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  1. First of all, no, you aren't doing anything wrong. I was coming on to say about the same thing Kirsten said. I have seen this attitude here and there throughout my life, that if you ask for charitable donations, you should be grateful for whatever you get. It is a kind of looking down on people who need anything. That you don't deserve things as nice as I do, since you are asking for something to be given to you, so it doesn't matter if something is torn up, dirty, ages old, broken, something I would never ever use or wear, etc. And they want to be treated as though they are good and generous people for offering you their garbage or useless items. I don't understand it. But yeah, the Amazon list is a good way to avoid a lot of that.
  2. Bumping this thread back up because I woke up with vertigo for the first time ever. I woke up sometime in the night and felt it, but went back to sleep without waking up completely. This has been such a weird experience. When I woke up, I was attempting to sit up, and it was like violent gravitational pulls on me all over. I was only halfway up and fell immediately back down onto the bed. I had to go to the bathroom, so waited a little bit, then crawled. Dh had offered to help me, but I could tell that I wouldn't even be able to stand up and walk with help, and might make us both fall. I got him to bring my computer, and watched videos on the Epley maneuver. I had some trouble doing it correctly--not because the directions were not clear, but I was just so disoriented. I also looked up the Carol Foster video that @PinkTulip suggested, and have done it three times so far. Thank you so much for that suggestion. I can now walk around the house and was able to get a shower, but I am so tired and have a headache. I took a nap in the recliner a little bit ago. I am supposed to be flying with dh on Saturday to meet our newest grandchild, and am really really hoping that I don't have any problems, because dd needs our help next week. I read that I should sleep in a recliner or propped up for a few nights, which will be hard because I am a side sleeper. I am trying to be really careful about how I move my head so as not to trigger it again. I am wondering if there is anything else I should be doing (I will continue to do the Foster maneuvers periodically). Is there any reason to go to a doctor if those maneuvers helped? I'm not planning to, but ?? (My PCP is hard to get in to see.) Earlier, I was thinking that there is no way I could even go in to see a doctor, because I couldn't get out of bed. I have not been sick or anything--only extremely mild congestion, not even enough to take anything for it, but I did take some Benadryl this morning to try to help. I don't have any dramamine on hand.
  3. It wasn't nothing, but it wasn't horrible. Like a miserable bad cold for about a week, fatigue for several weeks, at least for me. Dh had a deepish cough that hung on for awhile--after other symptoms had disappeared, and he is generally over things more quickly. My cough was just a shallow one, but I had more sneezing. Neither of us ran fever.
  4. 🤷‍♀️ My latest vaccine was Sept 23, and I caught covid around the last week of December.
  5. Good sleep makes SUCH a difference! Congratulations!
  6. I'm so sorry, @Tap. Not just for the weekend, but for all the complicated stuff of it over the years. You did what you could, though; for years, you did what you could. I'm sorry about your losing the pup as well. May you find peace and slowly be able to let go of the tension and stress you have held for all these years.
  7. Congratulations! She is so beautiful.❤️
  8. While I had expected to homeschool our kids through high school, that isn't the way it turned out, for various reasons. Some of those reasons were circumstantial, some of those were based on the child's needs at the time. One did end up homeschooling through high school, except for 3rd-4th grades. One went to public school at 7th grade. Three went to a private school in 10th grade. And one went to private school in 8th. There were also some other experiences in there, but it gets complicated. Two of the ones who went to private school in 10th, attended 7th grade at a public school; we had been living overseas, and homeschooling was just easier, but we were in the U.S. for a year and they wanted to go to school. After that year, they were happy to return to homeschooling. Academics were going great, but by 10th, they had some other needs that were important to meet. Anyway, all that to say, sometimes it really is best for one to go to a B&M school. Other times, a year in that environment shows them that it isn't all it's cracked up to be, at least for them. I have found it helps to try to understand the real roots of what is going on, and then to be flexible to meet that child's needs. Some children really do need a wider world. Others are happy to keep homeschooling in order to be able to dive deep into some personal interests.🤷‍♀️
  9. Yes, @maize, you get the gist of what I am trying to say, especially in this quote. Plus, things/people/circumstances change over time. We couldn't have anticipated everything (thankfully!).
  10. So it was posted on the Kate Middleton thread that she knew what she was getting into when she married William. I have seen that thought expressed here on the forum quite a few times. But it always makes me think, "Did she really?" I mean, of course she had some idea. But the extent of it and the wearing down of it, etc., I doubt if she knew that fully. We have warned our adult kids about the consequences of decisions here and there over the years. But I seriously doubt that if they choose to make a decision contrary to our advice, that they would really understand the fullness of that decision beforehand. This could apply to dating/marriage to certain types of people, career decisions, ad infinitum. We have one that needs to do a minor thing that they refuse to do mainly because they can't be bothered. But it might prevent an early avoidable death. Apparently, they do not have the maturity to look into the future and see what that might mean to a spouse or a child, or to themselves. We have all been told about possible consequences to our own decisions at some point in time. Did we really understand at the time what it meant? Besides, some decisions are generally worth the risk (having children, for instance). While on the one hand, yes, people make decisions that they should have known better than to make. And there are consequences that may not be very palatable or may even be dangerous. Yet, haven't we all made decisions that were risky in some way or another? Decisions that could have flipped on us or been so much worse than we anticipated. So I wonder...where is the empathy, the human kindness to one in a difficult spot, no matter who they are or what the circumstances? I'm not starting this as a Kate thread so much as just an exploratory thread into our own thoughts toward hardships or consequences for both ourselves and others.
  11. Oh.🤔 Never thought about that association. I just thought my hairdresser knows how to cut my hair better than others before. Although there do seem to be new cowlicks.
  12. Looking at my life from the outside, I look very traditional, though not tradwife wealthy or anything. I am still at home though my kids are grown. (I worked for awhile, and enjoyed it, but the atmosphere became more and more poisonous due to the main boss' arrogance, etc., so I eventually couldn't stomach supporting that any more and just quit. I've halfheartedly looked for another job, but prefer being at home.) Education was emphasized in my FOO, however, and also in our home, and I have my master's degree. I strongly support my kids/spouses to go the route that they feel best fits them. I think it generally helps the home to run more smoothly and less hectically when there is a SAHP, but the "right" to follow one's giftedness and dreams is something I take seriously. Plus, you just never know what is going to happen in life, and I want my daughters and dils to have some skills in place. I was appalled a few years ago to hear the associate pastor in our (then, but not long after) church make a casual statement about women not really needing the right to vote. Since, I have read that sentiment more often. I'm still appalled by it. I don't appreciate being looked down on because I did not choose a career. But I definitely appreciate having the choice.
  13. I don't know what she means either. The post doesn't make much sense to me. But I agree with @teachermom2834's post. I would hate it, but I would not get pulled in. Her kid would probably hate that she posted that too. It's too personal. I am more and more cautious about posting anything personal, including photos of my family (and my adorable grandkids). I think the best response is no response. I would be wary of her, but 🤷‍♀️
  14. Personally, I love to get Amazon cards, and always have a long wishlist that I can choose from. However, since she will be new here and probably doesn't keep lists like that on Amazon, I voted Target. Being able to actually see and touch items would be helpful since she probably isn't familiar with the brands and quality.
  15. I don't know if you will have trouble getting it on time, but quite a few years ago, I ordered two skirts and two tops from https://concertblack.bigcartel.com. I wore them for years and was very pleased. If I get my weight down and stabilized, I plan to order another top and skirt, because it is very handy to have a quality black outfit on hand.
  16. Happy Birthday to him! What a handsome young man! He has a sweet face.
  17. My mom used to do things like a new toothbrush and mini-toothpaste, etc., lol. You might roll up a t-shirt with a favorite theme, granola bars, a book, mini puzzle type book. Roll up a magazine about a favorite topic.
  18. More on measles: https://www.medpagetoday.com/opinion/parasites-and-plagues/108905?xid=nl_mpt_DHE_2024-02-26&eun=g1838208d0r&utm_source=Sailthru&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Daily Headlines Evening 2024-02-26&utm_term=NL_Daily_DHE_dual-gmail-definition
  19. I don't know how to do it and still take the high road--for one thing, that is just being professional! But it would also be good if somehow he could find out the history there. Wouldn't want to squeeze him and watch the poison come out again, or become unprofessional and vindictive. But...it would just be so good to let him see the connections by perhaps a clear and direct statement.
  20. It makes me so happy that you are going to have a friend with you this time! And not just any friend.
  21. I mean, realistically, as a 60s-something, I still get it wrong sometimes. She doesn't seem to have intentionally hurt her friend, and we all have to learn how to gauge our conversations according to the audience.
  22. I was wondering this as well. I was living in a stressful environment, but I had been doing that for a long time. But then things ramped up so much I thought I was going bonkers. I had not realized anxiety was a menopausal symptom, and I hardly had any hot flashes or anything else. But one day a light bulb went on and I thought, "I wonder..." So I went to my friend, Google, and read all about it. It helped me just to know it was a symptom. For me, for about six months or so after my last period, I was like OP described. Then things settled down again. I didn't take anything for it, myself, but that is because it didn't even occur to me to do so. I was overseas, and was not where anybody talked about it. Like I said, though, it did go away on its own for me. I'm sorry you are dealing with this--it's hard to handle, that's for sure. Several years ago, I was in a stressful work environment, which affected me a lot, but in a different way than OP describes.
  23. It felt to me like this movie respected the dignity of the people. The main characters didn't, but the movie did.
  24. Definitely understandable.
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