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  1. (( @heartlikealion )) thank you for trying. For trying to better understand the circumstances, for trying to figure out some way to help people who are clearly suffering, for trying to sort through and articulate your thoughts. Trying to make a difference, even a very small difference, is very often not particularly gratifying in the moment. It takes a while to find the right entry point, something that fits our disposition and style; caring for children may not be the best entry point for you. There are many, many other ways; I hope you hang in and find one that works for you.
  2. What would it take for any of *us* to pick up our kids and take them to our southern border right now, knowing how they'll be treated once they arrive? The lure of below-minimum jobs in the meat-packing plants and agricultural fields and construction crews and hotel cleaning services and back kitchens of restaurants notwithstanding: it's not like we're putting out a welcome mat. Home, by Warsan Shire no one leaves home unless home is the mouth of a shark. you only run for the border when you see the whole city running as well. your neighbours running faster than you, the boy you went to school with who kissed you dizzy behind the old tin factory is holding a gun bigger than his body, you only leave home when home won't let you stay. no one would leave home unless home chased you, fire under feet, hot blood in your belly. it's not something you ever thought about doing, and so when you did - you carried the anthem under your breath, waiting until the airport toilet to tear up the passport and swallow, each mouthful of paper making it clear that you would not be going back. you have to understand, no one puts their children in a boat unless the water is safer than the land.  who would choose to spend days and nights in the stomach of a truck unless the miles travelled meant something more than journey. no one would choose to crawl under fences, be beaten until your shadow leaves you, raped, then drowned, forced to the bottom of the boat because you are darker, be sold, starved, shot at the border like a sick animal, be pitied, lose your name, lose your family, make a refugee camp a home for a year or two or ten, stripped and searched, find prison everywhere and if you survive and you are greeted on the other side with go home blacks, refugees dirty immigrants, asylum seekers sucking our country dry of milk, dark, with their hands out smell strange, savage - look what they've done to their own countries, what will they do to ours? the dirty looks in the street softer than a limb torn off, the indignity of everyday life more tender than fourteen men who look like your father, between your legs, insults easier to swallow than rubble, than your child's body in pieces - for now, forget about pride your survival is more important. i want to go home, but home is the mouth of a shark home is the barrel of the gun and no one would leave home unless home chased you to the shore unless home tells you to leave what you could not behind, even if it was human. no one leaves home until home is a damp voice in your ear saying leave, run now, i don't know what i've become.
  3. FWIW, the forensic expert whose general statement about general hypoid bone fractures was included in WaPo's origin story about Epstein has issued a statement, including both a clarification that he did not himself examine Epstein body, and also that such fractures are "well recognized" as possible in suicides by hanging.
  4. In *my* world, planning now for a fall vacation does NOT count as "last minute," LOL. A few years ago we were waiting on a rescue dog, not sure when things would work out, so I couldn't plan a vacation for the interval my kids had vacation. (Fabulous, ) dog arrived with us 9 days before vacation, sending me into a scramble to find somewhere a) I could drive to, while b) taking the dog and kids, that was c) close enough to an airport that my husband could join us efficiently; and d) warm. I ended up with a dog-friendly VRBO in St Simons GA, one block in from a beautiful white sand beach, easy walk into the super-cute town with mini-golf and cafes and a slew of dog-terrace restaurants. Everyone recalls it as one of our best vacations. I think (? can't quite remember) my husband flew in/out of Savannah. In any rate, the flight was direct (from NY, so lots of places are direct) and given the truly-last-minute not too expensive.
  5. FWIW, the WSJ is reporting that it was Epstein's own counsel who requested he be taken off suicide watch.. ... while AP is reporting that the federal MCC in which he was being held (which has also held such high-profile individuals as Reza Zarrab, Joshua Schulte and El Chapo over the last two years, every one of whom have had reported... "irregularities" during their time there) is suffering such extreme staffing shortages that Back to the WSJ account, If the "irregularities" amount to a couple of overtired/ short-staffed guards not being too fastidious about ensuring that an entitled serial child molester is protected from self-harm... well. Not protocol for sure; and frustrating from the vantage point of victims wanting justice; but hardly the stuff of global murder conspiracies or gripping suspense fiction.
  6. Oh (( Jean )). Holding the college student you're caring for in the light. This is a great idea.
  7. We went several times to the one in PA when the kids were under ~15. Magiquest = great, food = pretty terrible, themed rooms w/ bunks are all you need. For us it was critical to get off campus for a few meals, to do a bit of hiking, just to breathe some non-chlorinated air. And inside the waterpark area it is, unavoidably, LOUD, to which I'm sensitive. And all that said it's a lot of fun. Enjoy it.
  8. re reading one another's minds/ intentions Or... get offended because someone said "no problem" instead of "you're welcome." We may have gone full circle here, folks. (I really don't think it -- either you're welcome v no problem, or sir/ma'am -- is a millennial / boomer thing, or a northern / southern thing, or a Good Manners / Bad Manners thing, or certainly certainly not a Good People / Bad People thing. Customs vary. On little stuff like this -- we are talking about courtesies between strangers conducting transactions at the supermarket - that's OK. On the big stuff it's helpful to understand the differences and try to respect one another's preferences. May peace be upon us all.)
  9. Well, and that he'll never rape young girls again. Which is no small thing, but still not justice or closure.
  10. Whatever the circumstances around Epstein's death, the attention of both the SDNY prosecutors who brought charges against Epstein himself, and of the investigations that AG Bill Barr just announced he will initiate into the apparent suicide, will turn to Epstein associates named in the SDNY criminal and other civil cases related to him. The farthest along of the civil cases is that between Virginia Giuffre against Ghislaine Maxwell, who allegedly operated for many years as Epstein's main procurer of young girls. It was the Giuffre-Maxwell case -- not the criminal case for which Epstein was detained -- whose judge unsealed a tremendous trove of documents yesterday. Maxwell -- long a highly visible regular at high society events -- seems recently to have vanished from the public spotlight. Adam Klasfeld, one of the best of the SDNY court watchers, whom many of those of us who frequent the politics group (which has followed Epstein's case since the Miami Herald broke it back open last November; come on over) follow, made an interesting observation about what comes next:
  11. FWIW (in the event you want to update the details of your theory, LOL) it's being reported as by hanging. Very frustrating from the vantage point of victims who were hoping to finally have some closure. This isn't that.
  12. Ken Diamin/NBC has tweeted out confirmation though he hasn't gotten a story up yet.
  13. ABC is reporting he succeeded the second time. So far no other outlets have corroborated.
  14. I was just thinking about this too! I don't actually know. But the sense my mind stitched together was that it might derive similarly to the Old English phrase "well met." Like (I imagined in my head), you've had someone over for mutton and boiled cabbage and mead for dinner, they stood at the door on the way out and said thank you, you said "you're well come," meaning, it is well that you came. Suggesting a reciprocal pleasure in the encounter. I have no idea if this is actually the etymology but it made good sense inside my head, LOL I often see English nuance better by comparing to other languages. To me, if I draw a spectrum with "de nada"/"de rien"/"no problem" on one end; and "con mucho gusto"/"avec plaisir"/"with pleasure" on the other end, "you're welcome" is straight up in the middle. Today. But if the "well met / well come" etymology is right, perhaps it once derived more on the "with pleasure" side of the spectrum. ETA: and not all encounters that generate thanks *are* reciprocally pleasurable, and that's fine. When you have people over for dinner, or host family holidays, etc, there *is* joy in the hosting as well as in the eating. Commercial transactions not so much. That's fine.
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