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  1. Yes, @maize, you get the gist of what I am trying to say, especially in this quote. Plus, things/people/circumstances change over time. We couldn't have anticipated everything (thankfully!).
  2. So it was posted on the Kate Middleton thread that she knew what she was getting into when she married William. I have seen that thought expressed here on the forum quite a few times. But it always makes me think, "Did she really?" I mean, of course she had some idea. But the extent of it and the wearing down of it, etc., I doubt if she knew that fully. We have warned our adult kids about the consequences of decisions here and there over the years. But I seriously doubt that if they choose to make a decision contrary to our advice, that they would really understand the fullness of that decision beforehand. This could apply to dating/marriage to certain types of people, career decisions, ad infinitum. We have one that needs to do a minor thing that they refuse to do mainly because they can't be bothered. But it might prevent an early avoidable death. Apparently, they do not have the maturity to look into the future and see what that might mean to a spouse or a child, or to themselves. We have all been told about possible consequences to our own decisions at some point in time. Did we really understand at the time what it meant? Besides, some decisions are generally worth the risk (having children, for instance). While on the one hand, yes, people make decisions that they should have known better than to make. And there are consequences that may not be very palatable or may even be dangerous. Yet, haven't we all made decisions that were risky in some way or another? Decisions that could have flipped on us or been so much worse than we anticipated. So I wonder...where is the empathy, the human kindness to one in a difficult spot, no matter who they are or what the circumstances? I'm not starting this as a Kate thread so much as just an exploratory thread into our own thoughts toward hardships or consequences for both ourselves and others.
  3. Oh.🤔 Never thought about that association. I just thought my hairdresser knows how to cut my hair better than others before. Although there do seem to be new cowlicks.
  4. Looking at my life from the outside, I look very traditional, though not tradwife wealthy or anything. I am still at home though my kids are grown. (I worked for awhile, and enjoyed it, but the atmosphere became more and more poisonous due to the main boss' arrogance, etc., so I eventually couldn't stomach supporting that any more and just quit. I've halfheartedly looked for another job, but prefer being at home.) Education was emphasized in my FOO, however, and also in our home, and I have my master's degree. I strongly support my kids/spouses to go the route that they feel best fits them. I think it generally helps the home to run more smoothly and less hectically when there is a SAHP, but the "right" to follow one's giftedness and dreams is something I take seriously. Plus, you just never know what is going to happen in life, and I want my daughters and dils to have some skills in place. I was appalled a few years ago to hear the associate pastor in our (then, but not long after) church make a casual statement about women not really needing the right to vote. Since, I have read that sentiment more often. I'm still appalled by it. I don't appreciate being looked down on because I did not choose a career. But I definitely appreciate having the choice.
  5. I don't know what she means either. The post doesn't make much sense to me. But I agree with @teachermom2834's post. I would hate it, but I would not get pulled in. Her kid would probably hate that she posted that too. It's too personal. I am more and more cautious about posting anything personal, including photos of my family (and my adorable grandkids). I think the best response is no response. I would be wary of her, but 🤷‍♀️
  6. Personally, I love to get Amazon cards, and always have a long wishlist that I can choose from. However, since she will be new here and probably doesn't keep lists like that on Amazon, I voted Target. Being able to actually see and touch items would be helpful since she probably isn't familiar with the brands and quality.
  7. I don't know if you will have trouble getting it on time, but quite a few years ago, I ordered two skirts and two tops from https://concertblack.bigcartel.com. I wore them for years and was very pleased. If I get my weight down and stabilized, I plan to order another top and skirt, because it is very handy to have a quality black outfit on hand.
  8. Happy Birthday to him! What a handsome young man! He has a sweet face.
  9. My mom used to do things like a new toothbrush and mini-toothpaste, etc., lol. You might roll up a t-shirt with a favorite theme, granola bars, a book, mini puzzle type book. Roll up a magazine about a favorite topic.
  10. More on measles: https://www.medpagetoday.com/opinion/parasites-and-plagues/108905?xid=nl_mpt_DHE_2024-02-26&eun=g1838208d0r&utm_source=Sailthru&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Daily Headlines Evening 2024-02-26&utm_term=NL_Daily_DHE_dual-gmail-definition
  11. I don't know how to do it and still take the high road--for one thing, that is just being professional! But it would also be good if somehow he could find out the history there. Wouldn't want to squeeze him and watch the poison come out again, or become unprofessional and vindictive. But...it would just be so good to let him see the connections by perhaps a clear and direct statement.
  12. It makes me so happy that you are going to have a friend with you this time! And not just any friend.
  13. I mean, realistically, as a 60s-something, I still get it wrong sometimes. She doesn't seem to have intentionally hurt her friend, and we all have to learn how to gauge our conversations according to the audience.
  14. I was wondering this as well. I was living in a stressful environment, but I had been doing that for a long time. But then things ramped up so much I thought I was going bonkers. I had not realized anxiety was a menopausal symptom, and I hardly had any hot flashes or anything else. But one day a light bulb went on and I thought, "I wonder..." So I went to my friend, Google, and read all about it. It helped me just to know it was a symptom. For me, for about six months or so after my last period, I was like OP described. Then things settled down again. I didn't take anything for it, myself, but that is because it didn't even occur to me to do so. I was overseas, and was not where anybody talked about it. Like I said, though, it did go away on its own for me. I'm sorry you are dealing with this--it's hard to handle, that's for sure. Several years ago, I was in a stressful work environment, which affected me a lot, but in a different way than OP describes.
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