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Yes, @maize, you get the gist of what I am trying to say, especially in this quote. Plus, things/people/circumstances change over time. We couldn't have anticipated everything (thankfully!).
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So it was posted on the Kate Middleton thread that she knew what she was getting into when she married William. I have seen that thought expressed here on the forum quite a few times. But it always makes me think, "Did she really?" I mean, of course she had some idea. But the extent of it and the wearing down of it, etc., I doubt if she knew that fully. We have warned our adult kids about the consequences of decisions here and there over the years. But I seriously doubt that if they choose to make a decision contrary to our advice, that they would really understand the fullness of that decision beforehand. This could apply to dating/marriage to certain types of people, career decisions, ad infinitum. We have one that needs to do a minor thing that they refuse to do mainly because they can't be bothered. But it might prevent an early avoidable death. Apparently, they do not have the maturity to look into the future and see what that might mean to a spouse or a child, or to themselves. We have all been told about possible consequences to our own decisions at some point in time. Did we really understand at the time what it meant? Besides, some decisions are generally worth the risk (having children, for instance). While on the one hand, yes, people make decisions that they should have known better than to make. And there are consequences that may not be very palatable or may even be dangerous. Yet, haven't we all made decisions that were risky in some way or another? Decisions that could have flipped on us or been so much worse than we anticipated. So I wonder...where is the empathy, the human kindness to one in a difficult spot, no matter who they are or what the circumstances? I'm not starting this as a Kate thread so much as just an exploratory thread into our own thoughts toward hardships or consequences for both ourselves and others.
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Oh.🤔 Never thought about that association. I just thought my hairdresser knows how to cut my hair better than others before. Although there do seem to be new cowlicks.
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Can we talk about "fundie baby voice" without getting political?
Jaybee replied to Eos's topic in The Chat Board
Looking at my life from the outside, I look very traditional, though not tradwife wealthy or anything. I am still at home though my kids are grown. (I worked for awhile, and enjoyed it, but the atmosphere became more and more poisonous due to the main boss' arrogance, etc., so I eventually couldn't stomach supporting that any more and just quit. I've halfheartedly looked for another job, but prefer being at home.) Education was emphasized in my FOO, however, and also in our home, and I have my master's degree. I strongly support my kids/spouses to go the route that they feel best fits them. I think it generally helps the home to run more smoothly and less hectically when there is a SAHP, but the "right" to follow one's giftedness and dreams is something I take seriously. Plus, you just never know what is going to happen in life, and I want my daughters and dils to have some skills in place. I was appalled a few years ago to hear the associate pastor in our (then, but not long after) church make a casual statement about women not really needing the right to vote. Since, I have read that sentiment more often. I'm still appalled by it. I don't appreciate being looked down on because I did not choose a career. But I definitely appreciate having the choice. -
I don't know what she means either. The post doesn't make much sense to me. But I agree with @teachermom2834's post. I would hate it, but I would not get pulled in. Her kid would probably hate that she posted that too. It's too personal. I am more and more cautious about posting anything personal, including photos of my family (and my adorable grandkids). I think the best response is no response. I would be wary of her, but 🤷♀️
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Personally, I love to get Amazon cards, and always have a long wishlist that I can choose from. However, since she will be new here and probably doesn't keep lists like that on Amazon, I voted Target. Being able to actually see and touch items would be helpful since she probably isn't familiar with the brands and quality.
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I don't know if you will have trouble getting it on time, but quite a few years ago, I ordered two skirts and two tops from https://concertblack.bigcartel.com. I wore them for years and was very pleased. If I get my weight down and stabilized, I plan to order another top and skirt, because it is very handy to have a quality black outfit on hand.
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Any Leap Day birthdays here? Shameless grandson pic/brag inside
Jaybee replied to Lady Florida.'s topic in The Chat Board
Happy Birthday to him! What a handsome young man! He has a sweet face. -
My mom used to do things like a new toothbrush and mini-toothpaste, etc., lol. You might roll up a t-shirt with a favorite theme, granola bars, a book, mini puzzle type book. Roll up a magazine about a favorite topic.
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More on measles: https://www.medpagetoday.com/opinion/parasites-and-plagues/108905?xid=nl_mpt_DHE_2024-02-26&eun=g1838208d0r&utm_source=Sailthru&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Daily Headlines Evening 2024-02-26&utm_term=NL_Daily_DHE_dual-gmail-definition
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I don't know how to do it and still take the high road--for one thing, that is just being professional! But it would also be good if somehow he could find out the history there. Wouldn't want to squeeze him and watch the poison come out again, or become unprofessional and vindictive. But...it would just be so good to let him see the connections by perhaps a clear and direct statement.
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It makes me so happy that you are going to have a friend with you this time! And not just any friend.
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I mean, realistically, as a 60s-something, I still get it wrong sometimes. She doesn't seem to have intentionally hurt her friend, and we all have to learn how to gauge our conversations according to the audience.
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Can work-related anxiety turn into regular anxiety? And can it go away?
Jaybee replied to Kanin's topic in The Chat Board
I was wondering this as well. I was living in a stressful environment, but I had been doing that for a long time. But then things ramped up so much I thought I was going bonkers. I had not realized anxiety was a menopausal symptom, and I hardly had any hot flashes or anything else. But one day a light bulb went on and I thought, "I wonder..." So I went to my friend, Google, and read all about it. It helped me just to know it was a symptom. For me, for about six months or so after my last period, I was like OP described. Then things settled down again. I didn't take anything for it, myself, but that is because it didn't even occur to me to do so. I was overseas, and was not where anybody talked about it. Like I said, though, it did go away on its own for me. I'm sorry you are dealing with this--it's hard to handle, that's for sure. Several years ago, I was in a stressful work environment, which affected me a lot, but in a different way than OP describes. -
It felt to me like this movie respected the dignity of the people. The main characters didn't, but the movie did.
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Definitely understandable.
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I work with a bully (or maybe just an insensitive jerk)
Jaybee replied to Kanin's topic in The Chat Board
Of course they won't! Even the A+ ones probably wouldn't, because he has proven he is not a safe person. It reminds me a little of the dad of a friend I had growing up. When his oldest dd got pregnant before she was married, he was shocked when he found out that she was afraid to tell him. He seemed to have no idea of how scary he was with his demeanor and loud gruff voice. We were all scared of him! -
And I highly recommend going with someone(s) you can process it with afterward. There is so much there. Like I said, we talked all 45 minutes home, one after another. That was after the silence right after the movie.
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Great article, but I think the film is more powerful if you read this afterward. IMO, it deserves any and every award it receives.
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I work with a bully (or maybe just an insensitive jerk)
Jaybee replied to Kanin's topic in The Chat Board
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Dh and I were boosted (and I have had all the boosts) toward the end of September, and we both tested positive Dec. 28. I will admit that we don't mask any more unless we are sick ourselves or going into a place with a high percentage of sick people. I will mask when we fly in March to help with a new grand baby. But I'm not willing to wear masks all the time again, not because I don't believe they are helpful, but because they are uncomfortable to me.
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Also adding: I initially said I would never see it again. After our car discussion however, I realized that there were so many subtle details that only one or two of us noticed, that I might see it again in the future. It doesn't blast its message out. It mostly leaves you to notice things throughout. Genius in the tools used to create the impact. Definitely an important study of the time. I didn't mention the theme--it is about a family who lived in a house right outside of the Auschwitz prison camp during WW2.
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One ds is a film guy, and dh is a movie buff, so last night, we three plus another film guy friend of ds' went to see Zone of Interest. It's a powerful film. It's horrible, not a lighthearted film, but wow. We talked about it the whole 45 minutes home, rehashing it and discussing the numerous subtleties in the movie. The discussion was very helpful to me in processing it. I was upset that I had seen it, initially. But I am also glad I have seen it. I wasn't expecting it to be what it was. It is in German, Polish, and Yiddish (I looked that part up because I know none of those), so the whole film is subtitled. The use of sound throughout the movie is extremely powerful and disturbing. Violence, bad language, sexual content, etc., is not shown (though you know what happens), but it is definitely not a movie for the young.