Jump to content



  • Content Count

  • Joined

  • Last visited

Community Reputation

8,967 Excellent

About LMD

Recent Profile Visitors

The recent visitors block is disabled and is not being shown to other users.

  1. My MIL told me the same thing. She works for the health agency and audits nursing homes, she said she wants to go to a nursing home, with people her own age and activities. She doesn't want to be stuck in someone else's home and cramping their style 😄 She and FIL found it difficult in caring for her in-laws, and she doesn't want to put that on us. She's a gem. My own parents are closer to that age and we have our own issues. It will probably shake out that Dsis takes care of our mother (she has the most 'hold' over her) but I will support dsis however I can apart from actual face to face
  2. We didn't have the same issue, but we did have an issue with a friend who brought out the worst in my teen. I didn't blame the friend, I never made it about attacking the friend because that would set off defensiveness. I kept it to my child's behaviour only. My child obviously was struggling with upholding behaviour standards with this friend, therefore we would have to help. So we decided, amongst other things (that, yes, involved more at-home projects), that hanging out with this friend would be only allowed at our house. We didn't ban the friend. We didn't stop them from chatting. I didn't
  3. I have seen this too. Articles about 'throuples' etc. Plenty of 'poly' in people's bios.
  4. Yep. I currently homeschool 2nd grade through 10th grade. None of my kids have ever been to school and I've never outsourced anything apart from music lessons, with the single exception of my oldest taking an undergrad class this year. All the co-op-y type things we've done have been organised and run by myself.
  5. What I see with this is ideological vs situational homeschoolers. Some homeschool as a last option or response to a school experience. If the situation that led them to homeschool changes, then school becomes an option again. Eg, they don't like long days & lots of testing for little kids, but they'll put the kids in again at 13yo ish. Ideological homeschoolers tend to look for homeschool related solutions to situations that arise, because their underlying reason for homeschooling is a proactive conviction, not a reactive choice. There's definite crossover, people and families a
  6. Kids have confined & standardized relationships with almost strangers. In the other thread there was plenty of discussion about stable families/communities being one of the biggest predictors of educational success. It's interesting to discuss, but it is wasted energy. Tilting at windmills.
  7. Is this where I post a John Taylor Gatto quote and start another bun fight? 😄 I'll just say, human beings aren't standardised; institutions can't replace relationships; the school system couldn't care less about what homeschoolers think. I'm also in Aus. Our national curriculum has been changed at least twice just since I've been teaching. How each state/territory actually follows it is debatable. It's written in education-eze word salad. And that's before I even start with criticizing the content... I would agree on the phonics if I hadn't seen such abhorrent implementation (lots o
  8. Thank you! Yes! I'm gobsmacked by how quickly and placidly many homeschoolers are begging for more government interference. These kinds of threads were so different 10 years ago.
  9. Here is what I see in my local hs community: Most people care a lot and work hard to do a good job according to their values. Those whom I might raise an eyebrow at are either: 1. Dealing with a whole lot otherwise and are already on the radar of doctors and social services. 2. Coming from a bad school experience, often 'managed out.' 3. End up back in the school system around 7th/8th. Often all 3. Also, I have zero faith in the education department. Anytime I have talked to them it is just a shit show of incompetence. Any time they try to review hs laws exactly 3 things happen
  10. I'm sorry moonhawk. 😞 I think katy's advice is spot on. I think that a sit down/letter/discussion to address this will likely not work and will likely just give them a bigger opening to hurt you. I would just very plainly say (maybe by text) 1. You are angry at them for disrespecting your dh. 2. Mind your own business. 3. Don't call me for a while. Then DON'T ANSWER THE PHONE! Hold your boundary. I agree with everyone else, trust your gut, sounds like dh's mum has been in their ear and they were ready and willing to back her over you&dh. I wouldn't be surprised if they alrea
  11. I'm sorry Homes'cool, I get what you are saying and I understand why it would be so difficult. Seeing these young people running around in immature hysterics, and turning on you as the enemy for trying to bring the emotional level back down to some semblance of reality, must be so frustrating.
  12. I would pick #1 for myself. I think saying before 3pm discount is a great idea!
  13. People who grow up with this have grown up having their boundaries railroaded, their perspectives gaslit and their emotions weaponised. This is their normal. It is not easy to see your own parent/life as toxic. I agree with sneezy: grace. This is going to hurt.
  14. Haha, classic. Gotta love em. Which book?!
  • Create New...