dirty ethel rackham Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Things here are really stressfull. DFIL is dying. His old heart is giving out. DH is stressed out trying to manage his care and see if he can stay at home with round-the-clock help or if he has to go to a nursing home. We all are grieving. We recently found out that our 19yo kid is not doing well. They had not been truthful about lots of things and we found out that they are on academic probation. After talking with their therapist, the mental health problems appear to be much more serious than we had understood. They really want to go back to school as they hate living here and feel so isolated (not hating us, but not having any friends or peer group.) But this is looking less and less feasible as we learn more. I have great fears of this kid never being able to live in reality. Does anyone know of any support groups for parents of mentally ill children? It gets even harder after they are legal adults. I am sick to my stomach. I am angry and scared. I want to scream at God "Where the hell are you?" Please don't quote me as I may delete some of the more sensitive details. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Praying here, Ellen. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnE-girl Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Praying for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 (Hugs) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Florida Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 I will keep you amd your family in my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Praying for you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 :crying: I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Have you tried a NAMI family support group? http://www.nami.org/Find-Support/NAMI-Programs/Nami-Family-Support-Group 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 :grouphug: Praying, Ellen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FriedClams Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Praying for you and your family. ((Hugs)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ethel Mertz Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Hugs and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 :grouphug: Praying for you, Ellen. I am so sorry things are so tough for you. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
purplejackmama Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Hugs, prayers, and repeat. I'm sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Oh Honey, I'm so sorry you have to walk this road. It just sucks. Be sure to try to take care of yourself. Call the therapist and ask for support group information. I'm sure there will be something. You can call your county, too. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klmama Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Praying for you and for your loved ones. :grouphug: May God grant you and your dh wisdom to know what to do and how/when to do it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 :grouphug: prayers :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pawz4me Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NicksMama-Zack's Mama Too Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Sending hugs your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MBM Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Seconding what unsinkable recommended. I know families meet in our area at Panera. I'm sorry you're going through this and I hope the situation improves. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vicki Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Praying. I understand completely. My middle ds is bipolar. He was diagnosed about 5 years ago at age 21. Actually, he needed to be diagnosed before that. It is still a struggle. I did decide the best thing I could do for myself was eat right, get plenty of sleep, exercise, and stay close to God. I read everything I could on the subject. I talked to my ds's counselor once and she said it was very important that I had support too. I do. It helps. I still worry. I hasn't been easy. I'd be happy to talk to you. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy in FL. Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Praying for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 NAMI is the place to find a support group for parents. Look up NAMI.org and find what's going on in your area. My neighbors have an adult child with depression. I told them about NAMI. I think the hardest part for them was admitting that this was their reality. Once they went to their first NAMI group it was easier. They started by going to some sort of introductory group for family members/parents. It was really helpful to just meet people who were dealing with similar issues. Now, they regularly attend support meetings and have learned how to step back. Anyway, even if you think you don't have time, please contact NAMI. I will pray. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minerva Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 ((Big hugs)) This has got to be so tough. I hope you can find some support locally. Meanwhile, you are in my thoughts. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooCow Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Oh my goodness.......I can totally relate. I shall pray for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ScoutTN Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Praying! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrairieSong Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Praying for you and your family, Ellen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frances Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Sending hugs and good thoughts your way during these difficult times. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckymama Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura in CA Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 :grouphug: praying, Ellen :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ripley Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Prayers for your sweet FIL, and all who love him - especially for your husband, as he manages FIL's care through the grief. And :grouphug: to you, the parents of a struggling young adult. I hope you're able to find the NAMI group close to you. I'm not sure there is a solution for how to solve the problems that stem from his/her illness, so support is going to be essential to staying and sane and united while he/she figures out where his/her road is leading. You all have a lot on your plate, and all of it is out of your control; it's no wonder you feel alone, maybe even abandoned. It feels trite and cliché to quote Footprints, but really and truly that's where my head goes when I struggle with the crosses I bear. It's like I'm emotionally running on fumes, and just as I run out of gas two blocks from the gas station, out of nowhere: kamikazi ... and a wind that's just enough of a nudge to coast in. Some days the best I can do is get out of bed, and I know the energy to do so is not coming from within ;) My prayer for you is that your divine nudge shows itself. Stat. Sounds like you need it, Sister. Love and best wishes to your entire family. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
texasmama Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 (((Hugs)))) Lifting you up, mama. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyThreeSons Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Hugs and prayers. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debbi in Texas Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Praying here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 :grouphug: and prayers for you and your family. nami.org might have support groups in your area. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corraleno Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 I'm so sorry, Ellen. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 (((DER))). I wish I were not praying for so many lost young people. The list is too long. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Praying for your family. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TeacherZee Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Keeping you and yours in the light. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mama Geek Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 :grouphug: and prayers for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caroline Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Praying for you and your family. Hugs to you. If you need to unload over pm, I'll listen. I understand about not wanting to send a child back to school, from both sides. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Sending :grouphug: and prayers from here. Take care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Praying for you and your family to find peace. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 I'm so sorry. Praying things get better. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zoo Keeper Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: Praying for you and the ones you love. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lanny Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 I will include you and your family in my prayers. I wonder if the therapist can give you some clues, if s/he can and will communicate with you about the problems your DC is having. Hopefully that would require and receive approval from your DC. I suspect it is hard to perform well academically, if one has serious Mental Health or Physical Health issues. GL P.S. With regard to your husbands father, I hope he is not suffering and can be kept as comfortable as is possible. ETA: I had been wondering about the progress you made with your dead hard drive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El... Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: That's a lot to deal with. Best wishes to you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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