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  1. Get him a dog? I'm somewhat serious there. That could give him purpose and direction for his energy and brainpower.
  2. I have noticed that my kids all do that when they are learning to read. I think it is helpful in comprehension and figuring out words above your level later, but when they're first starting out, I remind them to read the word that is in front of them a lot. I'm on my fifth child now with reading, and they have all done this. (Well, maybe not my first, but she just sort of knew how to read at 3 or 4, and I didn't really do a lot of explicit instruction.)
  3. Hugs -- I remember that. Hopefully this is a very different situation. It sounds like it may qualify as gestational hypertension (BP over 140/90 after 20w but without the second symptom to be PE). Did they run labs or start a 24 hour urine? Those will tell them more, so if they haven't done those, you can ask if they would be helpful. I hope the headache goes away, but yay for no blurry vision or swelling! Based on my time modding a huge PE Facebook group (and PM me if you're interested in joining), it sounds like you are in good hands and being watched well. Many hugs!
  4. Hugs and prayers. I know that's scary. Hopefully it is either just gestational hypertension or chronic hypertension (since you're so early, it is possible it's unmasked chronic hypertension, especially if you had any elevated BPs before 20 weeks). How high are you running? Do you have an MFM on your team at all?
  5. I have breastfed all of my babies except the micropreemie, so no bottles, and my closest gap between living children is 25 months, which is different from 15 months, but still, it wouldn't bother me for a well supervised toddler to feed a newborn if we used bottles. It's not like the toddler would be left alone. And y'all have seen my then Mr. Five holding his hours-old brother. I'm sitting right next to them on the bed, but Mr. Five and pillow didn't need my help. All of my toddlers were super careful and well supervised when holding their newborn brothers. I guard my babies like crazy and hardly pass them off to anyone, even Daddy, oops, lol, except for unavoidable times, but of course older siblings get their turns. Someday, I will not be here, but DS6 has a bond from before birth (before conception even lol) with DS4, and that bond is forever. If I bottle fed, I'm pretty sure DS4 would be begging to feed DS6 every feeding. (DS6 is ten months old, and the novelty has not yet worn off for DS4 that he has his very own baby.)
  6. I sort the mail the second it enters the house, so that I only handle it once. No pileup of junk mail.
  7. I would have her evaluated for an ovarian cyst. A fairly sizable one can cause pain even if it doesn't rupture. GYN or PCP if she doesn't have a GYN can order an ultrasound to look. My appendix was acutely painful, way worse than labor or c-section recovery, so if it doesn't let up, definitely get her in. ETA: I was feeling a little bad at around 10 am (like, maybe have bad gas), and by 2 PM, I was crying in pain. Around 4 or so, the pain suddenly let up while we were in the ER, even though the appendix didn't actually rupture. I had surgery around 11 PM, so half a day after it started hurting. But I had zilch, zero, nada the day before.
  8. Hugs, @ThatBookwormMom, and thank you, @Arctic Mama, for the tag. I'm sorry I just now saw this; I don't get here as often as I used to, mainly because all my spare time goes to modding said Facebook group. 🤣 But yes, shoot me a PM, and I will hook you up. Reducing stress is great in general, but rest and reducing stress will not prevent, stop, reverse, or slow preeclampsia or gestational hypertension. They are completely out of your hands because they are caused by a conflict between mom and the placenta.
  9. Our own 😄 I know some families with 7 like we have, or more, but I don't think my kids do. Of course, we actually only have 6 that take up seats in the van, and we do know other families with 6. 4 or 5 is pretty common around here, and even 6 is. And as far as vehicle size, we had the minivan maxed out with 5 kids, and when it died, my 6'2" husband looked at 4 boys who will eventually be teenagers and really encouraged me to try a 12 passenger van. Turns out I loved it, and it certainly was convenient when baby number 7 came along.
  10. It is a lot, that's for sure! We don't have anyone driving for us, or family helping. During the day, it is all me. Husband helps in the evening when he can, but between his job and the ongoing house projects, he is busy. (Yes, I realize we could put the house projects on hold. But we did that when the older kids were younger, and they really need to be done. They also reap huge rewards for our QOL as they are completed.) Breakfast and dinner meal prep on weekends helps me a ton. It cuts down on a lot of the mental bandwidth. I have a rotating chore chart of cleanup rooms that gets posted every week. I use a lot of phone alarms, even for stuff like, "Get So and So's X," set to whatever interval I know I will need in order to get said item. Certain things get posted to the kids' checklists on their tablets, which they have to check off before they can play games -- morning chores, make sure you have your martial arts clothes for class tomorrow, etc. And sometimes it is still chaotic.
  11. So my son, who was all worried about high school, is managing well, although it's barely been a week. The suggestion to go with OUP's ancient history series seems to have been perfect for him. It is a little on the easy reading side but is giving him the depth he likes and is proving an excellent way for him to learn time budgeting because I gave him a due date and list of things to read and do. He and DD watched a GC episode together, and they are also doing Conceptual Physics together, which they (and I) are both liking a lot. Their different strengths work together. He loves AOPS Number Theory. Granted, we flew through the first chapter because it's very easy, but that built his good will. It doesn't hurt that the current chapter in AOPS Algebra 2 is a fairly easy one too. We ran into a bit of trouble when I wanted him to watch a GC in electronics, and he balked because he isn't really a video sort of learner and wanted to wait until DH is available. DH is currently spending every night and weekend working on the house, so DS1 does help with that and will learn about electricity that way. I've got him reading the Make electronics book now and still need to get some projects going, and they can settle in to watch the videos together when the weather cools a bit. He initially didn't love Khan's SAT prep but is getting plenty right on the diagnostic tests, so I think he settled down about that. He is just my child who has always been super cautious and skeptical about new things. Training classes for his puppy as well as his online English class start soon, so they will take up some time. CAP's poetry is going fine, and I am glad to see there is room in his day to step up the workload for the actual English class. I'd say 9th grade is off to a great start.
  12. I enjoyed the first several Gerritsen books (and love the show), but I have not read the last few. Some of the ones I read I am not sure I'd be okay with for a teen, although it has been several years. Then again, several of the Scarpetta ones in recent years have been pretty dark and gruesome too.
  13. Construction design -- my DH does design work, and there are definitely elements of both engineering and art in what he does.
  14. Yes, I get this one too; the guy has been trying to reach me for years at this point. Also, yes, someone is very concerned about my non-existent student loans.
  15. My boys have Lenovo Tabs (10 and 8, I think are the sizes), and they're pretty pleased. They can be occasionally slow, but I'm not 100% sure whether that's the tablet or the internet, and they don't run Fortnite, but they run Minecraft and plenty of other games and apps.
  16. I totally understand this. It does not sound nutty at all to me. After my husband got hurt badly while I was pregnant with N, I commented that he was way more fragile than any newborn I'd ever had. I also found it extremely hard to leave him overnight at the hospital, even in good hands, and said that I didn't know how people were able to leave their babies in the NICU. I *know* that didn't cause everything that happened, but sometimes it's very easy to think that I jinxed myself.
  17. In that context, that's what it would make me think of as well. In any other religious setting, I'd think of Noah's ark and the flood. But when I see rainbows, I think of my sweet little rainbow baby and others like him, something new and beautiful after one heck of a storm.
  18. Our PCP is a family doc and sees all six kiddos plus myself. She only works three days a week, so for urgent visits (or for like the baby's three day checkup), we never see her, but we can generally get a followup or well visit with her in a reasonable time frame. She saw me a few months postpartum after N and wanted to see me again in a month and made sure the office made it happen for me. But we can see one of her partners or the NP/PA for urgent visits, or I usually just use urgent care because more convenient hours, and if I'm not going to see our regular doc anyway, I don't really care who it is that we see for an ear infection or the like. The UCs around here are all the same hospital system as our primary anyway, so the records are all there. Pediatric specialists, though. Oh boy. Talk about a wait!
  19. If his oral hygiene is good and it hasn't been a new development with a new routine, I would have him see his PCP for a thorough checkup to be sure it isn't something like diabetes.
  20. No, we haven't given gifts in years, but we go out for a very nice dinner together.
  21. This has been a source of noncontentious discussion in my house, and I doubt anyone else has a similar setup, but this is what we did. We have an old enclosed stovepipe that makes a square bump into the kitchen, and it sits at one end of the U shape. My husband suggested that he build a pantry onto it so that it sits flush with the counter. It is otherwise wasted space, but it has 6" or so of depth and so holds canned goods, bottles of vinegar, etc. nicely. We spent a while measuring things, including the spices. The spice shelves are only a few inches apart and are only like 3"? deep so that when he puts the doors on, we can hang measuring cups or something on the inside. Anyway, I keep them in alphabetical order, except for the Indian ones which are often in bags and which live on a different shelf.
  22. Walking through the site of the Gettysburg Address when my oldest two were 10 and 7, we passed a group of 20 somethings, American-looking and sounding (so, not likely foreigners to whom I might give a pass). As we passed by, I heard one of the girls in the group say, "Wait. Lee fought for the Confederates?!?" She was truly shocked. My kids were so appalled.
  23. I think that looks delicious, and how lovely that your son cooked it! I think it is rude that people. commented on the portion sizes without being asked. That probably has a little more rice than I ought to eat, and I would probably need more salmon in order to feel full. Or I would eat a much larger portion of squash, preferably with butter. (However, I've been pregnant, nursing, or both for all but 14 months of the past 18 years, so I'm pretty sure my hunger cues are a bit off.)
  24. Our libraries don't have the McKellen version! That might actually get him to like audiobooks. I'll see if the library has the Vandiver lectures too -- thanks, everyone!
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