!) And I totally agree about trying not to bad-mouth evangelicals. Many of my dearest friends are evangelicals. I listened to a sermon recently about how the important thing is that people are led to Jesus. People do that differently.
  12. My dd complained about a weird sensation in her throat off and on for several years. After she went gluten-free and had her migraines under control, it went away. I don't know if one of those was causing it or not, but her guess was that it was all related. Like her body reacted to a gluten intolerance with both a strange throat sensation and a susceptibility toward migraines.
  13. I've enjoyed reading your beautiful stories. I grew up in a sweet, loving, Christian home. I was part of an evangelical Lutheran church, but in those days, evangelical meant something different! It was a church full of simple, loving, authentic people, most of whom also drank alcohol at least on occasion and danced. 🙂 My own parents had cocktail hour and yet loved the Lord at the same time! My faith didn't involve rules, only loving Jesus. (As a result I probably lived a more wild lifestyle than I should have, but I don't have too many regrets.) It wasn't until college that I dated a guy who talked about the inerrancy and literal interpretation of Scripture, and I remember how funny I thought that was. I had no idea people actually believed that! I always assumed the Bible must have some boo-boos in it, or be symbolic instead of literal, etc. It didn't affect my love for Jesus. I married a young man who was coming out of the Catholic church and upbringing, and was a self-proclaimed maybe-atheist. But he was kind and loving and very smart and I married him. All along we both had "instincts" about what we believed was important, not even related to faith necessarily, but just life in general. Like, be kind to others, be unselfish, be humble, help the poor. If I ever heard anything from the Christian church that seemed to preach contrary to any of those things, then I just figured the church was wrong. But if anyone asked me how the church could be wrong, I couldn't explain it. My only answer was, "It doesn't seem right. A loving God wouldn't be like that." We lived in D.C. when we were first married, and attended a great Methodist church with a really intellectual pastor who tackled difficult issues. This was really different than my Lutheran upbringing that just kind of did whatever seemed right but didn't necessarily back it up with answers, and different from my dh's upbringing with the Catholic church. I think that was the year that my dh became a firm believer, although our journey was just beginning. We eventually joined a Lutheran church, raised our family there, began homeschooling... Homeschooling was the first time I butted heads with fundamentalism. Wow, I had no idea what fundamentalism was until I started homeschooling. I think it hurt my kids. I tried to gloss over the stuff I didn't agree with and made sure to avoid the history and science curriculums, and I always talked about it all with my kids, but I think you can't help but run into those beliefs when you homeschool, even if you don't agree with them. A lot of my kids' friends held those beliefs during those years. Fast forward to 9 years ago when our lives turned upside-down after my dh's health event that took away 1/4 of his brain. I fell into a deep depression and couldn't pray anymore after that, and that's the first time I began to question God's very existence. In fact, I pretty much accepted that he didn't exist, and stopped praying or even thinking about God for about three years. But now and then I had a nudge, and that nudge was a question that continually asked me if I believed anything at all anymore related to Christianity, and I finally realized that I did still believe in unconditional love. So I believed in the message of Jesus. I was good with stopping there. I'd just keep my eyes on Jesus, whoever he was. He didn't need to be God. Over time, I discovered theologians like Greg Boyd and Bruxy Cavey. They changed my world, especially Greg Bod. Since then, I've found lots of others, but Greg was my starting place. Their teachings always started with Jesus. And eventually Jesus led me back to God. For the first time in my life, Christianity actually made logical sense. I've come to believe probably everything Tiberia listed above. Actually, I think those are the things I instinctively and vaguely believed before, but now I have reasoning behind it. Now I can articulate it. God is a god of love, straight and simple. Love guides everything. Love changes everything. Nothing else matters much, really. The purest expression of this love is Jesus. Judgment is out the door. This makes the most sense to me, and it has challenged some of my own prejudices. It has forced me to be more humble and compassionate. I think people can find Jesus in many different ways, and that's fine. It might even be a really conservative church that helps point them there. I'm working really hard to not be judgy about that. (Because I do get judgy with certain churches!) I think God meets us wherever we're at, even if it's a very imperfect place. (Which is true for all of us, for sure.)
  14. I'm generally not a "things" person either, but I love the tradition of sending Christmas cards. Maybe I'm of a slightly older generation so it's more a thing? I send about 85/year, and probably get back around the same amount. I only keep the ones I get for a year, so I can remember what people wrote, jot down new addresses, etc. I've lived in a lot of different places and have made such sweet friends around the world that I rarely if ever have the chance to see these days, but we enjoy keeping in touch and seeing how each other is doing. Friends represent slices of my life, and Christmas is a nice time to remember those friends and those slices. I DON'T usually send cards to people I see all the time. They're for friends/family I rarely see -- usually because of distance -- but want to keep up some type of connection with. I don't do Facebook.
  15. We really enjoyed Hunt for the Wilderpeople recently. I think it's available on Hulu and Amazon Prime.
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