happi duck Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I literally have no one to talk to irl. I don't need advice I just need to know I exist or something. My kids, young adults, just said some hard to hear but true things to me. The world and the election already upset me. The current leaked video news story is triggering. I have anxiety and I know I'm hard to live with but I didn't know the extent. My kids will be the ones getting sympathy on a message board some day. I should just buy them the boundary book now. *tears roll down face* Please don't quote. Thanks for "listening". Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Jean in Newcastle Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooCow Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Hugs 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jen500 Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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DawnM Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I am sorry. Just remember that sometimes people vent and are harsher than they really are thinking, heat of the moment and all that. hugs. Dawn 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilaclady Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 (((((((Hugs))))))) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arctic Bunny Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 ((Hugs)) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Your avatar always makes me smile. Every single time. I wish I could return the favor. Sending some smiles your way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Hugs!! And, honestly, we're all screwing up! There are no perfect parents! 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: Just a thought. Since you agree with your kids (at least to some extent), can you find a type of counselor who can help you change? Humans can change, but sometimes we need tips on exactly how to do so. No matter what. :grouphug: And remember that none of us are perfect parents (or people). We all have made mistakes of some sort that we regret and wish we could change. 17 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Greta Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm so sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 (edited) Sometimes it all feels like it's piling on at once. Tender hugs from me :grouphug: Edited October 8, 2016 by Arctic Mama Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Minerva Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RioSamba Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Hugs, lot of them. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Butter Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GailV Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: We're here for you! :grouphug: :grouphug: 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I know Creekland already wrote this but...there are no perfect parents no matter how well we are prepared, educated or how well our intentions are. All of us have to live with humanness - even our kids. If you can see areas to change, you are already miles ahead of most people. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: None of us are perfect. Sometimes we say that instead of a college fund, we should just have a therapy fund. It's a tough time right now. You've survived 100% of all the tough times prior to this. I know you can get through this one. :grouphug: 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I am sorry for your pain. Anxiety is real and you have every right to decompress however you need to, Sweetie. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selkie Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LinRTX Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Just remember you did the best you could at the moment. I have messed up so many times. I have told my adult children that I know I made mistakes and in hindsight I would have done some things differently. BUT I cannot go back and redo those times. I did what I though was best for everyone at that moment. All i can do is be the best mom to my adult children I can from this moment forward. And apologize for the mistakes of the past. But let them go; don't let them hurt the relationship from this point forward. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Linda 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Twigs Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mothersweets Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I hope you feel better. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Hugs from me too. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
displace Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 (Hugs). 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom2bee Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 (hugs) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 I'm sorry. Big, big, tight hugs. Lots of 'em. ((((happi duck)))) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 We are here for you, happi duck. I appreciate your voice here on the forum and your cute little avatar too. Many :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: . 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happypamama Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 (((HUGS))) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 (edited) Aw (((hugs))), anxiety is tough to wrestle with. All kids have to deal with the human-ness of their parents. Edited October 8, 2016 by maize 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: You matter and we are glad you are here to be a part of this board. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 Hugs to you. Do you have anything that helps with you stress? You need to take care of yourself. You are valuable and worth it. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nan in Mass Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 (edited) Hugs Edited October 9, 2016 by Nan in Mass 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stacia Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 (((Hugs))) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jrn Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CAMom Posted October 8, 2016 Share Posted October 8, 2016 :grouphug: and chocolate... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Onceuponatime Posted October 9, 2016 Share Posted October 9, 2016 (edited) A suggestion slightly off topic, happi duck, but maybe a break from world and political news for a while ? So that your cognitive and emotional energy can go where it matters - to you and your family - instead of being consumed by the horribleness out there ? I love politics and I've had to severely restrict my time thinking about it, listening to it, talking about it. More hugs. We all get it wrong with our kids at times. We're all there with you. People with anxiety (me too) can be hard to live with, but we are still good people trying our best. Don't be too hard on yourself. You are awesome for listening to your adult kids. There is a lot of the relationship yet to play out in positive ways. I agree. Today I decided it was best for me to remove myself from Facebook, at least until the election is over. I was feeling quite uncharitable toward many of my "friends." It was a great relief to remove the facebook icon from my iPad. Some of that bitterness can color the other parts of life too. About grown kids, in recent years I have found myself apologizing to individual children for specific past mothering mistakes. A sincere apology has never been regretted. Edited October 9, 2016 by Onceuponatime 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debbi in Texas Posted October 9, 2016 Share Posted October 9, 2016 Hugs to you!!! We all make parenting mistakes. That is called Life. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted October 9, 2016 Author Share Posted October 9, 2016 Thanks everyone. I appreciate the hugs. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted October 9, 2016 Share Posted October 9, 2016 ((Big hugs)) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Soror Posted October 9, 2016 Share Posted October 9, 2016 (hugs) none of us are perfect. Be kind to yourself. When you know better you do better. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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