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  1. Oh, all of those things are infuriating. But honestly, it's really hard to get your shit together within a system that can't get it's own shit together. So many people in insurance/healthcare are so confused nobody knows what's normal or appropriate anymore. So they just glom onto something that sounds right and get militant about it.
  2. For sure. Unfortunately, it has also affected non-Evangelical circles (I don't attend an Evangelical church). I find it extremely frustrating.
  3. Mine does, I think. IDK - I thought there was a language setting & some kind of sensitivity level that you could set. My Droid which I loved died and now I have DH's old iPhone 4 which I'm not that familiar with.
  4. Great post. I do think that this business of God purposely inflicting pain can get very tricky for a great number of xians, particularly when studying the OT. I know that it is always hotly debated in the adult Sunday School class.
  5. I haven't noticed this but I've always had a love-hate relationship with autocorrect. Have you checked that the settings haven't changed? That's happened to me before, an update will change some settings.
  6. An educated opinion doesn't make it not hurtful. The fact that this is a known topic to you makes it even more surprising that you'd make such a statement. My reaction is not disproportionate. - hurtful comment - that comment was hurtful - do you know who I am? Now THAT's charming.
  7. I really appreciate what you've said in this thread. I think it's great that you've learned how to deal with your child in a helpful way, even though you aren't a counselor.
  8. Oblivious blessing guy is why I'm so suspect of people who are "so blessed" or "so full of joy". They hurt people because they're too focused on themselves. I'm sorry.
  9. Your post was hurtful and condescending and you can give me the benefit of the doubt or not - I don't care. Parents can and should help their children by learning to speak to them in helpful ways when necessary. That doesn't replace a counselor. Not all parents are able to, but it isn't inappropriate for them to do so and the advice that Lori gave was not inappropriate. You made a hurtful comment. Do not turn around and say my expressing my hurt is hurtful to you.
  10. I seriously needed to step away from the computer when I read this. Nobody has suggested that as a rule, mothers need to use counselling skills in order to talk to their adult children. Anxiety is a read medical condition and to suggest that a mother should not learn techniques to speak to her child with anxiety in a way that is helpful for her child in that medically fragile moment is irresponsible at best. Do you also hire a nurse to administer abx to your child? Or is it just mental illness that you think doesn't deserve parental care?
  11. Quill, you and I so often find ourselves on opposite sides, I'm surprised that I am relating to what you are saying. I totally understand every word you've said on this topic. Katie, this is a great post. There are no answers to my questions. God must love me because it's the only thing that makes sense for me & my survival, based on what I know to be true. And I'm still here. God loves you because there is goodness in the world and goodness is, well, I just don't think anything is anything without goodness.. Nothing else makes sense, even if I don't know the details.
  12. But she wasn't wrong - her mother thought her work ethic was lacking.
  13. It is extremely depressing knowing that there are people out there who would look at the million choices I make every day and critique every single one that was "less than ideal".
  14. I am not saying that your DD suffers from anxiety, but she is showing that she feels anxious about this topic. And honestly, as someone who suffers from anxiety, the way her decision to have a friend over during finals has been described as "not ideal' and "She knows you are right" makes me really twitchy.
  15. If your child is having a hard time not being OK with dispproval, it would be good to help them out by not expressing your disapproval until they feel more secure. This adult kid is only 19, not 29. It isn't as if on their 18th birthday they are all of a sudden secure in their adult choices and no longer care what their parents think. Is the issue in the OP a substantial thing? Not to me. It's having a friend over during finals.
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