ktgrok Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 So sorry. I'm praying for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kristie in Florida Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 Hugs. I'm crying with you all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnE-girl Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IfIOnly Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 (edited) I'm so sorry, BlsdMama. Just wanting to prepare you, one pf my babies died at 9 weeks and I miscarried a few weeks later. The baby was delivered fully intact with little toes and fingers and labor was really painful the last few hours (I had been having contractions for almost 24 hours beforehand but experienced transition as usual, the cervix still need to dialate after all). I actually had to get in the tub to help with the pain for several hours and was totally unable to parent at the time. I'm glad DH was home that day. Edited November 30, 2015 by LavenderGirl 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I'm so very sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jrn Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 :grouphug: :crying: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momto10blessings Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I'm so sorry. Praying for you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luckymama Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I am so sorry :( I had a loss at the same stage. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I am so sorry to read this update. I was hoping things could be turned around. Many caring thoughts to you and all of your family, but especially Sarah. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 Hugs.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I am so sorry. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UCF612 Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I'm so sorry to hear you lost the baby. Thoughts and prayers for your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I'm so sorry. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TammyinTN Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I'm sorry. I had a loss at the same stage. I recommend asking for some Vicodin. It's a physically difficult day. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MinivanMom Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rosie_0801 Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: I went through a bunch of early miscarriages, but none after 12 weeks. I did go into early labor with DD, which was stopped with a day of IV fluids. I'm not sure if much can be done at 12 weeks. I'd call my OB, not necessarily go to the ER, unless there were problems. For me, it's something I'd rather do at home. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
8circles Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I'm so sorry. :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
unsinkable Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 (((BlsdMama))) :crying: I'm sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I am so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kbutton Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I'm so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BrittanyM Posted November 30, 2015 Share Posted November 30, 2015 I am so sorry for your loss and will keep you all in my prayers! :hug: Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reefgazer Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 I'm so sorry for your loss; it's stinks. Take care of yourself. So we went in today in order to get an ultrasound. We figured if there was a heartbeat, we'd ask for early progesterone injections. But, there was no heartbeat. The gestational age of the baby was between 8 and 9 weeks. It should have been between 11 and 12. So, now we wait. Just for Hive reference, yes, they *can* start progesterone. It really depends on individual history. Unfortunately, they wouldn't have been able to do much at the ER. My sister went in two weeks ago with moderate bleeding (she is almost two weeks ahead of me and expecting IVF twins) and the ER could do nothing for her. She had to go to L&D where her doctor was. (All was good for her babies though, thank God.) In my case, where we already know that I deal with low progesterone through mid to later pregnancy, they would have gone ahead and prescribed it. This miscarriage will, most likely, be less difficult than a "true" 11 week miscarriage simply because baby and placenta never developed much past 8 weeks. :( My kiddos are pretty sad, especially Sarah, as this was "her" buddy baby. Tears all around. Thank you so very much for your kind words, all your advice, and most especially the prayers. I truly appreciate the kind support. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsWeasley Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 So sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuga Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 I'm sorry for your loss. :( Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
trulycrabby Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 I am so sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LMD Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamiof5 Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 So very sorry for your loss! Was really hoping for good news. I also have a Sara, I'll have her pray for your Sarah. We'll pray for you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monica_in_Switzerland Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 So we went in today in order to get an ultrasound. We figured if there was a heartbeat, we'd ask for early progesterone injections. But, there was no heartbeat. The gestational age of the baby was between 8 and 9 weeks. It should have been between 11 and 12. So, now we wait. Just for Hive reference, yes, they *can* start progesterone. It really depends on individual history. Unfortunately, they wouldn't have been able to do much at the ER. My sister went in two weeks ago with moderate bleeding (she is almost two weeks ahead of me and expecting IVF twins) and the ER could do nothing for her. She had to go to L&D where her doctor was. (All was good for her babies though, thank God.) In my case, where we already know that I deal with low progesterone through mid to later pregnancy, they would have gone ahead and prescribed it. This miscarriage will, most likely, be less difficult than a "true" 11 week miscarriage simply because baby and placenta never developed much past 8 weeks. :( My kiddos are pretty sad, especially Sarah, as this was "her" buddy baby. Tears all around. Thank you so very much for your kind words, all your advice, and most especially the prayers. I truly appreciate the kind support. I'm so, so sorry. I had a similar m/c. Baby died around 8 weeks, but didn't begin m/c until 12-13 weeks. It was more painful than my 5-6 week m/cs, but otherwise not more complicated. I did not "look" for the baby and sac and they were simply lost with the rest of the blood. Definitely not like a "true" 12 week miscarriage. I hope it goes quickly for you and that you are surrounded by supportive loved ones. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tammyla Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El... Posted December 1, 2015 Share Posted December 1, 2015 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlsdMama Posted December 2, 2015 Author Share Posted December 2, 2015 Thank you all. I think the chaste berry I took on Sunday hoping to ward off the inevitable worked a little too well. :( Everything came to a total stop and has not restarted. So, for mamas who have BTDT, can I just ask - how long? How long could something like this possible take? Because at 12 weeks, if baby passed at 8.5, it's been 3.5 weeks...... I could alternate black and blue cohosh. I honestly cannot fathom mentally consenting to a D&C at this point. But I am wondering, for health, is infection a risk if we pass 4 weeks? 5 weeks? I am bleeding some, but absolutely no contractions or cramping like this weekend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happypamama Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 I'm so sorry for your loss. Praying for a gentle time for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 Thank you all. I think the chaste berry I took on Sunday hoping to ward off the inevitable worked a little too well. :( Everything came to a total stop and has not restarted. So, for mamas who have BTDT, can I just ask - how long? How long could something like this possible take? Because at 12 weeks, if baby passed at 8.5, it's been 3.5 weeks...... I could alternate black and blue cohosh. I honestly cannot fathom mentally consenting to a D&C at this point. But I am wondering, for health, is infection a risk if we pass 4 weeks? 5 weeks? I am bleeding some, but absolutely no contractions or cramping like this weekend. Mentally, the time before a d&c is rough. Physically it is wonderful. There is no pain or drama. When it is done, it is done except for some light spotting and you can move forward with emotional healing. I know it is hard to think about but please consider it. I went thorough all the drama of an early miscarriage and still ended up with a d&c. I could have saved myself a month of my life if I had just gotten it done ASAP. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 Thank you all. I think the chaste berry I took on Sunday hoping to ward off the inevitable worked a little too well. :( Everything came to a total stop and has not restarted. So, for mamas who have BTDT, can I just ask - how long? How long could something like this possible take? Because at 12 weeks, if baby passed at 8.5, it's been 3.5 weeks...... I could alternate black and blue cohosh. I honestly cannot fathom mentally consenting to a D&C at this point. But I am wondering, for health, is infection a risk if we pass 4 weeks? 5 weeks? I am bleeding some, but absolutely no contractions or cramping like this weekend. I struggled with the decision but opted for a D&C with my second miscarriage. It was not physically painful and really only kept me down for a day or so. Part of my decision came because my husband travels and I didn't want to go through the physical process of miscarrying while he was out of town. Good luck with your decision! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 :grouphug: So sorry.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lolly Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 Thank you all. I think the chaste berry I took on Sunday hoping to ward off the inevitable worked a little too well. :( Everything came to a total stop and has not restarted. So, for mamas who have BTDT, can I just ask - how long? How long could something like this possible take? Because at 12 weeks, if baby passed at 8.5, it's been 3.5 weeks...... I could alternate black and blue cohosh. I honestly cannot fathom mentally consenting to a D&C at this point. But I am wondering, for health, is infection a risk if we pass 4 weeks? 5 weeks? I am bleeding some, but absolutely no contractions or cramping like this weekend. First, they will want to make certain you did not have your dates wrong. Probably with blood work and an additional ultrasound. With my first, my body would not let go of the pregnancy (and had increasing hormone levels though not in the amount large enough to be normal). I ended up with a d&c at 16 weeks. It was about 4 weeks after we figured out things weren't progressing normally. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melbotoast Posted December 2, 2015 Share Posted December 2, 2015 I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IsabelC Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 I am very sorry for your loss. Take care and make sure that you take advantage of all the IRL support you have. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
momto10blessings Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 My miscarriages took 5-6 weeks after the baby stopped growing to occur. My OB said he's never had a woman become infected while waiting to miscarry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alexigail Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 I'm very sorry to hear that you're going through this. I know how hard it is :( I have no idea if my experience is typical, but I had a 12 week miscarriage, and they said the baby probably passed at 10 or 11 weeks. I have a full labor and it was very painful. I did have the baby at home but ended up in the hospital for retained placenta at which point I had a D&C. It took several days between the diagnosis and labor and the waiting was extremely difficult for me. I am glad we had her at home, but I also wonder if it would have been easier on me to have the surgery and focus on emotional healing. I think whatever you decide is ok, whether seeking pain relief or surgery or just letting things continue as they are. I so hope that you find healing and comfort whatever you decide. Hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlsdMama Posted December 3, 2015 Author Share Posted December 3, 2015 So it didn't go well. Apparently I'm not a rock star at doing things "gently." I want to thank you all so very, very much for your prayers. Truly. The miscarriage started cramping very lightly at 6am. Apparently a well used uterus does an incredibly bad job of clamping down. By 6:15 I had passed the placenta, or at least a large part of it, and tissues. I was very upset I couldn't find the baby. :( DH was home, thank God. Uterus didn't clamp, got an ambulance ride, fluid, a blood transfusion, a d and c... The uterus began behaving itself after about an hour or so and began cramping but they also gave me something. It wasn't oxytocin like I expected. It gap penned all so crazy fast. Please hug any first responders you know for me. They are awesome human beings. The real blessing? They were so so respectful. They did a full ultrasound to make sure baby had passed out of the uterus before beginning the surgery and they were totally willing to look for baby if she was still there. She was not. I must have missed it in the mess. I thought the willingness to respect my wishes was just incredible. I did not expect that kind of care or respect. Most amazing? I'm home. Apparently once they fix the problem, you are stable, eat, empty bladder, etc., you can be released. Can't be alone for at least 24 hours but there is almost no bleeding at all now. I feel at peace about it all. I cannot thank you enough for your prayers. I feel good. Tired,but good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
8circles Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 Oh honey. Lots of hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IfIOnly Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 So it didn't go well. Apparently I'm not a rock star at doing things "gently." I want to thank you all so very, very much for your prayers. Truly. The miscarriage started cramping very lightly at 6am. Apparently a well used uterus does an incredibly bad job of clamping down. By 6:15 I had passed the placenta, or at least a large part of it, and tissues. I was very upset I couldn't find the baby. :( DH was home, thank God. Uterus didn't clamp, got an ambulance ride, fluid, a blood transfusion, a d and c... The uterus began behaving itself after about an hour or so and began cramping but they also gave me something. It wasn't oxytocin like I expected. It gap penned all so crazy fast. Please hug any first responders you know for me. They are awesome human beings. The real blessing? They were so so respectful. They did a full ultrasound to make sure baby had passed out of the uterus before beginning the surgery and they were totally willing to look for baby if she was still there. She was not. I must have missed it in the mess. I thought the willingness to respect my wishes was just incredible. I did not expect that kind of care or respect. Most amazing? I'm home. Apparently once they fix the problem, you are stable, eat, empty bladder, etc., you can be released. Can't be alone for at least 24 hours but there is almost no bleeding at all now. I feel at peace about it all. I cannot thank you enough for your prayers. I feel good. Tired,but good. Oh, BlsdMama! I'm so thankful your home now, safe, and feeling good. I also could have been that part of the placenta remaining attached that caused the uterus to not clamp down properly. :grouphug: :grouphug: I had a really good experience at the hospital too with my hemorrhage after miscarriage. More hugs. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 Hugs, Kelly. I'm glad that your dh was able to be home and that you had good people with you during a hard time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted December 3, 2015 Share Posted December 3, 2015 I'm so glad it's over. I'm sorry for your pain. We are praying for you here. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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