Janeway Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 He says he just found out. Technically, they are officially telling him in the morning. So, add this to the rest. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Oh my goodness. Sending hugs and prayers your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 I'm so sorry. We went through that in 2008. So stressful. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 I'm sorry :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arcadia Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamiof5 Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 (edited) ! Edited October 31, 2016 by mamiof5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Oh dear. Husband has been laid off twice, once when I was pregnant with Calvin, the other about six years ago. They were tough times, but we found resources within ourselves to cope with it. Best wishes to you. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 That sucks. I am so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hilltopmom Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Ugh, sorry. Been there, it sucks. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lecka Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Oh, no, I am sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selkie Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 I'm sorry! That stinks. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eternalsummer Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Ugh, that is no good. If he has been at this job for a year or more, you likely will receive a fair amount of unemployment insurance. That really helped us in the past - we were able to pare down basic living expenses to that level. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Oh no, I'm so sorry. Support there, vent here. We are here for you. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debbi in Texas Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 :(( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jjeepa Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 So sorry! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooCow Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 He says he just found out. Technically, they are officially telling him in the morning. So, add this to the rest. Oh No. I am so sorry. We have been through that 3 times in the 6 years we have been married! I know how stressful it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomatHWTK Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 When you are at the bottom, rest for a moment and then climb. Step by step, you rise higher. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
73349 Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Oh, crud. Sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 Do you know what his prospects are for another job - locally - or with relocation? If you're interested in Boardie networking, share what you can. Obviously there are no promises, but it seems Rule #1 when job hunting is to let everyone you can know because you never know where a lead could come from. In general though - :grouphug: , lots of :grouphug: and best wishes for something good to turn up. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 I am so, so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted October 31, 2016 Share Posted October 31, 2016 I'm sorry. DH was laid off at the beginning of the recession. It wasn't pretty but we survived. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaybee Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redsquirrel Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 I am so sorry. I hope it's just a bump in the road, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ethel Mertz Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 So sorry to see this. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 Do you know what his prospects are for another job - locally - or with relocation? If you're interested in Boardie networking, share what you can. Obviously there are no promises, but it seems Rule #1 when job hunting is to let everyone you can know because you never know where a lead could come from. In general though - :grouphug: , lots of :grouphug: and best wishes for something good to turn up. :grouphug: And right before the holidays... :cursing: If you feel okay sharing general region or state and type of industry, we could all put our heads together. Some options are: Headhunters Monster.com Indeed.com Glassdoor.com Your local Craig's list Previous employers / colleagues 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 Happened twice here, but each time was short. The first time DH and I worked at the same company and both got laid off on the same day when the company closed our office. The second time I was 8 months pregnant with our second son. Other than the time my husband called me from work to gasp out, "They're taking me to the ER..." (It was kidney stones), hearing the we'd lost jobs was the most frightened I've been in my life. Where you literally feel the adrenaline pouring through your body from your head to your feet, as it washes through your veins and your stomach feels like you were punched. I feel for you. We prayed a lot. God came through. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UCF612 Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 Oh man, so sorry. We went through that when my oldest was 10 months. It was so scary but was a great thing for us ultimately once he found a new job. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RioSamba Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 Hugs. That's so hard:( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hmvaughan4 Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 I'm so sorry. We've been through it twice now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hornblower Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 Well, that really sucks. Sorry to hear that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 He says he just found out. Technically, they are officially telling him in the morning. So, add this to the rest. I'm so sorry. Praying for a quick resolution and a better job. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cjzimmer1 Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 (edited) I'm sorry, it's hard but you can get through this. We've had two lengthy spells (greater than 6 months) and several short term (less than 2 months). Here's what I've learned: Immediately cut any unnecessary expenses. This would include both your gymnastics and preschool dilemnas. Yes it's hard to say no to the kids but this is real life and there is no point pretending that reality isn't happening. You don't know how long you may need to stretch your resources out and you don't want to spend it on something now if this turns out to be a long term thing. I also learned to only buy what I try needed TODAY,. Not tomorrow, not next week, not because something is on sale but because it was truly needed today. That simple mindset not only helped me conserve resources (because there was very few things that were truly needed today) but it also helped me not stress about tomorrow because I could rest in the fact that I what was truly NEEDED today was already taken care of. I didn't dwell on tomorrow or things down the road. Live in the present only. If you are not opposed to government aid, apply the day he gets the official word. The clock starts ticking from the day you apply. It usually takes a month a more around for you to see any aid to come through so the sooner you start the wheels turning the sooner you will have some extra help. If it turns out he gets another job, it is much easier to stop the process. Also we found DH and I really had to work on touching base often or the stress just lead to petty arguments. I was often doing job searches while he was out networking, interviewing etc. I would show him what I found and he would pare them down to things that were a good fit. But it saved him some time by my having down some of the searches. Remember you are a team and need to work together. It's easy to try to be strong and not the other know how you are feeling but we found we really need to make sure we shared the good a bad feelings during this time so we could brainstorm together the best way to handle all the decisions that needed to be made. Edited November 1, 2016 by cjzimmer1 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 I agree with all of the above. First, I am so sorry. That is so hard. Our jobless time came bc we left a job and moved back to our home country. But it was a stressful time--the hardest part was not knowing when he would have a job again. I do regret not going on WIC. I also didn't understand some of the other options like CHIP. We were moving home from Canada and there had been changes that I didn't understand. I was silly to worry about the things I worried about with regard to assistance. I think it would have taken some pressure off of my dh. And double yes to cutting unnecessary expenses. Also, we tend to get used to dropping $10 here, $10 there for small things. Try to stop all of that. We do pay as you go cell phones use and it's much cheaper and works fine. We have basic basic cable, but have gone with none and survived easily on library videos. I think it is good and healthy for kids to learn that in times like this you cut back. I found a lot of free options in the area we moved to temporarily. Anyway, enough advice. I know mostly you need to hear that it will be okay. It will be. You will make it through. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MomatHWTK Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 See if you can get a lawyer to take the a/c on straight contingency. The contractor may file bankruptcy and you want to be at the front of the line. : ( Get signed up for any benefits you can ASAP. And yes, take advantage of this and any other networks you can. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 I am so sorry. So much stuff coming at you right now. Just lots of hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 hugs. I'm so sorry. best wishes he can find another job soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scrapbookbuzz Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 Mine, too. He found out by way of third party when we returned from our vacation two weeks ago. I feel your pain. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamiof5 Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 I was trying to post earlier, but my phone wasn't working. I'm so sorry!!! I hope he finds something very soon. There's never a good time for this, but with all the other stuff going on this just adds more stress :( Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamiof5 Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 Mine, too. He found out by way of third party when we returned from our vacation two weeks ago. I feel your pain. So sorry! Hope he finds a job soon! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellie Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm so sorry. :crying: That kind of news is such a kick in the gut. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 Hugs 19 years ago DH became ill from work, then found out that he was so ill that he would never be able to go to work again. It took quite a long time but we pulled through it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amber in SJ Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 I am so sorry to hear this. We went through this in 2008-2010 and in some ways still haven't fully recovered. I second the idea of cutting out all non-essentials. When it happened to us it was happening all over and we saw some families go into and deeper into debt because they didn't want to cut anything. They thought another job would be just around the corner and it would be wrong to disrupt their kids' lives for what might be a short term financial hiccup. We told the kids that we were going to be OK, but we would have to work together as a family. We were upfront with the kids that things would be tight for the holidays. They were OK with this. I had to adjust my thinking to the fact that I now had more time than money for just about everything One website that really helped me was theprudenthomemaker.com Praying that this really will be just a little blip for you and that you will be able to not feel overwhelmed by the challenges ahead. Amber in SJ 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 Mine, too. He found out by way of third party when we returned from our vacation two weeks ago. I feel your pain. :grouphug: for you too. Feel free to network on here if you wish. May a new job come soon. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ashfern Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 1, 2016 Share Posted November 1, 2016 Sorry. From btdt, dont be shy about letting people know if you need help and that your dh is looking. There are community resources for the family that can be helpful, as well as people who have short term small jobs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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