Melissa in Australia Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 Firstly It sucks that my grandmother died, but she was in pain, and old. We were very very close It sucks having to ring others and tell them It really sucks when you need to re-ring people and tell them that because of restrictions only 50 can come It sucks when borders get closed even for compassionate reasons and relatives cannot come It sucks After 2 days of funeral arranging, having the government late last night announce that by Friday only 10 can attend a funeral Ringing up people and telling them they don't make the list of 10 is really really hard. They always want to know who made the list and I feel guilty being alive Knowing that by Friday there is a possability that the numbers might have to be reduced to 5 and I wouldn't be able to go myself is really really hard. It is so so sad 74 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam in CT Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 Oh, Melissa. I am so sorry. It sucks. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 It sucketh much. I am so sorry. We have found that having a Zoom call setup was helpful, but it is certainly not the same. I can’t even having to call and revoke invitations to the funeral...even when everyone knows it is entirely due to changing circumstances. 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Terabith Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I'm so sorry. That is horrible. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
klmama Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I'm sorry for your loss and for this extra stress. You may want to ask the funeral home if they have contingency plans regarding video streaming. That's been happening in the U.S. in places. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annie G Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I’m so sorry. It really does suck. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted July 7, 2020 Author Share Posted July 7, 2020 It will be live streamed Not the same at all 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkTulip Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I’m so sorry that your grandmother passed away, and that this stupid virus is compounding your grief by making everything exponentially harder. Sending my love! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 so, so, so sorry 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted July 7, 2020 Author Share Posted July 7, 2020 (edited) Also have to tipto, comfort, work around while pretending to work with the crazy idiot she married a few years ago. I cannot stand him, nobody can stand him. He is insane. He went last minute shopping yesterday wearing a imitation monks robe I don't think he had anything on under it. I will be glad when I never have to see him again Edited July 7, 2020 by Melissa in Australia 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
YaelAldrich Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I'm so sorry. It really sucks on too many levels. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Innisfree Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I'm so very sorry. That is rotten beyond words. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Robin M Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I'm so sorry, Melissa. Hugs and prayers! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HS Mom in NC Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 Woah! That really sucks! What a difficult position to be put in. I'm so sorry you have to deal with all of that. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 We had a 10 person funeral for my MIL in April. Her siblings and grandchildren couldn't be there. It certainly does suck. I'm sorry for your loss. 😞 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I'm so sorry about the loss of your grandmother :(. . Covid is making a horrible situation even worse. Sending prayers and wishes for things to go as well as they can. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
East Coast Sue Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I’m so sorry. Losing a loved one is hard enough without dealing with Covid restrictions (((hugs))) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I'm very sorry. Losing a loved one is hard enough and the situation makes it even more difficult. Big hugs to you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BusyMom5 Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I am sorry- there are 2 things to grieve. The loss of your grandmother and the loss of a funeral. I am sure everyone understands, these are hard times. 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
73349 Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I'm sorry. It does suck. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I'm so sorry, Melissa.... Anne 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kristin0713 Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I am so, so sorry. It is such a hard time to lose loved ones. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 It does suck. Sorry you have to go through yet another stressful situation in the midst of this yuck. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
barnwife Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I am so, so sorry for you loss, and the extra difficulty in navigating it during a pandemic. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vonfirmath Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 Can you do a quiet funeral now and a future celebration of her life when conditions allow that everyone can come? That's what they did for my husband's grandmother because she died at a time a lot of her kids could not have come to a funeral. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheReader Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 1 hour ago, Melissa in Australia said: Firstly It sucks that my grandmother died, but she was in pain, and old. We were very very close It sucks having to ring others and tell them It really sucks when you need to re-ring people and tell them that because of restrictions only 50 can come It sucks when borders get closed even for compassionate reasons and relatives cannot come It sucks After 2 days of funeral arranging, having the government late last night announce that by Friday only 10 can attend a funeral Ringing up people and telling them they don't make the list of 10 is really really hard. They always want to know who made the list and I feel guilty being alive Knowing that by Friday there is a possability that the numbers might have to be reduced to 5 and I wouldn't be able to go myself is really really hard. It is so so sad Big, huge, compassion-filled, hugs. Because yep, it sucks. I'm so very sorry you are not only having to navigate grief, you are also having to decide who attends. I can't even imagine. Big, big, big, big hugs. For all the things. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I am so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 (((Melissa))) I am so, so sorry. 😞 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pen Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I’m so sorry 😢. Hugs. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
almondbutterandjelly Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 ((hugs)) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 it is a huge pile of suckyness... I'm so sorry for your loss, Melissa. Hugs. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 Huge hugs to you, Melissa. ❤️ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 So sorry for your loss 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenCat Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 So many hugs for you right now. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted July 7, 2020 Share Posted July 7, 2020 I am so sorry. All of that is so difficult. 😞 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corraleno Posted July 8, 2020 Share Posted July 8, 2020 I am so sorry, Melissa. 😢 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kareni Posted July 8, 2020 Share Posted July 8, 2020 My sympathies, Melissa, on the death of your grandmother and these additional trials. Regards, Kareni 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted July 8, 2020 Share Posted July 8, 2020 I am so sorry. The ever changing covid rules make everything even more difficult. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted July 8, 2020 Share Posted July 8, 2020 Melissa, I am so sorry for this terrible pain. Hugs. My prayers are with you tonight. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hannah Posted July 8, 2020 Share Posted July 8, 2020 Oh Melissa, that truly does suck. So sorry for your loss and at such a difficult time. (((Big Hugs))) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathy in Richmond Posted July 8, 2020 Share Posted July 8, 2020 Melissa, I am so sorry for your loss and what you're going through. I can relate as I went through my Mom's death during Covid. Never in a million years did I ever think I'd have to issue invitations to her funeral service 😞 It truly sucks! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kareni Posted July 8, 2020 Share Posted July 8, 2020 A belated note of sympathy to you too, @Kathy in Richmond, on the death of your mother. Regards, Kareni 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mominco Posted July 8, 2020 Share Posted July 8, 2020 So sorry for your loss Melissa (((hugs))) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kanin Posted July 8, 2020 Share Posted July 8, 2020 On 7/7/2020 at 2:54 PM, Melissa in Australia said: Firstly It sucks that my grandmother died, but she was in pain, and old. We were very very close It sucks having to ring others and tell them It really sucks when you need to re-ring people and tell them that because of restrictions only 50 can come It sucks when borders get closed even for compassionate reasons and relatives cannot come It sucks After 2 days of funeral arranging, having the government late last night announce that by Friday only 10 can attend a funeral Ringing up people and telling them they don't make the list of 10 is really really hard. They always want to know who made the list and I feel guilty being alive Knowing that by Friday there is a possability that the numbers might have to be reduced to 5 and I wouldn't be able to go myself is really really hard. It is so so sad I'm really sorry. 😞 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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