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texasmama last won the day on May 7 2016

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  1. Yes, both of my teens essentially followed this plan and have transitioned well to the CC. I was their writing/English teacher and used EIW with great results. They combined literature analysis with writing, and they wrote six papers of 700-ish words each per year in addition to class discussion on the novels. For a reluctant literature and writing kid, I loved Windows to the World. Uses short stories for lit analysis and a slow ramp up to writing. IEW experience not necessary. I also like to tell people how I failed to compel one son to do any writing program for very long until his 9th grade year (he was 12 at the time). Our home is still littered with writing programs one quarter of the way done. In spite of mine and his failings in this area, he is a fabulous writer when necessary, and he has done quite well in CC. They summarized salient points in a handwritten spiral notebook for history in high school until they transitioned to CC. I think your plan is fine for a STEM kid.
  2. Oh yes. I could not agree more with this. I have a completely neurotypical kid sandwiched between one with autism and severe anxiety and another with anxiety and physical disabilities. It is too much for him to bear up under sometimes. Everyone here on this thread is doing their very best under difficult circumstances. We go one step at a time with the information we have, and some of it will be throwing things against the wall to see what sticks. Just a shout out to all the special-needs mamas here today. This is hard as hell.
  3. I have also missed significant mental health issues in more than one of my kids because it is impossible to be objective with your own kids. And I am a mental health therapist with many years of experience with kids and teens. You find yourself here now. You know now. You have not been doing nothing so have not been negligent. It is just that the current situation is not adequate to promote safety and mental health. This is a very complex picture you paint with your daughter. It will take time and experimentation to find what works for her. And then she will grow and change and the plan will need to change, as well. Neurologists can manage mental health meds as psychiatrists can and are often much more accessible. Try this route.
  4. At this point, I would call the therapist again and leave a message like this - "My daughter is in a crisis, is refusing to go to school, and I am concerned for her safety." What were you instructed to do by the therapist in case of crisis? In-patient is a mixed bag, but it sounds like she is approaching this. A family doc or pediatrician can miss this call sometimes that a psychiatrist would not miss. If you are in the US, call your insurance company and ask about in-patient coverage so you have the information. Ask what facilities in your area are covered. You can take her to an ER, but that is the least favorable option.
  5. Your daughter is in crisis. This has happened gradually. Her current mental health supports are inadequate and her antidepressant dosage is not effective. In your shoes, I would keep her home from school and get help today. The scenario you describe leads me to wonder if your daughter is having suicidal ideation. If she has a current therapist, call that person. If not, find a local mental health crisis hotline. She needs an evaluation for safety. She may not need to be in-patient hospitalized, and there are other options, but I would not wait to act.
  6. One more thought to echo others - it is just fine to ditch formal schoolwork at this age for a time to work on strengthening the relationship, pushing the reset button, exploring options, getting professional feedback, etc. In fact, it is likely best, as digging the rut deeper is not helping anyone. It is reinforcing the negative experience for both of you and taking time and energy from your other kids. Sometimes the best thing you can do is stop and regroup.
  7. Data point - some ADHD meds increase anxiety. The research is out there. Limited for time so just tossing this out.
  8. We were very fortunate to have a therapist who understood the role of sensory processing and retained reflexes and was willing to put the time into treating specifically that. If the current OT does not treat these sensory issues, you may need a different one. Not sure what the OT worked on with your DD. My son’s OT understood these principles better than I did.
  9. That would be my guess, as well. My ASD kid had extensive, long term OT (9 years), and when he missed a few weeks, he became emotionally dysregulated. That, in turn, impacted his overall functioning negatively in every area.
  10. What is being done to address her anxiety and depression? Public school has the distinct possibility of increasing those for most kids with the diagnoses you describe. There are other school options between homeschooling full time and public school, and I would be exploring those in your shoes. It is okay to look at your family’s needs as a whole, not just your dd7. However, the mood disorders will need to be addressed no matter the school setting. Anxiety is the reason we began our homeschooling journey, and it allowed for a supportive environment which worked well for my ASD son from 2nd grade to present. (He is 18 now.)
  11. Yes, this raises red flags for ASD. Diagnosing ASD is beyond the scope of what most pediatricians will and should do so you should find an evaluator who specializes in this.
  12. Yes! 🙂 They can sleep anywhere, too - in the living room, the car, etc. It is a return to toddlerhood with daily naps.
  13. Another aside- my NT teen has tremendous difficulty waking up to an alarm. Has always been this way. He simply sleeps through everything. Also, both of my teen boys nap every day, sometimes for hours. They are 16 and 18. My teen girls did not do this.
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