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Lecka last won the day on November 18 2013

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  1. We live in a rural area near a tourist area. Locally we don’t have the money (as an area) to keep the tourist areas open. I would say we want those people to keep their businesses and they just can’t be supported locally. They depend on tourists coming. But if the numbers go up we will have another shutdown. For here (N. NY) I don’t think we are sorry to see tourists come because too many places rely on them and then people who live here rely on them. It is not something that could be locally self-sustaining. It is a hard situation for sure. I would say different than the Maine one where they would otherwise be supporting local businesses. Most people here go out once a season and the local population is too low for that to go very far. Edit: our tourist areas are still closed. Maybe ask me again when our tourist areas are actually open. Right now I think overall we hope they will open and tourists will come. And if there is spread then the governor will shut it down again.
  2. Dreamergal — I am from a conservative part of the country. If someone’s adult child was in a LGBT relationship and died of AIDS, it would not be spoken of. The local newspaper obituary would not say the cause of death was AIDS, and would not include information about their partner. Some newspapers also would not print that someone had a partner at all, it was just not something to print in the newspaper. It could have been this way where you lived. Also to some extent people seemed to leave the conservative area for a big city known to have a part of town more accepting. My mom is from a tiny country town and someone she graduated with moved to San Francisco and died of AIDS, and there would be no way to know if you didn’t hear closely, and it would have been considered unmentionable and humiliating to the parents. Anyway — it was very secretive and also, it was considered an urban problem to a great extent. These might be reasons you didn’t hear about it as much. Or maybe just age. I am 40.
  3. I think it is more of a severity thing. For the things you mention — I think it is how severe they are, and the big picture. Those things can be too bad, or then can be minor, or they can be in the middle. It sounds like you are getting feedback it is in the middle and not clearly so severe it is needed, or so obviously minor it is not appropriate. I think if there is a big picture that there are these impacts but overall it’s manageable, then — that is a big picture. You also are already doing other interventions, so it’s not like it is all or nothing on medication.
  4. Is it possible to send an email asking for more information about side effects? I think you could see what the prescribing person thinks and that might be more helpful than looking at a list. You could ask how common they are, what to do, how things would resolve if there were side effects, etc. It is fair to not take a risk of side effects if that is what you guys decide. Or just decide to wait on it.
  5. Kids I have been around and known are on medication (not my own kids — but kids we have known) do not seem like their emotions are suppressed, they just handle them better — it is the difference between being upset and having a meltdown. Frankly meltdowns can be counter-productive and too overwhelming to even do anything wrt processing or working through things. Maybe not literally meltdown, but — something like that. For example we have had a boy spend the night when he does not take medication at night, and without medication his mom has to come comfort him and we were not sure he would be able to stay. With medication I would have been able to talk him through. For a boy we knew at church, he was the same kid but the intensity level was down. Definitely I think with him — he could handle things and work through things much better with the intensity level down. His personality and comments seemed the same to me. Not my own kids — but examples of kids I have known somewhat well.
  6. We had similar with not knowing if it was going to be situational anxiety or generalized anxiety. It has ended up to have been situational anxiety. I don’t think it is wrong to treat situational anxiety. If it makes sense I think it is worth it, if it seems like the right choice overall.
  7. How are you doing? It is a hard experience for you also. Are there options for you to have someone to talk to also? /rhetorical questions
  8. I think age 12 is old enough to have an opinion. He might not have a strong opinion either way, but if he does then that would be something to help decide.
  9. They are desperate to start here locally, but the state has not set guidelines yet.
  10. It sounds like it went well. Sorry I don’t know anything about the medication. I hope you are figuring out what way you want to go with it.
  11. My son is going to see one of his friends soon, who has been having a hard time. I talked to his mom, and they have been going outdoors as a family, except for him, because he is having allergy issues and I think he might have asthma. His mom said that hanging online is just not cutting it and he is not doing well.
  12. I think with you already having him in Barton tutoring, you would not get much helpful information. One thing could be that you could then do the same tests again a year or two later and go “wow look at the progress.” But you will also probably be able to see how he’s doing without doing that. Just saying that bc I definitely talk to people who find that really worthwhile. Like — really, really worthwhile. It would not be my thing with reading because to me it’s like — yeah, I know, I can tell. I know what he can and can’t do, I know his progress. I don’t need a test to tell me that. When it’s reading and it’s like — if you know he has gotten through this or that level, you hear him read out loud, etc. It’s probably not a mystery. Though to be fair my kids seem to be very linear as far as reading and I know there are kids who are not as linear and I can see that making a big difference. With my kids it is more like — what words are you sounding out correctly? How fluent are you? Do I need to have them take a test with a “word attack” score to tell me that? Do I need a fluency score? I don’t really. But I think there are kids who are getting a lot of words from having good comprehension and it makes it hard to tell and makes the testing more useful. If he has gotten through the first two (iirc) levels of Barton his CTOPP score may be higher than it would have been before, anyway. It is (iirc) a test that can show progress. But my sons also do score lower on phonemic awareness even after remediation. For my older son that got him a note in his psych testing, but no diagnosis. He got a note saying he has had reading remediation that appeared to be successful (or something like that).
  13. I think also consider — would your husband go to meet the evaluators with you (to have an opinion and impression). Will he hear the results when you do. I think it makes a difference. My husband went with me for one and observed it and talked to the woman, and that is the one that he got the most out of By Far. Edit: he was also just receptive going into it. Time had passed and he was basically on the same page with me before the appointment! He has also gone with me for just the results, for a different thing, and he walked out going “she said everything was fine.” Edit: He was not really on board with it for this one.
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