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  1. Have you looked into the possibility of dysgraphia? Handwriting can be legible when written slowly and meticulously (for some dysgraphics) but can be painful and if they speed up then letter formation/spacing/spelling etc. can get really off. You might look into a LiveScribe pen or other technology support for in class notes. Also, if you got the number of a classmate with good notes maybe they would allow him to get copies of those notes. I would start working on his typing through a good typing program, too, if he isn't already. It can take a long time to get proficient enough at typ
  2. On a side note, I would be trying to find ways to reduce conflicts between the two of you by removing you as "the bad guy" as much as possible while you seek answers. All those conflicts are reinforcing her reactions and you both may have inadvertantly settled into destructive patterns while trying to navigate these difficult waters. It happens, often through no one's fault. There is just quite often no way to know ahead of time what is happening or how to effectively address it and in the meantime you both have to survive and function. Patterns of interaction can form that in the long r
  3. :grouphug: Do you feel that the medical professionals you are sending her to have a good handle on things? Are they responsive? Proactive in seeking answers? As for where else to go, perhaps a neuropsychologist for additional evaluations but at this point I don't guarantee that will net you much. Also, FWIW, sometimes it takes a while to find the right therapist and therapies. Have they tried Cognitive Behavior Therapy? Group sessions that include you to maybe help improve the dynamic between the two of you? Has she always struggled with these things or was there a point in h
  4. :grouphug: Frankly, with the situation as you describe, I would be extremely hesitant to bring her home under those circumstances, at least not right away. Instead, have you and she tried therapy to break the cycle with professional help? And what sorts of evaluations has she had? Could there be more than just ADHD? Just because a child has ADHD does not mean they will act as you describe. It sounds like perhaps there is more going on that she is struggling to cope with. I also agree with PeterPan, I would be very proactive in seeking answers and getting professional help to dete
  5. Good point. Perhaps I should set up a link between the pinned reviews on the HS forum and the Gen Ed forum since many have kids in multiple grades and might start with Gen Ed first.
  6. And I agree with the others, keep it to just facts and experiences. What is a negative for one person may be a positive for someone else. Different kids learn differently and different families have different needs. If something didn't work for your family then yes, say so, but keep it to a neutral statement and why it didn't work. For instance, you could say that your children needed more visuals than were provided in Ms. X's class and then briefly explain the specifics of how that class is presented. No rancor. Just a simple statement of facts and why this did not work for your part
  7. What about doing reviews like you suggested, sticking strictly to facts, in this pinned thread here? As long as you are sticking to facts and you are giving this review in a thread that is really specifically for that purpose, to help people find on-line classes that would work for their particular child, I don't see that as poor etiquette. And hopefully you will also be able to provide this teacher with some concrete feedback in that same vein so perhaps she can work to improve her offerings. I don't believe in witch hunts but I do believe it is valid to provide facts, especially in the ri
  8. :grouphug: 1. Keep things simple, as much as possible. For lesson plans, do a very basic outline of core skills that you want to hit on and keep materials to use VERY SIMPLE. Audio books, read alouds, some math. Add to that once you are in a better place. Your kids are not in High School yet. Take this time to breath and keep it all very simple. Do your heavier planning further down the road. There is time. 2. As Sparkly Unicorn stated, exercise. As soon as you feel stressed, walk around. Like seriously walk all over the house or walk around the neighborhood or whatever, but
  9. I wanted to come back and send you some additional hugs. You seem really freaked out. Please take a deep breath. Whatever you decide, it will be o.k. It will. Hang in there.
  10. :grouphug: If you want to bring her home then there is no reason you can't bring her home, unless this will cause a serious rift between you and your DH (in which case you might still bring her home but I would work really hard to get both of you on the same page). FWIW, though, head lice are not disease ridden. They won't poison your child. They are a drag to deal with and a lot of people get grossed out at the thought of them but they are not carrying some horrible disease, they don't carry poison, they are just annoying. They can be gotten rid of with a bit of effort, no harm
  11. I would not at all count on the school being o.k. with her joining in classes as a student just for the last 9 weeks of school each year. Have you actually asked them if that would be o.k.? I really doubt they would approve. This is actually NOT just a 9 week activity. It is a school and a teacher that has been teaching these students for several months, including lesson plans that build on each other, plus group dynamics and a whole host of things that go into making a classroom functional. Classrooms are not set up for students to just randomly show up just for a few weeks when they fee
  12. If you are seriously o.k. with her possibly continuing at that school next year then I don't think there would necessarily be an issue. However, if you are absolutely NOT wanting her to attend school and she does fall in love you are setting both of you up for a hard time. You already took the tour, though, so I assume you have indicated to her that you would be o.k. with this. If she really wants to go to try it out and you are o.k. with her possibly wanting to continue in the fall, then sure, let her.
  13. Good luck! I wish kids came with a detailed manual, well laid out, with plenty of tabs. Or maybe a High Def crystal ball. :)
  14. Check out Open Tent Academy. They have writing courses that only last for the summer. There may be courses for just one semester after the summer, too. I don't remember. I do know they have three semesters besides their summer program. Some classes only cover one semester, some for two and some for all three. http://www.opententacademy.com/
  15. You cannot have a common law marriage with someone who is already legally married, AFAIK. At least not here in my state (Texas). A true Common Law marriage must meet quite a few criteria, not just living together for any length of time. Essentially a Common Law marriage, at least in Texas, is simply less formal. There is no official civil or religious service. You still have to meet certain specific criteria. As I understand it, this is what is required in my state: 1. You must be over 18. 2. You cannot already be married to someone else. 3. You must SAY you are married (bo
  16. Yes it is possible that weather can still be a factor. Storms occur in May, too. Doesn't have to be snow and ice. As for 12 weeks traveling overseas with just a carry on and a personal item, that would be hard but not impossible. How easy will access be to laundry facilities? Does she need to have a lot of nice clothes with her or will casual clothes do? Does she need to carry bulky items with her, such as sketch pads/musical instrument/text books, etc.? There are many ways to compress and live minimally. It just depends on her needs/comfort level. For instance, my best friend
  17. Oh, and it might help to check reliability of flights. Some specific flight times for specific airlines at specific airports are notoriously worse than others for arriving anywhere near on time. Check track records. It won't be a guarantee but if she sees that the first leg is almost always late then that tells her it would make more sense to move that flight to something getting in even earlier, hopefully with a flight that has a better track record.
  18. I wanted to come back to this and add some things to this discussion. First, big hugs. What seems so simple to you is hard for her and you don't know why or how to help. That can make this a rather painful process. Hang in there. Many times many a homeschooling parent has walked this road. You are not alone. Second, this isn't "just math". This is math. Math can be an incredibly challenging subject. If you browse through old posts you will see that there are a TON of kids that struggle with this subject. Embrace that for your child this may take quite a bit of time and effort o
  19. If clothes worn once are still clean enough to be worn again they go back in the drawer or closet. But maybe my kids are messier than yours because that rarely happens. They get worn, they get dirty, they go to the dirty clothes hamper. I guess if this were an ongoing daily situation and I really felt like the worn clothes were just a tad too dirty to put back with clean clothes but just a tad too clean to rewash before another wearing I might get a plastic crate and have the kids fold and put those slightly worn clothes in there to be used another time...
  20. [Full discolsure: I am NOT a neat person. However, I have gotten fairly decent at putting systems in place to help me overcome my challenges in this area, at least for some things. LOL] I would systematically pick one child's clothes and go through all of them, asking/doing the following: Does everything in their closet/drawer actually fit? If not, pull it out and either donate it, sell it, or pass it down to a younger sibling. Is every item in their drawer/closet something they would actually wear (DD had started stockpiling clothing she liked but did not ever wear which took up a
  21. FWIW, fingers are another form of manipulative. I have no issues with fingers being used if the child is still needing manipulatives. The jump to abstract thinking can be a difficult one. Also, frankly math fact memorization can take years. And for some of us it has never happened, not entirely (and I mean my husband and I). I still run the family business and my husband is a successful engineer. Not having math facts memorized in their entirety, while making things a bit slower, was not the end of the world by any means. If she is getting concepts then separate out the two proces
  22. Really good points. I wanted to stress the bolded. If she can compartmentalize and go minimalist it really is infinitely easier just traveling with a carry on and a personal item. That isn't always possible but it really would be easier and would reduce the risk of something going wrong. I also strongly recommend carrying some paper cash/a credit card/ID/contact numbers (including country codes)/meds/glasses on her physical person, not in a purse, just in case the purse gets lost or stolen. And with numbers I mean the full written number, not relying on contact info in a cell phone
  23. Well, she would have to leave the secure area to get her bag, then go back through security and recheck her bag, which is a pain, but doable. If the bag got lost on the first leg and did not turn up before she left on the second leg it might be infinitely more difficult to retrieve it since she would have to leave it behind to make the second leg. I mention this because DH and I ran into a similar issue and did not get our bag until our trip was over. It never caught up to us. We had to spend limited resources trying to replace essential items and making do with whatever we had with us
  24. I agree with others this sounds like Social Anxiety Disorder but it could also be coupled with Auditory Processing Disorder (and the two may be feeding off each other). You can have good hearing and still have APD. I would look into both.
  25. 1. There are things out that could be put up so it is "messy" in that sense. 2. All of these things could be easily and quickly straightened up even if there was no designated place for them to go so not "messy" in that sense. 3. All of these things could easily be provided with a designated place because there are not that many things laying about that really need a designated place so this is easy to address. In other words, while the room is a bit messy it is something that could quickly be taken care of, either for that afternoon or with a longer term solution in mind. This is no
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