Cyber school might be an option that I haven’t really considered. I have to look into this, thank you.

All good thoughts to ponder. Thank you. And no, no good private homeschooling type schools in the area at all. And the hard part is she’s undecided what her goals are and I think is overwhelmed by thinking about it…. The other two show more aptitude in specific directions, but this oldest is more difficult to pinpoint where she could end up.

I think I’ve heard of PAC…. Off to check that out too. Thank you!

Following…. Similar place

Back story - end of last school year I had just asked for separation from DH. This made the last two to three months of 2022-2023 school year rough for my boy who was then in 5th, DS in 7th, and DD in 9th. Mostly, though for the 5th grader. We barely made it across the finish line, with various assignments just skipped or kind of glossed over. It wasn’t pretty. I filed for divorce October 2023. Understandably, this has made this year rough as well. In addition to normal boy puberty, the 12 and 14 y/o have had alternating brain dumps, shut downs, anger spells, etc. We are again making do, and those of us around them involved in their schooling (which does not include their dad, at all. He has historically never really been involved in their schooling, and routinely sends them home to me with their work for the day not done, etc) all agree that even though it’s been rough, this year we think is ending on a slightly better note than last year. Divorce is still in process, who knows when it will be done. I’m at a loss, though, for next year. I just need basic. We need a year to feel successful. I don’t know what my finances will be come fall, so one or two onlines each would be the absolute maximum. I also am trying to work, as I am not receiving child support and he currently pays nothing. Any suggestions for curriculum that are just basic teachings for any of the grades (will be 7th/9th/11th) would be massively appreciated. I just need basic education at this point, and for them to enjoy learning again. We need a good year under our belts… Or even just suggestions in general would be helpful. Thank you so much…

For those who are using and loving Altras, are you runners by chance? I’m a pretty serious runner, and am looking for the magic unicorn running shoe. I’ve liked what I’ve used over the years for the most part, but always on a search for the greener grass… ETA: specific to bunions, that is. Mine are pretty big but don’t cause too much pain (yet).

I think my desire to file quickly comes from two things: the panic of finding out he’s moving large quantities of money and the papers I will file state that after they are filed, no transferring of funds should be occurring, so I want to get that in place asap I guess. Second, my personality is such that I hem and haw and ponder and pray and think and ponder and am my own devil’s advocate for ages until a decision is finally clear. Then, when it becomes clear, I act immediately, just like I’m getting kicked into gear and want progress right away. So, personality quirk is the other half of the desire to file quickly, I guess.

Thank you so much for asking. It does feel like it’s pouring down, sometimes more than others. I appreciate you asking, thank you.

Thank you all for those fast responses. So glad I asked.

One more question, if I could, and hopefully someone might have some insight on it. I am really wanting to get these papers filed ASAP. I was planning to do this Monday (in two days) and then would be seeing the lawyer Wednesday for the consult. A few of the offices I’ve called have asked me if papers have already been filed - is this just a normal question? Will it be easier/harder for them if I already have filed? Is there any particular reason I’d be making it less likely to be taken as a client if I already have them filed? Any thoughts at all on this??

Yes, Scarlett, I would hope that would be taken into consideration.

All of these answers are so helpful. Thank you so much. Some of them in particular I had not thought of. Trying so hard to not want to panic.

Yes, the family farm is my parents’ farm they put in an estate with them and my sister and I

We separated in April, he has been living in the loft over our garage working on the (family) farm, acres he uses without paying rent. We own (with mortgage) our house and about 1 acre it sits on in middle of family estate farm. Since beginning of Aug he has not be helping out with any household payments (had been giving a weekly amount) but is living here rent free. I’m paying everything for kids, mortgage, bills, etc. I have told him I want divorce, he is unwilling to sign. I will have to file separately, plan is three days from now. He knows this and knows he’ll be served papers but still claims “he won’t sign anything.” Other backstory: I’ve done most of the income earning, ALL of the schooling, 95% of the parenting all the marriage. This divorce is d/t repeated physical and non-physical adultery. Again, we live on family farm and my parents are HUGELY involved in my three kids’ lives. Other details: I found one of his farm business bank statements (my name never got on the account, so I can’t call bank and ask for them). He deposited 13,000 last month. Took out 8000 in cash for who knows what (there have been no new purchases), (DS said he was sending 2500 at least once to “brother” in foreign country.) He doesn’t know I saw the statement. Told him again this morning I am filing and asked if we could come up with an agreement about dividing things to send in with papers. I asked him how much he had made last month, he said “oh I don’t remember (this guy remembers money numbers like nobody I’ve EVER met), maybe 1 or 3 thousand.” Blatant lie. I asked via text to see bank statement, he hasn’t responded. So what do I do. I’m panicked. We have shared bank accounts that I have access to online that he’s never accessed online, and one personal (work, I’m also self employed) bank account, all at same bank. I just moved all but $50 out of all shared accounts to my personal account. Can I do that? What else can I do? Can I get his name off CC account without his knowledge? I’m working on finding a lawyer, but the only one I met with was less than impressive and made it sound like things would go a lot more in husband’s favor than mine. All others I’ve called are not taking new clients, or don’t serve my area (we are rural). I’ve skimmed divorce threads here in the past but am too panicked and scattered right now to search for them. Please help. ETA: Added a question further down in the thread about if I should file before seeing a lawyer or not….